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Chapter 86 [086] Retirement Psychology

Then Tao Jianguo's son did not stay in Shanghai although he stayed in China for a few years, but chose to work in Beijing.

Three years ago, Tao Jianguo's wife was 55 years old and also retired. However, after her retirement, her mental state was not very good.

The next year, his son also got married. His son considered that he was far away from home in Beijing at that time, and his mother’s retirement anxiety, so two years ago, the couple returned to Shanghai to work, but he did not live at home. Instead, he lived far away from Tao Jianguo with his newly married wife, and the family only met occasionally a few times a year.

Moreover, the young couple has been married for two years, and their son is 35 years old. Tao Jianguo has never thought of having a child. The meaning of the child, even once told Tao Jianguo that he had the idea of ​​not having a child as a DINK.

Tao Jianguo absolutely cannot accept this, but his son expressed his mentality: I don't want to give birth to him without thinking about how to educate and raise them.

In Tao Jianguo's opinion, everything his son did was purely out of anger with him, blaming him for not caring enough about him before.

So in the past two years, Tao Jianguo has gradually come up with the idea of ​​retiring. After retiring, he can slowly develop a relationship with his children.

And there is another point. Although Tao Jianguo is 60 years old, his parents are still alive. They all live in the unit house allocated by the hospital. This house is next to the hospital. Parents, they are old now, especially the old father and Parkinson, and his old mother is still healthy, and they all rely on the old mother to take care of his father.

This is also one of the reasons why Tao Jianguo wants to retire early.

In fact, Su Qingchun and Jiang Kuang have been telling him about re-employment, retirement and continuing to work. These are what most doctors imagine when they retire. Tao Jianguo also thought about it, but when he came back to reality, Tao Jianguo understood that reality was not him. It's as simple as you think.

He owed a lot to his son and his parents who lived independently for a long time, so he thought of retiring and taking his old father and mother who suffered from mild Parkinson's home to live together.

And Su Qingchun's medical dispute came in time and it was the best opportunity to retire. Tao Jianguo, who had been hesitating and unable to make up his mind to leave early, finally made up his mind about this matter.

But today, when he is really about to retire, there are complex and subtle changes in his psychology. On the one hand, he wants to retire, but on the other hand, he doesn't want to retire. After all, he has worked for so many years in his career, and he is always reluctant , so today he felt very tangled and helpless when going through the retirement procedures.

Especially seeing his students reluctant to part with him made him even more sad.

Of course, retirement gave him the greatest feeling of loss. Although Tao Jianguo is 60 years old now, this age is already an old man for many people.

But he is really in a state where there are elderly parents who need to take care of him and a son who needs to be taken care of. Especially at work, he is still very strong, and it is not a problem to stand for a major operation for 4 hours in a row, so In fact, Tao Jianguo never felt that he was old, and he never regarded himself as an old man.

But it's different now. Tao Jianguo really retired. Retirement means that he has really entered old age. This makes him feel particularly lost, and he really can't accept it for a while.

Even so, when Tao Jianguo faced his students, he still tried his best to be calm and composed, and acted as if he was accustomed to retirement. In fact, his heart was also very entangled and fearful, and there was a very big gap in his heart .

Tao Jianguo, whose car was parked at the intersection, calmed down for a few minutes, when a car behind him honked, and then he started the car again.

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After returning home, Tao Jianguo was still in a very depressed mood, and his wife Chen Meixia knew that today was his last day of work. As someone who had been there, she specially prepared a celebration banquet for Tao Jianguo.

Chen Meixia was already ready to sit on the sofa and wait for the protagonist to go home. When she heard the sound of the door opening, Chen Meixia stood up immediately, and stood at the door with a rare smile to welcome Tao Jianguo's last "off work".

Just as his wife, Chen Meixia, was about to take the initiative to open the door, the door was already opened. When she saw Tao Jianguo, she said with a smile on her face, "Are you back?"

Although Chen Meixia looks to be over 50 years old, she has the unique exquisiteness of Shanghai women. She is relatively thin, with black hair and an exquisite hairstyle. She looks like she is going to participate in some event. She looks very young .

Chen Meixia worked in a university before she retired, and she was a small leader of the university's financial department. She used to deal with numbers all the year round, and she didn't need to do much communication work when she was working, so her interpersonal circle was relatively single.

But 3 years ago, she retired at the age of 55. She retired and rested at home. Her husband was very busy at work and her son was not around. life becomes more boring.

She buys vegetables and cooks every day, and she is mostly alone for lunch. This kind of retirement suddenly completely broke her long-term living habits, leaving a lot of blanks in her life, and she suddenly felt lonely. , empty, lonely.

Especially in the big financial department where she was in charge of more than a dozen people in the unit before. After retirement, her social status has directly undergone a huge change. Unlike before, she has a large group of subordinates and has her own sense of accomplishment. Now she is just an ordinary little old lady who has lost the value of life, which makes her always feel inferior, and a sense of loss and inferiority arises spontaneously.

After retiring for a period of time, she gradually became irritable and suspicious. Tao Jianguo often came home late due to work reasons, and she finally returned to guess what he was doing, whether it was useless to dislike her, Very sensitive and mistrustful of people.

Such changes obviously affected the relationship between their husband and wife, and soon Chen Meixia gradually realized the seriousness of the problem, so she secretly went to see a psychiatrist without telling her family.

Later, a psychologist suggested that she take part in more activities, so Chen Meixia enrolled in a university for the elderly, where she made new friends, did some recreational activities, and learned a lot of new knowledge.

In addition, her son Tao Rui found out about Chen Meixia's problem in the second year and returned to work in Shanghai, which made Chen Meixia feel better. With a fulfilling life, she also slowly passed the anxiety of this retirement period Expect.

In fact, she understands the state of retirement anxiety that Tao Jianguo will experience now and in the future, and she also knows that he needs the comfort and help of his family now.

That's why Chen Meixia was extraordinarily attentive today.

(End of this chapter)