The Northern Stories of Chef Lao Tan

Chapter 174
How should we comment on Lao Tan and Yaru?Or how should we look at them?

The two former lovers could not be together due to various reasons. They each experienced different life situations and had families and children.But fate arranged the two together again, and they got in touch again.

We know that Yaru called Lao Tan after the divorce, asking Lao Tan to find a job.For a divorced woman, the first thing that needs to be solved is the life problem.

She didn't think too much when she made the call, she was just looking for a job to earn money so she could support herself.The reason why she was looking for Lao Tan was because he was the first thing she thought of. It didn't mean that she wanted to reconnect with Lao Tan, but that she couldn't think of anyone else.

We can understand this. I have been in love with Lao Tan before, and it is still my first love. There is a shadow of Lao Tan deep in my heart, and I will naturally think of it when I need help.

When they came to Aqiao, the two were together again after many years. Yaru knew that the past was over, and there would be nothing to do with Lao Tan. The two were colleagues, friends, or relatives.

That being said, people are not grass and trees, unless they are not together, contact, communication, and exchanges will inevitably occur when they are together. In addition, they were lovers before, so it is impossible to be ordinary friends.

The two times when Lao Tan was ill, Yaru was by his side to take good care of him. It can be said that he took on the responsibility of his wife.

How should I put it, Yaju didn't regard herself as an outsider.On the one hand, it is due to nature, gentle and kind; on the other hand, there is no barrier between Lao Tan and Lao Tan, just like family members.

To tell the truth, she cared about Lao Tan, after all, he was the first man to walk into her heart, who gave her a beautiful first love and the most beautiful memory in her life. The first kiss in her youth was taken away by this man, so it is hard to forget.

From another perspective, there is a familiar sense of intimacy with Lao Tan, no strangers, and willing to accept this man.It's not like being awkward with other men, and I don't accept it in my heart.

Lao Tan's bronchiectasis relapsed recently, and she took care of her for ten days.Living together in the same room for ten days gave her the illusion that she and this man had already lived together, as if they had been married for many years, very harmonious, warm and happy.

Sometimes she wondered what would have happened if she hadn't separated from Lao Tan?Is it just like now, very happy?

Maybe.

Whenever I think like this, there will always be a voice in my heart—Old Tan is a family man, it is impossible.

Yes, it is impossible.

I didn't want to live with him, I just felt safe with him by my side.This man who should belong to me now belongs to someone else, I don't blame anyone, I only blame myself for not being assertive at the beginning——
All I can do now is take care of him, as I did back then.

Let's go back and look at Lao Tan.

Growing up in a hard life, he took up the burden of the family prematurely. It is said that the children of poor families start their families early, so what if they don't?There is no way, the days are forced.

It is undeniable that if his family was better, he might have been admitted to university. In that case, the path he would take would be completely different from what he is now, and the life he would have might be different.

But life is real, and the reality is often cruel. There are no ifs and assumptions. What is in front of you is what you are. If you want to change, you can only work, pay, and earn your life.

Lao Tan's journey has not been easy. From having nothing when he came out to a successful career now, the hard work he has put in and the hardships he has experienced are unimaginable to outsiders.

Let's not talk about his career, just talking about his relationship is also very bumpy.

In his 20 years working career, he has experienced many women.

Friends who have read the first part know that, strictly speaking, Yaru is the first lover in his life, and their love is the best memory of his entire youth.

First love is beautiful, and often a good beginning ends in tragedy.

The original Yingzi, the beautiful and lovely Shandong girl who loves to sing, clings to him all day long.Now whenever I think back to that snowy day, the last phone call Yingzi made to him at the train station, and the love expressed in the phone call still wet my eyes——
It's not that I don't know how to love, but that I don't dare to love.

Growing up in poverty and suffering caused him to have a sensitive inferiority complex and strong self-esteem. Coupled with the reality that he could not be called a wife because of poverty, he had the idea that he would not be in a relationship before he became rich, which led to him just working hard. Don't dare to think about love.

After that, at the Shengmei Hotel in Santaizi, I experienced Li Haina's expression of love, but it was not deep, or disappeared without anything happening.

Then a girl who was as beautiful and lovely as Yingzi appeared, and she was as clingy as Yingzi, but he was still numb, until he lost it.

After that, she met Sister Zhao in Tiexi's Xinchuang Restaurant—a woman with ill-fated fate.After so many years, looking back now, I find that Sister Zhao loved him so deeply, but he always regarded her as his elder sister.

After he basically got rid of poverty, he is already a 23-year-old young man.At this age, they have already started a family in the countryside, and their children are two or three years old.

This year he met Yaru.

He was deeply moved by Yaru's innocence, purity, kindness and beauty, so he had a beautiful and poignant love story.

After Yaru, another year, I met Lin Yan.

The same family background and similar growth experience made the two quickly establish a romantic relationship. According to the traditional concept of marriage, the combination of the two belongs to a well-matched family.

Looking back now, the marriage between him and Lin Yan seemed like resignation - as long as he could marry a daughter-in-law.But it is undeniable that the love for Lin Yan is sincere and wholehearted.

Not long after falling in love with Lin Yan, she met Yanhua—a woman who had almost the same fate as Sister Zhao.

Without Lao Tan, Yanhua might have embarked on another path - earning money with the woman's own money.Lao Tan is indeed a person full of positive energy. Not only is he always sunny and full of energy, but he also releases warmth like a sun and affects people around him.

Under his influence, Yanhua stepped out of the shadows, redefined and chose life.

It is undeniable that Yanhua fell in love with him, and at the same time knew that this love was fruitless, so she chose to leave.

Lao Tan is not a fool, he knows why Yanhua left, but he can't do anything about it, since he chose Lin Yan, he has to go on rain or shine, this is a promise a man makes to his beloved woman.

After that, I met Zhang Li.

This is a woman who dares to love and hate, from admiration to liking, to love, has been burning Lao Tan like a fire, burning him to hide everywhere.

Zhang Li is better than Lin Yan in every aspect.Beautiful, enthusiastic, well-off, capable, and well-spoken.But Lao Tan already has Lin Yan, and it is difficult for other women to enter his life.

But I have to admit that the cooperation with Zhang Li is pleasant and has a tacit understanding.The two successfully built the first national chain Laogen Villa, and then cooperated with Linjiangxuan, a well-known restaurant in the provincial capital, to make dumplings abroad.Afterwards, the Kanto family was built into the largest and most famous farmhouse in the Northeast, and it was featured in oriental cuisine.

Now we are working with Aqiao Dumpling Restaurant, which has a promising future.

How should I put it, when there is no one around, Zhang Li's pained look when she got married will appear in front of Lao Tan's eyes. She points to her heart and says with tears all over her face, "Old Tan, I hurt, I hurt—"

Old Tan knew that from that moment on, this woman left a tear in his heart.

Life with Lin Yan is peaceful, without waves.

The real rift came after the son was born.

In order to earn more money, Lao Tan went to Binhai for four years.For the past four years, Lao Tan has been responsible for earning money to support the family. It is really not easy for Lin Yan to take care of the children alone and go to work.

The couple lost their married life four months after Lin Yan was pregnant.

A couple can't sleep in the same quilt bucket. There is no love affair. It's okay for a short time, but they will become strangers after a long time.

The ten-year life of an ascetic monk has changed the habits and personalities of the two people, and even made them sick.

This is a kind of unhealthy family life, in the current popular saying-pure friendship of middle-aged couples.

Is it difficult?
hard.

Don't say anything about anyone, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

People have desires. As a normal person, the desires cannot be released and satisfied for a long time, so cheating and extramarital affairs are inevitable.

The moral bottom line that people stick to is often vulnerable to desire.

Lao Tan is a man, and a man with everything normal, only 40 years old.

He also often lingers in front of the torment of desire, wanting to indulge.But I know that once I do that, I can't imagine the consequences.

The best solution for people to endure suffering is to divert their attention, throw themselves into another environment, and use heavy labor and work to release themselves.

When I devote myself to work, I don't think about anything, and I don't have time to think about it.

Work is also a kind of joy.

When one kind of happiness replaces another, the heart will be fuller.

(End of this chapter)