Wear ancient times with a house

Chapter 11 Details of the Marriage

Aunt Song raised her chin to the east with disdain, and explained:
"Where is it that Zhao Yanlin doesn't want to remarry? It's just that Mr. Zhao from our county offended the orphans and widowed mothers. Now that he is prosperous, he just wants to post it."

This is a koan from many years ago.

Although it is only a family in the county, the patriarch has a great voice within the family.

It's just that the patriarch's family has authority, but Zhao Yanlin's father is good at doing business, and his life is better than that of the patriarch's family. There will inevitably be some friction between the two families.

When Zhao Yanlin's father left, there were four orphans and widows, three in Zhao Yanlin's family, and one brother and one sister.The eldest brother, Zhao Yanze, is only ten years old, so he is not considered the head of the family. Their mother is a woman, and he has no right to be the head of the family.

As a result, Patriarch Zhao has the power to distribute "unowned wealth", including family property, three children, and even widowed women.

In his view, this belongs to the redistribution of resources within the family.Let fatherless children and childless couples form a family; let widowed women and single men form a family; family property is confiscated to help poor family members.

In short, how to divide the deceased's "inheritance" is determined without asking the assignee's opinion at all.

Zhao Yanlin's mother, like many women in this era, is good at patience.If it was just for family property, she would bear it, but for her children, she couldn't stand it.

Before the patriarch took any further action, she took her child and defected to her distant relatives in Fucheng, and never came back for many years.

It wasn't until Zhao Yanze showed his talent for reading that he was supported by the whole family to go to the scientific examination and was selected as a scholar. Only then did the fifth house of the Zhao family return to his hometown and sold the land and shop that hadn't been sold in time or even been invaded. , Return to Fucheng to live again.

However, after all, they are of the same clan, and the fifth house of the Zhao family is dissatisfied with the patriarch's lineage, but they are unwilling to make enemies with other clansmen, and even have the intention of supporting each other. Even though they are separated from each other, they are closely connected.

The patriarch's lineage was naturally flustered, and after hearing that Zhao Yanlin had lost his wife, they made up their minds about his marriage.

The head of the clan expressed his intention to make amends, if Zhao Yanlin refused to accept it, it would appear that he was not tolerant enough and would damage his reputation.

Zhao Yanlin's relationship with his original partner, Bai Shi, is not bad, and he just wanted to guard her for a year or two, so he just let it out, and has no intention of remarrying at the moment.

Mrs. Song and Mrs. Zhao's third bedroom are old sisters who occasionally compare with each other, and they know more about the inside story than their son.It's just that she didn't know why Zhao Yanlin relaxed his tone again. Could it be that the patriarch has been settled?

She asked her eldest sister:

"I know the contradiction between Wufang and Dafang, but why are you letting go now?"

"Because, the fifth house is about to get up. Zhao Yanlin also got the job, and there are two people in one house. You think, can the patriarch still handle them?"

Hearing this, Song Ru, who had been silent all this time, couldn't sit still. It wasn't joy, but confusion.

"Auntie, the marriage you mentioned is indeed very good, even a little too good, much better than the Feng family. It's just that I'm just a widow now, and relying on my brother's identity, some people want to get married. I can understand the relationship, propose marriage to me. But what is the Zhao family planning?"

Aunt Song explained the reason calmly:

"The original wife left behind a son and a daughter. He wants to find a woman with a gentle personality to take care of the children. It's not like they don't know our family style, and they will never treat his two children harshly. What's more, his boss and Pu My brother has some friendship, so I naturally want the relationship between the two families to be closer."

Song Yun listened to the Zhao family's situation, and almost every minute outlined Song Ru's hellish start after her marriage: the son raised by the widow, the former wife of Zhuyu, and the children left by the original wife.

In this kind of family, marriage is difficult. She wanted to express her opposition, but she didn't know how to say it. A five-year-old girl analyzing the good or bad of a marriage seemed too monstrous.She could only listen silently, thinking of taking some time to remind Song Nian vaguely.

In fact, only Song Yun felt that the marriage was not good, and the others were quite satisfied:

Marrying in the past not only has no worries about food and clothing, but also the possibility of becoming an official wife. For a widow, this is simply a stroke of luck.

Mrs. Song put it more bluntly:
"Ru Niang has always been a virtuous woman. She endured all the torment by the Feng family's old woman back then. Now she just serves her mother-in-law and raises her original spouse's children. No matter how difficult they are to serve them, they will not enslave people like the Feng family. When Mother Ru gives birth to a boy and a half girl, she will stand firm."

Song Yun complained in her heart: You also know that the widow mother-in-law and the ex's children are difficult to take care of.

Shen Shi made a comment as a daughter-in-law:
"Two children, just treat them well. We don't harm anyone. Why are we afraid of suspicion? They are a reasonable family, and we are not a family without foundation. We will not let them humiliate at will. It's just a little patience. After a long time, when they see you are good, they will naturally treat you well."

After talking and talking, no one considered that Zhao Yanlin's feelings for the first wife would affect the relationship between husband and wife in the second marriage.

However, this may be the difference between the thinking of ancient people and modern people.

In a marriage, although modern people also value family conditions and the future of the other party, they also consider the needs of relationships.

But for the ancient people, a marriage with a combination of interests, a good name and righteousness, and a close child, especially a son, is enough.

As for the relationship, sometimes it is more beneficial for women to have a flat relationship between husband and wife:

When the relationship is good, everything is good; when the relationship is not good, the man can take concubines and flirt outside, but the woman is really "female love, can't take it off".It would be better to treat this as a partnership from the beginning.

Song Ru nodded, acknowledging the opinions of her family, and added:
"As long as he is not bad and his family is not unreasonable, then I will not object. As for the children, even if I have a biological child in the future, and there is no title worth earning in the family, I can't blame them."

While listening to everyone's arrangements for Song Ru's marriage, Song Yun absorbed ancient values ​​and ways of thinking.

The teachings of mothers to their daughters on marriage that have been passed down for thousands of years may not be so advanced, but they must be more suitable for this era than Song Yun's cognition.

She has decided to live well in this era, so she has to give up some persistence and idealization.

.........

Probably the Zhao family wanted to settle the marriage as soon as possible, so as not to be interfered by the clan elders and cause twists and turns, so the reply there was very fast.After Aunt Song asked the servants to pass the news to the eldest son, within a few days, Wang Pu accompanied Zhao Yanlin's mother, sister-in-law, and Zhao Yanlin himself back to Liyang County.

(End of this chapter)