Rekindling looking back has been three lives

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A good boy can't do anything?
Yan Yishan's words made Zhang Wanlan feel annoyed in his heart, he clenched his fists on his knees and refuted.

He is a good boy. He has been living in the mouth of his parents as a "child from other people's family" since he was a child. He listens to the teacher's words and parents' words, studies hard and makes progress every day.

What happened to the good boy?
Who did the good boy provoke?

But in an instant, he extinguished the heart of arguing, sighed and then smiled self-deprecatingly.

Indeed, good boy.

Before the real crisis and major events, a good boy who is at a loss.

Facing the two major issues of his mother's high medical expenses and his own future, a good boy who is helpless.

Without this father, I'm afraid...

Zhang Wanlan didn't know what stupid thing she would do then.

Glancing sideways at the expression on his son's face, Yan Yishan smiled indifferently, and raised his finger, "Those who can make things happen, first of all, the first rule: Don't be afraid of things when things happen. If you encounter extraordinary times, you have to be a little bit extraordinary means.

I told you that I used to run freight and opened a freight company. "

Zhang Wanlan nodded, at this moment he also had to admire the father in front of him.

Back then, Yan Yishan also climbed up from the bottom of society step by step.

Now he also understands that for many things, the process is not important at all.

Sometimes, the absurd things when you are young are the capital you can brag to your children and grandchildren when you are old.

"My previous company once pulled a machine for a customer. After the customer checked and accepted it, he said it was damaged, and he opened his mouth and asked him to pay him 20 yuan.

We checked carefully for a long time, only to find that there are some slight wear and tear on the machine, but we can't see it at all unless we look carefully.

We wanted to reason with him, but the other party directly locked the wheels of our delivery truck.

We first found some acquaintances in the local area to reconcile. Unexpectedly, the other party's attitude was very tough, and he just dumped: 20 yuan, not a penny less!
We had no choice but to call the police. When the police came, they said it was an economic dispute and it was not under their control.

We consulted with a lawyer again, and the lawyer said that we can sue according to the formal procedure, but it will take time.

You have to know that the company doesn't have a few big cars in total, and they can't afford it at all. If this goes on, the company will even be dragged to death.

Son, if faced with such a situation, what would you do? "

Zhang Wanlan frowned, and put herself in Yan Yishan's position, finding it very tricky.

Fighting and not being able to fight, the police obviously don't want to get involved in such troublesome matters.

It's even unknown where the patrol's butt is sitting.

But being reasonable is useless. If others make it clear, you will be determined by being unreasonable.

Seeing his son scratching his head and scratching his face, Yan Yishan laughed out loud, "My boss at the time made a decision: grab the car.

That night, he took dozens of our brothers from the company with him, and I have to say here that the guy was not for fighting, but for self-defense.

Dozens of people rushed over while the moon was dark and the wind was high, smashed the lock, and drove the car back to the company. …

Then, he turned on all the headlights in the company, invited a bunch of neighbors to dinner, and waited for the other party to come.

If the other party comes to grab you, call the police immediately.If you don't want to grab it, sit down and talk about it.It wasn't much of a big deal at first, and I couldn't hold back the face of having to make a fuss, after all, it wouldn't be good for anyone if things got big.

In the end, it was all over.

At that time, my boss taught me this way: business competition is like this, there are too many jerks and bad things.If you don't have the heart of an asshole, you can't calm down this kind of asshole at all. "

Zhang Wanlan hissed.

He never expected that such an operation would exist in society.

Grab cars, grab goods, not black, not white.

This method sounds easy, but when you think about it, your brain is numb.

If there is any good or bad in the middle, large-scale fighting, it is too easy to cause accidents.

Yan Yishan smiled when he thought of his youthful years.

"Dad, that boss of yours is really smart." Zhang Wanlan couldn't help admiring after thinking about it.

Inviting neighbors to dinner is such a jerk!

The spirit of the Flying Immortal outside the sky made a fortune.

The intervention of a third-party force will cause problems at that time, and the patrols will not be able to stay out of it.

Yan Yishan sighed, "Unfortunately, he was killed by his son-in-law."

Zhang Wanlan was startled when she heard the words, but she couldn't say anything.

Obviously, this is another story of black eating black.

Yan Yishan shook his head and continued talking.

These old events had nothing to do with him, let alone his son.

"Speaking of which, I think of another story.

In other words, there was a boss who was robbed by robbers, and the boss asked his followers to chase him. No one dared to go, only a newcomer... Xiaoshan, a newborn calf is not afraid of tigers, so he went. "

Hearing this, Zhang Wanlan was stunned for a moment, and then the corner of his mouth twitched.

I am afraid……

This hill must be his father, Yan Yishan.

His son's playful eyes made Yan Yishan blush, but he continued, "When Xiao Shan chased after the robber, he was scared to death, but he saw the world's biggest secret from the robber's face.

That is, robbers will also be afraid.

The robbers thought that Xiaoshan must have two brushes if he dared to chase him alone.

So, without much effort, Xiao Shan subdued the robbers.

He suddenly realized that there are many smart people and capable people, but why are there so few successful people? "

After all, he fixedly looked at his son.

Zhang Wanlan frowned and thought for a while, then asked uncertainly, "Dad, are you trying to say that this world is actually a world where cowards run rampant?"

Yan Yishan nodded in satisfaction at his son's refined words, "You are right, this is the world of cowards. Everyone is afraid of failure, the strong, and unknown risks.

There are two forces in everyone's heart that are hedging, rationality and fear.

When a person is fearful, his IQ is 0, he will have no action power, and of course there will be no results.

And every fearful person must long for someone strong to lead him, so as to reduce his fear.After all, people have a stable mind, and who doesn't want to live a more stable life. …

Why do many people with low education become bosses, while those with high education work for those with low education?
The reason is: the low-educated people come from the bottom, the ignorant are fearless, the heart is a jerk enough, dare to fight and fight hard, but in the end they can kill a bloody road.

Of course, it’s not enough to just have the heart of a bastard. The underlying logic of the world’s operation is the allocation of resources. An ordinary person must have the ability to connect to more resources if he wants to succeed.

This requires the second quality, a mouth that can blow. "

Speaking of this, Yan Yishan laughed, "You diplomats actually all have this quality, and you have it too."

Zhang Wanlan opened her mouth to distinguish, how could she say that about diplomats who speak out for the country?

But in a blink of an eye, he found that he was a little bit speechless.

In the textbooks they used, there was a chapter called: The Art of Deceit.

They have risen to the level of art, and they are quite a gentleman.

"The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" is their must-read list, and it is also an intensive course.

In reading comprehension, the test is never the author's idea, but the idea of ​​the questioner.

Therefore, after the explanations given by those Tiantuan professors at the China Foreign Affairs University, what they read was another version of "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms".

In their eyes, "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" shows an era of diplomatic ups and downs, and an era when "benevolence and righteousness" are the loudest but the conspiracy has developed to the most mature.

This era, on the surface, is a contest of strength on the battlefield, but in fact it is a contest of deceit, power, deceit, and mind.

Yan Yishan didn't embarrass his son any longer, and continued, "I always thought that bragging is a necessary skill for a man to succeed.

You must have also felt that Wu Chuzhi can easily get what you can't make money in your life.With sweet words, you can catch up with the goddess you can never catch up with in your life.

Of course you want to be as chic and comfortable as him, but you can't.Don't talk about bragging, you kid will feel guilty for telling a little lie.

So the question is: why are you doing this? "

Yan Yishan's words made Zhang Wanlan's face flushed sickly.

He wanted to refute, but was unable to refute.

He really envied Wu Chuzhi, not only for money, background, but also for Wang Bingbing.

So he humbly asked, "Why?"

Yan Yishan lit a cigarette, took a deep breath, and then let it out slowly, "Son, please remember what I said now, this is the truth of society.

Because society has two sets of survival rules, you are imprisoned by the first one, which is the one taught to you by adults and schools.

There is not a class in school that will teach you how to make money, but it will teach you various life-making skills.

Because there are two essences of education: one is to remove the animal nature of children, put on human attributes, learn public order, good customs and social rules, so that you don't make trouble and don't mess around.

The other is to cultivate mature human resources for the society.

Note that the emphasis is on the word 'resource'.

In other words, in the social value system, you are the same as oil, coal, natural gas, and gold, and there is no difference.

The direction of training depends entirely on what the society needs at that time.

This is why the popular majors in our country are always changing, because what determines your value is not yourself, but the needs of society. …

This is a constraint on the surface.

There is also domestication in the dark.

This domestication comes from your circle.

The moral sense of the bottom people is like the claws of crabs, restricting and supervising each other.

Whoever lied, cheated, or crossed the line, you don't need to be sanctioned by the superior, and the spittle of the people around you can drown you.

In the end, you can neither escape your own cognition nor escape the oppression of those around you.

Because the education you have received is that you want face.

But look at those people who can make things happen, which one is shameful?
Which one didn't cut off his pliers and brag hard so that he could get more resource support?

For example, when Pengcheng Ma first founded Penguin, he pretended to be a girl and chatted with people online. Does this count as cheating?

Gome Huang, the richest man who just climbed to the top this year, made his first pot of gold in trading at NMG. I can tell you clearly that it was smuggling. Do you think it is a crime?
Mr. Ren was even worse. Hua Wei was almost unable to hold on back then, but he told the staff that when buying a house in the future, the living room can be small, the bedroom can be small, but the balcony must be large. "

After finishing speaking, he squinted at Zhang Wanlan, who had already been stunned, and explained with a smile, "Mr. Ren explained it this way, because he will make too much money in the future, and he should often put it on the balcony to dry in the sun, or it will get moldy." Are you fooling me when you say this?
These are the people who can get things done, and they all believe in the second set of survival rules.

They firmly believe that in this world, as long as you stand at the end, no one will care what posture you use to get here.

Therefore, bragging is nothing to them.

As long as things can be done, believe it or not, even a three-page PPT will dare to blow out three billion yuan.

This is not only showing your strength to others, but also connecting more possibilities, so why not do it?

Think about it, are those around you who are doing good business more or less more bragging than ordinary people? "

Yan Yishan's words made Zhang Wanlan silent for a long time, and then nodded with a gloomy face.

Indeed, a mouth that can brag is too important.

An honest person who can't speak will only suffer.

Aren't those scumbags still relying on a mouth that can brag, exporting emotional value to girls who are not deeply involved in the world that honest people can't provide?

Seeing that his son understood, Yan Yishan continued, "But bragging also depends on the occasion. The key is to have a good measure. How do you grasp the measure? The third characteristic is needed: a fickle face.

A man who can accomplish things has no face, because his face will appear differently on different occasions.

For example, run a business.

A junior salesperson always has a face, and he is afraid of customers to death, and he is all supported by a straight face.

Middle-level salesmen, their faces change occasionally, but they are not flexible, so you will find many salesmen, and the customers who can make deals will always be the same type of people.

As for the top salesman, he is what the customer is.

The customer likes to drink tea, he also likes to drink tea, the customer likes massage, he also likes massage.All the coincidences are planned, not because we are destined to have a good time.

Change a person, his hobbies and face, immediately change accordingly. …

And the order can't be wrong, speaking on stage is a face, and it must be able to suppress the situation.Drinking in private is another face, you have to know how to make jokes, and you have to be able to play.

This is not the end, sometimes, several faces need to be changed at the same time.When you see a child, you should be kind; when you see your parents, you should be filial; when you see your brother, you should let go; when you see your lover, you should be kind; "

Zhang Wanlan was silent for a while, then sighed, "Dad, it sounds exhausting. A man who can accomplish things, can't he just be himself and have to wear so many masks to satisfy everyone?"

Yan Yishan shook the ash into the cigarette case, curled his lips, "If you have this kind of thought, it means that you haven't seen the essence behind the mask.

In fact, every man with a fickle face has already seen through human nature, knowing that human beings not only have human nature, but also have animal and divine sides.

Switching at will is an appearance and a means, just for the convenience of achieving one's own goals.

In some occasions, you have to release your animal nature to draw in the relationship with each other, such as ktv drinking.On some occasions, it is necessary to talk about something divine, such as painting cakes for employees, and discussing grand plans with senior management.

For those close to you, you need to show your humanity, so that everyone feels that you are a warm person.

Ordinary people, as I just said, are bound by the first rule, usually only have a human face, and occasionally face animal situations, they will behave very unnaturally, and feel that it is against human reason.

They also want to do something big, but they are entangled in various mundane affairs, unable to raise their divinity, and in the end, they are just mediocre.

Let's talk about this matter in depth, fundamentally speaking, it's because you don't have firm ambitions, and you are fascinated again.

There should be no place to live, but a heart to live.

You can't switch at will, because you put all your attention on worldly concepts and your own face, and feel that it is too embarrassing to put on a flattering face.

And men who can achieve things don't think about these vain things. They must have a goal in their hearts and know what they want, so they can move freely.

Including your father and me, son, you also saw that day, although father is rich, he is nothing in front of the authorities.

I could have ignored him, but you are my son, your future, your future is worth more than my face.

Change the embassy for you, this is the goal of my visit, the others are not important. "

Yan Yishan's sincere words made Zhang Wanlan bite her lip tightly, pinched her thigh fiercely, and looked towards the roof of the car.

Poor old man, it's too tearful.

At this moment, he suddenly felt that the figure called 'Father' in his heart was completely plumped up, filling up everything in the past.

Seeing this, Yan Yishan hugged his son's shoulders, smiled and continued, "Wanlan, you don't know what you want, and you don't have a strong core of life, so you are always led away by outside ideas or others. Live according to the requirements of others, and you will gradually become a face.

And once a person is made into a face, that person is useless. "

After finishing speaking, Yan Yishan pointed to the hurried crowd outside the car window, "Son, I don't know if you have noticed, but now many people come from a long distance. Although you don't know him, you can tell his occupation at a glance. For example, this one sells insurance, that one sells houses, and that one does accounting.”

Zhang Wanlan followed his father's fingers and looked at them one by one.

Without checking, he also felt that Yan Yishan's judgment was indistinguishable.

"These people with facial makeup, you can ask him why he is alive, he can't explain clearly himself, he is a walking corpse in a daze. Therefore, he can only barely make ends meet, and can't make a big deal.

Therefore, people who can achieve great things are invisible in nature, but they have a strong heart, and their fickle faces are not faces. They are means of plundering resources, and everything is just to achieve the ultimate goal.

A jerk's heart, a blowing mouth and a fickle face are the three most important qualities for a man to succeed.These three characteristics are also the necessary abilities for ordinary people to break through the shackles of society and self-restraint. "

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