folk detective

Chapter 110 Rural People Prefer Sons over Women

After deciding to travel as a family, the smiles on the faces of Uncle Hou and his wife never stopped.

They have never hiked in their life, let alone traveled. They were poor when they were young, but when they were rich, they looked back and realized that they were old.

The body has long been unable to withstand the toss.

But it’s different now. I have a car at home, so I can easily travel to distant places without being too tired.

In fact, Liu Mang can somewhat understand Uncle Hou and the old lady. They only have one daughter, and the daughter is married to the urban area. Usually, they are the only two elderly people at home.

Daughters don't live with their parents, they are waiting for the elderly.

Their requirements are not high, they just want to see their daughter and grandson more. If economic conditions permit, their bodies can also be in parallel. It would be great if they can travel together.

At this moment, Liu Mang thought of his parents and grandfather.

This meal took more than an hour to eat.

After eating, Master Hou left Liu Mang to rest in the living room on the second floor for a while before leaving.Watching Uncle Hou and grandma go to pack things, Liu Mang, who was sitting in the living room watching TV with Hou Jie, took a deep breath and prepared to confess his purpose to Hou Jie.

"Just now, thank you!"

Before Liu Mang could speak, Hou Jie looked at Liu Mang and said, "I've always felt that I owed my parents all these years. Back then, my parents wanted to find a son-in-law who came to visit me. Inheriting our family’s blood and incense, but I had two children to make up a good word, the doctor said that I am not in good health and can’t reproduce, otherwise the root cause of the disease will be left.”

Others only saw their family, with a house, money and a car, living a decent and glamorous life.

But who knows, the pain in their hearts.For rural people, it is a shame to have no son to inherit the incense.

Back then, the parents wanted to find a son-in-law.

This is also the reason for her late marriage. She originally wanted to have two sons, one of whom had her surname, which could be regarded as inheriting the incense of the Hou family, but she was getting old, and having a child at the age of 35 would be too harmful to the pregnant woman.

After giving birth to her second child, a daughter, the doctor told her that she could not have another child, otherwise the adults would be in danger, let alone the child.

In fact, people have a very complex and peculiar emotions.

In front of relatives and friends, they often dare not confide in their hearts and pour out their worries.

But in front of strangers, he was able to reveal his true feelings, expressing the weak and sad things in his heart.

Hou Jie always felt ashamed of her parents, but she dared not tell them, because it was useless.The parents' request is very simple, find a son-in-law who comes to visit.

At worst, they have to adopt a grandson to their family and inherit the Hou surname.

inherit their family's estate.

Unfortunately, my daughter couldn't do it.

In fact, this kind of imagination exists everywhere in China, especially in rural areas. Some people say that this is patriarchal. Why do you have to have a son? Is it different to have a daughter?

For Liu Mang, having a boy or a girl is the same.

But the key is to be able to support your parents and the rest of your life.If not, the rest of life will be very painful.

Liu Mang has thought deeply about and studied the patriarchal thinking of rural people.

He thinks that rural people favor boys over girls, there are good and bad.The good place is to raise children for old age.

The downside is that if you have a daughter all your life, it will put a lot of pressure on your daughter, and you may even have no one to take care of you for the rest of your life.

The case of Hou Jie is a clear example, and there are many others in China.Of course, raising children does not necessarily prevent old age.

Liu Mang once saw a pair of elderly people in his hometown who gave birth to two sons and a daughter. When the mother passed away, there was no child accompanying her in bed. Because the father suffered from a stroke and was paralyzed on the bed, he passed away for three years. Genius is discovered.

At that time, the village was poor and didn't even have a landline phone. It was an old man in the village who went to deliver food and found out after smelling the stench.

The pressure of the only child comes from the parents.

Not only adoptive parents, take care of parents, even yourself, and your own children.If Hou Jie has no ability, after marriage, the marriage will not be good, and the parents have no money, and if something happens, they will not be able to take care of it.

At this time, if the parents have a son by their side, the situation will be much better.

Liu Mang is also an only child. To be honest, he also has pressure from his parents.

"Hou Jie, in fact, you don't need to think so much. Your family's situation is already better than many people's." Liu Mang said bitterly.

Hou Jie's emotional expression made him also feel an invisible pressure, which instantly pressed on his shoulders, making him unable to breathe.

"What I'm most worried about now is that my parents are getting older and my mother's legs and feet are not good. I want to take them to the city and live with us. It's easy to take care of them, but my parents are used to life in the town. I'm not used to urban areas..." Hou Jie looked sad.

In fact, she didn't know why she was able to talk about such a heavy topic in front of Liu Mang.

All along, she never dared to confide these thoughts to others, not even her husband.Because the father-in-law and in-laws are in worse health than the parents.

There are usually two children to take care of, so I can't be too busy.

"The old people in the country have spent most of their lives in the country, and it is indeed difficult to live in the city. If they are illiterate, they will not be able to find their way home, and the traffic in the city is also very dangerous for the elderly. "

Liu Mang took an orange from the coffee table, peeled it and ate it: "In your situation, to be honest, I can't help you, unless you are willing to give up your job, otherwise you can't take care of your parents at both ends."

"By the way, I'm curious, why didn't you find a son-in-law? Doesn't that mean you don't have the troubles you have now?"

Many rural families with only one daughter almost always find their son-in-law and marry them.

The only child in the city, the parents are more open-minded and frontier, generally do not have such excessive requirements, of course, there are a few of them.

But Hou Jie knew that her parents wanted to find a son-in-law, so why didn't she?

"Easy to say."

Speaking of this matter, Hou Jie snorted helplessly: "Promising men, very few are willing to be door-in-law son-in-law, most of them are not. What are worthless men looking for? They will drag me down instead. If it were you, would you be willing to be the door-to-door son-in-law? Would you be willing, would your parents be willing? It would be strange not to sever ties with you. "

"That's right, it takes a lot of courage for a promising man to marry into someone else's house!" Liu Mang laughed dumbfounded.

"I've been looking for it, but I can't find it when I'm in my thirties. After that, I can only get married and find a way to have two sons. One of them has my last name. It's a pity... People are not as good as God, and they missed having children. The best age." Hou Jie smiled wryly.

"Sister Hou, some things are a foregone conclusion and cannot be changed. You can only think in a better direction."

Liu Mang took a deep breath, and changed the topic: "Actually, there is something I would like to take the liberty of asking Sister Hou."

Suddenly, Liu Mang looked solemn, which surprised Hou Jie.

"What's the matter?" Although she had just met Liu Mang not long ago, as her father said, Liu Mang was a very nice person, chatting with him could relax her mind.

"To tell you the truth, I came to Shandong from Guangxi all the way, and I came here to find you." Liu Mang said in a low voice, "I hope you don't get too excited after hearing this, I'm not a bad person, it's me business card, I'm a detective."

Liu Mang handed the business card he had prepared to Hou Jie with both hands.

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