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Chapter 28 Do you have a good relationship with your parents?

Pan Xishi's life at her grandma's house since she was a child is still different from Shang Yan and Chang Xiaoxiao's life at her grandma's house.

The environment she lived in back then was more complicated. If it is said that in a big family, the wealth and energy owned by the elderly are the common property of all the children, then in many cases, there will be a situation of competition among the children.

Pan Xishi lived alone with her grandparents since she was over one year old. From the perspective of the inertia of human emotions, she was brought out by the old man because she had no parents.

Sometimes that kind of feeling is more like my little daughter, but if it happens to be a grandchild, I am more tolerant to my children than I am to myself, and I will give a little more emotionally and financially.

Even the neighbors and childhood teachers knew about Pan Xishi's situation, and they told grandma, "This is a little crutch, it's your second elder's little padded jacket."At that time, Pan Xishi was indeed much more sensible than his peers, with humility and kindness that did not match his age.

But the old man's actions will violate the interests of others. If you take more public property and get less, you will naturally have opinions.

Especially when the children encounter difficulties and the economy is not good, a child without the protection of his parents becomes a target of public criticism.On the one hand, it will be easy to be disgusted by others, and being picky will make children feel inferior and rebellious. On the other hand, when children have not yet formed an outlook on life, they are instilled with the concept of repaying gratitude, which is also a form of PUA.

In a sense, Pan Xishi actually appreciates Shang Yan a little bit. Today's children have more thoughts of their own, have the spirit of rebellion, and refuse to be PUA.There is no need to exchange survival resources to please anyone, this is the birthright of every child, and it is the correct way for them to grow up healthily.

Compared with Shang Yan and Chang Xiaoxiao, they have their own parents to take care of them, no one dares to bully them, and the family environment is relatively simple, and Pan Xihong's thorns can happen, her living environment can be seen .

It's really easy to be her parents. They just care about giving birth and don't care about raising them, and they can even find faults. If they all learn from them, the human population will explode again.

It was agreed that he would no longer be affected by these original grievances, but Pan Xishi discovered that after Li Kun returned to school, the child had undergone great changes, and he had to analyze the reasons. If not, there were new problems in his family. The experience of growing up as a child unconsciously churned in my mind.

Li Kun often sleeps in class recently, even Pan Xishi's Chinese class and Shang Yunxuan's math class are no exception.

Pan Xishi communicated with him many times, but still to no avail. She was already exhausted by Shangyan, and she was even more disappointed with this child who had always placed her high hopes on her.But Li Kun, who has always been much more sensible than Shang Yan, doesn't seem to have the slightest sense of guilt and reformation this time.

After many times of ineffective communication, Pan Xishi was no longer polite, and asked Li Kun to stand in front of the Chinese class. This student seemed determined to confront the teacher. He stood in front of the class and fell asleep .

This made Pan Xishi angry, and drove Li Kun into the corridor, and said bluntly in front of the whole class: "Let your mother come to me, I'm just a student. Like you Such a student, I can only use this method, I will not give up any student, but it does not mean that I have no principles. If you don't do your homework again, I will hit your palm."

Pan Xishi really called Li Kun's mother. She even hoped that the other party would come to her to "make trouble", but she couldn't get in touch. Li Kun also refused to communicate effectively with Pan Xishi. He became a "bad student" who didn't get into the oil and salt. In desperation, Pan Xishi had no choice but to find Shangyan to "extract a confession through torture.

Recently, Shangyan has restrained a lot, but his grades still can't improve, and this child seems not as cheerful as before. This is not the result that Pan Xishi wants to see.There were only Shang Yan and Pan Xishi in the office. The child told the aunt in charge that the atmosphere at home was very bad recently. He didn’t go to his grandma’s house after school now. Grandpa would cook for him alone and watch him do his homework. .

The second aunt's temper has been particularly unstable recently. It seems that she has encountered unhappy things in the work unit. She has not returned to her home for a long time, and she often quarreled with the second uncle. Grandma has been going there several times because of her heart. Community hospital infusion.

Pan Xishi said: "I don't want to hear these things. I want to ask you today, do you know what's going on with Li Kun? If he continues like this, he won't get good grades in junior high school."

Shang Yan shook his head: "I don't know what happened to Li Kun's family. I looked for him recently, but he also avoided me."

Pan Xishi frowned suspiciously: "Aren't you two best friends?"

Shang Yan's eyes were full of disappointment: "Best friends can't never have secrets. There is no banquet in the world. Doesn't it mean that many people will become strangers after graduation? Maybe this is ahead of time!"

Pan Xishi said: "Some time ago, Li Kun came to me on purpose, and told me that you might have something wrong, and told me not to give up on you, and let me communicate with you well. He told me that you are actually very If you want to get good grades in the exam, you also have ideals for the future, and you have been excellent in character and learning in elementary school, but when your grades fell in the second year of junior high school, you are actually very depressed in your heart."

Shang Yan said, "Did Li Kun really say that?"

Pan Xishi nodded: "That's why I went to your grandfather's place that day. It was because Li Kun was worried about your abnormal behavior. But as his good friend, you didn't do anything when you saw Li Kun's abnormal behavior. , and don’t care, I feel that you are more selfish than him!”

Shang Yan's ears felt hot, he thought for a while and said, "I really don't know what happened to Li Kun, but it must have something to do with his wife. I went to Li Kun's house to look for him several times in the past six days, but he wouldn't let me Jin, don’t play with me, this has never been right before.”

Pan Xishi said: "I want to visit Li Kun's house tonight, do you have any suggestions?"

Shang Yan said, "I suggest you don't go!"

Pan Xishi felt dizzy for a while, and heard her say again: "I thought I just went there the day before yesterday, and their house won't open the door."

Pan Xishi suddenly realized that it was because of these things that there was a gap between Shang Yan and Li Kun.Childish nature, thinking that a good friend doesn't want to play with him anymore, so he gets angry.

Shang Yan was about to leave the office, and when he opened the door, he saw Shang Yunxuan. He didn't know how long he had been standing there.Pan Xishi's mind was buzzing, no one at school knew about her relationship with Shang Yan and Pan Shengnan.I don't know if Shang Yan told her about the family affairs, whether Shang Yunxuan heard it.It seems that this man is not only as fussy as the intermediary brother said, but also gossips and even eavesdrops.

"Teacher Shang, can you tell me what you heard just now?"

Shang Yunxuan's expression remained unchanged, "You probably heard everything you said!"

Pan Xishi's nose was going to crooked with anger: "Don't you think this is immoral?"

"I don't think so at all." Seeing that Pan Xishi's face turned pale with anger, Shang Yunxuan continued, "Tonight I'm going to Li Kun's house to find out the situation, why don't we go together!"

Pan Xishi said, "What are you doing at Li Kun's house?"

"I am now a mathematics teacher in Class [-] of the ninth grade, and I have also promised Li Kun's mother that Li Kun's mathematics performance will be improved. Now that the child's state is in trouble, I must find the root cause, otherwise there will be no way. If I explain to my parents, my promise will also be broken.”

After the evening self-study, it was already very late.Pan Xishi returned to the office, took out the bento he brought, and heated it up in the office's microwave.The takeaway that Shang Yunxuan ordered over there has also arrived.He put the big bucket of KFC on the table, looking at Pan Xishi's bento box from time to time.This girl is too particular about food, the food is delicious in color, fragrance, and even the bento box looks more delicate than what everyone usually uses.

Good guy, the bento box was originally a big bucket, but it was split into four or five small boxes like a magic box. Although the amount is not large, she actually ate three dishes, one soup, and small flower rolls with sesame sauce by herself.

Shang Yunxuan kept glancing over there. The closest thing to him was a steamed taro short rib, next to it seemed to be Kung Pao chicken. What was inside? It looked like broccoli with shrimps. In the farthest box was What, it seems to be pork liver with spinach.The most mouth-watering thing is that the slightly larger box contains preserved egg and lean meat porridge. The aroma makes people salivate in this cold office.

"Ms. Pan, you are a girl, you love to eat meat, don't you? Three dishes, one porridge, none of which are vegan." Shang Yunxuan said, his eyes were still fixed on his rice bowl, and the KFC in his mouth was getting more and more lost taste.

Pan Xishi said: "That's right, I have liked meat since I was a child. My grandma was afraid that I would not eat well, so she basically didn't cook vegan dishes. Over time, she got used to it and couldn't eat without meat."

Shang Yunxuan asked: "Teacher Pan grew up with the old man!"

Pan Xishi thought that this person might have a gossip attack again, she turned her helplessness into an appetite, and tried to eat up several boxes of meals, but she just kept silent, and the people on the side were all stunned up.

"Teacher Pan, I ordered KFC, do you want some?" Shang Yunxuan reminded him kindly.

"No thanks!" Pan Xishi replied clearly, "I'm not used to sharing food with others."

Shang Yunxuan thought that this girl is too out of place, no matter how outsiders are around, she has to be polite.Pan Xishi has a problem. He doesn't like to share food with others. It is simply impossible to share his beloved bento with people he doesn't know well.

"But that day, I also saw you giving Director Zhang a taste of the braised pork you made yourself." Shang Yunxuan suddenly felt a little wronged, the glutton in his stomach kept screaming, he seemed to have never been treated like this, whether it was When he was a student or after work, many girls competed to give him delicious food.

Pan Xishi thought it was so simple, frowned and said, "Director Zhang is my immediate boss. If she likes my bento, I can go hungry. Is she someone else?"

Shang Yunxuan said: "You said just now that you don't like to share food with others, I thought you didn't eat fireworks."

"I don't eat fireworks, but I'm down to earth." Pan Xishi packed up the food box and took it to the water room to clean it.Looking at Pan Xishi's back, Shang Yunxuan actually had the idea of ​​wanting to be promoted.

When Pan Xishi and Shang Yunxuan came to Li Kun's community, it was already past 9 o'clock in the evening.They thought that at this time, the other party had already had dinner, the children should be studying, and the adults should be doing housework, so that they would go and have a brief look at the situation without too much delay in their study and life.

On the way, Shang Yunxuan said to Pan Xishi: "To tell you the truth, this is the first time I have visited home on my own since I graduated from graduate school at the age of 23 and became a teacher in school."

Pan Xishi asked, "What do you mean?"

"The school and the Education Bureau will arrange teachers' home visits because of students' mental health work, but as a teacher taking the initiative to visit home today, it is indeed the first time for me!" Shang Yunxuan said, "The main reason is that teachers now visit students' homes. I think More or less it will bring some psychological pressure to students and parents, and there will be some troubles as a teacher."

Pan Xishi said: "I understand the psychological pressure. Every household has different economic conditions. Some parents and students feel that the teacher's visit exposes their family situation to the school. This is what they don't want. But do you find it troublesome? My parents said that when they were teachers, they visited their homes almost every day.

Some children are not in a good state of study, so they go to work; some children have poor academic performance, they go home to catch up with tutoring; some children's parents do not agree with their children's continued study, so they go home to do their parents' work.I used to be a teacher in an institution, so I didn't have much opportunity to visit home, but now I am a class teacher, I think if home visit can help students learn and live, I am very willing to do so. "

Shang Yunxuan said: "Listening to Teacher Pan, you have a good relationship with your parents, don't you?"

(End of this chapter)