No one can disturb my retirement life in the Red Mansion

"For example, the full payment of the dowry is 36 levies. Here we have to mention the earliest dowry. It is not really something that a woman will use in her life. In the Zhou ceremony, getting married is a representative of adulthood, which means that the two people can afford a family. , can become someone else's parents.

Because of this, the earliest betrothal gifts and dowry are approximately equal to the parents of both parents giving their children independence and preparing start-up funds.

It is extravagant for the man to prepare a house, and more than three dowry gifts for the woman; then the woman prepares furniture, necessary daily necessities, and if she is more careful, she also prepares some means of production so that the young couple can stand on their own.

Now that they are all engaged, the woman has to send someone to the man's house to measure the house and fill it up.Daily necessities such as washbasins, toilets, and bedding must be in pairs.Said that these things are not just for the woman alone.

When these things are ready to be completed, it means that the young couple has the basic configuration for an independent life, which also means that they have a certain amount of private property.

I don't know when, there began to be a saying that dowry is something that a woman will use in her life.Then there are 72 lifts, 108 lifts...

So some unlimited upwards!There is no shortage of food, clothing, housing, and transportation, and I have to pay my daughter money for the farm, shop, and box.

There is another saying about pressing box silver. It was actually a pure gold coffin at first. What does this mean? When our daughter dies, this small coffin is used to pay for her funeral...

It really doesn't need your in-law's family for every stitch and thread!
It looked like he was talking about the Yue family's love and distress for their daughter.This is actually good or bad, good is obvious, the daughter holds a lot of dowry and holds her head high in her husband's house.But can you be happy?Here I have to say that in a marriage, the weak one will always be the woman. It’s useless if you have money or if you don’t have money.

The point is how many people like this are there?If there is a trend of comparison, how does the dowry compare between the same family with many children and the only daughter?In case a family with exhausted internal resources or no money to marry an equal family, then marrying an unequal family is actually no different from selling a girl? "

Ou Mengmeng shook her head while talking, as if she didn't see anyone talking about Xiong Xing's arrival.

"Old lady, why don't I take my little aunts to study?" Qin Keqing picked up the time for the old lady to take a breath, and hurriedly hammered Ou Mengmeng's back, and said with a smile.In fact, it is to tell the old lady to stop talking, and look at the poor woman who notified her.

"Really, a filial family, how can you let a foreigner enter at will." Ou Mengmeng gave Qin Keqing a supercilious look, and turned to the woman, "Take him to see the elder, and say that I'm asleep."

The mother-in-law didn't even have a second word, she just went out to answer.

Ou Mengmeng took a sip of water, and was about to talk about the dowry. In fact, she really felt that the dowry culture, ancient and modern, had the same views.They are all saving up for young people. For example, the dowry later was double the dowry. In fact, many families let their daughters take the dowry with the same dowry. This is a typical awareness.

But then, it seems to slowly change the taste.That's it, everyone wants to make the other party's private, but they must not share it with the other party.

He was about to continue, but when he saw the people below, including Yuan Chun, staring at him.

"The time is wrong!" Ou Mengmeng pointed to the hour.Everyone looked at the time together, most of them were still at a loss, thinking about it, "It's only an hour before Princess Longchang leaves, and today is not a holiday, and it is impossible for Xiong Dashi and Xiong Hanlin to be at home at noon. This is Xiong's luck." , I saw them, so I instigated their mother-child relationship. I haven't even seen the boss today, so it is appropriate for him to meet the boss, both emotionally and rationally."

"It seems that life is full of knowledge." Baochai really admired, now she really admires the old lady.

Everyone also looked at the big clock together, thinking about it, if Princess Longchang had just returned home, then there should be only Xiong Er waiting for the letter at home.Then in just one hour, the time spent on the Longchang princess’s road, the time to go home to change clothes, the time to eat lunch, and the time for Xiong Er to arrive at Jia’s mansion, then, the time they can talk (dispute) is just as much. Very limited.At this moment, isn't the old lady uncomfortable seeing him?The point is, it doesn't do anything practical.Because of this time, apart from quarreling, mother and child can't reach any agreement.

"But it's still very good, at least I know that Mr. Xiong really has a deep affection for Eldest Aunt." Qin Keqing smiled happily, patted the back of Yuan Chun's hand lightly, with a teasing expression on her face.

"So you really need to study hard with Brother Rong's daughter-in-law. At the point of time, what I saw was the discord between mother and child, and what Brother Rong's wife saw was the sincerity of Mr. Xiong Erxiang. It's very good!" Ou Mengmeng hurriedly started Praise Qin Keqing.

"Then, will the princess agree?" Tanchun was still feeling uneasy. She felt that since her grandmother had already identified Mr. Xiong Erxiang, then, if she got out of the game, the big sister would be the one who was unlucky.

"So I started to choose others. There are hundreds of women begging in a family, and men are almost the same. If you don't come and beg on your knees, I will not marry you off. The harder it is to beg, the more cherished it is. This is what I and I said in the morning. The princess's offensive and defensive focus, we all hope to cherish our children." Ou Mengmeng smiled and shook her head, "So the princess is right to do this, don't you think I was wrong just now. Marriage is a game, understand? ? You will also be mistresses in the future, so you have to watch this time carefully so that you can use it in the future. Of course, do you know where the most difficult point in this game is?"

Ou Mengmeng looked at the children below, but her eyes stopped on Tanchun.

Tanchun's heart trembled, but he dared not speak.

"Trust, trust from your family, and your own self-confidence. You have to believe that you deserve the best. If I fight in the front, you stab me in the back and run away with someone, what should I do? What if I feel bad, so I turned it down, you hate me, think I ruined your happiness, what should I do?"

"How is that possible?" Lin Daiyu looked puzzled, "We step on one foot, lift on the other hand, with many doors, who are we going to elope with? Even if the adults talk about marriage, they won't tell us. In fact, the old lady told us so. It's not in line with etiquette."

"Not bad, not bad, really good, I will think about it." Ou Mengmeng smiled, and nodded her nose, "It's against etiquette for me to do this, it's because I'm old, I don't have time to teach you slowly. What’s more, I’m also afraid that when you choose people, I’ll be gone, and by then, you’ll have to rely on yourself. So I have to teach you all of this!”

Yuan Chun hugged Ou Mengmeng gently, feeling a little sad.

"Only by being self-reliant and self-improving can you save yourself." Ou Mengmeng ignored Yuan Chun, took a scroll, and gently knocked each of the five little girls, her girls, don't belittle yourself.Their self-confidence is not easily destroyed by a little dowry.Although she will also prepare dowry for them, she has to help these children build up their self-confidence first.

If someone really came to propose, I wish I could die for my confidant!I have only met a few men, and, among the men they have met, is there a good man in the Jia family?
I like Tanchun, but I deeply hate her temper.In fact, she is a combination of low self-esteem and self-confidence. Although the situation is pitiful, the pity must be hateful.