Since I am Yu Huanshui

Chapter 330
After listening to Qian Wen's words, Nan Li nodded again and again, Huanhuan is like this now, she is not as sensible as before.

If you can't beat them, the adults feel distressed, and the children cry when they are reprimanded, and then there is a cycle. After a few days, Huanhuan is back to his old self.

Now it's giving her a headache.

It’s not that you have to make up lessons and study to death, but Huanhuan’s grades are just like this. If you get it in the future, the current social education is your golden key and the closest road to success. The child is young and doesn’t understand, she Maybe she didn't know that forcing her children to study is also forced and helpless, and she wouldn't do this if she had a little choice.

"Yan Peng, I've thought about this too, but I'm getting closer and closer to Xiaoshengchu, and it's too late to correct Huanhuan slowly.

Take it slow step by step, I don't want Huanhuan to regret it later. "Nan Li said with a headache.

"I'm not talking about correcting Huanhuan, but about correcting you and Xia Junshan." Qian Wen said to Nan Li.

"Ah?" Nan Li didn't understand, and looked at Qian Wen suspiciously.

Tian Yulan also looked over.

"You still don't understand the main point of what I said. Huanhuan's current inability to resist pressure, self-willedness, petty temper, and rebellious psychology are all caused by you and Xia Junshan.

After pampering Huanhuan for more than ten years, you suddenly changed drastically, and you must be taught severely, let alone a child, even an adult will find it difficult to accept and react.

What you have to do now is to unite the two of you and discuss clearly what you want to give to your children. If there is gain, there must be loss. For ordinary children, happiness and learning are opposites.

If you want to get grades, start now. One person will sing the bad face, and the other will sing the red face, so that Huanhuan can gradually adapt to the study. You must know that Xiaoshengchu is just a small hurdle in the study career. The future high school entrance examination and college entrance examination will be more difficult step by step. Can you keep forcing your child to study, so that the child will go crazy sooner or later.

If you want to be happy, then find Huanhuan's hobbies and develop Huanhuan's advantages first. Although reading is a shortcut, interest is a person's motivation and the reason for a person's success.

Doing what you like can make people feel happy and drive away boredom.

Then there will be no conflict between you and Huanhuan, and she will naturally not be rebellious. "

Qian Wen took a sip of coffee, looked at Nan Li, saw that she was listening carefully, and continued, "Don't be influenced by other parents and the current teaching environment, assimilated by these anxieties, and follow the crowd blindly.

Children are still young, one-time grades, a temporary slump cannot prove the child's future, children are not sensible, we adults should not be blindly anxious, just like Fengfan Primary School said that learning is a marathon, not a sprint, and it will never succeed or fail in a short time.

We parents must steer our children well and know what is most suitable for them.

Like our Ziyou, his grades are not bad, he has a certain resistance to learning, and can accept the pressure of the senior high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination step by step. Insects, fungi, and creatures, he needs to get a good grade in order to achieve these, so he will naturally not be too tired of studying.

As for Huanhuan, she has a cheerful personality, likes to sing and dance, she is unassuming, generous, sweet-looking, not very interested in learning, but the child is smart, and I dare not say how good she is in learning, but with the correct guidance, the grades will definitely not be good. Too bad, developing Huanhuan's interest, singing and dancing, becoming a dancer, host, or artist in the future, these are the children's way out.

These things require us adults to give our children consideration in advance. Children are small boats in the vast sea, and we are helmsmen who have experienced turbulent waves. We must clearly choose what is suitable for children.

Especially the children nowadays are not like our era, one is more expensive than the other, pampered and spoiled, they are more willful, more rebellious, and less considerate of their parents.

We can force them for a while and let them go as we want, but sooner or later there will be problems.

It's like..."

When Qian Wen said this, he looked at Tian Yulan and hesitated, whether he should talk about Ziyou's mental illness some time ago.

"Like what? Why didn't you say it all of a sudden?" Nan Li was listening intently, feeling inspired, but suddenly stopped, feeling a little panicked.

"Why are you looking at me?" Seeing her husband looking at her, Tian Yulan asked in confusion, confused.

"Just like when Ziyou was diagnosed with a mental illness some time ago, there are too many cases of children with psychological problems now, and coercion is not a good way.

It is better to adapt measures to current conditions. "Qian Wen said that his mouth was a little dry, and he picked up the coffee to moisten his throat.

"Ziyou has mental illness? Is Ziyou okay, is it okay?" Nan Li was startled, and hurriedly looked at Tian Yulan and asked.

At this time, Tian Yulan's cheeks twitched, her face was embarrassed. Most of Ziyou's mental illnesses were caused by her high-pressure study, and it hurts to think about it now.

"There's nothing wrong with it. I went to check it a few times, and it's basically fine." Tian Yulan said.

"How can such an obedient child as Ziyou suffer from mental illness?" Nan Li asked.

Qian Wen didn't want to talk about this aspect, so he changed the subject, "I'm telling you this to tell you that children nowadays, especially those from good families like ours, are more likely to have problems.

You can force them to do something, but if you keep forcing it, you end up hurting not only the children, but ourselves as well.

Today's children need to be raised according to the situation.

Huanhuan can develop in the long-term, slowly start to develop good study habits, let her adapt to study, and then continue to develop her talents, singing and dancing, both of which are good, and she has a variety of choices in the college entrance examination.

Of course, what I said is just my personal opinion, for reference only, you and brother Xia want to train Huanhuan to become a top student, so just pretend I didn’t say anything. After Qian Wen finished speaking, he shrugged, took the dessert in front of Tian Yulan, picked up a small spoon and ate it.

Nan Li was thoughtful after listening to it. She was smart, but she was confused when she cared, and was affected by Xiao Shengchu's anxiety.

After hearing Qian Wen's advice on how to choose how to raise a child according to the situation of the child, she suddenly became enlightened.

Especially when she heard that Ziyou had a mental illness, she was shocked. Huanhuan has been very tired of studying recently, she is not as sensible as before, and has a strong rebellious heart.

"But Huanhuan has a strong self-esteem, and feels sad when she sees herself lagging behind, but she still doesn't work hard..." Nan Li wondered.

Qian Wen swallowed the cake in his mouth, took a sip of coffee, and cleared his mouth, "Didn't I say it, you and Brother Xia are used to it, you are too fond of Huanhuan.

Loving children also needs to be moderate. Children are getting bigger and bigger. You must cultivate correct concepts and spoil them blindly. In the end, not only the children will suffer, but you will also suffer.

You and Brother Xia communicate well, and you are the only one of you who is a good guy, and then find a balance point for Huanhuan between learning and interest, so that she can develop good habits and correct concepts.

If this continues, will Huanhuan be worse in the future?
Coupled with the help and support of our parents, it is more than enough to gain a foothold in society when they grow up. As for the rest, let them make their own way. "

Nan Li nodded, and after listening to Qian Wen's opinion, Nan Li felt much less anxious.

She didn't want to compare Huanhuan with others, she was just influenced by her colleagues and the current educational environment.

Qian Wen got up and said, "As for Huanhuan's math scores..."

Nan Li looked up at Qian Wen.

"I also heard Zhang Xueer and Zhong Yi talk about the study of several children. Huanhuan is smart because she is smart, but she is impatient. This requires you to give severe criticism and correct me.

If there is a problem with the learning attitude, it is useless to make up for anything. "

When he saw Xiao Shede, he felt that there was something wrong with Huanhuan's learning attitude, and it wasn't because he didn't have enough tutoring.

Then Tian Yulan recommended some learning skills to Nan Li, and the three of them chatted for a while before leaving.

Outside the cafe, Nan Li drove away, Tian Yulan suddenly patted Qian Wen's arm.

Qian Wen looked at her, "What's wrong?"

"I didn't expect that you have a lot of research on how to educate children. From now on, Ziyou's education will be entrusted to you, and I will take a rest." Tian Yulan said.

"Haha~" Qian Wenqian laughed twice, but didn't bring up the topic, "I'm home, I'm home."

He is also the strongest mouth king, let him teach Ziyou, hehe, he is afraid that Ziyou will inherit his magic skill of sleeping late.

As for how to educate Huanhuan, I have seen Xiao Shede and I have also experienced nine years of compulsory education, college entrance examination, university, and going out of society.

But he didn't talk nonsense, Huanhuan is just spoiled, and Huanhuan likes the stage very much, so he can develop slowly in this area.

Driving back to the community, holding the Lego building blocks for Ziyou in the underground garage, Tian Yulan couldn't help stepping on his feet when she saw it, how long did it take to be so big.

When I got home, I hid the gift, rolled up my sleeves, and prepared to cook a big meal for Tian Yulan.

His surprise was a big Lego block, and Tian Yulan's was a big meal.

When they were almost done, Ziyou and Cai Juying came back.

"Gift, my gift~" After changing his shoes, Ziyou couldn't wait to run into the kitchen.

"Father, my gift." Ziyou said with wide eyes.

Qian Wen raised the king crab in his hand, "How about this surprise? Didn't you always want to eat it? It was brought here by air."

Ziyou blinked, and the smile on his face faded slightly, which was a little different from what he had imagined.

Seeing Ziyou's cute expression, Qian Wen chuckled inwardly.

Tian Yulan gave Qian Wen a blank look, then looked at Ziyou, "Your father's gift is hidden at home, go find it yourself."

"Oh~" Ziyou happily searched for presents all over the room.

"It's boring. If the child doesn't play with it, what do you want to do?" Qian Wen shook his head in disappointment.

Tian Yulan glared at Qian Wen after hearing the words, and said angrily, "Stop holding my king crab, clean it up quickly, and put it in the pot."

Cai Juying walked in, "Is there anything I can do for you?"

"Just wait and eat." Tian Yulan said with a smile.

Ziyou, who was running all over the room, finally found the gift behind the door of his bedroom, and dragged the gift happily to the kitchen.

Seeing Ziyou's stinky fart, Tian Yulan gave him a light kick on the buttocks, "Stop showing off, it's time for dinner, move the things to your toy room."

Ziyou smiled and left.

Qian Wen cleaned up the ingredients, wiped his hands and went out.

Cai Juying was sitting in the living room, and Qian Wen sat over, "Mom, what have you been doing lately?"

Cai Juying smiled, "It's fine to dance with your Auntie Lin every day and participate in senior activities."

Aunt Lin is the retired lawyer who helped Cai Juying when she traveled to Hainan. Now they have a good relationship.

After dinner, Ziyou reluctantly came out of the toy room.

Cai Juying sat next to Ziyou and handled the crab legs of the king crab.

"Ouch~" Tian Yulan slapped her head suddenly.

Qian Wen looked over, "What's the matter? I was surprised."

"Today I was going to talk to Nan Li about the number lottery, but now that you came, you interrupted me, so I forgot to talk about it," Tian Yulan said helplessly.

"The lottery? Is it Xiaoshengchu's lottery?" Qian Wen asked.

"Well, during the parent-teacher meeting today, some parents said that Xiaoshengchu might have a lottery in the future, and teacher Zhang Xueer might as well.

Nan Li and I are a little worried. "Tian Yulan said.

"What are you worried about? Ziyou's grades are so good, even if he is a lottery, he doesn't have to worry about it. He still needs to work hard. If Ziyou can maintain good study habits, it will be the same wherever he goes.

Besides, the policy of lottery for Xiaoshengchu has not yet come down, why are you so anxious, and it is not up to you to decide whether there is such a policy, so why worry about it. "

"It doesn't mean that our family, Ziyou, is going to Hanlin Middle School, if it's really a lottery..." Tian Yulan shook her head.

"Whether to shake the number is not something we can decide, just wait for the policy.

In short, the knowledge you learn is your own. "Qian Wen said softly.

Tian Yulan glanced at Qian Wen with a big heart!
After eating, Ziyou finished her homework, and Tian Yulan granted permission to play without extra study time today.

Ziyou cheered and rushed into the toy room.

Tian Yulan on the side glared at Qian Wen, and Qian Wen looked at her inexplicably, "What's wrong, did you have a stroke in your eye?"

"I think you're out of your mind. You bought such a big Lego brick for Ziyou, and you want him to be the youngest? Why don't you hurry up and help him put it together.

Do you want him to be absent-minded while studying, thinking about this?" Tian Yulan blamed.

Qian Wen rubbed the back of his head, he really didn't think carefully, Ziyou is sensible, children's playful nature is still uncontrollable, playing this stuff for a long time really affects learning.

He laughed dryly, and followed into the toy room. After a while, Tian Yulan came in with two glasses of juice, and then Cai Juying also came in.

The Lego building blocks I bought for Ziyou are a super-large aircraft carrier, and it is extremely laborious and brain-intensive to put together.

Even holding the blueprints has to ponder for a while.

"Here, here, the idiot didn't let it go..." Tian Yulan bluffed and directed.

"You're an idiot, it's obvious that you're here, but your eyes are lame..." Qian Wen said disapprovingly.

"No, it should be here..." Ziyou raised his hand.

"Shut up..." Qian Wen and Tian Yulan said in unison.

Cai Juying smiled, looked at the drawings, and placed the building blocks on the place where they quarreled.

The place where it was installed was perfectly fitted, and the three people who had just quarreled blinked at the same time, the scene was silent and somewhat cold.

Seeing this, Qian Wen looked at the building block in his hand, threw it casually, and the building block rolled to the ground, and said nonchalantly, "I'm going to the bathroom."

"Ahem~" Tian Yulan coughed twice, "I'm going to pour some juice when I run out of juice."

Ziyou cheered for Cai Juying, "Grandma is amazing."

Qian Wen, who was going out, smiled when he heard Ziyou's cheers.

Time is flying fast, Qian Wen is still the same, arguing with Tian Yulan when he is fine, and taking Ziyou to relieve the stress.

In the evening, at Qian Wen's house, Ziyou was already asleep, the living room lights were off, and Qian Wen and Tian Yulan were leaning against each other to watch horror movies.

"It's not scary, it's just that the voices are scary and startled." Qian Wen said speechlessly.

"This is not bad. If you watched the horror movies in the first half of the year, they were simply unsightly. They were either mentally ill or hallucinogens. They really rubbed the audience's IQ to the ground." Tian Yulan said
"Don't watch it, the more I watch it, the more I feel like I'm an idiot, wasting electricity." Qian Wen turned off the TV speechlessly.

They didn't bother to move, they just leaned on the sofa and opened their eyes, looking at the big floor-to-ceiling windows and looking at the bright lights outside.

"Husband, the Selective Cup is about to start in a week. Do you think Ziyou can pass the exam?" Tian Yulan worried, feeling more nervous than anyone else.

Qian Wen touched Tian Yulan's forehead, smoothed her frown, and said softly, "You have seen Ziyou's hard work, why don't you believe him."

"It's not that I don't believe in Ziyou, it's just that I'm unconsciously nervous and my heart thumps.

By the way, Ziyou developed a fever right after the exam, or I'll take him to the hospital tomorrow. "Tian Yulan said incoherently.

Qian Wen rubbed Tian Yulan's ears, feeling a little hot, and did not accuse her of rushing to the doctor, but said softly, "You attach too much importance to the choice cup, it's just a test.

Besides, didn't you chat with Zhong Yi a few days ago, didn't he guarantee that Ziyou had a high chance of winning the first prize, and the worst would be the second prize.

In the past few days, Ziyou has also done a lot of papers from previous years, I think it has been relaxed, why are you so nervous.

Also, Ziyou is prone to fever during the exam. Didn't the psychiatrist say that the pressure is too much? You need to let Ziyou relax.

It's not suitable for Ziyou to hold Buddha's feet temporarily. Now he needs to decompress and prepare for the battle with ease. "

"But..." Tian Yulan was still worried.

It's as if it's not Ziyou who wants to take the exam, but she.

"Okay, listen to me. From tomorrow on, Ziyou has to keep a relaxed mind, and you can't ask him for the first prize or the second prize." Qian Wen said.

Tian Yulan sighed, she was too nervous.

"Just wait for Ziyou to fill up your trophy bookshelf." Qian Wen said softly.

When moving, Tian Yulan brought all the trophies that Ziyou had won before, and the C position was still short of the number one trophy.

"Why don't you let Ziyou go to the master's class? I heard from the parent group that it's very good. Why don't you let Ziyou go and listen to it and give it a try?" Tian Yulan suggested again.

Qian Wen helped the forehead and never fell.

This is really the emperor not in a hurry and the eunuchs in a hurry.

"Isn't it already discussed, why don't you go to some master class? Now Ziyou just needs to make steady progress, and there is no need to make up lessons." Qian Wen said.

"I just want Ziyou to get a good grade in the exam, so that he can go to the Imperial Academy safely." Tian Yulan whispered.

She knows that her husband doesn't like to pressurize Ziyou for no reason, and she also likes the state where Ziyou is studying easily, but when she thinks of choosing the number of cups, she still can't help but want to make up for it and sprint.

Qian Wen glanced at Tian Yulan, is this obsession?
(End of this chapter)