National Tide 1980.

Chapter 580: Snow Quietly Underground

"Huo Xin, people who come here often say that you don't understand love when you first fall in love, and you don't understand love when you are young. This is the truth. Do you really understand love? I think you can't even tell what love is."

"I don't understand love?" Of course Huo Xin was not convinced, "Then tell me, what is love?"

"The ultimate goal of love is marriage. It is two people who will grow old together and raise children, right? If you agree with this, then the essence of love is responsibility. It is the mutual commitment of two people to bear everything together, and it is to face everything together. The courage and perseverance of hardships. Of course, there is no lack of romance. But it is very small, and the proportion will never exceed [-]%. "

The answer Ning Weimin gave was the opinion of a mature-minded person who was well-versed in the world.

"Are you thinking of these yourself? Or are you just copying someone else's words? Why do I feel that you and I are not of the same age? Grandpa, are you old this year? I think you should be 50 years old?"

However, Huo Xin did not understand Ning Weimin's performance beyond his age.

Thinking that he was deliberately perfunctory with great principles, he couldn't help but sneer.

But the more angry she was, the more Ning Weimin wanted to laugh.

"Look, your reaction like this shows that you are just a child. Is love just about two people pleasing each other, falling in love with each other, love between men and women?"

"I'm very sorry, but I have to tell you that the world doesn't revolve around us. No one will be young forever, only good luck."

"In life, all kinds of bad things are possible. Including the death of a loved one, being disabled in a car accident, being betrayed by others, living in a poor family, leaving one's hometown, being unkind..."

"Sounds scary, right? But it's all true. In other words, if the ingredients of love are as simple as you think, then it's too easy, so why talk about the word 'precious'?"

I don't know if I was annoyed by this rebuttal, or really frightened by Ning Weimin's description.

Huo Xin's face became more and more ugly, and he couldn't help but yelled.

"What you said is terrible, are you trying to scare me? Or do you want to discuss life and deliberately change the subject? Stop talking about the big truth. We are just talking about the two of us!"

Ning Weimin was just the opposite of her, his smile became more and more calm.

"Now I am more convinced that I am right. You are just a child. You always don't understand that it is because our ideas and concepts are very different, and our cognition of values, world outlook, and outlook on life are inconsistent, that is why we cannot come together The real obstacle. In fact, whether the personality is compatible or not is not a big problem."

"You know, there is no difference between good and bad personalities. If you have similar temperaments and the same hobbies, you can naturally play together. But with different personalities, they can complement each other. Think about it, if your significant other, when you are impulsive, can Pull yourself, or push yourself when you are weak. Isn't that a good thing? You have a quick temper, but you also have a frank side, so why change?"

"What's more, as the saying goes, nature is hard to change, and nature can't be changed at all. If you change, are you still yourself? If you try to change, it is tantamount to obliterating yourself. It will definitely not succeed, and it will be painful. There is no one in this world. It's worth it for you."

Perhaps because people like to listen to good things, Huo Xin finally paid attention to Ning Weimin's explanation and began to think seriously.

"Ideology? Are these big and boundless things you mentioned empty or not? Even so. Can't two people get along and influence each other to gradually reach an agreement?"

Ning Weimin shook his head decisively.

"Of course not. Although the three views of people are acquired, they need long-term learning and experience. They are also a comprehensive product of personal family background, life experience, and social experience. That is precisely the unique characteristic of each person that is different from others. Yes It is far more representative of the self than character. It can be said that the three views are a person's beliefs and a person's soul."

"So the real 'like-mindedness' is not about those who like piano, chess, calligraphy and painting at all, but an agreement on three views. Otherwise, why are so many revolutionaries with the same ideal willing to sacrifice themselves to protect their comrades? Conversely, You can also take a look. How many originally happy couples broke up on their own initiative, and how many originally harmonious relatives turned against each other. Isn't it all because of this problem?"

Huo Xin was stunned, it was obvious that she had never thought about these issues, and Ning Weimin refreshed her understanding.

After a long while, he came back to his senses.

"But the past is over. It's not the war years. And many broken families are reconciled. Don't you think you've worried too much? People get along with each other, more What is more important is the trivial matter of daily necessities, how can it always involve these great confrontations of right and wrong?"

Ning Weimin shook his head firmly again.

"You are wrong. The difference in the three views may not be so intense in today's life, but the contradictions that arise in essence will follow like a shadow and be everywhere. Because the three views are the source of driving people's words and deeds. Just like Our last quarrel was like this. Why I returned the pickup truck to the company and why I stayed away from the head office, I can't explain it to you. You won't understand..."

Although Huo Xin also thinks the truth is correct, but because it involves herself, how can she admit it?
"Who said that? You should have told me earlier that you have such a plan. How could I not support it?"

In the face of Huo Xin's anxious argument, Ning Weimin raised a rhetorical question.

"Then what if I failed? The restaurant didn't do well and lost money. Even if I was fired by the head office, would you still think so? If I resigned and left tomorrow, I would start again by myself, willing to be self-employed. You What will you think? You will still support me? Let’s not take it as an afterthought.”

"You... want to leave?" Huo Xin no longer cared about discussing the problem itself, and became anxious immediately, "You...why did you do this? You obviously have a bright future."

Ning Weimin couldn't help laughing at her diversion of attention.

"Haha, I'm just making an analogy. But you see, I'm right? Although your concern for me is kind, but the three views are different, and our cognition is different. I can tell you, what do you think In fact, I don’t really care about a great future. I want to live a life of contentment, believe in the freedom of the horse, and start a business by self-reliance. In your eyes, I’m afraid it’s the same as a neurosis.”

"But...but isn't it because you are too diverse? Normal people, who would give up a stable and secure future? Let all the efforts you have made go to waste?"

Huo Xin's confusion and panic indicated that she had completely followed Ning Weimin's rhythm.

So naturally, it was easy for Ning Weimin to catch the flaw in her words and deny it.

"No, no, who said all previous efforts were wasted. Is everything I did before me useless? Isn't it the gain of experience and the growth of ability? This is something you ignore. And the position you value And decency is the biggest difference in our values."

"Frankly speaking, you are born in such a family, so you will inevitably have such values. In fact, why do you value your identity, education, position, future, and privileges so much, as well as your persistent instinct? I can understand. But I absolutely don't like it, and I won't approve it. So we have become people in two worlds."

"Huo Xin, you and I grew up in completely different environments. I'm just a child of ordinary people. For love and marriage to be happy, two people have to agree with each other. To be honest, what kind of person should I marry? , even though I haven't thought about it myself. But I am clear about one thing. The two of us are absolutely incompatible, 100% impossible. "

"The best way for us to get along with each other is actually to keep a distance and just be ordinary friends. Then we can tolerate each other, understand each other, and even help each other."

Perhaps it was because Ning Weimin hit the nail on the head, and his outspokenness made Huo Xin a little angry.

Hearing this, she interrupted abruptly.

"Look at what you said to me, I'm such a philistine, so bad? You are extreme! People go to high places, but water flows to low places. Isn't it natural for people to pursue success in their lives? What’s wrong? Don’t ordinary people want their kids to go to college, serve in the military, and get a good job?”

"Also, human beings live in groups. Everyone builds a complete society together. As an individual in society, don't you need to care about other people's feelings? That's called selfishness! Everyone chooses themselves like you, public order and civilization How to maintain politeness?"

"No, no, you are not selfish, but inferior! I was almost deceived by you. You are using a cynical posture to cover up your inferiority. On the surface, you seem to have self-esteem when you reject others. But in fact, this It's a sign of your lack of self-confidence."

"You mind my family because you are only willing to stay in your own familiar environment and dare not take a step forward. There is a saying that you would rather be a chicken head than a phoenix tail. Are you like this? Are you Feeling too much pressure on my family to be afraid to accept my feelings?"

Ning Weimin had expected that this issue was too sensitive, and Huo Xin would probably be emotional.

But what she never expected was that she actually speculated on her inferiority complex.

Out of self-esteem, Ning Weimin originally wanted to argue.

But after thinking about it, is this kind of verbal dispute meaningful?In fact, it doesn't matter.

As long as his goal is achieved, what does it matter what Huo Xin thinks?
"You can think whatever you want, anyway, our three views are different, and this kind of problem can't be discussed in one place."

"You are still a big man, how can you be so negative towards life. The real determination of a person's achievement depends on how he fights, works hard, and strives for it! I don't understand the truth..."

"Why am I ignorant? You think the problem is too simple. To put it bluntly, it's like eating in a restaurant, and there are dirty things in a dish. Those who don't care continue to eat, and those who care lose their appetite .Can you say who is right and who is wrong? Can you force people who don't want to eat to continue eating?"

"How does this involve eating? What are you talking about?"

I don't know if it's young, or if I really don't understand the world.

Many euphemisms could have left room for both parties, but they didn't apply to Huoxin at all.

To be honest, this Huo Xin doesn't look like a man from the capital, which made Ning Weimin very helpless.

When talking to her, you can't be subtle, you can only be explicit.

"Then let me explain a little more clearly. If... I mean if, what will happen if we are together? We can imagine it."

"Would I be happy as a poor kid entering a family of high-ranking cadres? No, no matter how hard I try, no matter how good I am, I will be said to be using nepotism in the future. Then what is the point of my hard work and struggle? "

"And you, what should I do to me? Be cautious, lest I feel neglected and belittled. But don't you feel sad? It's not fair to you. "

"Similarly, even if your parents accept me, it is because of you. What if I have conflicts with them? What should you do if you are caught in the middle?"

"In our situation, there may be no harmony at all. Any small thing that happens, whether it is me, you, or even your parents, everyone will eat their hearts."

"We won't be happy, we will only feel tired, and there will be more misunderstandings. It's no wonder that this kind of marriage can maintain a good relationship. Even if there are some good things in the beginning, they will be destroyed in the end."

"Actually, the words 'right family' is a bit feudal, but it is the experience summed up by the predecessors. There is a certain truth in 'marrying a woman from a low family, marrying a woman from a high family'. When we are together, it is a tragedy for both parties. , it is impossible to have a good result.”

Huo Xin really had a headache, "What you said...is too complicated! I never thought about it, I never thought about it..."

Then he started to cry, "Is it true that we are doomed to be unable to be together just because of the differences in our families? How could it be? The family is right, isn't it feudal dross? No, no, it must not be like this, Sister Hui and Nian Jing Isn’t the eldest brother very good. Why didn’t they have the problem you mentioned?”

In Huo Xin's almost desperate loss, it seems that hope has been rekindled.

But her words fell into Ning Weimin's ears, it was a big joke, destined to be gently crushed by him.

"Don't take them as an example. Although I don't like to discuss other people's rights and wrongs behind their backs. But I still want to say that you look beautiful and have no harmony. It may not be true. Maybe it's just that people want you to see What about this scene?"

"At this point, I simply confess to you that I actually dislike those friends around you. They are proud of their family background and proud of enjoying the shade of their parents, which makes me feel superficial. They don't respect hard work, Even laughing at the efforts of civilians makes me angry. Their ignorance and arrogance also make me sick. I just don't want to show it."

"But what I hate most about them is that they are very hypocritical. They are obviously philistine, but they pretend to be righteous. They especially like to use morality to kidnap others and do things for them. I have always been hesitant. I don't know how to advise you to stay away from them. They, will you misunderstand. Anyway, in my opinion, you really believe in friendship. And they are completely different. They just use friendship as a tool to use others."

Ning Weimin's words made Huo Xin uncomfortable like a needle prick.

But although the words were harsh, they were also objective facts that commonly existed in life, which made it difficult for her to find words to refute several times.

In the end, she had nothing to say, and then she began to cry in a low voice.

As soon as the tears were opened, they seemed to be completely unstoppable, gurgling down.

From then on until Ning Weimin drove the car to Shijia Hutong, the two of them never had a conversation.

Finally, at the gate of the well-known courtyard, when the two parted, Ning Weimin was a little embarrassed.

I also want to make up for two more scene words.

"Huo Xin, I'm very sorry today. I said too many things you don't like to hear. But I always treat you as my best friend..."

In the end, he was completely redundant, and recruited Huo Xin who had just stopped crying.Hot tears fell from his eyes again sourly.

"Oh, friend, good friend . Come on, you don't deserve to be my friend! You cold-blooded animal!"

After finishing speaking, Huo Xin opened the car door and jumped out of the car.

Braving the wind and snow, he ran to the courtyard and plunged into the vermilion gate with golden pillars with guards standing at the gate.

Needless to say, Ning Weimin is really embarrassed now.

Because Huo Xin forgot his bicycle, why is it still left behind his car?
Nothing else, Ning Weimin had no choice but to get out of the car, and moved Huo Xin's car and those gifts by himself.

Then he pushed it over and discussed with the guard at the door.

"Then what... Comrade, this bicycle belongs to the girl who went in just now. She forgot to take it, you can give it to her. There are also these things, which are also gifts from her..."

I didn't expect the guards to be incapable of doing this kind of thing, and had to call the inside for instructions.

Just as I was talking, another Jim car drove into the alley.

Just because the alley is not wide, cars are parked beside the courtyard wall itself.The oncoming Jim car was blocked by Ning Weimin's big jeep, so he had to stop in front of his car.

But that was nothing.

Soon a well-dressed middle-aged couple got out of the car, and they came over with some gifts, and seemed to want to enter the courtyard.

Just under the lighting of the car lights, they walked face to face with Ning Weimin.

Then the couple's eyes fixed on the bicycle that Ning Weimin was pushing, and then turned back to his face.

The woman in the black mink coat and pearl earrings was the first to ask.

"What's going on? Is this... Huo Xin's bicycle?"

And the elegant middle-aged man looked at Ning Weimin curiously while pulling the collar of his coat.

"Young man, are you... and Huo Xin...?"

Ning Weimin was completely dumbfounded, his mind was spinning, how should he deal with the situation in front of him.

Don't ask, he knew the identity of the couple based on their facial features and appearance and the style of their clothes.

I am really more and more afraid of what will happen.

The coincidences in life, why are they so fucking fucked up!
At this moment, the air was filled with colorful paper, and there were explosions everywhere near and far.

Above the three to four meter wide alley is a dark blue sky with sparks flying.

Only snow, quietly falling, falling...

(End of this chapter)