Princess Consort of Tang Dynasty

Chapter 403 Different Expectations
Parents always have too many expectations of their children.

But Li He is like this, the child has become a dragon, and more concerned about his health and happiness.

Li He knelt in front of the princess and cried into a tired man.

Although he had countless funs and all kinds of uninterrupted flattery these years, and lived a happy life, he still lacked the object he wanted to prove his ability in the first place.

People's understanding of filial piety often has different changes in different periods.

The starting point was surprisingly consistent.

It is to become stronger, let parents work less, and live a more comfortable life.Even the emperor's family, the prince also worked diligently to share government affairs when his parents were seriously ill.

However, leisure is not the end of human beings.

Sociality determines that a person must be useful to others in society in order to gain greater value.

This kind of goal can be roughly interpreted as achieving various goals through high demands on oneself and realizing the liberation of those around you.

It looks great, but this kind of filial piety is actually too selfish.

First, everyone will look forward to emotional rewards. No one is born to live for others. While denying one's own value, it will inevitably bring more emotional problems.

The higher the expectations, the more terrifying the emotional outbursts when questioned.Deny the past and label yourself a fool.

Second, self-enhancement belongs to the expectations of parents for their children, so that they can have more freedom and choices in the future.It is not forced to do all kinds of unpleasant things due to the situation, and it is not for the purpose of repaying oneself.

Therefore, filial piety has little to do with self-improvement when children can live well.

Money can buy many things, but it doesn't solve anyone's emotional needs.

Especially someone like Shen Sanwen who doesn't pursue too much.

Li He has thought very clearly over the years, and it may also have something to do with his own children.

Of course he hopes that his children are strong in all aspects, so that he can be proud of them.

It is definitely not to hope to benefit from the strength of children, but to simply be an elder.

A father who does something for his children when necessary.

This also made him more aware of the meaning of filial piety, caring about whether they are happy and whether they have any difficulties. It is best to be able to accompany them for a while to relieve their fatigue.

He heard that Shen Sanwen was collecting cats and dogs, so he immediately asked someone to bring them over.Over the years, the specialties from all over the world, no matter what good things the princess needs, have never been cut off, and they are always given priority.

But these years, he has no courage.

It's definitely not that I don't have time, but that I haven't faced it for a long time, and I don't know how to get along and what to say.

Until Shen Sanwen's letter came, he had no worries and came happily.

Look, parents miss him.

The two were just talking about some parents, and the princess didn't mean to intervene in political affairs, although Li He wanted to talk.

There will be differences between the two. The elders often choose to avoid talking about it. It is useless to mention what really affects the son.

As long as people are good.

After the two finished talking, when Li He saw Shen San asked, he didn't know what to say.

"How's father doing these years?" Although Shen San didn't ask harshly, Li He was somewhat nervous seeing him, wondering how he would evaluate him now.

At first it was concerned about the beginning of the greeting.

Shen San asked and replied, "It's very leisurely here, it was a bit boring at first, but after your Wang Shishu came, it was not so boring. He raised a dog, the baby is tight, and there are more times to tease him for the father."

Shen Sanwen intends to introduce some maintenance knowledge to him, but Li He doesn't seem very interested.

After all, he is a young man, and his body is strong now, so he does not feel the weakness of the elderly.

Li He finally asked a question he was very concerned about, "Am I a good son of my father?"

"Of course it is." Shen San asked and answered very easily.

In fact, Li He has never figured out why he has to bear a lot when his brother wants to do whatever he wants.

This is the later emotional backlash. After working hard for a goal for a long time, I simply want to achieve it in one step. I don’t want to wait so long, and I don’t want to see the moment when I can’t do anything.

Shen Sanwen also recalled the completely different education methods back then.

One is loose and the other is strict.

He never felt that anyone was more important or more successful than the other, and he was very proud of both of them.

"At the very beginning, I hoped to give your brother a happy childhood and let him do whatever he wanted, as long as his virtues were not bad.

At least have a good time.

Later, when you were born, I was criticized because of your brother.

You carry the mission of the family, and you have been calculated time and time again.So I am a little stricter on you, and I hope you can learn more.

Until Yao Chong proposed that Emperor Wu intervene, since everyone is willing to train you to be the successor of the country, I am also relieved.

You didn't live up to everyone's expectations later on, didn't you.

What, regret it now? "

Li He shook his head. Naturally, he didn't regret it. No one would casually deny the decision he had made.Sitting in the country, he is in charge of other people's life and death. He is an indescribable person in the world. Although there are many government affairs and complicated things to deal with, these fatigues have long been a part of his life.

Shen Sanwen sighed secretly in his heart, at the beginning he was not very good at teaching his son, so Xiaowen's character became a lot more persistent, and he even liked to force.

Probably it is also related to his unwillingness to admit defeat, and the reason why he would rather change the world than change himself.

But things are not so easy, the Turkic issue is not easy to deal with.

Coupled with the tactics Xiao Wen learned from the princess and the art of war from Zhang Yang, he has the capital to change many things.

But Xiaowen also inherited his innocence and kindness.

It would be great if he could still inherit his own luck and be treated with kindness all the time.

After experiencing the death of master and mother one after another, and being betrayed by others, it finally ended like that.

Until Xiaohe was born.

Li Hecai perfectly inherited the inner character needed to rule an empire, perseverance and decisiveness. Di Renjie taught him to consider the overall situation. Emperor Wu told him about the loneliness of the throne, as the emperor manipulates people's hearts.

Shen Sanwen admits that he has less influence on Xiaohe.

Li He can calmly distinguish between goodwill and interests, and make the best choice for himself and the overall situation.

There is a little more ruthlessness, but also the capital to stick to one's heart.

Later, he personally experienced the rebellion of his classmates, pouring out his ambition, so that he was finally able to break the boat.

Hearing Shen Sanwen's sigh, Li He's heart was also ups and downs.

Although the method he used was uncomfortable, the result doesn't look too bad now.

Time heals all pain.

(End of this chapter)