20 years of spring breeze

Chapter 1222 Friendship Must Be Managed
Xiaowei said: "I'm not bored every day, why should I go out to be crazy? I feel pretty good, doing things, strolling, chatting, what's wrong?"

Xia Maosheng said: "I don't think there's anything wrong. Don't people live like this? Going to and from get off work, eating and sleeping, accompanying the wife and coaxing the son, what's wrong?"

Uncle Wang said: "It's not that you're wrong, what's wrong? It's that you don't live like young people. Do you have any contacts with colleagues in your unit? Have you had any real contacts or made friends? Go out together Ever? Singing, eating, shopping, doing activities, even fighting, ever?"

Xia Maosheng scratched his head: "It seems that there is no. Really not. Everyone is busy, everyone has their own things at work, and there are a lot of documents and tasks, or if they just go down, how can they have time to chat and talk nonsense?

After get off work, they are all in a hurry to go home for dinner. Those who have a wife go shopping for groceries, those who have a partner go on a date, and those who don’t have a wife and no match. Who knows what they do after get off work one day, anyway, they disappear after work. "

Xiaowei said: "I used to be in the company every day, going to the site to read documents. This year, I was in Kyoto. I went to class every day for the first half a month and did market research. I have something to do at home in the past two days. I am building a swimming pool, and I went to see the accommodation of foreigners with Xiaohui. Hainan is about to open a new company.

I feel that I am living a good life, I have plenty of things to do, and I don’t like places like karaoke and dance halls, bars, and I don’t drink, what do I go to do?When I'm free, I want to invite a few people to sit and have a cup of tea and chat. "

Uncle Wang said: "You guys, I don't understand what your aunt means. Life is not easy, as long as it is comfortable, but at your current age, you are living a life similar to ours, so what will you do when you reach our age?
Being young is the process of making friends, learning knowledge and understanding the world. We, just me, I don’t go out, work and get off work, wife, child and granddaughter, right?But I have friends, which I handed over when I was young, and I have knowledge of the world, which I learned when I was young.

No matter when or what happens to me now, I can call a dozen or twenty people to accompany me by making a round of calls. We don’t have to hang out every day, because we have a foundation and we all care about each other.

what about you?Let’s not talk about the world society. Your business is so big, and you may be better than me in this aspect. Let’s talk about emotions. Family is emotion, and friends are also emotions. People, you can’t lack any aspect of emotion. Without you There are problems in life.

You three, Xiaohui is decided by his family, he doesn’t have many friends, Xiaoxia and you, outsiders, have different levels, so you don’t have any friends here, let’s not talk about Xiaowei, right?In the future, let's say, ten years from now.

Ten years later, Xiaoxia, you are the most comfortable of the three of you. You still have classmates, and you have three or five friends in your hometown. They are the only two of them, and there will be nothing but family members. Xiaowei, think about it for yourself. right? "

Xiaowei said: "It's not right, Changhai Siwei and the others are not my buddies?"

Uncle Wang said: "That's why your aunt told you to go out and live a young life. Although you grew up bare buttocks, your relationship also needs to be cultivated and maintained. You are far behind now. They are you. I got it here.

Although they didn't say anything clearly, they are also weak in front of you. They used to sneak into our house when they had nothing to do, but now?How many times a year?Is that so?Is it the same before you came here as it is now?You think about it.

If you don’t maintain or operate it yourself, you feel that there is no change in your heart and you are still the same as before. That’s because you are the leader, understand?You are the strong side, but can they feel the same as you?

At the beginning, they felt that you were interesting enough, and then they felt that there was a big gap with you. This distance, once it happened, it would get farther and farther away, and the relationship would be gone. Maybe for a period of time, he would still appreciate you, and then he would alienate you. , Ten years later, I may hide from you and tell others that I don’t know you.

In a person's life, the most important thing is emotion, and the most difficult thing to figure out is also emotion. What does the ancients mean when they said that the favor of the rice is favored by the enemy?I owe you too much, and the pressure is too great. This kindness becomes a burden, a nail, and I have to pull it out to feel comfortable.

This is the psychology of repaying gratitude, but the gap is getting bigger and bigger. Can they surpass you one day in this life?Let's not talk about surpassing, it is possible to be similar to you, is it possible?How does he report?If you can't report it, and you can't kill you, then you can only pretend that you don't know him, and stay away from you. "

Xiaowei said: "What about you, uncle, you are now at the department level, the original friends and comrades-in-arms don't feel that there is a big gap with you? Don't you feel burdened?"

Uncle Wang said: "I'm different from you. We were born together when we were young. How old am I? How long have we been in love? And the most important thing is that I have nothing to do with them in life, understand? ?
We each have a family and have our own independent lives. When we hear who can do it, everyone is happy for him and wants to kill him. If you have something to do, you have to do it for me, or I will scold you.easy.

Are you like this?You spend money and work hard to get them out of their homes to make money, and everything about them is directly related to you, and their positions have changed. "

Xiaowei's mother came out of the kitchen and said, "That's right, that's it. I talk to you every year, let you walk around more and play together, and tell you to forget about this. I just don't know how to say it like your uncle, and I don't understand it.

You have to pay attention to these, people, this life is to live a relationship, at home, outside, relatives, friends, what's the point without these?Now that you are rich and capable, can you make friends?Can you get along with someone you know now? "

Xiaohong said: "I feel that what the old Wang said makes sense. I didn't expect that now that the old Wang has become a bigger official, his theory has also been sublimated."

Uncle Wang said: "You are the strong side, so you have to get down, move around more, find opportunities to get closer, understand? Even if they want to associate with you, they will inevitably think a lot, and they have to consider your feelings. Human nature.

Many things are simply because of thinking too much, simple things become more and more complicated, and finally there is no way to do it.But in their position, they can't help but think about it.It doesn't matter between you now, that is, between the three of you, because you are one, and the others are?
In the future, Xiao Xia's former classmates and friends will still be classmates and friends, at most they will just pat on the shoulder. Old Xia, you are so awesome, because he has nothing to do with them in life, understand?As long as Xiaoxia still recognizes them as classmates and friends, they will always be.

You and Xiaohui, it's hard to say.Maosheng, you also have to pay attention to this aspect. The colleagues in the unit still have to find a way to get closer and make some friends. At least one day when you come up, someone will pick up your shift, so that you won’t go anywhere, understand?
Xiaohui's father left, and Lao Cheng came to take over. Let's see who has the final say in Northeast China, it's Lao Chen.Including Xiaohui's mother, it will be easy for people to come here within ten or eight years. Not only is your level high here, but you also have to be affectionate. "

Xia Maosheng said: "Zhong, I will pay attention to this aspect in the future, and play with them more. I feel that it is not easy to make friends. It is not a problem if you want to get closer. I don't need to ask anyone."

Uncle Wang nodded and said, "Just look at your character. To put it bluntly in the officialdom, you just use each other. It's not a big problem to pass the test of character."

(End of this chapter)