National Tide 1980.

Chapter 431 Negotiation Negotiation
Recalling the past years, people of each era have their own marks.

People in their 60s advocate "diligence and thrift"

People in the 70s called for "struggle"

In the 80s, "optimism" and "confidence" began to be established.

People in the 90s appreciate "individual display" and "self-realization".

People in the [-]s advocated "I am me, different fireworks".

Think about it if you can use a word to describe people of different ages.

That's how it should be in most people's minds.

However, times are changing rapidly and life is changing with each passing day, which has also opened up an intergenerational dividing line between growing children and their parents, creating obstacles for the mutual understanding between the upper and lower generations.

Even this incompatibility covers all aspects of life.

Everything from food, clothing, housing, transportation, expression, living habits, to the concept of time is included.

As a result, a new term has emerged in the society, called "generation gap".

What exactly is the generation gap?
The generation gap is essentially an inevitable product of the development of the times, because "the world is changing rapidly", the cognition of the upper and lower generations is different, and the value deviation.

But many people don't pay much attention to this point, and only focus on the result of "you don't understand my world".

Ever since, between parents and children, more and more conflicts arise due to lack of empathy.

The "family war" between the two generations is becoming more common, more frequent, and more intense day by day.

Even far better than any previous era in history.

In fact, the family conflicts between the old couple of the Bian family and their son Bian Jianjun are considered good.

Because they are ordinary people after all, the consequences of major social changes are often transmitted to them in the end.

The major differences are only entangled in the son's life-long events, and there is no inconsistency in other aspects of life for the time being.

Conversely, if we look at those families with a higher social class, families that are sensitive to the country's reverse and social atmosphere.

Especially for families where parents have to stay away from their children for a long time due to official duties and neglect their children.

This situation is the most serious.

Huo Xin's family is a particularly typical example.

Huo Xin's father, Huo Yanping, was only five years old when he left Beijing 16 years ago for a permanent residency in Europe.

However, when Huo Xin was just admitted to middle school, her mother also went to Europe to accompany Huo Yanping because Huo Yanping was too busy with work and needed someone to take care of her.

All of a sudden, Huo Xin was in adolescence, when he was the most sensitive and emotionally complex.

He completely left his parents and became a left-behind child passively.

For the next ten years or so, she and her parents have been living separated by oceans.

Except once a year, maybe once every two years for family leave, parents will go back to China to see her.

It can be said that she and her parents will never have a chance to meet again.

Even on weekdays, there are very few opportunities to make phone calls.

Because international calls are too expensive these days, and they cannot be connected by ordinary phones, so you have to go to the telegraph building.

Therefore, Huo Xin's understanding of his parents' situation abroad was actually relayed by his aunt Huang Xinhua.

One can imagine how rusty and fragile such a family relationship will become in the long run.

Although when a family of three is together, it will always be a scene of reunion and love.

No matter who it is, when expressing to the outside world, they will regard the other party as their pride and take pride in it.

Even Huo Xin has become a veritable little princess in China because of having such parents.

Whether it is aunt, uncle, or teacher, they take care of her deliberately, and no matter the children in the compound or the classmates in the school, they all envy her.

Over the years, she wears, uses, eats, and drinks the best.

When you want something, you almost never get it.

But in fact, Huo Xin and her parents, as close relatives, are far away in spirit.

To be honest, this relationship is really deformed.

The emotional identification with each other is essentially a formality and is completely separated.

Even if everyone clearly knows that they should work together to maintain the closeness of blood.

But I don't know why, when they are together, there is always an acting-like factor in the smiles they only rely on bluntly, with an unfathomable unfamiliarity and politeness.

It was especially embarrassing that after Huo Yanping and his wife returned to China.

Although they tried their best, they wanted to make up for the guilt they had felt towards their daughter over the years and reverse this unbearable situation.

But the kind of reshaping family relationship they expected, the three can restore trust and intimacy like normal parents and children, it is almost impossible to reappear.

Because if you miss it, you miss it, and some things cannot be repeated.

Huo Yanping and his wife suddenly discovered that their daughter had not only grown up, but had also grown into something they didn't expect.

The daughter has long since ceased to need the things they thought would make her happy and happy.

Now what they want to give to their daughter seems to be rejected and disgusted by her.

For example, this time Huo Yanping and Huang Jinghua carefully selected a gift for their daughter before returning to China - a small Grundig radio recorder.

The daughter didn't take it seriously.

On the surface, although Huo Xin took it with a smile, he thanked her.

But she changed hands and gave it to her aunt's daughter, her cousin.

In this regard, although Huo Yanping was a little bit sorry for his almost one month's salary, and the extra subsidies were gone, he couldn't say anything.

Because after all, Huo Xin has been taken care of by his wife and sister's family for a long time.

He originally thought it was Huo Xin's deliberate act, as a reward for beneficiary.

Especially seeing the wife and sister's family is so happy about this.

He even had some silent appreciation for his daughter's stinginess.

But soon he discovered that was not the case at all.

Because the basis of Huo Xin's generosity is that she really doesn't care, not out of consideration for repayment and interpersonal relationship.

She herself uses a small Sony radio.

Far more stylish, smaller and more advanced than that Grundig one.

It can be worn on a belt around the waist or placed in a school bag.

And there's a pair of headphones.

You can listen to English and music with all your heart, anytime, anywhere.

No interference from noisy environments at all.

Especially the high price, Huo Yanping inquired privately, only the Friendship Store sells it, and it costs 380 yuan in foreign exchange certificates.

That's almost enough to buy a big Pioneer quad speaker.

Looking at the tapes my daughter listened to, there are almost hundreds of them, and they are all genuine, without strings.

Huo Yanping couldn't help but secretly dumbfounded.

He couldn't help but frowned tightly and asked, "Did you buy all these things with the money we sent back?"

How did I know that my daughter bent over with a smile.

"Dad, you look down on people too much. I haven't touched the money you sent me since last year, and I'll give you the passbook later. Let me tell you, it's all my own money, I earned it. "

Huo Yanping couldn't believe it.

"What do you earn? How much is your salary?"

"Our foreign company has a high income, but my income is higher than yours."

Following Huo Xin, he publicly expressed his contempt for German products.

"Dad, I didn't say it. You can't be too stubborn when looking at problems. For example, not everything in Europe is good, and home appliances are far behind. Look at that stupid big black guy you bought from abroad a few years ago. It’s a Telefunken TV. It’s dull. The color of the screen is not good. Look at the Japanese products. What’s that like? And the little tape recorder you bought this time, where can I find it? Sony's is good. You and my god, it would be great if you were stationed in Japan, and now your vision in Europe has become worse..."

Huo Yanping was stunned for a while before he understood the meaning of his daughter's words.

"So you don't like what I bought for you, so you gave it away? But no matter what, it's more than 200 yuan. Don't you feel bad about it, girl? It's too big."

Huo Xin made a grimace, and said unwillingly, "But, Dad, how can I tell you? I am really rich now. More than 200, more than 300, what's the difference? But I have a hair on my body .I have at least 2000 yuan a month, and more than half of it is foreign exchange certificates.”

Huo Yanping was really surprised now, and only then did he understand where his daughter's arrogance came from.

"Ah! How much do you earn in a month? It's more than half a year's income for me and your mother."

Huo Xin was not without complacency, "So, if you think it's expensive, it's nothing to me."

But she never expected that this would be tantamount to a provocation to her father.

Huo Yanping snorted coldly, and the conversation turned to a lesson.

"Nonsense! Our country is still very poor now. What a waste of money you spend on pleasure. You should also consider the identity of your parents. If you let others know about this, what will they think of us? "

"In particular, I have to remind you that the issue of foreign-funded enterprises in various aspects is very controversial now, and your company only exists as a pilot. It is hard to say how it will change in the future. You have to wait for the upper management to make a comprehensive balance before making a conclusion."

"You, you have to pay attention to the impact, and you have to think about your future in the long run."

But Huo Xin was very unconvinced, and turned his mouth up like a pig.

"Why are you here again? I'm talking bureaucratically with my family. How I spend the money I earn is my business. If the influence is not good, why don't you say that the influence is not good if you wear the suit I gave you?"

"Turn around and look at yourself, a dignified director, who has been abroad for so many years, not to mention wearing inferior suits. You can't even afford a brand-name watch. And why are you still thinking of old sesame seeds and rotten grains? It’s even more difficult than those who stay in the country.”

"What is the distribution principle of socialism? From each according to his ability, to distribute according to his work. Why else is the country starting to encourage the individual economy now? As long as it is not illegal, we should encourage millionaires."

These words made Huo Yanping even more unbelievable.

"I think you've lost your mind! The principle of our country is to pursue common prosperity, and there will never be a millionaire! Let alone a million, even a hundred thousand should not be!"

Huo Xin sneered, and said in a non-surprising way, "No wonder we are so backward, it is people like you who delay us. Don't be too uncommon. I have a friend who buys paintings and sells them for 10,000+ What about the foreign exchange certificates?"

"Your friend?"

Huo Yanping was shocked again and couldn't help asking.

"How do you have such a friend? Where is he from? What does he do? How can he have so much money for no reason?"

Huo Xin frowned, "Why are you like the KGB? Even if I make friends, I have to check it out? You have to take care of my money, but you have to take care of other people's money?"

However, at this moment, Huang Jinghua heard the dispute between her husband and daughter, and couldn't help but come out of the kitchen to interrupt.

"Xinxin, are you trying to quarrel with your father? I didn't hear it right just now. What you said just now is completely out of touch with the national conditions. You say a hair for a few hundred dollars? How many hairs do you have to pluck?"

But this actually relieved Huo Xin.

"Forget it, forget it, I won't tell you. Anyway, I spend all I earn from my own labor. It is my freedom to make friends. Others have no right to interfere..."

As soon as she turned her head, she simply left, not even eating at home.

This inevitably made Huo Yanping sigh with worry.

"Jinghua, look, has our Xinxin been spoiled?"

However, don't look at what Huo Yanping said.

But in fact, he wants to spoil his daughter more than anyone else.

Since returning to the capital, almost every week, he has to find time to go out with his wife and daughter.

According to his idea, he wanted to do all the things he hadn't done with his daughter for so many years.

Watching movies, watching performances, watching games, going to museums, the Forbidden City, the Great Wall, visiting parks, shopping, eating snacks...

Wherever it is lively, wherever it is fun, no matter what his daughter likes, he will generously buy it.

He felt that it was all too appropriate.

He's just such a daughter. If he hasn't been by her side for so many years, he has to make up as much as he owes.

He has been thinking so.

But unfortunately, in this matter, he soon found out that he had done something wrong.

Because after a few weeks, Huo Xin began to beg for this kind of thing.

"Dad, you and Mom will spare me, okay? Don't let me be your tour guide. I also have my own business. I am so busy with work every day, and I have to deal with the Japanese for business. The Japanese English makes me want to hit a wall. You guys absolutely can’t understand my pain. It’s hard to have some rest time, and you have to socialize with those friends you need. You can go wherever you want, and I won’t accompany you..."

Of course Huo Yanping would be disappointed by this, even unhappy.

"Are those friends who accompany you more important than accompanying us? I thought you would like our family of three to be together?"

"It's not that I don't want to, but your activities are too boring. I'm a young man, and it's you who asked me to make more friends..."

"So what do you do with your friends?"

"Look at you, it's another disguised censorship. What we can do is talk about work, art, literature, and state affairs. Plus dancing and drinking."

"You know how to drink?" Huo Yanping opened his eyes wide.

"Don't be so old-fashioned!" Huo Xin only thought it was ridiculous.

"Did you forget? I'm working too. I'm going to the reception too. It's good enough that I didn't smoke like others."

But her daughter's indifference to everything made Huo Yanping angry and powerless.

That feeling made him lose control of his mind, and he wanted to scold the public a little bit.

Fortunately, Huang Jinghua walked to his daughter and persuaded her patiently.

"Xinxin, if you have something to say to your father, don't be so cynical. We are all for your own good, you know? We care about you..."

These words made Huo Xin soften, and he didn't answer for a long time.

Then he suddenly raised his head and looked at his father squarely, "Dad, how about this, I will accompany you today, but I have the final say on what to do. You have to promise me a condition."

"Whatever you want, just say it!"

Huo Yanping and Huang Jinghua looked at each other and said something in unison.

"I want to drive, you ask the driver to drive and give me your bus!"

Huo Yanping and his wife couldn't help exclaiming in unison.

"What are you going to do?"

"Driving a car! I'm more interested in that now."

Huo Yanping really has a headache for her daughter's ingenuity.

"But, you don't have a driver's license yet, how can you drive? You have to learn to drive first."

"Of course I know, I'm just learning. Find a place where no one is around, how about I practice with your car? Anyway, you have a driver's license, and it's an international one. You just sit by and watch me. gone?"

Huang Jinghua was also embarrassed by his daughter's idea.

"Your father's car is a bus. What if it crashes? Besides, what's the use of learning to drive? Your father is almost 40 years old when he reaches the level of car distribution..."

"Oh, my mother, you really look like an old lady of Marxism-Leninism. My dad is a member of the system, and he is ranked according to seniority. It is such a laborious task to get a car. Just jump out of the system."

"Let me tell you the truth. There is a man in our company who is about the same age as me, and he has already driven a car. He is quite scheming, and he learned it quietly at some point."

"Seeing his stinky appearance makes me angry. I want to make a blockbuster. You see, in a few years, I can also get the company to provide me with a car."

Huo Xin pouted again, "Besides, don't you always say that young people abroad can drive? Why do I have so many problems when I want to learn to drive?"

Huo Yanping looked at his wife helplessly.

Huang Jinghua also looked at her husband carelessly.

"Then let's discuss it?"

Huo Yanping said so.

Of course Huo Xin understood the meaning of "discussing and discussing". She excitedly ran to Huo Yanping's side and hugged her father vigorously.

"Dad! You are so kind!"

Huo Yanping didn't forget to take the opportunity to scan and listen.

"Hey, but you have to tell me first, who is your friend who is driving? Who are you fighting against?"

Huo Xin immediately returned to a serious attitude.

"Dad, please respect your daughter's privacy. As you said, Western countries emphasize equality in personality, and gentlemen are like this..."

Huo Yanping immediately became angry.

"There are actually many problems in Western countries, some are reasonable, and some are not. You have to learn from the good ones, not the bad ones."

The daughter's answer was a blank stare.

"What is good and what is bad, don't you always say that they are good and that are good?"

(End of this chapter)