As a matchmaker, I'm not convinced by anyone

Chapter 322 Men are afraid of making fuss, women are afraid of crying twice
Our country has a vast land and abundant resources, and the customs are different in different places. There are still many places where "crying songs" are circulated.

The so-called "crying songs" are actually the general term for crying wedding songs and mourning songs.

In the past, in some coastal areas, women in every household had to learn to sing "crying songs".

When the local girls are twelve or thirteen years old, their mothers and aunts will teach them to sing crying songs. Grandpa, you can sing crying songs when you have nothing to do, regardless of the occasion, which is really a headache).

At that time, the adults were working in the fields, and the little girls were in the fields, learning crying songs while learning female celebrities.When there is a wedding or funeral nearby, the girls have to go together to hear how others "cry".

According to local customs, singing weeping songs is an essential skill for women. If a married woman cannot sing weeping wedding songs, people around will ridicule and ridicule her.After arriving at the mother-in-law's house, because she can't sing crying wedding songs, she will also be looked down upon.

The crying wedding song refers to a woman singing to different people on the eve of her wedding and on the day of her wedding, and singing while crying.

If an elder dies, the daughters and daughters-in-law of the family have to sing crying songs. If they don't sing or sing badly, they will be regarded as unfilial.Therefore, when local women attend the funeral of their elders or relatives, they must show their ability to "cry", secretly comparing who cries louder, who cries longer, and who cries with clever and changeable minds...

In short, if the mourning level is high, it will be valued by all relatives and friends.

There is a local saying: "Men are afraid of making fuss, women are afraid of crying." Therefore, learning crying songs is a compulsory course for local women before they get married. They must not only learn, but also learn well.

Crying and mourning is not easy to learn, because it is divided into three parts: scriptures, hedging and loose crying.

The so-called "Sutra" is combined with funeral ceremonies, and different procedures sing different content. For example, after a person dies, the daughter-in-law or daughter sings the "Breaking Qi Sutra", sings the "Clothes Sutra" when changing clothes for the deceased, and sings the "Combing Hair Sutra" when combing the hair. "...

Different programs sing different songs.

The so-called "hedging" is also a relatively fixed content, such as "repaying mother's favor", "twelve looking for mothers", "flower names in December", "ten distresses", "72 sufferings" and so on.

The last type is "San Cry". As the name suggests, there is no limit to the content of "San Cry", and it all depends on the individual.You can sing based on your own experience or your relationship with the deceased. The closer you are to the deceased, the more sincerely you should cry.

Because there is no limit to the content and can be freely played, the scene often cries heartbroken, and the singing makes others feel sad and tearful. Sometimes people try to dissuade them repeatedly, but the weepers still can't help themselves...

Crying is very important in traditional funeral ceremonies.

If at a family's funeral, the sound of crying does not have the power to "resound through the heavens and the earth", all the towns and villages will think that the descendants of this family are not filial enough.Therefore, some people's mourning level is not very high, or they want to have a bigger mourning scene and appear more affectionate, so they will spend money to hire "mourners".

Professional mourners have existed since ancient times.

In Guangzhou during the Republic of China, professional mourners were also known as shouting mothers-in-law.

Calling mothers-in-law are usually lonely and helpless elderly women. They live scattered in remote alleys and often come into contact with hooligans, beggars and orphans, and their lives are not good.

The only means for them to maintain their lives is mourning.

At that time, many families in Guangzhou would hire mother-in-law for funerals.The time of employment depends on the scale of the funeral, some are only hired for the first seven days, while others are hired until the "three sevens", that is, 21 days.For some large-scale funerals, it is possible to hire a mother-in-law for 49 days, or even a hundred days.

Once the mother-in-law is hired, she has to bring her own bedding to the employer's house, live in the room of the deceased, accompany the spirit and serve the incense lamp of the deceased, and they are also responsible.When the room of the deceased is cleaned up, the bedding, clothes, mosquito nets and other daily necessities used by the deceased are usually separated by the mother-in-law and the wife.

The main job of the mother-in-law is of course to cry for funerals, usually three times a day in the morning, noon and night, and some employers may require four times.The content to cry every day is provided by the employer, and it is enough for the mother-in-law to cry and sing.Since it is a profession, it is natural to have a desolate and sad voice when calling for a mother-in-law to cry for a funeral, and the articulation should be clearer.Crying must be very emotional, so that the people participating in the funeral will be deeply affected, and even cry along with it.

Sometimes, the content of shouting mother-in-law crying and singing is "aggressive".

Some old people in big families passed away, and there were always conflicts among the houses, and they wanted to take the opportunity to attack each other at this time.

Therefore, when there is a funeral in a family, each house may hire a mother-in-law, and several mother-in-law sit together and cry for the funeral.

At this time, the content of the cry is very important. In order to attack other relatives, their employers often use puns or cryptic statements to criticize and scold Huai, and even sing out the scandals that the family has concealed for many years.

This time is exciting, a few shouting mother-in-law you sing and I come on stage, it seems to be crying, but in fact it is "swearing".With relatives and friends nearby, they can also understand the inside story and understand many family conflicts.Some tabloid reporters would even sneak in, or ask the relatives of the deceased to learn about the libretto of the yelling mother-in-law attacking each other, exaggerate it, and then write it as "inside information" or serial novels, which are very popular.

Therefore, those who are good at playing on the spot and attacking each other with wonderful libretto are very famous and need to spend a lot of money to invite them.

This situation has been prevalent since the end of the Qing Dynasty, and it often appeared during the Republic of China.

In fact, it is not easy to be a professional mourner, whether it is ancient or modern.

In contrast, the treatment of modern professional mourners is much better than that of ancient professional mourners.

After hanging up the phone, Yuan's mother felt heavy in her heart. She was forced to become a professional mourner. Although she has made money and greatly improved the living conditions of her family over the past ten years, she also endured great psychological pressure.

There are three main sources of stress:

First, the incomprehension of relatives, friends and family members. After knowing that she became a professional mourner, relatives and friends gradually cut off contact with her, and her parents and mother-in-law also strongly opposed her doing this.

Especially my mother-in-law, it has been more than ten years, and I see that she still has a nose or a nose or an eye, and I don't even think about it. If she didn't cry and make money to buy her medicine, it is hard to say whether she would live past sixty, let alone It's my [-]th birthday.

Second, the villagers' rejection. Ever since she became a professional mourner, the people in the village saw her as if they had seen a plague god. They were all afraid to avoid her. The feeling of being isolated by the whole village was really uncomfortable.

Three, if it affects your own children, it’s fine if your children are isolated, but now it’s affecting your son’s marriage. Even though Yuan’s mother is acting indifferent, only you know the pain in your heart.

The only consolation is that her husband, apart from objecting at the beginning, uncharacteristically supported her after he tasted the sweetness, and formed a mourning team with her, which is how he has his current income.

There are two days left before her mother-in-law's [-]th birthday, Yuan's mother has pushed back the door-to-door business in the past few days, and plans to take advantage of this birthday to ease the relationship with her mother-in-law.

hope everything is fine.

……

At 2023:9 p.m. on September 10, [-], my cousin Shun gave birth to a baby boy, and the mother and baby are safe.

In the hospital, the aunt hugged her grandson and laughed from ear to ear, and the smile on the uncle's face never stopped. As a person from Bailiang County, nine out of ten people have patriarchal thoughts, even if they were born The uncle who is the principal of a certain elementary school is no exception. This is a concept passed down from generation to generation, and it is not so easy to change.

Seeing Huang Lingwei staring at the child intently, Jiang Feng couldn't help but bumped her lightly with the shoulder, and said with a smile: "Weiwei, the child is cute, why don't we have one next year?"

Huang Lingwei has lived with him for two months, and has done everything that should be done. She is no longer as shy as before. Hearing this, she smiled and replied directly: "One is not enough, at least two, twins."

The aunt laughed and said: "Weiwei is right, you two get married quickly, and you will have twins next year."

The others all laughed along.

The uncle asked with a smile: "Xiaofeng, when are you planning to set the wedding date?"

Jiang Feng said: "At present, it is tentatively scheduled to be after the Spring Festival, and the exact date has not yet been determined."

The cousin lying on the hospital bed said with a smile: "You should get married and have children early. With the looks of the two of you, the children born will definitely inherit your respective advantages. The looks must be unbelievably high. It's amazing to think about it." expect."

Cousin Liu Junxiong also nodded and said: "Yes, that appearance must be extremely high, and all celebrities have to stand aside."

Huang Lingwei glanced at Jiang Feng, and couldn't help but imagine what their child would look like.

Jiang Feng and Huang Lingwei did not stay in the hospital much.

About half an hour or so, Jiang Feng and Huang Lingwei looked at each other, then looked at his cousin on the hospital bed and said, "Cousin, take a good rest, Weiwei and I will leave first."

Huang Lingwei took out a big red envelope that she had prepared a long time ago from her bag, and handed it to her cousin, "My cousin has a good rest, and we will have a wedding after the baby is full moon."

The cousin gave way before accepting the red envelope.

Then, after a few more polite words, Jiang Feng and Huang Lingwei left.

……

The next day.

Jiang Feng and his party left Zhong Hai for Hangzhou.

In a restaurant box in Hangzhou, Jiang Feng met Pei Ying and her husband, Professor Liu.

While waiting for the waiter to serve the food, Pei Ying took out a letter of agreement that was the same as Fang Yun's from her bag, handed it to Jiang Feng and said, "Master Jiang, our husband and wife can have today because of your matchmaking. This is our point." Be careful, I hope you don't dislike it."

Jiang Feng took it over and took a look, and couldn't help laughing: "President Pei, it seems that you and Fang always got along with each other, and this matchmaking ceremony is exactly the same."

Pei Ying smiled and said, "The two of us have some achievements in the financial field, and this is the only thing we can do. Since you have already accepted Mr. Fang, you can't favor one over the other."

Jiang Feng said with emotion: "Okay, then I will accept it, you really have a heart."

After finishing the main business, the next thing is to chat all over the world. Jiang Feng has a plug-in, and he has endless topics to chat with anyone. Even Professor Liu, a genius who focuses on mathematics, can chat so that the other party can't stop .

This meal lasted for more than two hours before the show ended.

After Jiang Feng said goodbye and left, Liu Yi couldn't help but sighed: "Master Jiang is really a god, chatting with him is really like a spring breeze, it's like meeting a bosom friend who has known each other for decades, he can talk about any topic, it's really amazing. "

Pei Ying nodded and said: "It's really amazing. Even if a person like Master Jiang doesn't work as a matchmaker, he will definitely be able to get along well in other industries. His social skills are simply ridiculous. Who can sit with him?" They can chat very speculatively, and people can't help but introduce him as a confidant."

The couple were emotional, and Liu Yi looked at the time and said, "Stop talking, I have to attend an academic conference tomorrow morning, so I have to go back early, do you want to go back together?"

Pei Ying said: "You go back first, I still have some work to do, I'll go back when I'm done."

Liu Yi nodded and said, "Well, then don't be busy for too long. Now I fully understand the ancients' feeling of 'not seeing each other every day is like three autumns'. If you don't go back for a few days, I won't be able to sleep."

Pei Ying couldn't help laughing and said, "I didn't expect that you, a serious mathematician, would also learn to talk about love."

Liu Yicai smiled and said, "I'm speaking from my heart."

Pei Ying glanced at him, "You're the only one with sweet lips."

"Your mouth is really sweet."

"Hate!"

……

Fengming Village, Shuangfeng Town, Linchuan County.

On a piece of fertile grassland, more than 20 cows are grazing.

Under a certain big tree, Zhang Yonglu said to Deng Jiuqi: "I usually come out to herd cattle around nine o'clock in the morning. After leading the cattle to the grass, I'm free to do whatever I want, unless I'm afraid of being caught by someone. If the cow is stolen, there is no need to stare at it here."

Deng Jiuqi said: "I also herded cattle when I was young. Our village is relatively remote, and there are basically no outsiders, so the cattle herding means taking the cattle to a nearby grassy place, and setting the cattle fence so that it can go back without letting it run around. Well, just come back in the afternoon and take the cow back, it’s very simple.”

Zhang Yonglv said: "One cow can do this. If my more than 20 cows are all fenced in one place, the grass will not be enough for them to eat. They have to change places every two hours or so.

However, even if this is the case, it is much better than working outside, sitting under a tree and playing with the mobile phone, and when the nearby grass is almost eaten, drive the cows to another place, and then continue to play with the mobile phone.

Sometimes, when I am bored, I will bring some fried peanuts, melon seeds, etc., with two bottles of beer, and drinking slowly can also pass the time. "

Deng Jiuqi, who has worked outside for several years, said: "You are indeed much better than working outside."

Zhang Yonglu said: "Of course, there are also busy times, such as delivering cows and taking care of newborn calves, which are not easy tasks."

Deng Jiuqi looked at him and said boldly: "Brother Zhang, if you don't mind, I can take care of those newborn calves with you."

Zhang Yonglu didn't hesitate when he heard the words, and immediately answered, "It's fine if you don't dislike me, how could I dislike you, then let's herd cattle together from now on?"

Deng Jiuqi smiled and nodded: "Well, let's herd cattle together in the future!"

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