My girlfriend is from the future!

"Brother Tianran, first of all, I want to tell you that during a relationship, it is normal to occasionally have feelings for another person of the opposite sex. This situation is not uncommon, and it does not mean that your feelings for Sister Ai Qing are not sincere. In fact, If you can face this problem, you are already ahead of most men and women.

The pain you feel comes more from your moral constraints, and the solution to this problem is already found in the Qing Dynasty's "Wailu Night Talk". You must have heard of it, which is "all evil" Fornication is the first, and when it comes to deeds, one does not care about one's heart. There are few perfect people in the world when it comes to one's heart.

So Brother Tianran, I suggest you not to have such a big psychological burden and treat this matter as a normal thing. What you should do is not blame yourself, but reflect on why you are interested in other people. Is it because of your desire for novelty and adventure, or because you are looking for some unmet needs in your relationship with Sister Ai Qing. "

Regarding this kind of thing that was difficult for He Tianran to talk about, Yu Naoqiu seemed calm and patient when answering, without showing any hint of indifference or teasing on his face.

But He Tianran could understand these truths himself. Only the sentence "certain unmet needs in this relationship" aroused his desire to delve deeper. He said:

"I really can't think of anything else that I wouldn't be satisfied with when I'm with Ai Qing. Why don't you think of it for me, like what?"

Yu Naoqiu thought for a while, put down the Pad, crossed his hands on his lap, and said thoughtfully:

"For example...is your sexual intercourse harmonious? When was the last time?"

"..."

"..."

"This is very important in the relationship between the sexes."

Yu Naoqiu kindly reminded me.

"Harmonious, quite harmonious. Last week... no, it happened this week. There's no need to say this. There should be no problem."

Even if He Tianran trusted Yu Naoqiu again, he would not tell such things easily.

I can admit that I am carefree, but I can never admit that I am incompetent.

This may be the bottom line for every man...

He Tianran has never practiced this kind of thing. Although Cao Aiqing and he have known each other for a long time, from the time the two of them actually got together, that is, when the girl came back from England, it only took four months. According to normal standards, Judging from the couple's relationship, isn't it normal that they haven't reached home base in four months?

The two of them are not the kind of people who just play around. They both cherish this hard-won relationship very much, but maybe it's because they hold it in their mouths for fear of it melting, and hold it in their hands for fear of falling. Attitude caused them to miss many further opportunities.

Thinking of this, He Tianran thought of the last time his mother broke up the good relationship between the two. If she had come back one hour, no, two hours late! Isn’t that what I have done...

He Tianran comforted himself that he still had a chance. After all, the two of them were just short of a romantic opportunity. No matter how anxious he was, it didn't matter...

Yu Naoqiu had no doubt that he was there. After all, no matter how he looked at He Tianran now, he seemed to be a super god in this area. If he said that he had never received a first blood in his life, even if he dared to say it, would anyone dare to believe it? ?

But... there is one thing to say, Brother Tianran is indeed amazing, it’s just that the dog planner is not a human being, and the version has been rolled back, and he doesn’t know it.

Back to the topic, Yu Naoqiu suggested at the right time:

"Actually, brother Tianran, you can provide me with more examples for me to analyze for you. If you just want to demonstrate or draw any conclusion from the point of 'I am attracted to another person', this is very empty, you might as well put it in Change this question to 'Why should I be moved?'

Replace 'affirmation' with 'demand', and you can tell me anything you want to say, from what kind of person you are and what you have experienced; to a habitual action of yours, a small thing, A thought, even a dream, these will help me help you, and then back to the original problem. "

Just by changing the sentence structure, He Tianran really had a lot to say, and it happened that he had a dream not long ago, which made him open up the conversation box:

"I did have a dream some time ago that left a deep impression on me. In the dream, I dreamed of three...it seemed like they were me in different periods."

"At different times?"

"Yes, at different times. One of the three of them looks about thirty years old, slightly fat, and has a very decadent look, like a frustrated young man; one is the most similar to me in age and image, but he doesn't seem to be involved in my current industry. ;The last one is me as a teenager, dressed as a high school student.

The strange thing is that in the dream, all three of them have their own gains and losses. The thirty-year-old me said that he lives in hatred but has been chasing his dreams; the twenty-year-old me said that he has a family and has been living in the world. I am happy, but I have not taken the path I want to take; the young me seems to be the most important among them. He said that he has a regret that he cannot accept yet, and the answer to whether he accepts it or not is the current situation of the two people in front of him. . "

He Tianran slowly recalled that he was deeply impressed by this dream, because it seemed to be a branch of...another period of his life.

Yu Naoqiu asked: "Have you ever said anything about that young man's regrets?"

"They said they couldn't remember clearly, and..."

The man hesitated to speak, and Yu Naoqiu asked: "And what?"

"And...it seems that there is another me who didn't show up."

Remembering that in the dream, when he asked the three of them if they knew "Xiao Jia", they all looked at him in unison, He Tianran was confused, and Yu Naoqiu also thought of this.

"Could it be that the person who didn't show up was you? After all, plus you in front of me, there were four He Tianran in the dream."

"No...it's not like that."

He Tianran did not tell Yu Naoqiu about "passerby A", and what Wen Liang told him was not just about him. He did not want to involve Wen Liang in this "psychological counseling" process.

"Noisy, could this be related to the subconscious mind that Freud talked about? Like the id, ego, superego, etc."

Yu Naoqiu shook his head and said slowly::

"No, your situation is more suitable to be discussed in the context of Jung's theory.

The three He Tianrans of different ages in the dream may represent different archetypes and symbols within you. They reflect different roles and desires in your life. The dialogue in the dream may be different parts of your subconscious trying to integrate and seek balance. , Brother Tianran, just imagine, if that young self did not appear in your dream, and you did not change careers from finance to film and television after graduating from college; or, you still changed careers, but Uncle He did not do anything to support you, these two people Is it more like your future?

This is the individuation process that Jung emphasized, that is, integrating one's inner diversity to achieve personality integrity.

But in your dream, another He Tianran, who is more immature than you, appears, so the regrets you mentioned when you were a teenager may be an important clue. This may be the impact of some of your past choices or experiences. , making you feel incomplete in life.

So Brother Tianran, please think back, if you were put back to that teenage period, what would you regret most? "

After that dream, He Tianran really didn't think about this question carefully, but he didn't need to think about it. At that age, we always have deep memories of a book, a song, or a relationship we like. , A person's impression can always be remembered as fresh as yesterday after many years.

For He Tianran, what could be called "regret" during that period could only be one thing...

"To say regret...maybe, I was not well loved by my parents."

Thinking again of the introverted boy squatting in the corner in his dream, He Tianran sighed a lot:

"In other words, at that time, I was very lonely and played with myself. Even if I developed a relationship with you, Sister Ai Qing, it would only be after college..."

He Tianran raised his eyes and met Yu Naoqiu's surprised gaze. There was a trace of bitterness and understatement unique to adults on his face, and he explained:

"Although I increasingly disagree with the idea that it takes a lifetime to heal childhood misfortune, when I think back now, I still feel sour in my heart. During that time, my parents had just... divorced, and I moved out alone. Living."

At this point, He Tianran didn't want to talk any more, but Yu Naoqiu always seemed to be able to touch his pain points:

"Then...have you forgiven your uncle and aunt now?"

"Oh, talk about forgiveness or not, they didn't say sorry to me..." He Tianran repeated his old trick, but when he played the joke again, his tone was full of weakness, "Just like your boss in the workplace If he does something wrong at work and delays the project you are responsible for, you can't scold him. If he has some conscience, he may make it up to you elsewhere. If he has no conscience, he may even scold you for why he didn't Understand the thoughts he conveyed.

But in short, it is extremely difficult for you to want an apology from him. Later, you grow up a little, get promoted, stand in the same position, and get more and more comfortable with your boss, and you can actually try it. I understand what my boss was thinking at that time, and sometimes I still feel... Oh, he had his own reasons for doing that at that time, so...

Apologizing or not is not that important anymore. "

As he spoke, He Tianran stretched as if he didn't care, and what Yu Naoqiu said next seemed to explain why he was so excited in the first place:

"Brother Tianran, the person who can make your heart flutter will definitely be the person who takes the initiative to love you and can make you clearly feel the love."

He Tianran smiled and said, "Sister Ai Qing is just such a person."

"Sister Ai Qing is still too quiet...I'm not saying she's bad, I don't mean it.

It’s just that after listening to what you said today, I discovered that you are not a proactive person at all. Last time I heard at the class reunion that you have known each other for a long time, but you have not been together for a long time. This must be why You have put in a lot of effort to change yourself. After all, between two quiet people, one of them must take the first step. But it is precisely because the rewards for your initiative have been delayed for too long that you will Be moved by those who take the initiative. "

He Tianran lowered his eyes to recall again and wanted to deny it, but after a moment, he still agreed with the statement and nodded with raised eyebrows:

"Maybe, but there have been many girls who have taken the initiative towards me in the past few years, and I don't like all of them."

Yu Naoqiu follows the good deeds:

“It’s not as simple as just taking the initiative.

Putting aside objective factors such as appearance, dual intelligence, and three views, according to the information I have learned so far, Brother Tianran, you are a typical chaotic attachment among all attachment relationships. It is usually caused by the relationship with the native in your early years. It is caused by severe instability and confusion in family relationships, characterized by a desire to be loved but a fear of being loved.

You will often doubt whether a relationship can be long-term and stable. From this aspect, the long-term relationship between you and Sister Ai Qing has made you extremely sure of the relationship between the two of you. This will undoubtedly encourage you to change. The biggest motivation, but from a psychological level, you cannot refuse and resist the kind of active love that can give you incomparable certainty over and over again. This is why you will love someone other than Sister Ai Qing. The main cause of attraction to the opposite sex.

It is unlikely that ordinary people will have such a strong trait, and not everyone can compete with you in your heart like Sister Ai Qing. "

"...It turns out that a dream can reveal so many things."

He Tianran did not comment on Yu Naoqiu's analysis, because when he talked about his parents, it seemed irrelevant whether his attraction to Wen Liang could find a logical basis in psychology... …

He stood up and walked to the record player in the room. He glanced at the record albums on the bookshelf as if inspecting them. Yu Naoqiu's eyes also followed the man's back silently, seeing him move from the stacks to the empty records. He pulled out a Beatles commemorative compilation album from the preface album. After confirming the track, he lifted the stylus and inserted the disc.

For a moment, the stylus traced the winding lines on the surface of the rotating vinyl, and there was a comfortable "swishing" sound.

In Yu Naoqiu's ears, a faint regret came:

"It would be nice if I could dream about that boy again. I was a little impatient when I dreamed about him last time. If I had known better, I would have gone to comfort him..."

The music started, and after a few short guitar intros, it was lead singer John Lennon’s emotional voice and lyrics full of memories——

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away, all my troubles seemed so far away

Now it looks as though they're here to stay, but I'm worried now

Oh, I believe in yesterday, Oh, I would rather believe in yesterday...

"...Brother Tianran, maybe I can help you with this matter."

"Ok?"

He Tianran turned around and Yu Naoqiu smiled slightly:

"The human subconscious is very complex and profound, but if you think that boy is an image of your subconscious, I may be able to help you through hypnosis. Of course, I can't guarantee whether you can see him again. It depends on you, but I can still give you a good sleep." He Tianran came back, "I always thought that I was not that easy to be hypnotized."

Yu Naoqiu stood up, gave up his position, pointed to the upper part of the recliner, and motioned for him to lie down when he came back, "This is not the first time I heard someone say this to me."

They come, the security.

The man sat back down again. He had three reasons for accepting hypnosis. Apart from the dream, one of the reasons was that he didn't believe in hypnosis and wanted to try it out of curiosity, and there was another reason... he didn't want to say it yet.

I took off my shoes and jacket, took out my phone, took off my watch, and looked at the time——

12: 05.

He casually put the things in his hands on the small table beside his head, and lay down flat...

"Have you ever experienced being hypnotized before?"

"No."

"Then during this process, you must trust me absolutely, don't reject me, follow my guidance, and follow my instructions completely."

"……Um."

"First close your eyes, take a deep breath, and relax completely..."

He Tianran closed his eyes and did as he was told. Yu Naoqiu was not busy moving forward to the next step, but paused for almost two minutes. It was not until the man's breathing became completely steady and quiet that she continued:

"Slowly feel your breathing. When I count to one, you will enter a deeper and more relaxed state..."

"Five...four, relax...three...two...one, completely relax..."

In a quiet space, when a person closes his eyes and falls into the darkness, does not move, and completely trusts another person, his concentration is very concentrated. And with Yu Naoqiu's guidance, He Tianran only felt The music in the room began to become distant, and he only focused on those instructions.

"Now, use your imagination to imagine that there is a mirror right in front of you. Wait a moment, and I will guide you to the mirror..."

"This is a mirror that can reflect your truest self in your subconscious. Now its surface is a dark mass. Next, I will count from three to one, and you will walk to the mirror. Every time I count a number, you must be more determined and more relaxed..."

Instructions floated into his ears one after another. Was He Tianran really hypnotized?

He felt that he didn't. He felt that now he could stand up with a bang, and then laughed and said hahahaha, forget it, I can't do this.

But it's not necessary to do this.

He wanted to be hypnotized, he wanted to dream that dream again to comfort his young self, of course, if possible...

He wanted to complete the third reason for undergoing hypnosis this time. He wanted to find again, the girl who made his heart beat, the "passerby A" that he had been thinking about...

Gradually, He Tianran's head became heavier and heavier, which was a kind of slight sleepiness, but he was very clear-headed and successfully constructed a black mirror in his mind.

"three……"

Following the instructions, He Tianran raised his legs in his mind.

In the black world, at some point, a heavy fog filled the air, shrouding everything in it, and the black mirror was half-hidden.

"two……"

He slowly came to feel a familiar feeling. His body felt like he was walking in a swamp. In his mind, every step he took felt very difficult, but with every step he took, the fog dissipated a little.

Time and space seemed to be infinitely stretched and rotated. The surroundings were no longer dark. He saw a beam of light slanting on the black mirror. The mirror shone with an alluring light. While marching, his ears seemed to hear the sound of reading loudly, the sound of rain, cheers, chanting, and... the sound of the whistling wind.

He seemed to be walking on a long mountain stone step, on the way to school, on a noisy bustling street, on a windy and rainy coastal road, on a red carpet strewn with flowers...

People came towards him one after another in the black mirror, and then passed him by. He Tianran felt that the figures of those people were familiar to him, but he could not remember their faces. The black mirror in front of him seemed to be hiding something. looking for the answer he wanted to know.

"one……"

As the instructions came, He Tianran finally stood in front of the mirror. On the pure black mirror, he saw nothing but his reflection.

"You look at the mirror, and you find that your reflection in the mirror begins to slowly change a little. His height, weight, and clothing are all different from yours now. You watch him change until it is completely over, and then, You see the real you, the subconscious you.”

Yu Naoqiu's guidance from the outside world echoed in He Tianran's mind. As expected, the image in the black mirror began to deform little by little with further stimulation. His face in the mirror began to rotate little by little. Some are old, some are young, some are fat, some are thin, some are shy, some are confident...

The real him seems to have no fixed appearance.

There seemed to be some instructions from the outside world, but this time, He Tianran ignored them.

Because he couldn't help but reach out, wanting to touch the familiar yet unfamiliar faces, and he in the mirror also made the same move...

However, just as the fingers inside and outside the mirror are about to touch...

……

……

"what--!!"

Yesterday, love was such an easy game to play, love was such an easy game to play yesterday

Now I need a place to hide away

Oh, I believe in yesterday, Oh, I would rather believe in yesterday...

The Beatles' classic song "Yesterday" finally came to an end, and the lingering music once again filled He Tianran's eardrums.

The man who returned to reality started up from the recliner, his chest heaving and panting, and the cold sweat all over his body had already soaked the back of his clothes.

A kind of fatigue after drowsiness came over him like a tide. He thought he had been asleep for a long time, but it seemed that from the time he lay down to accept hypnosis until he woke up, there was not even time for a song?

He raised his wrist in disbelief and subconsciously looked at his watch. The current time was——

18: 32.

Sure enough, I still slept through it. The album on the vinyl record had probably been replayed countless times. By chance, I woke up and played this song again.

He breathed a sigh of relief and stood up. The temperature in the room seemed to be a little hotter than when he came. He probably didn't want to disturb his sleep. He saw Yu Naoqiu writing something behind his desk.

Hearing the sound of himself getting up, Yu Naoqiu looked up and smiled sweetly:

"Are you awake? Are you having a nightmare?"

"Well...I slept for so long, didn't I disturb you?"

"Speaking of these, of course not. Let's go have dinner together later?"

"Okay."

He Tianran responded casually. It was already time anyway. He looked around, trying to find his coat, but it was not around. It must have been put away by Yu Naoqiu.

He lowered his body and put on his shoes, and was slightly startled...

But before he could think about it, a voice came from the girl’s end again:

"Come here and sign another informed consent form."

"Ah? Are you still signing?" He Tianran, who was tying his shoelaces, asked puzzledly.

"Has the previous statute of limitations expired~"

Yu Naoqiu's tone was a bit coquettish and complaining.

Thinking about it, it was right. After all, I slept for more than six hours. From sleeping at work to getting off work, it is not incomprehensible that there is an extra step outside of working hours.

He Tianran approached, Yu Naoqiu smiled and pushed the document over again. The man bent down and was about to write his name when his eyes suddenly noticed the mark at the bottom corner of the document. His pupils suddenly shrank twice and his whole body froze. In place...

"Hey, what do you think we should eat for dinner? Why don't we just go home and eat, or go back to Nanshanjiadi? You haven't been back for a while, right? But I still like to eat what you cook..."

He Tianran didn't listen to a word of what the girl was talking about in his ear.

He leaned over to hold the pen, his fingertips trembling slightly, and the cold sweat on his forehead dripped on the paper.

In his sight, the date marked on the document was so strange and unbelievable that it read -

"September 2030, 9"

I read the news today, oh boy

About a lucky man who made the grade, is news about a lucky man with outstanding achievements

And though the news was rather sad, although the news was quite sad

Well, I just had to laugh, but I couldn't help laughing...

From the record, another Beatles classic "A Day In The Life" comes, which is psychedelic yet sober, dazed yet true...

Just like He Tianran's helpless heart at the moment. (End of chapter)