life is sweet

Chapter 79 [079] Demand Hierarchy

Xie Min saw that Huang Xiaopei didn't like that, and asked her sideways, "What kind of old friend are you?"

"It's fine if you don't help me realize my dream, but it's still a stumbling block on my way to realize my dream."

"Hehe...Xiao Min..." Huang Xiaopei looked at Xie Min's seriousness this time, and said with a smile, "Do you mean that if you don't become Principal Xie in the future, I will be the main reason?"

"That's what I mean." Xie Min replied forcefully.

"Then I have become a sinner for thousands of years?"

"That's not it!" Xie Min squinted and replied with a pout.

Looking at Xie Min's arrogant look, Huang Xiaopei was annoyed and funny.

She thought of Xie Min's generous statement just now and the appraisal of her gaze, and also understood that this was the rare first time for her old classmate to be so serious, and she couldn't just keep a negative attitude like this.

So she slowly analyzed: "Xiao Min, in fact, I don't disapprove of your dreams and ideas, but I just think your plan may be a bit unreliable."

"Everything is not as simple as imagined!"

Huang Xiaopei has always been cautious and conservative in doing things. She really does not agree with Xie Min's bold plan, and she does not believe that Xie Min can stick to it to the end.

Xie Min is just the opposite of Huang Xiaopei, she thinks that as long as she wants to, she can do anything.

"Why is it complicated? As long as you are willing to do it, even complicated things can be simplified." She retorted.

"But that's the problem. The thing you're talking about is not something that can be done with a little money. The thing you're talking about is running a school, which involves many complicated relationships." Huang Xiaopei replied.

"Xiao Pei, let's not talk about anything else, I'll just ask you one thing."

"Well, tell me."

"Think about it carefully, what role have we women played in this society since ancient times?"

"What role?" Huang Xiaopei thought for a while, "Raising offspring? Raising children?"

"That's right, you see, your immediate reaction is that our women's mission from birth is to have children, and they are machines for giving birth."

Xie Min replied, "What is equality between men and women? status."

"Everyone, including us women, thinks that we just want to have children, raise children, and then lose them. Few people think that women are going to do a big career and become successful people in the first place. Why do men do this in the first place? Think, but don’t women know?”

"Because since ancient times, the division of labor between men and women has been very clear. Men go hunting outside, while women give birth to children and take care of the home."

"That's right, the division of labor was different from the beginning, which led to the low status of women, so that people feel that women have to be attached to men, but it's different now. Men and women are equal. We women also have to work and have children. Raising children, but what about status? It’s about equality, but don’t those men have a natural sense of superiority as long as they earn more than us?”

"That's true."

"So, why do we do so many things, take care of our families, have children, and work, while men only need to work, just because they earn a little more than us and have such a strong sense of superiority? ? Not because of money."

"Marx said that the economic base determines the superstructure. I think it is the economic strength that determines the status of the family."

"Hehe....Also Marx is here," Huang Xiaopei replied with a smile, "But what you said is indeed true. This society is so realistic now. No matter how much you pay at home, people will not care. I think whoever makes more money is the uncle."

"That's why, life is a lifetime, it's long, it's short, and we are teachers now, we can see what kind of profession we will have when we retire. , don’t you think it’s hard for you to go to the world for a while and just pass by like this?”

"And if you want to make money, the teacher must be able to make ends meet. Your husband is a doctor. Even if you say he is not good, the salary must be much higher than our teacher's salary, right?"

"Doesn't your husband have an invisible sense of superiority at home because he makes a lot of money?"

Xie Min's questioning of the soul really stopped Huang Xiaopei.

Huang Xiaopei did not expect Xie Min to ask such a question. From her point of view, it seemed that Xie Min's daily state was just passing by, how comfortable he was, at least at work, and in life, her husband was her own The classmates I met while studying abroad, the two have always been in harmony. Huang Xiaopei has also met her husband, and the relationship between the two is also very good. The look of raising their eyebrows is really enviable.

But Xie Min's argument today made Huang Xiaopei doubt his previous thoughts, or just feel that Xie Min might not be as happy as he imagined.

After being a classmate for so many years, from this moment on, Huang Xiaopei suddenly felt that she didn't really understand Xie Min enough.

Now Xie Min has no worries about food and clothing, but she actually wants to pursue a higher level of life. Using Maslow's theory of needs, Xie Min has almost reached the level of self-needs.

As for marriage, this is a matter of self-knowledge. Xie Min is more realistic and pragmatic than Huang Xiaopei. She understands that marriage is not so secure in this society. It is not that marriage is not important, but that there are many uncertainties. But career But it is true and reliable.

And what about Huang Xiaopei?She is still in an unsafe state where no one is taking care of her children, and she may not be able to repay the mortgage if she loses her job. Strictly speaking, she has not even fully met Maslow's third-level social needs.

So in the current state, Huang Xiaopei has never thought about Xie Min's so-called ideals and ambitions. The current Huang Xiaopei believes that now the children can study hard, the family can be harmonious, and they can take a good rest on weekends. Occasionally, like Su Qingchun said on weekends It is already very happy for a family of three to go to the city to play.

But Xie Min's question made Huang Xiaopei start to reflect. She understood what Xie Min said. As a woman, this society itself has too many demands on women. seat.

It’s good that Huang Xiaopei has a job. Think about those who really give up their jobs for the sake of their families and stay at home with their husbands and children. They themselves pay the most for their families, but how many of them dare not divorce because they have become housewives and their husbands cheated?

They endure the cynicism of their family members for the sake of their families. Housewives are labeled yellow-faced women. Originally, they pay the most for their families, but men don’t know how to be grateful and understand, and think you are useless, so all kinds of disrespect and contempt.

In the final analysis, there is still no economic independence, so there is no right to speak.

(End of this chapter)