The road from Africa to Europe

Chapter 639 Dilemma
If Chen Liulang changed his way of life and completely gave up the idea of ​​going out to earn money, then he would only rely on farming for a living, and at this time there are advantages and disadvantages, and he will not take all the advantages.

The advantage is that the family lives together all the time, and there will be absolutely no unfamiliar things with the children and grandchildren. That is to say, there is a lot of time to cultivate the relationship with the family, and it should not be so indifferent to the children and grandchildren.

But there is bound to be a situation when only farming: there is not much money.There is nothing that can’t be without money, because if there is no money, the family will be squeezed into a small house. If it is really difficult to live, they can only dig some soil to build a house.Besides, they would live a particularly simple life, and if they could not eat a few pieces of meat all year round, maybe the children would be unhappy as well.

Under such circumstances, it may not be that the whole family lives well, because without money, it means that if someone gets sick, they cannot ask the doctor to see a doctor, let alone get medicine, so they can only bear it. A dead end.

It can be seen from this that the road is not necessarily easy. In many cases, there are gains and losses. It is impossible to get all the benefits, and it depends more on personal choice.

And people often don't care much about the things they can get at their fingertips, as if the things that are easy to get are not very precious and can be discarded at will.And the more you can't get it, the more precious it is.

This is human nature. Chen Liulang still remembers his shock after hearing these words, because after thinking about it carefully, he will find that the possibility of farming at home does not exist, which means that no matter which side he chooses It's all wrong.

If he chooses to make money, he has to give up the very close relationship with his family. It is impossible for him to earn money while having a very close relationship with his family, because without that time, he is likely to encounter a group of white-eyed wolves .

But if you choose to accompany your family, you have to give up letting your wife and children live a life of delicious food and drink, and let them get married without much dowry and dowry. I am afraid that such a poor life will not be good, hey!It's really hard to choose.

But after Chen Liulang thought about it, he knew that he might still choose to go out to make money.It's really hard to live the life of being happy when you get a penny. He and his children and grandchildren grew up in different environments, which led to different pursuits.

He had had enough of the kind of life where it was difficult to get a penny, so naturally he didn't want to live like this forever, he had become a more thoughtful person, and he couldn't go back.

As for whether his white-eyed wolf sons would have other ideas, it didn't matter to him.It's all over for him, they are no longer his responsibility, they are all fathers who are always responsible for their own lives.

This is a new idea that he had after his recovery. He didn't like reading in his early years, but after experiencing so many things, he changed, and he started to have his own way of further study when he was old.

He couldn't sit still before, but now he can sit down and work hard to learn more knowledge, because he found that Ling Xiao is still studying in his old age, she said: Live to learn.

This made him silent for a long time, and finally started to learn, but he found that he knew too few characters, so he planned to start learning characters.When he expressed his thoughts with Ai Ai for a while, Ling Xiao agreed very much. She hoped that more people would come to study hard. Even if the best time was missed, it would be good to learn more.

Chen Liulang started to really study. He didn't read Confucian classics, but read the straightforward vernacular. For scholars, vernacular is a slang text, and he feels that they have not used their abilities.

Vernacular Chinese is much more bloated than classical Chinese, and classical Chinese is more concise, but it is too esoteric for ordinary people, and often cannot be understood at all.

And Chen Liulang's study started from the vernacular, which made him more willing to learn, his mood became better, and his thoughts were clearer. He wanted to live for himself, and he had some new ideas.

Therefore, when he saw the third son, he was very angry at first, but he soon saw Chen Han's embarrassment, and the anger gradually subsided, and he hurriedly dismissed him.

Seeing the very tired third son, he was a little funny. He used to take his sons out, but they couldn't bear to go home, and never did it again. Isn't it the same now?
If these sons were able to wake up at the beginning: earning money is not easy.Maybe this family will not be like this. He has also encountered complete discord between father and son, but they will be considerate of each other in life, and their lives will be fine, and it will not be a situation where the relationship completely collapses.

During this period of time, he has been reviewing what he did wrong, and while he has been criticizing himself, he has to say: Sometimes the same thing depends on what the other party thinks.

Some people will look for the good side in the whole process, and some people are always picking on the thorns, and they especially like to go online and put on a big hat, just like that woman (his wife, but he is no longer willing to bury her) In one place), in her eyes, Chen Liulang did nothing wrong.

Seeing the third son now, Chen Liulang's heart has settled down, and there is no fluctuation at all. He thinks that he has fulfilled the responsibility of a father, and he wants to live a free and peaceful life in the future.

"Isn't this Chen Han? How did he come here? There hasn't been much change in the past few years. But one thing must be made clear: Siping is a free man, not a runaway slave at all." He said with some sarcasm.

"????? Not a fugitive slave? What's going on?" Chen Han's eyes widened, and he blurted out these few words, and soon he understood that it was either a fugitive slave or an ordinary person.

Suddenly, I realized that I didn't know my father. He was completely different from him before, as if he had turned white a lot. After looking at my father, I realized that I was really not familiar with him. It was a little vague what my father looked like.

When I was young, my father was seldom at home, mainly because my mother brought up their brothers and sisters. My mother always complained that her husband didn’t want to stay at home in her usual conversation, and she liked to run outside every day. There must be a little fox JING outside.

After a long time, the children in the family have a bad impression of their father, and they feel sorry for their mother even more.As if he didn't care about the family at all, they complained a lot to their father in this situation.

The family members have always stayed together intentionally or unintentionally, and resisted Chen Liulang intentionally or unintentionally. Later, his mother died, which exacerbated the children's resentment towards their father. As a husband, he did not even see his mother for the last time. .

They have always had a lot of resentment and antipathy towards their father, but they have no gratitude at all. When their father encounters something, his first thought is to get rid of the risk factors, which eventually leads to the irreversible direction of the matter.Now Chen Han has a new feeling, because the money is not enough to spend.

After they really became the masters of the house, they were a little panicked after spending most of their money. They had to go out to realize that earning money is not easy, and it takes a lot of time and money.

Those who are smarter look back at the past, and they can see that someone has instigated between their father and son, resulting in no communication between father and son, and too much estrangement.And this person is none other than his own mother.

The children and grandchildren didn't know that Chen Liulang had no choice but to leave home, and they had thought about getting more land, but there were really too few real fertile lands, and it was not their turn to buy them at home.

Even if you really want to buy it, you have to have a lot of money. The family's foundation is too weak to afford it. Chen Liulang has to take risks to go out to earn a lot of money. If he doesn't go out to earn money, what if something happens at home?
The family needs to serve in corvée. This kind of corvée is too tiring. If one is not good, he will die. If he wants not to go to corvée, he has to pay for his life. This is all money, and farming can’t save so much silver.

Also, he has sons and daughters, all of which need to be married, all of which require money. How can he look at his sons and daughters when they get married because they have no money and find the worst person?Of course he doesn't want to.

He has been working very hard, but he has given the best shelter to his children and grandchildren, but he has not been recognized by his family.It wasn't until he was abandoned that he realized that all his family members didn't care. He probably protected him so well that he didn't suffer too much.

He had no experience as a father at the beginning, thinking that giving them money would be enough, and he would rather suffer himself than his children. He did not let his children eat meat every day, because he himself seldom ate meat. When running around, it is often good to take a bite of the big cake.

But the children don't know that their father often withholds penny after penny, increasing their wealth little by little.In their hearts, money is easy to come by, and they don't care too much about the issue of increasing income and reducing expenditure, which leads to a very different view of money from each other.

Thinking of this, Chen Liulang looked at the kneeling Chen Han, and once again determined that he had done something wrong, and that he should care about the children's thoughts, not just give money.

At the beginning, Chen Liulang thought that as long as they study hard, the children's thinking will improve a lot, and with the teaching of the master, they can establish a good world view.

Facts have proved that he was wrong. The children raised by his wife are not very successful. Most of the children raised are exquisite egoists who only care about themselves, and they can't let go of the knife rest on their necks.

It's really not easy to make money. It's good to have the opportunity to make money. There are people who kill people for a tael of silver. He really has no choice but to risk his life to make a sum of money.

The reason why they say this is because there have always been people who use the banner of killing the rich and helping the poor, and this kind of bandits will mostly attack teams that don't have many people, and they dare not attack teams that are really rich and powerful.

The most tragic thing is that some robbers may jump out when passing through a place, and the big heads will be borrowed as a badge of honor for the robbers, and the body may be eaten by others.

In addition, it is inconvenient to eat, wear and live along the way. He really tried his best to make his family live a better life. It can be said that he has a clear conscience on this point.

It will be very sad after his sons treat him indifferently. Even though he is indeed not a very qualified father, he cannot deny all his contributions.

He even knew what their mothers were thinking, they envied the life of his aunt's family very much, and disliked his lack of effort, so he couldn't make them become the children of officials and masters.

After knowing this complaint, Chen Liulang wanted to laugh a little. He had never really studied since he was a child, but their conditions were much better than when he was a child. Why didn't he become a real scholar?
Thinking of this, he looked at Chen Han, knowing that they are living a miserable life now, he felt a little gloating in his heart, without him to make money for them, but still want to live the original life, how is it possible?

Seeing that they were having a bad time, he, a father, didn't have any more thoughts. It's better to eat the hardships that he hasn't experienced before, lest he don't know how capable he is.

Before, as a father, he was disliked too much, and he raised and disabled them to the point that they couldn't even walk, so let them walk now.

Chen Liulang recalled looking at Chen Han who was kneeling in front of him. He is not young now, and he said lightly: "I didn't expect to see you here. It is also a kind of fate. I am living very well now. .

Speaking of which, you and I are separated, and we will live our own lives in the future. You can live well on your own, and I don't need you to serve me. "

Chen Liulang's tone was very calm. If he felt a little bit guilty towards his wife before, then he who knew more about the situation was completely disgusted with her.

Because he didn't know his wife's true face until after his condition improved. Before that, she still held a little bit in front of Chen Liulang, and because he didn't like to quarrel with her, he was confused in many aspects.

This is because my sister sent someone to inquire about the situation. The nanny who was sent to inquire about the situation was very powerful, and soon got more information from the women in the village, and when she found out, the old lady was very angry.

Only then did she know that the younger brother and daughter-in-law spread rumors wantonly because of the fact that the two of them didn't go back to the village very often. Fortunately, her son was promising, so basically no one dared to spread rumors.

But Chen Liulang is miserable. In the mouth of his sister-in-law, Chen Liulang is a scumbag. He only thinks about little goblins and runs out all day, so he doesn't accompany her. There are reasons and evidences. No wonder the men in the village are very envious. .

After the old lady knew the whole situation, she waited for Chen Liulang to stabilize before telling her younger brother that Chen Liulang, whose reputation had been ruined, was so angry that he wanted to pull his dead wife out of the grave and ask for clarification.

You must know that he is very nostalgic, because she is his wife, and he concealed some things for her. Back then, he had to bite the bullet and go out to make money. At first, he really wanted to make a fortune.

He took huge risks to earn money and went home. After having money, the life of the family became much better, but unexpectedly, his wife's natal family came to fight the autumn wind.

As a result, all the money in the family was taken away by the wife's natal family, and there was no money when they were waiting to ask for money.What is even more unlucky is that the child is sick, which makes the whole family worse.

What should I do if I have no money?But at that time, my sister was not at home, and there was no place to borrow money, and my wife's natal family insisted that there was no borrowing money, so he had to borrow usury.

At the beginning, he didn't tell his sister about the usury loan, which almost ruined his family. At that time, his wife was very annoyed and cried again and again. What can he do as a husband?
In the end, he had to bite the bullet and look for his sister. Fortunately, his sister still sent someone to repay the usury on behalf of his mother and compatriots. For this reason, he was scolded by his sister.

Follow the old lady to tell Chen Liulang that as a sister, she can only help him so far. This kind of usury must never be borrowed, and if she borrows it again, she will not be her brother.

In addition, the old lady also said: You must know that she will pay off her brother's debt this time, but she will not give all the money for her coffin to this brother. She is his sister, not his mother.

Even his own mother would not always help him support the family. Chen Liulang obeyed his sister's admonition obediently, and did not tell his sister what his wife had done, because he knew that his wife had gone too far.

Originally, there was some estrangement between the eldest sister-in-law and his wife. If the elder sister knew that it was her that caused the problem, I'm afraid that seeing his wife would make her look even worse.

In order to prevent the two women from choking each other, he put the responsibility on his own shoulders. He also saw clearly that farming would not make him rich, so he ran a business with a caravan and accumulated money little by little again.

First return it to my sister, and then redeem the land and other things I originally sold. If I can't redeem it, I don't want it, just buy it separately.

Of course, he didn't give his wife a lot of money after that, he was afraid that she would give the money to his natal family again when he was not around, and the children would have nowhere to cry.

A part of the money was given to the elders of the clan, so that it could be used in case the child was sick, and this time there were people in the clan watching, so as to prevent the money from being given away again.

This caused the relationship between him and his wife to quickly become indifferent. Both parties were somewhat displeased, but for various reasons had to remain in the name of husband and wife.

He usually stays to plant crops during the most important time, and earns money outside the other time. His wife naturally feels that he has become very cold.

It happened that her family came to borrow money again, and Chen Liulang happened to meet her, and rushed out, saying: "When will I return the money I borrowed before, and when will I be allowed to come to the door."

(End of this chapter)