Rebirth of the courtyard, the start is 80s

Chapter 276 Since You Made a Mistake, You Have to Admit It

Qiao Simi's crying, fuss, and complaint made the three members of the Cao family feel embarrassed in an instant, but the direction of the embarrassment was slightly different.

As Qiao Simi's older sister, Cao Lili's embarrassment is the simplest. She simply feels that this younger sister is too embarrassing. It's too shameful to bicker with a group of children on such an occasion, and to complain when they lose.

Cao Zhiqiang's embarrassment was a bit complicated, but he didn't think too much about it.

He just felt that it was his own nephew who bullied Qiao Simei, and his nephew's mother was watching here, with fleshy palms and backs, so it was inappropriate for him to help anyone.

In other words, if it was other adults who bullied Qiao Simei, and Qiao Simei was right, Cao Zhiqiang would have stood up and vented his anger on Qiao Simei long ago.

But it was his two nephews who bullied Qiao Simi, the most important ones were children, and they only bickered verbally without doing anything, so it was difficult for him to show up.

It's not that Cao Zhiqiang has any special feelings for those two nephews, towards them.

Rather, Cao Zhiqiang thinks that this is a problem between a group of brats.

It is best for children to solve their own problems. If adults intervene rashly, it may only be counterproductive.

Although Qiao Simi acted like an adult all day long, she was still a ten-year-old child.

For such a child, if you listen to her words as if they were grown-ups, then there is something really wrong.

Compared with Cao Lili and Cao Zhiqiang, Cao Jiajia's embarrassment is a little more complicated, or the most complicated.

Because Qiao Simei's accusation was against her two children, and it seemed that her own children were talking nonsense, saying that outsiders were nothing but outsiders, and made them cry, which made Cao Jiajia a little embarrassed.

You know, Cao Jiajia's two children are ignorant, but it doesn't mean that Cao Jiajia is also ignorant.

Yes, in terms of blood relationship, Cao Jiajia and Cao Zhiqiang are indeed siblings. In theory, the relationship between Cao Zhiqiang and Cao Jiajia should be better than the relationship with Cao Lili and that Qiao Simi.

But in fact, the distance between the relationship is not calculated in this way.

In addition to blood relationship, there are other similar feelings in this world, which may not be worse than blood relationship.

To put it bluntly, Cao Jiajia hasn't come back for more than ten years, and she is a married girl again. In a sense, she is no longer a serious member of the Cao family, and she is no worse than an outsider.

Why did Cao Jiajia insist that this family banquet should be done by the Cao family with the surname Cao?Isn't it just to use this method to highlight that he is the Cao family, and to draw in the relationship with Cao Zhiqiang?

To be more precise, although Cao Lili has no blood relationship with Cao Zhiqiang, they have lived together for a long time, taking care of each other and caring for each other.

That is to say, realizing this, Cao Jiajia praised Cao Lili in various ways, in fact, she wanted to gain Cao Zhiqiang's affirmation and consolidate her position through the method of acknowledging her relatives.

In this sense, although Qiao Simi is not from the Cao family, she has also lived here for a long time, and her relationship with Cao Zhiqiang must be deeper than that of her own sister, let alone the two nephews.

Therefore, in terms of the distance of the relationship, if there is one person here, it must be Cao Lili who has the closest relationship with Cao Zhiqiang, followed by Qiao Simei, and then her own sister.

As the saying goes, no desire is strong.

If Cao Jiajia didn't want anything from Cao Zhiqiang, of course he wouldn't care about it.

But the problem is that Cao Jiajia has something to ask for from Cao Zhiqiang, and the current plan is to rely on this younger brother.

Whether it is Cao Jiajia's food, clothing, housing, transportation, work arrangements, or her husband's job transfer and children's schooling, they all have to count on Cao Zhiqiang now.

None of these things are easy to handle.

Why did Cao Zhiqiang go to such lengths to do this?Isn't it just thinking of the family affection?
But if there is a problem with this family relationship, making Cao Zhiqiang feel that his sister doesn't know what is good or bad, then it will be troublesome.

If Cao Zhiqiang really let go, then Cao Jiajia's family would be in big trouble, and they would even have no way out.

Thinking of this, Cao Jiajia immediately put the chopsticks on the table, and stood up abruptly with a livid face.

This time, Qiao Simei, who was crying, was taken aback, and she instinctively leaned on her sister.

Sure enough, at the critical moment, Qiao Simei trusted her sister the most.

"unacceptable!"

After Cao Jiajia said this sentence with a livid face, she immediately looked at Qiao Simei: "Simei, right? Don't be afraid. Auntie asked you, Wenfang and Wenxuan really said that? Are you really an outsider? No People from the Cao family?"

"Yeah!" Qiao Simei nodded crying with tears all over her face, "That's what they said! They also said that my surname is Qiao, not Cao, and I can't come here to eat with you, so it's not Cao The family members are outsiders, so they are not as good as them."

Upon hearing this, Cao Jiajia slapped the table angrily, and then began to slowly roll up his sleeves: "Okay, how dare you say that? You wait, I will vent my anger on you, and I will beat these two nonsense little bastards to death! "

After finishing speaking, Cao Jiajia rolled up his sleeves and was about to rush out.

Seeing the situation, Cao Lili was the first to get anxious, and she also stood up and said, "Eldest sister, don't! It's not a trivial matter."

Cao Zhiqiang blinked, and stood up immediately, just in time to block Cao Jiajia's way: "Sister, don't go, children are playing around, what are you adults doing?"

"Zhiqiang, get out of the way!" Cao Jiajia said with a livid face, looking at Cao Zhiqiang who was blocking the door, "The so-called teaching a child before others, and the so-called habitual child is like killing a child!
These two bastards dare to talk like that, I have to deal with them in public!

Otherwise, they don't know long memory!
Get out of the way, I must beat them to death this time! "

Cao Zhiqiang didn't leave, but directly held Cao Jiajia's shoulders with both hands to prevent Cao Jiajia from leaving.

Immediately afterwards, Cao Zhiqiang persuaded: "Sister, I understand what you mean, but the old saying may not be true.

Let’s just talk about Wen Fang and Wen Xuan. If they really said those things, it’s really wrong, but the public lesson will pass.

Although they are small, they still have self-esteem. If you teach them in front of so many of us, they must feel ashamed and uncomfortable, and their self-esteem must be hit. "

"Hmph, embarrassing? It's uncomfortable, that's right!" Cao Jiajia said loudly, "When they teamed up to bully Simei, why didn't they think about Simei's feelings?

Hmph, everyone is older than Simei, but they gang up to bully a little girl, is that plausible?
I see, it's been a long time since I came out, and my temper has become wild.

Zhiqiang, get out of the way, don't worry about this matter!
Dutiful sons are born under the stick, I have to deal with them today, otherwise how can I explain to the little girl? "

Cao Zhiqiang tried again to stop Cao Jiajia from going out.

"Sister, sit down first, sit down and talk!"

After forcing Cao Jiajia down on the chair he was sitting on, Cao Zhiqiang said:

"Sister, what you said is right, children have problems, they must be educated, and sometimes they have to be beaten when they need to be beaten.

But I still want to say that it is okay to educate children, but we must also pay attention to methods and methods, especially not to beat children in front of us.

why?

Because this will give children a deep psychological shadow, make them hate us, and may even backfire, causing them to rebel. "

"Then what should we do?" Cao Jiajia said angrily, "Could it be that they bullied Simei and just let it go?"

"Of course we can't ignore it." Cao Zhiqiang looked at Qiao Simi, who was no longer crying, "But you can't hit the child in public."

After a pause, Cao Zhiqiang said: "How about this, sister, you can calm down here first, I'll go out to have a look and ask about the situation.

If it is indeed their fault, then I try to persuade them to come over and apologize first.

If I don't listen to the reasoning of these two children, you wait until we leave, and then you can beat them as you like, even if your ass sees blood, but don't beat them in front of us, how about it? "

Hearing this, Cao Jiajia frowned, then nodded: "Okay, you are their uncle, you can try it, if they don't listen to you, I will beat them hard later, and I will give you and Simei an explanation !"

As soon as Cao Zhiqiang heard this, he understood that the main reason why Cao Jiajia was so excited and angry, or the reason why she did this, was to give herself an explanation.

To put it bluntly, Cao Jiajia was so angry because she was afraid of offending herself, and it was also for her own face, never for the child.

But this is normal, isn't the adult world like this?

But Cao Zhiqiang didn't want to let a few children suffer fat beatings that they shouldn't have to bear because of these things.

In Cao Zhiqiang's eyes, it's bullshit for someone to teach a child, and to produce a filial son under a stick.

Cao Zhiqiang also came from a child. When he was a child in his previous life, he was beaten by his father in front of a group of people.

The situation at that time is still fresh in Cao Zhiqiang's memory. The unforgettable shame is really uncomfortable.

The so-called teaching children before others, to put it bluntly, is just for the face of adults, but it ignores the hearts of children.

That's not how children are taught.

Cao Zhiqiang can't control others, but he still wants to try to save his own family.

At the very least, you must first ask the person about the real situation, and then talk about the truth. If the truth doesn't make sense, it's not too late to call.

What Qiao Simei said before was just her one-sided words, not necessarily the truth of the matter.

Others don't know about Qiao Simi, but Cao Zhiqiang knows her very well. This is someone who has been careless since childhood.

So at this time, the more important it is to calm down, clarify the matter first, and then do what you should do. You can't just assume that what Qiao Simei said is right as soon as you come up.

Sure enough, after being persuaded by Cao Zhiqiang, Cao Jiajia temporarily calmed down.

That's right, speaking of it, Cao Jiajia wouldn't be willing to beat her own child if it wasn't for her own face, and because of Cao Zhiqiang's thoughts.

Now that Cao Zhiqiang said so, Cao Jiajia is of course willing to borrow the slope to get off the donkey.

In this way, Cao Zhiqiang let Cao Jiajia continue to sit and comfort Qiao Simei, while he himself went out of the house and came to the small table room where Xia Wenfang and Xia Wenxuan were staying.

Seeing Cao Zhiqiang's sudden appearance, both Xia Wenfang and Xia Wenxuan felt a little uneasy.

That's right, although the two of them looked calm before, they also knew that this uncle could not be offended, and they also knew that Qiao Simei had filed a complaint before.

It's just that the two of them thought that their mother would help them settle things the same way as in the past, but they didn't expect that it was their uncle who came out now, and their mother didn't come out, which was a bit disturbing.

Seeing the scared expressions of the two children, Cao Zhiqiang first smiled: "Don't be afraid, I just came to find out the truth of the matter."

Speaking of this, Cao Zhiqiang, who had already walked in front of the two children, took the initiative to sit down on a stool, and then smiled at Xia Wenfang and Xia Wenxuan who were standing opposite:

"How about this, you guys tell uncle the cause and effect of the conflict between you and Qiao Simei just now, okay?"

Seeing that Cao Zhiqiang had a kind face, not looking like he was coming to Xingshi to ask a crime, Xia Wenxuan and Xia Wenfang looked at each other and nodded.

Immediately afterwards, Xia Wenxuan, the younger brother, was the first to speak, and Xia Wenfang added from the side, telling what happened before.

Of course, these two children are not stupid. They mainly said that Qiao Simei was the first to find trouble and forced them to call her auntie. They insisted that they were inferior to her, and they didn't like it, so they retorted.

As for the fact that Qiao Simei was an outsider, I skipped it lightly, not saying nothing, but just saying it was to annoy her, because I couldn't bear her arrogance.

After listening to the cause and effect, Cao Zhiqiang probably understood.

Speaking of which, this was indeed Qiao Simi's first fault.

Qiao Simei was obviously younger than these two children, and it was the first time they met, so they didn't have a deep relationship, but she insisted on calling her aunt and wanting to treat her as an elder.

In the eyes of children, this must be a great shame and humiliation, of course they are not happy.

"I understand." Cao Zhiqiang nodded, "Qiao Simei said that as soon as she came up. It's a bit too much for you to call her aunt, but you just don't call her. How can you bully her and call her an outsider?"

"I'm not wrong." Xia Wenxuan refused to accept, "Her surname is Qiao, not Cao. She is not from the Cao family, of course she is an outsider! Is it wrong to tell the truth?"

Cao Zhiqiang smiled slightly: "Yes, her surname is not Cao, but she is my sister's sister, and I have always regarded her as my own sister, so from this perspective, Qiao Simi is my family, not an outsider .

Your mistake lies in defining and labeling others without knowing the truth. This is wrong!

If you are wrong, you have to admit it.

In this way, you go back with me to apologize to her, admit your mistake, and this matter will be over, okay? "

Xia Wenxuan frowned and said, "Then it's not wrong for her to ask us to call her aunt? Hmph, if she insists on being our elders and standing taller than us, is that right?"

Cao Zhiqiang smiled: "Strictly speaking, it is not wrong for Qiao Simei to ask you to call her aunt, because in terms of seniority, she is my sister and I am your uncle, so she thinks she is your aunt. What's the problem?"

Speaking of this, seeing Xia Wenxuan's face turned red, Cao Zhiqiang seemed a little dissatisfied, and said:

"Of course, although this is the case in theory, Qiao Simei is indeed younger than you and is not very familiar with you, but she shows off the prestige of her elders as soon as she meets you, and has a bad attitude when talking to you. This is indeed her. wrong.

Her fault lies in disrespecting you and her arrogant attitude, which is also the fuse of this conflict.

So, one size counts for one size, you have to admit your mistakes, and she has to admit the mistakes she made.

And I personally think that Qiao Simei's mistake was a little bigger, after all, she was the one who found fault first.

But after all, she is the youngest, isn't she?
The younger you are, the less sensible you are, and the easier it is to say wrong things and do wrong things.

You are big children, you can't be as knowledgeable as children younger than yourself, right?

In this way, you first apologize to Qiao Simei, and then I will ask her to apologize to you.

The two sides apologized to each other and got back together, okay? "

Xia Wenxuan frowned and pouted, seemingly dissatisfied.

But Xia Wenfang, who was older and more sensible, tugged at Xia Wenxuan's sleeve at this time, and then shook his head at Xia Wenxuan.

Seeing his sister like this, Xia Wenxuan took two deep breaths, then nodded reluctantly: "Okay, since uncle said so, I, I just listen."

"Very good!" Cao Zhiqiang smiled and touched the tops of the two children's heads.

"Come with me. Enemies should be resolved rather than knotted. It's just a small conflict. Apologize to each other, and we will still be good friends in the future!"

(End of this chapter)