Going through the book and raising younger siblings

Chapter 140 Tutoring
139. Tutor
"The mistake many parents make is that they give the other party the carrot they think is good, instead of the meat and bones that the other party needs, so your love for the other party can't be felt, because your love is wrong, and you blame the child for not being grateful."

Parents should be compassionate to their children. What is compassion?Compassion is to give happiness to the other person, and compassion is to help the other person get rid of pain. Life is hard. As a parent, if you really love your child, you should help your child get rid of pain, make him happy, and provide him with schooling. It is also a kind of compassion to let him choose a way of life that suits him, and it is also a kind of compassion to make use of his strengths..."

Seeing Aunt Qiao lowered her head in thought, Zhang Yu suddenly realized something.

"Auntie Qiao, look, I'm just a middle school student, and you are a university teacher. Am I out of sorts? I'm sorry to make you laugh."

"No no, big girl, as I said before, you are above me in terms of wisdom and knowledge. You are not like a 17-year-old high school senior. Before I met you, I believed that hard work can make up for weakness. Now I believe that some things are innate. For example, my son is not a material for reading. I insisted on forcing him to read, which almost killed me. But you are very talented. This is an ordinary person. No matter how hard you try, you can’t surpass it.”

Zhang Yu's actual mental age is already 30 years old, and she came from later generations. The amount of knowledge and information of later generations is far incomparable in this age. Naturally, she will understand many things that people of this age do not understand , it's just a matter of poor information, not that she's gifted.

Zhang Yu could only talk nonsense: "No, Aunt Qiao, you have won the prize, I just like reading books, especially books on psychology, because I am afraid that the education will not be good and my younger brothers and sisters will be delayed, so I don't care about children's psychology. I am interested in education and have studied some knowledge in this area.”

Aunt Qiao believed Zhang Yu's words: "Really? Is there such a book? Can you lend it to me?"

"I saw it from the library, you go to the library to have a look!"

She took out the paper and pen: "What's the name of the book?"

Zhang Yu didn't expect her to be so serious.

"I've read a lot, but I can't remember the specific name. It's a book on adolescent psychology."

Auntie Qiao took it down seriously.

Zhang Yu is a little ashamed. I don’t know if there are any books on this topic in the library at this time. If there are, I’m afraid they are some textbook-like obscure and boring books with strong technical terms. Unlike later generations, there are so many down-to-earth books. This book on psychology is easy to understand, interesting, and very practical.

Seeing that Zhang Yu fell silent, Aunt Qiao said: "Say it! Big girl, tell me about what you have learned from the book. You have taught your younger siblings so well, which shows that the method you learned is correct. It is advisable that you introduce more and let me learn."

The knowledge about educating children in later generations is overwhelming. Zhang Yu plans to marry Xia Yunbo. My aunt made that big call.

Since she likes to listen, let's spread the word to her. Based on her understanding of her two contacts, she is the kind of person who is strict in life, strict with herself and her children.

For this kind of person, she has experienced the benefits of self-discipline and hard work, so she feels that as long as children behave like her, they will be as good as her.

"Parents raise their children, as Confucius said, make the most of the situation, follow the trend, discover the advantages, ignore the shortcomings, if your child is an eagle, let him soar in the sky, if he is a fish, let him Let him swim in the water, if you only let the fish fly, or let the eagle swim in the water according to your own preferences, it can only be a tragedy."

"Then my son, what are his advantages?"

"I just got in touch, I don't know, you raised him for more than ten years, don't you know?"

"Big girl, I'm really ashamed. I only saw his shortcomings before, but never thought about what other advantages he has."

"From now on, keep your eyes open and look with a magnifying glass. One day, you will find out where his strengths lie."

Zhang Yu continued the tea for Aunt Qiao.

Aunt Qiao took a sip.

"Big girl, listening to you is better than ten years of reading! As an educator, I am really ashamed! I have taught and educated people for most of my life, but I have not educated my children well. In other words, my education method It's completely wrong, before I met you, I always felt that I had a clear conscience for my child, why the child didn't become a talent, it was because God gave me a stupid child."

"Every child is an angel and has his own unique mission. As a parent, send him to his own track, so that he can live out his own splendor."

"That's very good, big girl, university, would you like to be admitted to our school? We are a normal university, and after graduation, we will teach and educate people. You should be a teacher in the future. If you are a teacher, you will put a lot of What a great thing it is for children to be sent to their own orbit and live their wonderful lives."

Zhang Yu was a little confused.

She was admitted to university just to get a diploma and to let Li Jiahui accept her as her daughter-in-law. She couldn't make up her mind about what major to study, let alone what career she would pursue in the future.

Her original intention was to make a lot of money and then lie flat. She didn't want to have a job, and she clocked in to work step by step every day.

"If you want to go to our school, I can help you get a recommended spot."

Zhang Yu waved his hand.

"No, I tutored Guodong with homework. Teacher Miao knew it, and other people must know it too. In the end, you got me a university admission quota. In this way, it will become a deal between the two of us, which will not affect your reputation badly. It's not good for uncle."

"How could it be! It is a fact that you have good academic performance, and it is obvious to all that you have educated your younger brothers and sisters so well. This recommendation spot is not mixed with any water, and it is well deserved. My proposal , is based on the meaning of cherishing talents, without any personal selfishness."

"I know, but other people don't think so!"

"Is it because you don't want to be a teacher?"

"I never thought about becoming a teacher, but your proposal moved me a little bit. Let me think about it. Even if I go to your school, I have to take the exam based on my own ability."

(End of this chapter)