Reborn I just want to concentrate on studying

Chapter 147 The so-called emotional intelligence【6K】

Next week is the final exam, Yi Yang is lying on the bed thinking about something.

There is also a bottleneck in learning. After doing a few sets of test papers, I still found that I encountered an invisible wall.

Separately speaking, the scores other than Chinese and mathematics have been very stable. Among them, the scores in mathematics and English are the best. The mathematics can be over 130, and the English is a little bit worse, but it can also be maintained at 120. For Chinese, it depends on luck.Mainly on the reading comprehension questions, so far I still can't grasp the direction of answering the questions.Occasionally, the understanding is shallow, and occasionally the understanding is deep. It seems that it is not very good. This needs to do more questions, analyze and analyze more, and grasp the laws... Let's do this slowly.

In terms of minor subjects, physics and history are more important, and can be regarded as the main subjects, while geography and biology are relatively secondary, and they are more about learning some common sense.The difference can also be reflected in the scores. The full score of physics and history is 100 points, while the combination of biology and geography is only 100 points.

The total score is 750.

Of course, there are some differences in the teaching and examination of junior high schools in various places in China. Even within Jiangnan Province, it is difficult to unify among various prefecture-level cities.This score is based on the city test scores set by Heyang City.Before the high school entrance examination, the city-wide unified examination was rarely conducted, at least for now.

Now while I am studying, I am also thinking about the future direction... mainly about the division of arts and sciences.

The sooner you decide whether you will study literature or science in high school in the future, the more benefits you will have for your future studies.Of course, in the junior high school stage, we should try our best to balance. Finding a tendency to read literature and science while ensuring that we are not partial to subjects is something that should be considered at present.

This matter can be considered from two aspects, one is whether you are good at it or not, and the other is the prospect of the future.

Whether you are good at it or not, it is easy to think, just look at the results.At present, according to the division method of high school, there is no need to consider language and mathematics, after all, it depends on arts and sciences.The content of geography and biology at this stage is really simple, and the scores have no reference value, so it mainly depends on history and physics.

Yi Yang feels that history and physics are the standards for liberal arts subjects.

As far as physics is concerned, it can be said to be the end of all natural sciences.Whether it is chemistry or biology, the end of learning is actually physics.

History is inextricably linked with all social sciences.Especially in the process of learning history, mastering historical materialism is also very helpful for understanding other social sciences.From a certain point of view, it is not too much to say that history is the foundation of other social sciences.

And these two subjects... Well, from the point of view of scores alone, physics is better, but this is related to the problem pattern of liberal arts and science. A 98 in physics and 89 in history does not mean that physics must be better than history. More talented.After all, the only answer to science is objective existence, independent of human will.But history is not good, there are always subjective questions, let you talk about your point of view, when you answer the questions, you should be more subjective, and if the marking teacher is more subjective, the score will be subjective.

From the point of view of hobbies, the same cannot be seen.Of course I am interested in physics. After all, I have been dealing with cars for so long... But that is just elementary physics. Every time I listen to Luo Bing talking about some physics competitions, I seem to have only seen them on TV. The physical formula, that is the sea of ​​stars that he should pursue.

But is it not that you are not interested in history?Nor is it.Especially after ordering historical periodicals and patiently gnawing them down, the gorgeous and complicated history is also fascinating.Regarding history, it can be seen as a story. Whether it is a person, an event, or a thing that can leave a name in history, there is a story about it, each of which is soul-stirring, lamentable, or sad. The history of hatred, if you understand it carefully, it will really bring people a sense of family and country.

Sometimes Yi Yang even thinks that arts and sciences should not be divided into subjects, or that history should also be taken as a compulsory subject.Lu Xun said that young people should remain angry, and if they want to be angry, they should study history.

So so far, I just look at whether I am good at it, but I still can't see the direction I should choose in the future.

However, from the perspective of future choices, Yi Yang still prefers to study science.Because the choice of science majors to universities is wider, and they can get in touch with many cutting-edge fields of science and technology... In a sense, people who study science are the group of people who promote the progress of this society.

Perhaps, the best solution is to study science while maintaining the habit of reading history, and then learn a little philosophy...

Somewhat relieved, he felt that his cognitive ability had improved a lot.He didn't think about these things before. That's how people are. In learning bit by bit, they broaden their horizons, improve their ability to think and reason, subtly, and moisten things silently. At a certain moment, they feel the change and smile.

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In physical education class, Yi Xiaoqing sat alone in the stands, not far away were a few girls chatting together, she seemed out of place.

Looking at the playground, she was thinking about something.

After the midterm exam, Yi Xiaoqing never took the initiative to go to Yi Yang's house.That experience naturally dealt a big blow to her. Her cousin, whom she never looked down on at first, became a top student in the blink of an eye, and his grades ranked among the top [-] in their second year of junior high school, and he even got a prize from the school. Scholarship... It's not like I didn't have such a strong sense of gap, but this gap was brought about by Yi Yang, and my mood was even more complicated.

The attitude towards Yi Yang at this time is more of a kind of shame, not because of the feeling of shame, but because of all the things he shows off, which has become a joke to him, which is really a big blow to self-esteem .

It is difficult to say clearly what the attitude towards this cousin is at this time.From the time of the novels, my mother has always said that if Yi Yang and his family are not good here, it is not good there, and over time, she has also formed a stereotyped impression.A little earlier, last semester, Yi Yang even got into fights a few times, earning his reputation as a gangster... In short, his mother didn't like him very much.

But, is what mother said right?It used to be steadfast, but that was before.

She also went to the quiz competition and the New Year's Day party that day... It was quite shocking, she never thought that Yi Yang could stand in such a dazzling place.It's cool, but looking at Yi Yang on the stage, I'm not very happy.

Yi Xiaoqing has also entered puberty.

Yi Yang's changes created a huge sense of tearing in her.And she began to attribute all this to her mother Wang Hua's education.

She is getting more and more annoyed by her mother now. She can't see other things about her mother's personality yet, but judging from her own related aspects, she likes to criticize herself, and always preaches on a trivial matter. Really helpless, very angry... A few days ago, I talked back to her for the first time in my life, and I still haven't talked to her yet.

When she talked back, she didn't even think that this matter could be so cool.For a long time, I didn't dare to talk to my parents like this. I suppressed it for a long time, and it was a sudden release.When she spoke back, her mother froze for a long time, seemingly in disbelief.

Many things my mother said are wrong, and it is really tiring to blame myself every time.At first, she felt that what she said was wrong, and wanted to get angry at everything... So, Yi Xiaoqing sometimes felt that some things she said about Yi Yang were wrong.

But obviously, she didn't like Yi Yang not long ago... Or, she doesn't like it now, but she doesn't like Wang Hua's preaching even more, so she probably has a kind of rebellion of "I will accept what my mother objects to".It's just that this is against nature and will create a sense of tearing, which makes her painful.

And troubles one after another.She didn't know when it started, she found that everyone in the class didn't seem to like her very much, even the people in the dormitory didn't want to go with her... Is it because she hates herself for being poor?No, there are obviously people who are poorer than themselves, such as Zhao Yue'e, why is she always surrounded by people?

After hesitating for a while, she got up and went to the girls who were gathering not far away.

They were chatting gossip, what happened to a certain boy, what happened to a certain girl, what happened to a certain celebrity... She passed by, and everyone's expressions changed slightly, and then they exchanged a look... This detail, she Not even found.

"I also think that Chen Yiru is obviously so ugly, but so confident. Seeing him on "Base Camp" makes me angry."

"Yes, but I don't think Wang Dongcheng is very good-looking. In comparison, Wu Zun is still the most handsome."

Yi Xiaoqing listened to it for a while, and wanted to intervene. After thinking about it, she said something that she thought was rather humorous: "Ha...then your taste is quite strong~"

However, after she finished speaking, the faces of the girls changed slightly.The girl who spoke just now snorted coldly and said, "It's not as strong as your taste, who doesn't know how heavy your taste is."

Yi Xiaoqing was stunned for a moment, and suddenly tasted the offensive meaning in the other party's words, frowned and said, "What do you mean?"

"What do you mean?"

"I'm just kidding, are you so stingy?"

The girl on the opposite side was directly laughed out of anger, and said, "I just can't take a joke, I just don't want to listen to you, what's wrong?"

"you!"

"let's go."

Several girls silently glanced at Yi Xiaoqing, then they all got up and walked away together.

She stared blankly at the few people, gritted her teeth, and suddenly burst into tears.When everyone was gone, she got up silently, wiped away her tears, and glanced at the classmates who were resting in the playground in twos and threes, full of resentment, and began to fantasize about some unrealistic things in her mind... Many, many years later, her beautiful Unlimited, those guys who took the lead in hating him, all regretted it, and begged for forgiveness one by one... After fantasizing like this for a while, it seemed to feel better, but my heart was still sour.

I started to walk on the playground silently with my head down, and I kept thinking about those messy things... I walked to the door of the sports equipment room, which was far away from the crowd and quiet.There was a skipping rope on the ground, she picked it up, twisted it around, and kept making knots...subconsciously.

Suddenly there was a rather stern voice in my ear: "What are you doing!"

Yi Xiaoqing was startled, turned around, a physical education teacher, also the only female physical education teacher in the whole school, frowned and stared at herself.

The female teacher took the skipping rope in her hand, looked at the skipping rope with dozens of knots, and said angrily: "You students..." Before the criticism was spoken, she was stunned...

Because Yi Xiaoqing burst into tears.

The female physical education teacher, surnamed Wu, has the same surname as Wu Zetian. She is tall, nearly 1.8 meters tall, and her students affectionately call her Queen.She is a woman with a straightforward personality, and she became angry when she saw this scene, "Did I say you? Why are you crying! Are you so delicate?"

But not used to it.

Yi Xiaoqing was just crying, the messy emotions in her heart suddenly couldn't hold back at this moment, and poured out crazily.

Yi Xiaoqing's crying attracted several people who were helping to clean up the equipment in the equipment room.

Yi Yang, Zhang Bushou and Zhao Qiang.

They all heard the cries outside.

The physical education final exam has been going on for the past few days, so the equipment room has been messed up.Da Hei Niu wanted to find some errands to help clean up, because he had asked Da Hei Niu to help several times before, so when Da Hei Niu talked about this matter, Yi Yang basically didn't think about it, so he pulled Zhang Bushou and Zhao Qiang to ask I came here to work illegally after leave... people are mutual, if you don't want to help others, when you need help, no one will help you.

Yi Yang said, "I'll go out and see what's going on."

Zhao Qiang and Zhang Bushou nodded.

As soon as Yi Yang walked to the door, he was stunned when he saw Yi Xiaoqing.

Teacher Wu also saw Yi Yang, and he couldn't get angry for a while.Of course she knows Yi Yang. Her specialty is basketball. Last time she played a basketball game in the county, she was drawn to blow the referee. Later, she also watched the school finals. Yi Yang left a deep impression on her. impression.But this time, Yi Yang volunteered to help tidy up the equipment room, and chatted casually, and Yi Yang, who was comfortable in his conversation, made her feel even better.

Yi Yang asked: "Teacher Wu, what happened?"

Teacher Wu changed his expression towards Yi Yang, showed him the messy skipping rope, and explained seriously: "It's not a big problem. This girl did it, and I didn't say anything, and she cried... ..." Turning around and staring at Yi Xiaoqing: "Did I scold you or hit you? Are you crying so sadly? Are you a student in the first grade?"

The female teacher, the teacher, spoke softly to Yi Yang, and changed her demeanor as soon as she faced her. This scene naturally fell into Yi Xiaoqing's eyes. She didn't have time to think why Yi Yang appeared here, she just felt more wronged , crying sobbing...

Teacher Wu also has some headaches... She has always been straightforward and has a bold personality, and she is not very good at handling such things. She came out at this time because she was in a hurry, and she couldn't help being even more angry when she was delayed here. She was about to say something at this moment Yi Yang interjected: "Teacher Wu...let me handle it."

Teacher Wu glanced at Yi Yang unexpectedly.

"You deal with it?"

"She... hey, my cousin."

Teacher Wu was slightly taken aback, it would be much easier if she was a cousin.According to the tradition of their family, if you are playing petty temper yourself, you should be beaten up by your cousin.She nodded and said, "Okay, discipline your cousin." After speaking, she ignored Yi Xiaoqing who was still crying, and walked away.

I saw Yi Yang walked up to Yi Xiaoqing, silently picked up the skipping rope, and untied those knots one by one. Halfway through, she was caught by Yi Xiaoqing, who had stopped crying and just bit her looking at him with pursed lips.

Yi Yang sighed slightly, and didn't discuss this matter with her.Ask: "Physical education class?"

Yi Xiaoqing looked at her cousin in front of her, feeling an indescribable emotion in her heart, and nodded silently.

Yi Yang pointed to the skipping rope: "Idle is idle, if you get rid of it, come in with me to pack up the equipment."

Yi Xiaoqing was silent for a long time, Yi Yang regarded her as agreeing, and turned to go in... At this moment, she heard her voice behind: "Yi Yang... am I annoying?"

Yi Yang was slightly taken aback, then turned around and saw Yi Xiaoqing looking at himself with very complicated eyes.To be honest, for a long time, he didn't like his cousin, but he hated Wang Hua even more.But no matter how you say it, Wang Hua is not related to him by blood, while Yi Xiaoqing is, even very close.This is the case in a small place, where the patriarchal relationship tied by blood is vividly reflected, which cannot be separated no matter what.

Yi Yang sighed, decided to have a good chat with her, and said, "Wait for me." Then he took the skipping rope away, walked in and threw it to Zhang Bushou: "Untie the knot, you two will be busy for a while, I will go out for a while."

Zhao Qiao asked, "What's wrong?"

"It's nothing, I'll buy you some drinks."

"Okay... let's go."

After coming out, Yi Xiaoqing still maintained the same posture just now, but lowered her head, and said again: "Am I annoying?"

Yi Yang said, "Let's go for a walk."

Yi Xiaoqing hesitated for a moment, then nodded silently.

The two started aimlessly on the playground track.After walking for a while, Yi Yang said, "You...you are not bad."

In fact, how bad is a person like Yi Xiaoqing's nature?Children before puberty are the mirror of their parents when they conduct themselves in the world. They copy what they say and do from their parents. The way parents communicate directly affects their children.If the parents are soft-spoken and considerate of other people's feelings, their children will probably do the same.If the parents talk in a reasonable and unforgiving way, and go online with little things, then there is a high probability that the child will become a person who likes to attack personally.

The essential reason is that the way parents speak will directly make children feel that it is a normal way of communication.

For example, his cousin is criticized by Wang Hua online every day because of some trivial things, such as not washing socks, "lazy people who can't support the wall with mud, dirty criticism." Well, Yi Xiaoqing has something to learn In the same way, in school, because the classmate said that he wanted to lose weight and did not persist, he would scold him: "Look, I know that you are a person who gives up halfway."

Who would like it?

Yi Yang has already experienced many times that Yi Xiaoqing has risen from one incident to the evaluation of other people's personality.

And all of this, she may not even notice it.

People like Yi Xiaoqing often need many years to grow up, hit enough walls, and then one day become that kind of flattering personality.The pleasing personality does not mean pleasing everyone, but "giving the best side to strangers and the worst side to those closest to you." Then, with a high probability, this way of communication will continue to be passed on to the next generation. generation.

Yi Yang suddenly felt lucky.Neither his grandma nor his father, whom he didn't remember much, were not that kind of person. Their social habits gave him a very high ability to detect and even control other people's emotions...Emotional intelligence.The essence of emotional intelligence is not eloquence, but many people like to confuse the two.

Yi Xiaoqing said, "Then why..."

"Why are people always targeting you, even isolating you? Isn't it?"

Yi Xiaoqing was startled, and looked at Yi Yang incredulously, as if saying, how do you know?
Yi Yang thought for a while and said, "I have a question for you."

"Um……"

"You skipped a knot today... Then I said, you are a guy who can't control his hands and has nothing to do with his brain."

"I'm just..." Yi Xiaoqing tried to explain.

"You're just feeling uncomfortable, probably because you've just been wronged by other places... Then you tied a knot for the skipping rope, and it's just subconscious. I know."

Yi Xiaoqing looked at him: "Then you...you still say that..."

Yi Yang smiled slightly: "So, the previous sentence, because you knotted the rope. I can judge you. Have you found out where the problem is?"

Immediately, Yi Xiaoqing was stunned.

Many images flashed through my mind at once.

"Then you have a strong taste..."

"I knew that you were a loser."

"You're wearing black, you must be a shady person..."

There are all kinds of scenes, and there are more scenes that satirize others... Enlightenment is in a flash.For a moment, she felt a sudden sense of shock, but then she felt deep fear...Have she said so many hurtful words before she knew it?And every time, he seems to be complacent about his "wit".

Looking at Yi Yang again, his expression was extremely complicated.

Yi Yang didn't say a word, but seeing her expression, she felt a little comfort in her heart... Of course, she can't say that she can change all of a sudden, but as long as she can be aware of her own problems... Slowly, there will still be problems. change.

At this time, the two walked to the school cafeteria, where there was a canteen.

Yi Yang went in and bought a few bottles of drinks, threw a bottle to Yi Xiaoqing, and said: "It doesn't matter, when you speak in the future, just go through it in your head before speaking, don't easily define a person. "

For a while, Yi Xiaoqing felt extremely ashamed of her low EQ, took the bottle of water, and remained silent.At this moment, she also realized that even though Yi Yang was talking about her own problems, she didn't feel uncomfortable at all.

He didn't say that he had low EQ or no brains because of this incident.

Yi Yang said again: "For chatting, it's about telling stories and talking about feelings. Don't always throw out your opinions, but also have to be accepted by others." After finishing speaking, he also knew what he said, and she definitely needed to digest it. In fact, I'm not sure how much my cousin can listen to, but she said with a smile: "I have to go over there for a while, so I won't accompany you."

Yi Xiaoqing nodded silently.

Yi Yang left, she turned her head and glanced at Yi Yang's back, then silently held the bottle of drink, and whispered something...

"Thank you."

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