life is sweet

Chapter 73 [073] Liberate the child's nature

When Huang Xiaopei heard Su Qingchun's conversation, he asked unceremoniously: "Such a young child, are you sure she really knows what it is to like and what it is not to like?"

"She is so old now, she should know what she likes and what she doesn't like?" Su Qingchun replied.

"Okay, even if she knows what she likes now, does she know that this liking will help her in the future?"

"Also, liking is human instinct, liking the new and disliking the old is also instinct, but instinct is not a life skill. If we follow her instinctive thinking in everything, are you sure that the direction she is going will help her in the future?"

"Whether it helps or not we can't say now, but at least for now, it's better for her to do something she likes than something she doesn't like?" Su Qingchun said, "And the child is still so young now, so it's definitely not good for the future. What kind of concept, let alone her now, even after we are in college, we have no concept of the future."

After speaking, Su Qingchun added, "I think the most important thing for her is to have a happy childhood at such a young age. We should let her grow up happily. This is our goal."

"I knew you would say that, 'Children should grow up happily!'" Huang Xiaopei answered quickly like Su Qingchun's roundworm.

"But do you know? Your seemingly good idea for the child is actually ruining the child's future."

Huang Xiaopei's preaching tone again made Su Qingchun feel a little uncomfortable.

"The child is living a happy life, so why ruin the child?" Su Qingchun questioned.

"I really don't understand your theory, and the child is still young, there is no distinction between good and bad, we should let her live the life she likes, and don't suppress their nature, isn't it very good."

"Don't suppress your nature, hum..." Huang Xiaopei snorted, "Do you know what those successful people went through in their childhood?"

"Just talk about Lang Lang, the piano prince. His life was so hard when he was a child. Do you think this must be his interest? I don't think so?" Huang Xiaopei added after finishing speaking, "Of course I don't mean to advocate him. Dad's way of education, just want to say that any successful person is not just talking about hobbies, but persistence."

Huang Xiaopei continued, "I read an article some time ago, which said 'the strong talk about persistence, and the weak talk about liking'. I think this sentence is very correct."

"The experience of these successful people you mentioned may be true, but I never thought about making Xuanxuan a successful person." Su Qingchun retorted.

"Okay, since you said that, let me ask you by the way, what do you think is the ultimate goal of educating our children?"

"What kind of person do you want your child to be?"

"I just simply hope that my child will become a happy person. As for success or failure, I never thought about it."

"You are right, and I think your idea should be the idea of ​​most parents. At first, not all parents wanted their children to be the rare ones, but most of them were like you, just hoping that their children would be the rare ones. children live a healthy and happy life.”

"But have you ever thought that if you want your child to be happy when she grows up, she needs to be more competitive than others to be truly happy. You should be very clear about this in our work for so many years. How can you be happy if you can’t maintain strong competitiveness at work?”

"To maintain a stronger competitiveness, one is destined to be better than others, and those outstanding people all have a common characteristic, they are all 'strong' in a certain industry, in a certain field, and even in the world. "

After Huang Xiaopei finished speaking, he added meaningfully, "The current society is very realistic and cruel. This is a society where the weak prey on the strong. Most of the time, it is not the survival of the fittest, but the survival of the strong."

"If you want our children not to be eliminated by reality, you must teach her how to become a strong person, and the greatest quality of a strong person is perseverance in the face of difficulties."

"The strong will not deny their efforts just because they don't like it. The strong talk about perseverance, not like or dislike."

"In other words, if we want our children to achieve something in the future, we must teach them how to stick to what they like, instead of just letting them like it."

After Huang Xiaopei finished speaking, he glanced at Su Qingchun, seeing that he didn't refute himself, and continued, "Oh, by the way, a professor in the education field mentioned some time ago: the biggest scam of Chinese education is happy education, useless academic qualifications, and free education. The nature of children, these three big scams are now distorting the growth of Chinese children step by step."

"No one is born to like to endure hardship. Everyone likes to be comfortable and enjoy life. This is human nature. But on the contrary, learning itself is a process of suffering. Do you still remember the motto that our school teacher liked to mention when we were young? remember?"

"Which one?"

"About suffering."

"Eat bitterness and bitterness, can you be the master of everyone?"

"That's right, you can only become a master if you endure hardships." Huang Xiaopei echoed, "Do you think I don't want to release the child's nature and let her grow up freely?"

"I also wanted to be a good mother, but the reality didn't allow it at the time. When I became that good mother, when she faced difficulties in life in the future, she would turn around and complain about us, complaining about our stocking and disregard for her. .”

"Is there something wrong with your words? Why don't you care about it? We are following the direction she likes to develop."

"Yes, but when she is really slapped in the face by the reality of society, she will turn around and blame you."

After Huang Xiaopei finished speaking, seeing that Su Qingchun still didn't believe it, he continued, "You still don't believe me, let me tell you, we have been deceived by the phrase 'Interest is the best teacher', but ever since I became The teacher learned more and more about the children later, only to realize that this sentence is basically destroying the children."

"Do you still remember a classic TV series "Family with Children" we watched?"

"Remember, Song Dandan played it."

"Yes, I happened to watch it again when the TV series was rebroadcast some time ago. When I watched it before, I just wanted to have fun. When I watched that TV series again this time, I was deeply touched by the education of children here."

"In particular, there is a section that seems to have benefited a lot. I remember that it was Liu Xing. He didn't have any skills. Later, he even complained that his mother Liu Mei didn't enroll him in interest classes, which made him have no skills. "

"Liu Mei also has a reason. It means that he enrolled him in classes when he was a child, but he didn't learn it himself!"

"That's right." Su Qingchun replied.

"But do you know what Liu Xing said?"

"How do you say it?"

"I don't want to learn, so you won't let me learn? I was young at that time, and I was not sensible. Don't you know that at your age? You should educate me and encourage me since childhood." Huang Xiaopei said. Said with Liu Xing's tone in his voice.

When Su Qingchun heard this, he nodded, "It really makes sense."

(End of this chapter)