The road from Africa to Europe

Chapter 714 38 Mothers
Yang Juan could only sigh about this. Many times, due to various reasons, too many people can't control their own destiny at all. Most people in this world are treated like this. Many times when they are alive, they need to weigh the pros and cons, rather than doing whatever they want.

Why!Yang Juan knows one thing in her heart: Isn't she a member who can't help herself?Most of the others didn't think about whether she could get real happiness when she was set into the current marriage contract.

As a member of the family, she knows very well that marriage is never just based on the situation of the man and woman, that is the practice of small families.The big family is more because of the family where the two men and women belong, and it feels that the marriage between the families is more suitable, so that the two families will benefit more.

That is to say, people from both families have the will to marry, and they can get enough help from each other, and then choose the most suitable person to marry.

At this time, the man mainly depends on the status, talents, and future of the other party, while the woman requires virtuousness and generosity. As a wife, she does not require beauty, but she requires housekeeping skills.Of course, the woman looks good, which is also a plus.

The marriage between the Yang family and the Li family was like this. She didn't understand her fiancé, and according to the rules, she could only bow her head shyly when others mentioned it, and could do nothing else.

Fortunately, she still knew some other information. For example, there was a gap in age between the two, and her fiancé was more than ten years older than her.

When the elder brother talked about the age of the prospective brother-in-law, he was relatively light-hearted, and focused on other places. He talked about many advantages of the prospective brother-in-law, saying that the prospective brother-in-law was handsome and good-tempered.

After hearing what her brother said, Yang Juan didn't say anything, but she felt that the age gap between her husband-to-be was still not small, and Ling Xiao felt something was wrong when she found out later, but Yang Juan didn't want to check, and she still wanted to marry after checking. Sometimes it's better to be a little confused.

Yang Juan naturally understood what her brother meant. Although he planned to get married and was forced to do so, he still tried to think about it for his younger sister. Now he wanted her younger sister to have more admiration for her fiancé.

No matter what, Yang Juan would like to thank her brother, and more or less tried her best to make the unmarried couple more affectionate, and maybe they will live better in the future.

She understands her brother's approach. Her brother believes that a woman should take good care of a man and do her duty as a wife. This is a good wife in a man's heart.

But Yang Juan still remembers her mother's words: If you want to live well, you must learn to hold on to your heart tightly, and don't give up your feelings easily, because men can't believe that her mother told her to live well after marriage, and don't do things for others. A matter of bad conscience.

Yang Juan naturally believed in her mother's words more. Her mother has been living a good life. Even if her father has his own pet, she will not be knocked down as the mistress.

She decided to live a good life like a mother and raise her children well. She will never think like her elder brother, and be a good wife in the eyes of men!good wife?

Pull it down!Back then, Sima Xiangru relied on Zhuo Wenjun's connections to succeed, didn't he also want to find another woman?I really don't know what to say, she won't do this, if you don't give your heart, you won't get hurt.

Of course, this idea will not be told to the elder brother, because the genders are different, it is not easy to empathize with each other, why bother to fall out with the elder brother over this?
And she also understands her brother's thoughts. After all, it's not just about her marriage. Even her brother's engagement and marriage are not based on whether the two have feelings for each other. Love is a trivial matter in front of two families, and marriage is a matter for two families.

Under such circumstances, the elder brother naturally hoped that his wife would love him and consider everything for him, but Yang Juan knew that the elder sister-in-law loved her children, not her husband, but she did not tell her elder brother.

Ling Xiao nodded after hearing this. Of course, she still had some things in her heart that she didn't say to Yang Juan. Another advantage of men is that men can take concubines before and after marriage.In other words, men are completely innocent of cheating, but women have to keep their chastity, which is completely a double standard.

Thinking of this makes Ling Xiao feel unfair, why is the chastity standard different?As a result, women are bound by many rules, and often cannot come out independently to make money. The heroine has been the most mainstream voice for a long time.

Ling Xiao knew how difficult it was for a woman to live alone in ancient society, so she never thought of encouraging Yang Juan to come out and do it herself, because women did not have the opportunity to have a separate household registration.

In a patriarchal society, women are the accessories of men. This can be seen from the household registration. In many dynasties, women could not be independent households. They were either attached to their fathers, brothers, or sons.

A person without household registration is a black household, which means that women are often unable to live outside independently, because once she leaves the family, she is a black household, and anyone may bully women, or even be bought and sold.

After traveling to this world, Ling Xiao also made a special investigation. This world belongs to a feudal society with too many dark sides and strict class barriers.

Especially when Ling Xiao was sure that this was the stage where the aristocratic family was rampant, he was a little more careful.Family!Maybe it is because in the imagination of later generations, many of the children of the aristocratic families are super powerful, and there is indeed nothing wrong at certain times.

Because the children of the aristocratic family belong to the so-called elite class, they can have the opportunity to learn the six arts after they are born, and there is also a personal guidance. In many cases, the children of the aristocratic family belong to the high-ranking Tianlongren class.

The reason why they are said to belong to the Tianlong people is that many of the arguments of the members of the family and the Tianlong people are very consistent. For example, in the eyes of most family members, other people who are not elites are not a person, but they can bully and squeeze the big ones at will. object, hehe!

Even the small and medium-sized landlords with a lot of land, that is, the so-called poor families, are not seen by the members of the family. This is the so-called class barrier, which is very strict.

Ling Xiao still remembers that there was once a daughter of an aristocratic family who never married because one of her eyes was blind. Later, she had to marry a child from a poor family, but the members of the aristocratic family were unwilling and forcibly separated the husband and wife.

And this is the rule of the so-called aristocratic family, even if the daughter of the aristocratic family is disabled, the children of the poor family still cannot marry, just because there is a class barrier between them.

Members of the aristocratic family felt that if a son from a poor family married a daughter from an aristocratic family, wouldn't it lower the status of the aristocratic family, and they insisted on their own son marrying that blind aristocratic daughter.This is exactly the same as the so-called caste system.

Look, small and medium landlords who own land will not be interested, so ordinary people such as farmers who do not have a few acres of land or who live on tenants' land are even more humble.

Children from high-ranking aristocratic families look at poor families a little bit better, after all, they still have some money, but looking at the more common people, they are like cattle and horses.

Even in the eyes of members of the aristocratic family, common people were inferior to cattle and horses. In ancient times, cattle could not be easily slaughtered, otherwise they might be sentenced to prison, and common people who were killed could only pay some money for compensation.

And Ling Xiao once again felt the strict hierarchy. She had passed through the eldest son of a small noble family before, but because of her small body and the subsequent war, she didn't care too much about the so-called class barriers. many feelings.

The later ancient society was also the world after the aristocratic family was destroyed. Although it is still difficult for a poor family to produce a noble son, there are still some lucky ones who can stand out.

This time, the world has a clearer sense of the dominant class hierarchy of the aristocratic family. The original owner belongs to the girl of the small aristocratic family, but the He family finally disappeared in the chaos of war, and she barely became a poor family.

After watching the Yang family's grievances and grievances from a close distance, I can clearly see the family members' contempt for ordinary people. She is also at the end of the chain of contempt, but because of Ling Xiao's single-person force value, others dare not speak.

But I believe that there are many Yang family members beeping behind their backs, and even in the eyes of many people, it would be very lucky for her to marry the worst family of the Yang family, which shows how strict the class barriers are.

In addition, because of the war, Ling Xiao also saw a lot of human trafficking, and the biggest victim group was women. As a woman, they lived a miserable life, and they always ranked first in the sequence of being sold.

And because human trafficking is legal, no matter whether it is the woman's parents or the so-called elders, they can buy and sell at will, and the woman has become a slave from then on.

Even if the woman is not a relative of the person being sold, will the trafficker who bought the person care?Won't!They have plenty of ways to torture the victimized women and force them to accept their fate.

If there are such women who do not accept their fate, they will be beaten violently, tortured and killed, and they will kill chickens for monkeys to see. Most of the weak women have increased the wealth of the traffickers.

I have even heard of a woman who went out alone and was later raped by a man. This kind of tragic experience of being raped is unbearable for normal women. The problem is that the women who are victims later cannot escape the tragedy of fate.

The fate of this kind of woman is very bad, and she often follows the man who spoiled her, that is, she marries the criminal who raped her.

Everyone will persuade her to accept her fate, she will become innocent, if she doesn't marry that man, who will she marry?In the end, if a woman refuses to accept her fate, the only way to resist is to die herself.

Ling Xiao looked into her eyes but found that she was often powerless, and she was not a savior.As an outsider, after transmigrating into the original owner's body and becoming a mortal, he still has to make plans for the original owner. Being too high-profile will make the original owner helpless after returning.

Naturally, she would not make any big claims about the equality of men and women, because it is impossible to achieve it at this stage, and it is impossible to say that some people may deprive women of the right to study.And many times wanting to fool the people is to make people illiterate. It is really good to be able to read.

Some senseless resistance will only make other innocent women a little more imprisoned. The trend of the times will inevitably move towards gender equality sooner or later. This is the general trend, but it does not belong to what is being done at this stage.

All she can do at this stage is to protect her body and take the opportunity to help a few female compatriots. This is enough. I can't do more, and I don't feel suitable to do more things. What if something goes wrong? ?She was a little afraid of disturbing the timeline because of herself.

This is also the reason why she is generally not very willing to intervene in right and wrong. Now she naturally does not know that the torrent of the times will eventually make her plan of salting fish go to waste.

After Yang Juan waited for Xiaoyu to leave, she specifically asked Ling Xiao if she had any plans to marry in the future. If so, don't worry, she will help find a good one.

"Marry? I don't have that idea at all. After all, my identity changes after I get married. I have several titles. I'm a wife of a certain person, a daughter-in-law of a certain person, and my in-law's family will have many things for me to do.

And I don't feel very good, it's better to live alone, you must know that a married girl is just splashed water, what should Huanlang do?
With him, maybe the children from the in-law's family will say that Huanlang is an oil bottle, and Huanlang will live a very bad life.Without Huanlang?I don't feel relieved that Huanlang is still young.

If there is Weng Gu, maybe they can use the family rules to punish me. I am not stupid at all, so I will raise my brother first.Why make a wedding dress for someone else when you get married and can't have children? "

As she said that, she looked at Yang Juan and said, "Do you still remember Mrs. 38? She has become like that after only a few years of marriage. I don't want to become like that."

"Mother 38?" Yang Juan said, she still remembered this arrogant clan elder sister, she belonged to a good-looking beauty among the sisters in the clan, and the marriage that was arranged later was also good, and she lived a more nourishing life.

I still remember that she later married into a bigger family, a family that was bigger than the Yang family, and had greater influence, and her husband was still a member of the main branch.

Ordinarily, 38 Niang did not have the qualifications to marry in. The gap between the Yang family and that family was a bit big, but in the end 38 Niang married in and won the unanimous envy of the sisters in the clan.

Speaking of which, Mrs. 38's husband was married and had a child. He was over [-] years old, but his wife passed away early, so he could marry again as a widower.

The original spouse's family still has a say in the son-in-law's remarriage. It is said that the sisters in the original spouse's family did not find a suitable successor, so they found the 38th mother.

38 Niang is considered to be the cousin of the man's original spouse, and they have a certain blood relationship with each other, so they are qualified to marry in as a successor. This marriage is as good as a big pie to 38 Niang.

The family of the cousin’s natal family made it clear to 38 Niang that she was chosen mainly because 38 Niang is the cousin of the original spouse and has some blood relationship with the children left by the original spouse. I believe she will get along well with the children.

There is another reason why she doesn't say it lightly: that is, she feels that the Yang family belongs to the weak side in comparison, so she will be more obedient as the stepmother, instead of thinking about how to replace her original child with her own child.

38 Niang knew that her husband was nearly 40 years old when she got married, but 38 Niang was only [-] years old, and her stepson and stepdaughter were all older than her.

This was a bolt from the blue for 38 Niang, the man was much older than she imagined, and she was a little helpless at that time, and had no way to object.

Because even if she knew the man's real age before marriage, could she not want to marry?Not at all, at their level marriage has never been a matter of two people, but a matter of family marriage.

In fact, 38 Niang knew very well that if she was not the cousin of the original spouse, and there was no suitable woman in the original spouse's family, it would not be her turn to marry.

Although she looked youthful and beautiful, and her husband was quite old, others felt that she was the one who really took advantage, and that she had the highest status among the sisters in the clan.

After she got engaged, those clan girls who were not engaged or who were engaged but not married all surrounded her, not for anything else, but because of the person they were going to marry.

Even if she is not very happy in her heart, after all, the age gap between her and her husband is too big, she is a smart person, knowing that the unwillingness in her heart is useless.

On the contrary, she wanted to please her husband in every possible way. After all, this husband looked very imposing. Even if there were wrinkles on his face, there was no shortage of beauties around him. She who thought she was beautiful was just one of the women around him.

After marrying into her husband's house, she encountered a lot of things. Even though she is the wife, the power in the inner court is not easy to control. Even though she has received relevant education for many years, she has no practice. After she really did it, she found out I am weak.

Later, when she felt that she was pregnant, a child in the family had an accident. After the incident broke out, all signs pointed to her as the new wife.

However, she was calculated to the point that she could not prove her innocence, and she fainted in anger and anxiety. If it hadn't been revealed that she was pregnant, she might be forced to kneel in the ancestral hall.

But she was questioned because of the child problem, and some even took the opportunity to say that because her husband had too many children, she took the opportunity to get rid of the children while she was pregnant, which made 38 Niang very angry.

Because she obviously didn't do anything bad, and she didn't even think about such a thing, but because she was unable to refute the facts after being splashed with dirty water, she almost had a miscarriage in anger.

(End of this chapter)