The road from Africa to Europe

Chapter 611
The original owner was a little confused at first, but now he finally understands that Ling Xiao really treats her very well, this is the real love, right?It is the kind of love for her own good from the heart, which is a rare emotion for her.

Thinking of this, she felt her nose sore, and those eyes wanted to shed tears, but she knew that she was on a completely different path, she should never cry, but should face life with a smile, raised her head slightly, let the twinkling The tears gradually disappeared.

At this moment, the original owner had only one thought in his mind: I don't know what fate allowed her to meet her and let her survive, instead of dying in her own small courtyard without a name, without a family member to see her off when she died.

After the appearance of Ling Xiao, the pain of the previous ten years has been made up for a lot, and the things that were once very important have gradually become less important.Even though her heart still hurts when recalling the past, she didn't feel the pain that penetrated into the marrow of her bones. She found true pity for her family.

Ling Xiao went on to say: "Liu Niang, there are some things that need to be discussed carefully. At the beginning, I couldn't accept foot binding because of me, so it means that you have to give up your original family and have a new starting point in life. Let you and ordinary women Not the same, so you survived.

But in this world, there are always gains and losses. You may have to bear different pressures because of this. You should be mentally prepared for this. Your life may be a little difficult in the future. I am a little sorry for letting you live like you used to I hope you will live a life that is completely different from yours. Please remember one sentence: Women are human beings, not accessories of men. "

When she said this, she looked at the original owner. The original owner's thoughts must not be the same as women in modern society. I believe that a person with a modern female soul could not live better in ancient times. Therefore, the concepts of each other are incompatible unless they are integrated into this world. .

So Ling Xiao didn't intend to instill too much modern thought into the original owner from the very beginning, and let her try to be a more orthodox ancient person.Avoid being noticed too much difference, you may be watched by others, or become a different kind in everyone's eyes.

After the matter of Song's mother and son, the original owner also thought deeply in her heart. She didn't want to live like Song and be bullied in every way. Of course, she was still an ancient woman. After seeing Ling Xiao's method, she didn't say anything.

The original owner is still the kind of person who is quite gentle. If she is not gentle, she may have exploded when she was rubbed by someone at her mother's house. She has never wanted to resist, she just wants to be able to live a good life just fine.

That's why Ling Xiao is worried that the original owner will feel very uncomfortable after receiving some pressure in the days to come. He wants to explain it to her first, so that he won't panic when encountering problems. In addition, he also wants to tell her that she The more people there are who can back them up.

In addition, Ling Xiao decided to speed up the process, because the original owner was still a primary school student in her opinion, but in this world, girls of this age began to look for suitable fiancés everywhere. In the eyes of ancient people, a woman in her twenties was considered a For older women, it is more difficult to find a husband, and in many cases they can only be the second wife.

Thinking that an ancient woman who was around 30 years old was an old man, Ling Xiao felt very helpless. In ancient times, girls' youth was too short, so she had to work hard to find a more suitable candidate for the original owner. Besides, there were other things.

Although Ling Xiao has ancient knowledge, she mainly has the kind of education that is more biased towards men. As a woman, she is also more decisive in killing and killing. It is completely different from the original owner. It is not very suitable for her to educate the original owner.

Fortunately, she knew that there was related education in ancient times, so it is better to let the ancient women's education be the original owner.At this point, the arrival of Song Shi freed Ling Xiao, and with Song Shi's company, she was liberated.

But Ling Xiao knew that Mrs. Song was too soft-tempered, and many people preferred to bully the weak and fear the tough. For this, she needed to find a better teacher and train the original owner and Mrs. Song specially, hoping that they could stand up by themselves.

Pay special attention when choosing candidates. This is because the ancient society was a patriarchal society, which was too unfriendly to women. Teachers who are also women should know better and ensure no pitfalls to the greatest extent.

There are still some things that must be emphasized again: some problems must never be committed, for example, if a man and a woman elope, if the man feels that he is at a disadvantage, or regrets the so-called elopement, he still has a way out.

If he doesn't want to play the elopement game, he can just walk away, and any man who is more ruthless can sell that woman, and the man can return to his family without anything, marry a wife and have children again, in the eyes of outsiders, he It's the so-called prodigal son who never changes his mind.

As for that woman, it was miserable. In the eyes of others, she was a person without shame, a person who did not obey women's morals, and her temperament was too frivolous. Even if she had a bad life later, even as a person, she would be regarded Being beaten and betrayed is taken for granted in the eyes of others, but in everyone's mouth, she definitely deserves it for her poor life.

But in general, the man should have more responsibility for this kind of elopement. Generally, it is the man who proposes the idea of ​​elopement. A woman who loves a man with all her heart just follows a man on the road, thinking that she is seeking happiness, and that her husband and wife can live happily ever after. go down.

However, the facts after their elopement were not as good as imagined. There are examples, such as the elopement incident between the famous Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru. For example, both of them are famous people.

After seeing each other, the two met and eloped, thinking that they could live a good life in the future, but soon found that they couldn't live on, so Sima Xiangru thought of a way to open a tavern and let his wife Zhuo Wenjun sell it liquor.

This matter spread to Zhuo Wangsun's ears and he was very angry. Under the persuasion of friends and family members, he specially took out a large sum of money as a dowry and gave it to the husband and wife.

This elopement event finally ended perfectly, and the reason why this elopement will get a good result is that firstly, the concept of chastity in that dynasty is not too strong, and secondly, the dowry given by Zhuo Wangsun is the end of the elopement event.

But it is different in this era, because since the Song Dynasty, the etiquette has become more severe, and the confinement of women has been further strengthened. The elopement women will basically be marked as dead in the clan, so even if the woman is still alive, she is dead in the eyes of her family. When embarking on the road of elopement, the woman was obviously hurt more.

In addition, even if the man did not abandon the poor woman, he would not have a good life.There is a saying: The recruiter is the wife and the concubine is the concubine. That is to say, once a woman elopes, she is basically ruined. A woman loses her qualifications as a wife at the beginning of her elopement. This is an ancient rule.

Ling Xiao didn't directly tell the original owner about this issue, and waited to find a suitable person in the future. After all, Ling Xiao himself was a deviant owner in the eyes of the original owner. It is not very suitable to say these things, so let's find a suitable person to talk about!
The reason for this worry is that Ling Xiao knows that the original owner should belong to a person who lacks love, and this kind of person may become a licking dog if he is not good. In order to get the so-called warmth, he put all his feelings in one place. on the man.

She didn't want the original owner to live like that, and hoped that the original owner could come out of the original family, broaden her horizons, and not be a frog in a well, and this was something she wanted the original owner to pay attention to.

Ling Xiao said that the original owner was a relatively orthodox ancient person, because she found that even though the original owner had seen a lot of scenery, she was still a little girl who wanted a home of her own, instead of thinking about how to live like Ling Xiao. Even better, even jumping into the river just to get away.

Ling Xiao didn't care too much after knowing the original owner's thoughts. She still asked the original owner to study hard, because she knew that a good mother can give children many good qualities, and children with a good childhood will be more sunny.

This is also the reason why Ling Xiao has never felt that full-time mothers are bad. In fact, there are many full-time mothers in a modern society where men and women are equal. It is mothers who sacrifice their own futures to create a safe atmosphere for their children.

It's a pity that some people don't realize this. They take it for granted that women take care of their children, and they don't think about the sacrifices of being a wife and mother. Many people think that it is a kind of backwardness for women to be housewives at home.

Therefore, some people vigorously advocate artificial wombs in many places, thinking that this way women can be freed, and they don’t need to ask for leave because of childbirth, and they don’t need to be full-time mothers, but is the artificial womb really so awesome?
Ling Xiao didn't think so when he saw it. First of all, the artificial womb was not created at all, it was just an idea. What can you say about something that has not been developed?It's basically a saying of drawing cakes to satisfy one's hunger.

In fact, Ling Xiao didn't think that the artificial womb would be solved easily. There were a lot of problems to be solved, such as where did the eggs come from?This requires the extraction of eggs from the female body, right?The process of egg retrieval is an operation. No matter how small the operation is, there will be many risks. Is the woman ready?

In addition, in the process of women's normal and natural pregnancy, there will be miscarriages. In fact, miscarriage itself is a kind of natural elimination. Those fetuses that have not been impacted or have no vitality and start to abort are mostly of the weaker nature. , there is no need for a miscarriage at all.

So does the artificial womb also have the possibility of abortion?If not, will it lead to more weak children being born?If so, will it cause children to be eliminated without knowing it?These are all problems that need to be solved.

There are also technical issues, such as what material is used for the outer wall of the artificial uterus?What replaces the role of amniotic fluid?How to monitor the fetus in the artificial womb?And do you want to imitate your mother's heartbeat?And how can we prove the safety of the artificial womb?A series of questions have to be answered, and the last question is: who can guarantee that the artificial womb will work well?

Of course, Ling Xiao doesn't think that the concept of artificial womb is all bad. For example, the artificial womb does help women get rid of the discomfort during pregnancy and the dangers encountered during childbirth. Ling Xiao is sure that it is very good.

But from an emotional point of view, the artificial womb is not all good. I am afraid that the initial emotional bond between mother and child is gone. You must know that pregnancy itself also reminds women of changes in identity. mother.

The child in the womb grows from a fertilized egg, and the mother will feel a little bit of happiness. After waiting for a few months, she will feel more hard work, but she will also feel the growth of the child.

After a normal pregnancy, the mother will feel the baby's fetal movement. The baby has been growing up in the mother's belly. It has been following the mother. The relationship between mother and child has been cultivated early, which is a good start.

The fetus will let the mother know whether they are asleep or awake, and the baby can hear the mother's heartbeat in the mother's womb. After birth, the babies sometimes cry unceasingly. When they are placed on the chest, the babies will Will fall asleep peacefully after hearing mother's heartbeat.

The child in the artificial womb is different. Is there a charge for using the artificial womb?The cost will not be too low, so naturally you have to work hard to make money, I am afraid that there will not be long interaction between the child and the mother.

So how much time can a child born from an artificial womb spend with his mother again?What interaction?The reason why I say this is because I believe that the artificial womb will not be placed in everyone’s home, and should be taken care of by special personnel in a large space. Impossible to keep in your own home.

Then, as parents, they have to look at the fetus specially, which means that some people are close, and some people are far away. According to the situation of the uterus, the fetus should also be kept in a closed space, even if it is seen, it only looks at the outer wall. It is unlikely to be seen every day.Will I still get a lot of love from my mother?I always feel that there are some differences between the children born from the artificial womb and the children in normal operation, and it may take several generations to know.

In fact, it is unknown whether the artificial womb will affect the growth of the child. For a thing that has not been tested at all, and there is not even a slight sign of it, Ling Xiao watched it with some suspicion, feeling that there is no need to publicize it .It's better to study how to make pregnant women live more comfortably, so that women can join the workplace as soon as possible after pregnancy.

In addition, even if the technology of the artificial womb is very mature, women no longer need to suffer from the hardships of pregnancy, which does not mean that parents can relax. Many people regret it: it would be better to let the child in their stomach if they knew it earlier.

The same kind of thinking should appear in the minds of mothers who use artificial wombs to conceive children. You must know how old the babies should be after they come out of the artificial womb?
Can't one be born with one or three years old?This is impossible, because it is a crime against children to let a newborn learner grow up to one to three years old in a dark and claustrophobic environment.

Therefore, babies born in the artificial womb should be the same as ordinary newborn babies. They belong to zero-year-old newborns. They are soft at the beginning, and they can't even straighten their necks.

Newborns can't speak, walk, or even turn over at the beginning. This requires the care of family members. In the first few years, a child needs special care for eating, drinking, and sleeping.

This is because general kindergartens basically only accept children over the age of three. Children who are too young will not be allowed to enter the kindergarten at all. Children under one year old mainly drink milk. If the kindergarten accepts such children, it may be too late to make milk powder.

There are also a very small number of kindergartens that accept children under the age of three, but as a qualified parent, they will definitely go for a special investigation. After all, the teachers in the kindergarten may be good or bad, and children who are too young can’t tell what they have suffered. There are definitely a small number of children who go to kindergarten around the age of [-].

Then when parents want to find a babysitter, they will find that the situation of the babysitter is even more uncertain. Those who give sleeping pills to their children, those who beat their children for no reason, and those who read relevant information dare to hand over a very small child to others ?

Therefore, even if there is an artificial womb, it cannot solve the problem that the child needs family care when he is young. It can be said that during the period from the birth of the baby to the age of three, whether to find a suitable nanny to take care of the child, or to ask the elders for help, the third The way is to bring your own children.

Ling Xiao remembers that there is a relative in her family. After she got married and had a child, her unit contract expired. If she didn’t have a job, she would take care of the child at home. When a child was weaned after one full year of life, her in-laws rushed to let her find a job.

She naturally wanted to find a job, but after this year passed, she found that it was difficult to find a job, because the employer would ask her why she didn't work at the original unit, and asked her to go home and wait after knowing the situation, and then there was no more information.

It was only later that she learned that employers were not willing to employ mothers with young children. You had to know that children had a lot of things to do when they were young.

Knowing this reason, being a mother has no choice but to find another place to work, but she soon found out that she should not look for it, because no one is taking care of the child, and the elderly in the family do not plan to look after the child at all, saying that she is old and does not want to If you are too tired, bring your own children.

The daughter-in-law also has to admit that there is nothing wrong with what her parents-in-law said. It is true that she wants to live a relaxed life after retirement. The problem is that if she goes to work, what will her own children do?
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