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Chapter 1637 Who Was Wrong?
Zhou Buqi felt that this matter really needed to be discussed carefully, and Sun Wanran's troubles were not an exception. Except for Shi Jinglin, the girls in the family were not from a very good family background, and none of them had the experience of being rich.

We have to come up with a charter and teach them how to deal with such things.It's a good thing to be rich, but don't make a mess at home because of being rich, and stop talking to relatives.

"Yaxian, come here."

Zhou Buqi called Ning Yaxian over and asked her how she dealt with this kind of thing.

Ning Yaxian is well-informed and wise in dealing with interpersonal relationships, "No matter who it is, treat it uniformly, and don't borrow money."

"No?" Sun Guanran was stunned for a moment, his eyes hung on his face, and he was dumbfounded, "They are all very close relatives."

"That's not a loan either."

"Wouldn't the relationship be weak then?"

"Why?" Ning Yaxian said in a relaxed tone, "Don't worry too much, think about it differently, if you are poor now, but you have a particularly powerful relative, would you deliberately distance yourself from him because he doesn't lend you money? ?”

Sun Guanran frowned.

Ning Yaxian said softly: "At the beginning, they will be unhappy, but after a long time, they may treat you closer than before. Not only will they not be alienated from you, but they will try their best to please you."

Sun Guanran couldn't believe it: "Isn't this playing with human nature? Is this still a relative?"

"This is the sinful nature of wealth." Ning Yaxian looked indifferent, "That's why I always told you before, don't associate with low-level people, this is not discrimination. Only the same level can have equal personality. "

Sun Guanran shuddered.

This really tore the beautiful coat of family affection to pieces.

Ning Lu tentatively said, "There are exceptions. For example, some people are well-educated, have deep thinking and the ability to empathize. Even if they are at a low level, they can still integrate into high-level circles. And be treated equally.”

Zhou Buqi praised: "Lulu is good. However, people with this kind of thinking ability often know the real value. Money has never been the most valuable thing. Borrowing money is too cheap. It is better to teach a man how to fish than to fish. Thinking people always go to borrow fish, "fishing" with three points of water, not the ready-made fish caught by borrowing."

Sun Guanran seemed a little confused, so Ning Yaxian reminded her with a smile, "Look at Shi Jingmei, she is the most typical example."

"Oh! Yes!"

Sun Guanran suddenly realized.

Shi Jinglin's second sister, Shi Jingmei, used to be the vice president of the family business, and she was very frustrated at work.They are also relatives. When she asked her younger sister for help, she never borrowed money. Even when Shi Jinglin wanted to lend her money when she bought shares in Chaowan Commune, she didn't want it.All she wants is this opportunity to join the Chaowan Commune.

This is the same level of relatives.

The result is out.

Shi Jingmei succeeded.

Not to mention success, even if she failed this time, she is so motivated and hardworking, as a real relative, who can be stingy with the resources in hand and not help her?

Zhou Buqi said softly: "In fact, it has little to do with whether you are relatives or not. Some people, even relatives, are too lazy to help, and some people, even outsiders, are willing to help again and again. It depends on a person. Is there growth value? If there is growth value, it doesn’t matter how much money I spend on you, I will help you without asking for anything in return. I have helped many people, including Geely’s acquisition of Volvo. I don't have a penny relationship, but this is a kind of self-realization, self-satisfaction. I give you money, you grow, and my personal value is reflected, so I am willing to help you. I give you money , you eat, drink, whore and gamble every day, don’t do business, and don’t show the value of my money, I won’t help you.”

Sun Wanran nodded again and again, "Yes, that's it."

Zhou Buqi reached out his hand, wiped the tears on her face, and said with a smile: "Let's go, go to that pen over there, and I will explain it to you. Write it down, and when the time comes to hold a family meeting, I will share it with everyone." Talk about it all, and study and study. I also learned this from Lao Yu at the beginning, and it makes sense."

"Which old Yu?"

"The one from New Oriental."

"Oh."

Sun Guanran sighed in his heart, feeling that it was too utilitarian to use this kind of rational thinking to examine the family relationship, and it really drew a clear line from the growth years of the past twenty years.

It's no wonder that once the ancient princes became emperors, they felt like a different person. Different positions really have different perspectives to observe the world.

After changing positions, Ning Yaxian, Ning Lu, and Sun Guanran all picked up their pens, as if they were elementary school students in class.

Zhou Buqi smiled and said: "Don't be so serious, I'll just give you a general idea. Wanwan's relatives came to borrow money, kept borrowing money, and even flirted. It made people feel uncomfortable, and it was normal. But, who is right and who is wrong here? Are your relatives wrong? "

Sun Wanran was stunned, "It can't be my fault, can it?"

Zhou Buqi said: "Many people just lack this kind of dialectical thinking. When facing different perspectives, they always use a simple concept to explain all complex social issues."

Sun Guanran was ashamed.

Zhou Buqi said: "There was a century-old kidnapper in the Hong Kong government who kidnapped the son of the richest man. Then, the kidnapper went to find the richest man and found that the richest man was very calm. The kidnapper asked, 'Why are you so calm?' The richest man told him, "Because I was wrong this time. I am so famous but I didn't have enough security forces. I should be punished for making mistakes, which is what I should do." Later, the richest man obediently paid out several hundred million."

Sun Guanran murmured, "Mr. Li is very caring."

Zhou Buqi said: "It's not a question of whether you have a heart or not. It's a question of the angle you look at a matter, and it's a question of which view of right and wrong you choose."

"Right or wrong?"

"Well, from a legal point of view, of course the kidnapper was the one who was at fault. But it didn't have any practical significance at the time. His son was kidnapped, someone else made a mistake, and he was the one who suffered the most? So what happened? Who is wrong?"

This thinking model is a bit too complicated, and Zhou Buqi feels that he can't explain it clearly.

Ning Yaxian said with a smile: "This is a psychological concept called subject separation, which refers to solving the troubles of interpersonal relationships. If you want to solve this problem, you must first distinguish what is your subject and what is mine. The subject. The kidnapper wants a ransom, which is the subject of the kidnapper; the loss suffered due to the kidnapping is the subject of the richest man. In this subject of the richest man, what he has to do is to reduce the loss as much as possible, to make friends with the kidnapper, and not to overdo it. stimulate him."

"so smart?"

Zhou Buqi was a little surprised, no wonder Ning Yaxian was able to handle the complex relationship of the Zhou family in an orderly manner, and did not encounter such troubles as Sun Wanran's relatives.

People really have researched it!
Ning Yaxian smiled sweetly, "Tell me, I just know a concept, and I can't sum it up as well as you."

Zhou Buqi was coaxed very comfortably by her, and said: "When it comes to the concept of right and wrong, there are three kinds. One is the concept of right and wrong of jurists, the other is the concept of right and wrong of economists, and the other is the concept of right and wrong of businessmen. Misconception. Let me give another example, say that there is a bad guy A who lured a good guy B into C’s unlocked construction site, and then killed B. In this example, who is wrong?”

Ning Yaxian gave him a charming smile, while Ning Lu was taking notes seriously, Sun Guanran could only bite the bullet and say: "In the legal sense, A is wrong, he is the murderer."

Zhou Buqi said with a smile: "Yes, A is a bad person and he broke the law. However, punishing bad people is not the fundamental solution to social problems. If one A is punished, there will be many A. From a wrong perspective, C is wrong, and C should be punished. Punishment of C is the way to reduce the minimum total social cost of similar incidents. Let C close the door in the future, so as not to leave a place for the bad guys to commit crimes."

Ning Yaxian added, "It's like the shooting cases in the United States. The legal solution is to attack bad people and protect good people. The social cost is too high and the effect is not very good. But if it is an economist's Right and wrong, the wrong thing is gun retail stores. Directly ban guns nationwide, the total social cost of the whole society in terms of security will be greatly reduced, and the occurrence of shootings can be effectively controlled.”

Zhou Buqi felt that Yaxian was really amazing, she really was Ning Dami, it was really not comparable to those other little girls, and then said: "What if it is a businessman's view of right and wrong? The wrong thing is actually B, is the victim. He is the one who has suffered the most. Before he dies, he must think, 'I made a huge mistake, I should not have been fooled by A to come here.'”

Sun Guanran felt that a door had been opened in his spiritual thinking, and he had entered a new world.

In the past few days, she has been troubled by relatives at home, and she is particularly uncomfortable.

I always feel that these relatives should not do that, it is wrong to do that.

At this moment, she had a new perspective of thinking in a trance.

Maybe it's me who is wrong?
You are the one who suffers the most!
No money, no relatives, no good mood, fell into depression.

Zhou Buqi concluded: "Any matter can be considered from these three angles. If you are a bystander or a critic, of course you can stand from the perspective of a jurist. The person who is wrong is A. He is a murderer. Murderer; if you are an official and you are a policy maker, you must have the thinking of an economist and find a solution that minimizes costs; however, if you are a victim, please do not be promoted by critics and officials Guided by collectivism. Others can stand and talk without pain in their backs, because they don’t need to suffer. You have the biggest loss, you are the one who is wrong, and you are the one who needs to change.”

Sun Guanran took a deep breath, "I understand, I can't change those elders and relatives in my family, I can only change myself. I can't use their mistakes to punish myself."

(End of this chapter)