I go north, you go south

Lin Shuwen was not in a hurry either.She calmly put down the cup, and let out a slight breath: "Now I want you to talk about the beginning and end of this relationship from the beginning to the end, just to let you have a clear understanding."

"First of all, let you figure out why you failed, and learn how to learn from a fall. Secondly, let you ponder for yourself, what is the difference between an ideal love and a realistic marriage. Why did you think that you could go to the end with him with joy, but it ended like this.

"Let me tell you, when everyone falls in love when they are young, they think they are going to get married, but most of them end in a hurry. If you have never understood what kind of boy is worth entrusting to you, and you are unwilling to face the previous failed relationship, then no matter how many times you fall in love in a daze, you may be hurt again and again."

Lin Shuwen leaned slightly and patted the desktop: "It's like correcting a wrong question after an exam, the score can't be changed, but you still have to seriously study the reason for the mistake.

"If you don't discover your mistakes in time, don't figure out what kind of person you need and where your bottom line is; and you will always continue to treat the next relationship in this 'stand still' state, then I can tell you clearly that you are probably just wasting time by changing someone else.

"When I say this, you may refute that the most beautiful 'love' should be an 'unexpected encounter', the so-called 'meeting the right person at the right time'. But what do you think is the success rate of this extremely idealized 'love'? Aren't you and that Zhang Ziying a vivid example? And people are very fragile, and every failed relationship is a great injury. Now your state can also directly explain it."

"The most important thing is that a relationship that is only maintained by 'love' is absolutely not secure."

Lin Shuwen frowned slightly, with serious eyes: "Love is something that will 'degenerate' in day-to-day life. Some people will 'part ways' in this process, but many people will even become more in love. This is the existence of 'appropriate' and 'inappropriate' in a relationship.

"Why do you say that husbands and wives are not afraid of quarrels, but afraid of cold wars? Why do many first loves fail to reach the end? It is because they are 'inappropriate' in the end. Quarrels show that two people are still getting along. The cold war is tantamount to incongruity. For 'first love', when both parties are young and have not experienced feelings, from 'ignorant' to 'mature', a person will go through a lot and change a lot after all.

"In this process, I will gradually be different, and the other party will also change a lot. When the thoughts, bottom line, and concepts are all fixed, there may be very few people who can still fit so well."

"Xiao Huan, you still have enough time to meet your ideal love and find the one who is really suitable and you are willing to spend your whole life with him."

Speaking of this, Lin Shuwen's tone softened rarely: "It is indeed painful to recall a relationship that gave you all your heart but ended in failure. But if you don't sum up the experience in the previous relationship, many of your own thoughts will not be corrected. If you continue this blind and intuitive search, you will only gradually exhaust your relationship in the end."