Affectionate trapping

Chapter 9 The Boy Who Can't Make Friends
Wenxi's life began to go step by step, except for the unreal feeling on the first day, and then gradually adapted to the current life.

Especially looking at the familiar faces of some consultants, she also slowly regained her senses.

But today something changed - a person who had never seen in the previous life came.

Although she didn't know why some places were different from before, she didn't think too much or entangled. After all, the development of things is an uncertain factor, and it may have different consequences because of someone's difference of thought.

The person who came was a 17-year-old boy, wearing black-rimmed glasses and a sky-blue school uniform. There were a few obvious pimples on his forehead, and his entire face looked delicate.

When the boy came over, he first looked around anxiously, inspected the four walls, and then sat down.

Wenxi's psychological counseling room was arranged by herself. She found someone who can paint walls and decorated the whole room into a forest-themed room.

There are luxuriant trees and colorful small animals on the wall. The golden light passes through the gaps in the leaves and forms a beam of light. One wall is painted with a winding stream, drinking deer and white deer with feathers. swan.

There are also several pots of green radishes in the room, and the windows are facing the sun. If the weather is good, a large amount of bright sun will pour in, and the breath of nature will be rich and full, making people feel very comfortable and refreshed when looking at it.

It is easy for people to relax in a natural environment. After sitting for a while, the boy was not as nervous as he was when he came in.

On Wenxi's table are freshly poured warm water, a box of tissues, and a box of fruit candies wrapped in colorful sugar paper.

She looked at the boy and smiled gently, "Hello."

Wen Xi is very beautiful, the kind of non-aggressive beauty, especially when she smiles, she is like a spring breeze, and she feels like a lady in the Republic of China.

Many people easily let go of their guard when facing her. The young man clasped his fingers and introduced himself: "My name is Min Jiayou, and I am 17 years old."

Wen Xi pushed the water glass over: "Drink first."

"Thank you."

"What question do you want to ask?"

"I..." He lowered his head, "I don't know."

Wen Xi was slightly silent: "Then let's chat."

He looked up: "What are you talking about?"

"Whatever you want, you can do whatever you want, things in your studies, things in your life, or your friends, your family, your classmates."

Min Jiayou was a little confused, as if he didn't know what was wrong.

And Wen Xi didn't say anything this time, but looked at him tenderly.

This is called the silence effect in psychology. If you ask a question and the other party does not answer, then just look at him.

Finally, he spoke slowly: "I am studying in No. [-] Middle School in the city. I am a sophomore in high school. I study very well. I am the top three in the class. My family likes me very much. I... have no friends."

She asked, "Are you unwilling to make friends?"

"No." He bit his lower lip: "I really want to make friends, and I try to get to know them. It was okay at first, but after a long time, they all started to alienate me. I don't know why."

"Have you had any trouble with them?"

"No, I never quarrel with my classmates."

After listening, she didn't express her opinion, but changed the subject: "Why do you want to come for psychological counseling today?"

"My mother asked me to come. She thinks that I have been in a bad mood recently and I am always absent-minded. I am afraid that it will affect my study."

"Then why are you in a bad mood? Is it because you can't make friends?"

"It's not, it's not." He hesitated, looked up, but saw Wen Xi looking at him seriously, he was encouraged, and said: "I told my mother that I couldn't make friends, and she said, I will not make friends in the future. I want to go abroad. Even if I have friends now, I will leave here. It’s not right now, so I won’t be sad when we part. She said that I will make better friends in the future, and told me that the road of the strong is always lonely. But the person who has always been the first in the exam has many friends."

Wen Xi probably knows now.

He couldn't make friends for some reason, and went home to tell his mother, who, instead of finding a solution to the problem, told him he didn't need friends.

But for adolescents, friends are indispensable in their growth.

In addition, there is a person who is better at studying than him for comparison. The other party has better grades than him, but there are many friends, who directly refute the mother's sentence "the road of the strong is lonely".

She raised a question again: "Then have you ever told your mother that you really want to make friends?"

"...No, I know it's useless even if I say it, she will just tell me that I don't need friends, she will say that I will go abroad in the future."

"Do you want to go abroad?"

This time he stopped for a long time without replying.

Wen Xi smiled and said, "Don't worry, no third person will know what we said today."

Only then did Min Jiayou mutter: "I...don't want to."

"I don't want to go abroad. I don't understand why I have to go abroad. My mother's job is in China. When I go out, I have to be alone in a foreign country... and my English is not that good. I will have trouble communicating and making friends. I don't even know anyone..."

"Have you told your mother about this?"

"No, she will scold me."

It seems that all his problems are actually caused by his mother.

Parents have control over their children. A strong and domineering mother will normally breed two kinds of children, either rebellious or cowardly.

And he is the latter, resigned and cowardly.

"Where's your father?" she asked.

"My father is very good, but he is very afraid of my mother. My mother is in charge of my family."

"Have you talked to Dad about these things?"

"No, it's useless to say it, he can't be the master."

"Jiayou, I'll teach you how to make friends, and after you go back, tell your father what you think in secret, okay?"

"Ah?" He was a little puzzled: "Why did you tell Dad and not Mom? He can't make the decision."

Wen Xi chuckled: "Aren't you unwilling to tell mom? Then tell dad, it doesn't matter anyway."

Indeed, it would be easier to talk to my father than to my mother. He struggled and said, "Can you really help me make friends?"

She didn't give a definite answer, but said, "Now tell me about how you make friends with people. Just tell me about your former friends."

"Ok."

In the time that follows, Min Jiayou tells the story of three friends who once made friends and then became estranged.

Wen Xi also heard the crux of the matter. Although he has good grades, he has low self-esteem. He always thinks that he is not good enough. He is hypocritical, even deliberately so annoying.

In addition, he always thinks that he wants to go abroad, thinking that he will cut off contact with them anyway, just like his mother said, "It will be sad when we part in the future", so he will have reservations when interacting, which causes "he Not really making friends with them” is an illusion.

　Shen Yuli: Can you let me see my wife?
　　Qingqing: Don't yell, she's engaged in business

　　Shen Yuli: I am a love brain, let me see my wife
　　Qingqing: ... All right, create your own opportunity to go
　　Shen Yuli: Creation is Creation

　　
　
(End of this chapter)