Affectionate trapping

Chapter 92 Life Itself
Wen Xi nodded: "So most of the arguments we have with our parents are meaningless, especially for such profound concepts."

"Then even if I don't discuss this topic with her, it has always existed. Shouldn't it be avoided forever?"

"The problem of communication with parents is a problem that most people will have. Disagreements between us and our parents are common. However, there are many ways to talk to parents. You are all trying to persuade each other, and the two hold their own opinions. , and finally found that the conversation has been around the origin without any progress."

Zhou Weilin asked, "Am I also in my parental ego state at that time?"

"Yes." Wen Xi smiled and praised: "You have a good understanding and are good at thinking."

She smiled: "Really?"

"Well, in fact, your problem is easy to solve, especially in the face of you who are good at thinking."

"Then how can I solve my mother's problem?"

"My suggestion is, don't solve it."

"Ah?" She was puzzled: "Not resolved?"

"Because there is no solution now, the root cause cannot be resolved, and no matter how much you argue, it will not help."

Wen Xi looked into her eyes: "The root of your argument is that you are not living well now. She thinks that you have given up a life that should have been good. She thinks that your pain is self-inflicted. Whenever you complain to her about life , she will reaffirm, 'Look, you don't listen to me, now you are suffering.'”

Zhou Weilin sighed: "It's like this, she just thinks that I'm asking for it now, and it's all the result of not listening to her."

"So the only thing you can do is to live a good life, show her how you live, and let her know that your choice is actually the right one."

She lowered her eyelashes, very depressed: "I also want to live a good life, but I'm just sad now, otherwise I wouldn't come here today."

"Is your current accommodation environment still very bad?"

"It's better than before. I found someone to rent together. The place is a little smaller, but the environment is good." She said: "I sold the bag that the scumbag gave me before, and saved a lot of money, but I can't live like before. It’s like being extravagant, returning to the social animal life of ordinary people.”

Wen Xi's eyes became softer: "When you came here before, it seemed that you couldn't bear the life without your boyfriend, as if you couldn't live without him, but now, your life is still running without him. The world isn't falling apart like you thought it would."

"Yeah... But I encountered other unbearable things. I lost my feelings, and I started to run around for my career."

"I don't know why, every time I think the turning point is about to usher in the light, life will teach me a lesson again, I don't know if it will get better in the future, and I don't know what's the point of persisting now , I feel that it seems that nothing is good, I might as well just let it go bad, but if it keeps going bad, who will support me, don't I have to beg for food?"

Wen Xi whispered: "Alfred de Sousa said: 'For a long time, my life seemed to be about to start. But there are always some obstacles in the way, some things need to be solved first, some work There’s still work to be done, time seems to be running out, there’s a debt to pay, and then life will begin. Finally I understand that these obstacles, are my life.’”

She trembled in her heart, feeling a deep sympathy for these words.

"So, these setbacks, these twists and turns, are your life itself. I can't tell you whether it will get better in the future. You can't change your life. All you can do is to adapt to it."

Zhou Weilin pursed her lips, "It's so hard, I don't know what the meaning of my future is, I sometimes miss the time when I was in love before, and I have love things to share my attention, but I know I can't look back .”

"Then start another relationship."

"I don't believe in love anymore." She said dejectedly: "I don't know if I still have the courage to love someone again."

"Life is alive, what you need to do is enjoy, enjoy the present, you don't know what the future holds, and the past is lost. All you can do is face the present, don't worry about the past, don't worry about the future. Only now, this moment , is truly your own.”

Zhou Weilin sniffed: "So should I find someone new and start a new relationship?"

"It's up to you, too. Think about what you really need."

"I want to leave, I think this job is not suitable for me, I can't adapt, but reason tells me that I should not escape."

"It's not shameful to escape, and it's not considered an escape, but a choice." Wen Xi paused, and then said, "But you have to think about whether this is your final answer. In the last job, You quit on impulse, regret it later, and now you have a new job and you want to leave, do you regret it later?"

"I..." She intertwined her fingers and pursed her lips tightly, "Well, actually... the current job is still very good, with high salary and good employee benefits."

"It's not that unbearable when you think about it, is it?"

"Well, I just feel like life's been very unfair to me."

"Everyone thinks that life is unfair to themselves. All you can see is the good of others, so you wonder why others are so good, but you are so bad? Perhaps, others see you in the same way. Think about it, you Is it really worse than everyone else?"

Zhou Weilin thought back calmly, thinking of a friend of hers who was cheated out of money by a scumbag and was heavily in debt, crying all day long; there was also a married friend who did housework and took care of children all day long, and looked ten years older. A few years old, no longer as glamorous as before.

In comparison, she has no debts and no enmity, much luckier than them.

"I don't seem to be that bad."

"When you look at the people and things around you with the thought of 'I'm good, he's good' instead of 'I'm not good, he's good', you will become much more comfortable."

Zhou Weilin thought deeply, and finally said: "I know, I will look at life from a different perspective when I go back, and I can't be led by life. If I really find that this job is not suitable for me, I will resign without regret, but I I won't be so impulsive anymore."

Wen Xi smiled: "Ms. Zhou, you are not as fragile as you think. On the contrary, I think you are very tenacious. Whenever you go to the edge of the cliff, you will pull yourself back again. In fact, think about it, you can The twists and turns of the peaks and turns, the willows are dark and the flowers are bright, is it not a success again and again?"

"You've beaten life many times over."

She fixedly looked at Wen Xi, her eyes were a little moved.

　For a long time, it seemed like my life was about to begin.But there are always obstacles in the way, something to be done first, some work to be done, time seems to be running out, there is a debt to pay off, and then life will begin.In the end, I finally understood that these obstacles were my life.

　　— Alfred DeSousa
　　
　
(End of this chapter)