Hi persimmon

Chapter 67
Pan Xihong lived in the small town.

The mother-in-law is an eloquent person, but one sentence really touched her.Life in a small town is closer to nature.Sunshine, land, breeze, flowers and plants are the best gifts of nature to human beings.In a different environment, Xiaoxiao may be able to observe the world from a new perspective, and perhaps at a certain moment, she will be able to touch a certain point in the depths of her emotions, and the knot between her world and the outside world will be broken from this point , Let her really get out of her autistic space and truly accept the world.

In the earliest days, Pan Xihong was very enthusiastic towards her parents-in-law. Based on the principle of getting along well and becoming a family, she would think of Chang Yuan's parents in everything her parents had, and she couldn't hold back her parents-in-law. He has a temper and is very restrained in front of his in-laws.She really treats them as relatives, and she will always say something from her heart when they meet, especially to her mother-in-law.The family met happily.

But gradually, relying on her own IQ and sensitivity, Pan Xihong became more and more unable to convince herself that her in-laws really treated her as a daughter, and they kept getting stuck in her throat time and time again, making it impossible for her to swallow those barriers and treat her as nothing. Neither happened.As time went by, when they met, she talked less and less each time, and they reprimanded more and more. They were no longer the relatives she imagined at the beginning, but the superior leaders.She grew more silent, but they seemed satisfied.

Later, when the old couple came to Xingang, she often took care of the children in the house, and the three of them talked and laughed in the living room.It is obviously her own home, but she is more like an outsider.If there were only her and the old couple left in the family, the atmosphere would be even more embarrassing in her opinion.If it wasn't for her daughter, Pan Xihong wouldn't want to be under the same roof with her in-laws for a moment.But now, as long as it is helpful to her daughter, let alone living with her in-laws in a fourth-tier town, it doesn't matter even if she lives with wolves, tigers and leopards.

After Xiaoxiao saw her mother, she could no longer be hugged by others.Chang's mother was very dissatisfied with this, and felt that it was not a good thing for a child to be so clingy to her mother.Moreover, the daughter-in-law came here to see the children without work, and they couldn't explain to the neighbors.

Pan Xihong told her in-laws: "The most important thing now is that we four adults have to explain to our children. As for why I stay here and why I want to be with my daughter. It is because, even if a mother is quietly around the child, Sitting is equivalent to psychological counseling for three hours. The mother and child will have a telepathic connection. When the child cannot express himself, the mother can feel her psychological activities at this time and feel that she is suffering. Even the mother can predict the child's imminent harm, and can remind or prevent the misfortune from happening in time."

Father Chang said: "You have read a lot, have you become a nerd? Everything written in the book may not be the truth."

"You are not a mother, so you have no right to speak." Pan Xihong said, casting her eyes on Chang's mother.

Chang's mother met her daughter-in-law's eyes, and after a while, she sighed and said, "It is said that mother and child are connected, I can't refute what you said." It's hard to say if it's not here. "

Pan Xihong contacted Director Zhang online to give Xiaoxiao more professional training through cloud learning.Director Zhang understood Pan Xihong's difficulties and encouraged her to calm down.Since you can't take the child back smoothly, don't choose drastic means to bring it back forcibly, as it will have a worse impact on the child's physical and mental development.Pan Xihong now knows this truth very well. Since she can't leave the child here alone, she simply uses this time to accompany the child by herself, and consults experts on the Internet, searches for information by herself, and seriously recovers Xiaoxiao. The subject is conquered.

Whether Chang Yuan made a phone call or picked up a video, Pan Xihong was unmoved, and the other party had no choice.If in the past, she would feel sad in her heart, why didn't Chang Yuan come to the small town to accompany her daughter with her at this time, and wonder why her husband didn't take care of her in every possible way before marriage, but now, she doesn't think about it at all, and has already I made up my mind to take up the task of my daughter's recovery by myself.As for the others, she is grateful to her for helping herself and her daughter, and she has no time to feel self-pity and resentment if she is unwilling to help, but she will never compromise if it prevents and interferes with her daughter's recovery.

By chance, Pan Xihong saw on the Internet that raising dogs or cats has a very good healing effect on children.In the past, she was most afraid of these small animals, even bugs.I remember that once a big spider got into both her and Chang Yuan's little house, and she was so scared that she wandered outside for a day, and when Chang Yuan came back at night, she dealt with everything before rushing into the house.Now, after "discussing" with her daughter, she bought a medium-bodied bichon frise that had been fully vaccinated from the Internet, named it Laifu, and let it smile with her.Since her in-laws didn't let Xiaoxiao go out, she brought things like children's slides and children's swings home.

Right now, everything on the Internet can be delivered to your door, and the yard is big enough.Laifu was trained by Pan Xihong, and it didn't take long for him to know that the boss of the family was smiling expressionlessly, so his tolerance for his master was very high.Xiaoxiao slides down the slide with the help of her mother, and Laifu will follow behind.Xiaoxiao began to be afraid of crying non-stop, and Laifu would tremble when he slipped down the slide for the first time.

In the vegetable field, Xiaoxiao and Laifu are covered in mud. Maybe they don't have the concept of dirt in their minds, so no one dislikes the other.During meals, when Pan Xihong was feeding the children, Laifu squatted beside him trying to pick up some leftovers.Later, Pan Xihong simply asked Laifu and Xiaoxiao to have dinner together.In this way, both of them ate fast and plentifully.Later, when she was sleeping, Laifu would also guard Xiaoxiao's side.

Once, when Pan Xishi saw Xiaoxiao was sleeping with her belly exposed, Laifu covered the child with the quilt in her mouth, and then lay down next to Xiaoxiao's pillow to guard it all the time.Seeing this scene, her heart was about to be warmed.Who would have thought that her daughter's first best friend in this world turned out to be a Bichon Frize called Laifu?
Colleague Li Yali told Pan Xihong on WeChat that Chang Yuan has recently gotten close to a certain female teacher and has a very good relationship with her mother.Pan Xihong doesn't care about it at all, she seems to have stepped out of the magic world of worrying about gains and losses for an excellent husband, as long as her daughter can get better, she can do whatever she likes!

Mother Chang came to ask her daughter-in-law to express her opinion again. She felt that instead of raising a dog like this, it would be better to have another child to accompany Xiaoxiao.Pan Xihong didn't want to start an argument with the other party at first, but on the other hand, she might not be a family in the future. If there is something that has been kept in her heart for so many years, she might as well take this opportunity to express it quickly. In case she becomes a stranger in the future, Wouldn't all the distress in the past be left in my stomach?

That night, Xiaoxiao fell asleep, and her parents-in-law called her downstairs to talk about the truth.The two said again that they were sons and daughters, and it was for the benefit of their young couple that they were advised to have a second child.

Pan Xihong didn't want to hear any more of this, so she interrupted immediately, "Since you've been married, you've always talked nicely, but in reality you haven't suffered a bit."

Chang's mother was stunned for a moment, and then said angrily: "Xi Hong, you have read so many books, you can't be so narrow-minded. What kind of woman is that, so she always complains about mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which hurts your self-esteem. Temperament. People at our level can't be like those petty citizens, what do you think?"

Pan Xihong said slowly to her mother-in-law: "I used to be trapped by these high hats. I felt that many things should not be said. But gradually I reflected on myself. I should not forget my original intention when I read a lot. The most fundamental manifestation of my original intention is to do something A real person. No one in this world deserves me to wrong myself except the person who gave birth to me and the person I gave birth to. You are Chang Yuan’s parents, you gave birth to him, raised him, he owes you, you are His ancestors. But you didn't give birth to me, didn't raise me, I don't owe you anything, and after I can't get married, I have two more ancestors who can request me, reprimand me, and set rules for me."

Chang's father said, "Xihong, why are you so paranoid? Can't things go in a better direction?"

Pan Xihong said: "The biggest problem for you all is that you don't understand that the union of two families is a relationship of cooperation and equality. Don't create a situation where I marry your son as if I owe you. Why do you have any conflicts in society? Everyone is polite, but you have to show prestige and rules to yourself and your daughter-in-law, and you have to communicate from a critical and management standpoint. Even if you know that doing so will make the other party unhappy, but for your sake Even if I put on airs like my in-laws, I turn a blind eye."

"My daughter-in-law has married into your own family. You are like training a dog, testing her bottom line step by step. If the other party does not resist this time, then you will intensify the situation. If you find that the other party is not a soft persimmon, then think about it. How to train again. In short, I have learned how to soften and do hard things. I talk about treating you as my own daughter, but I only enjoy parental education and the right to ask for my daughter, but I don’t really care about it. But I want my daughter-in-law to do my best. to a daughter-in-law's responsibility."

"Then use the temperament of an intellectual to PUA the daughter-in-law, so that the daughter-in-law will not talk back or resist, and she can only bear the unfair treatment in silence and digest it by herself. You can't talk back to us at every turn. You have to take the initiative to care about us. We It is for your own good to criticize education, and all our accusations, indignation, and demands are for your own good."

Seeing Pan Xihong chattering endlessly, Chang's mother couldn't bear it anymore: "You said so much, how did we feel sorry for you? People marry more than one daughter-in-law. Seeing that you resent us in your heart, we married a daughter-in-law and married an enemy. Is it? Can you still count on you to take good care of us when we are old? We have expected it a long time ago!"

"There is no legal requirement that a daughter-in-law is obliged to provide for her parents-in-law, unless it is because of mutual affection."

Chang's mother said: "We have always treated you as our own daughter. We have feelings for you. If we don't have feelings, it's your problem."

"Is it my problem?" Pan Xihong said, "Both you and my dad retired after being leaders. My favorite saying is that everything can be put on the table and can stand up to everyone's comments. Then do you dare to let your relatives and colleagues judge everything you do?"

Chang's mother said, "Of course I can, why not?"

Pan Xihong said: "Everyone envies that the husband I found has the same high education as myself, is handsome, talented, and has a decent family background. We are a good match. But even my parents don't know that I have suffered in this marriage. What a grievance! I am a face-saving person, but I am also a person who is easy to trust others, especially people and things that are closely related to Chang Yuan, and it is easy to lose normal judgment. "

Chang's mother said: "Are you wronged? With your little temper and princess disease, it is my son who is wronged? Are you telling me that you have been wronged all these years after you married into our family?"

Pan Xihong decided to reveal the scars in her heart: "You gave me and Chang Yuan the down payment for sponsoring the wedding house, why didn't you allow my name to be written on the real estate certificate? The house loan is so much money, and Chang Yuan and I have to repay the loan together. And the decoration It was also made by my family, and the home appliances were also bought by my family, and the car was also my dowry. The money you paid was just a little bit given by a Phoenix man's family, but there are rich people everywhere. You just counted on me. For saving face, Chang Yuan and I have a good relationship, I am ashamed to let my parents and sisters know about your unreasonable demands."

Chang's mother said: "You agreed to it at the beginning, but now you come up with it again. Is it interesting?"

Pan Xihong: "Because you saw my thin skin, you continued to intensify. When the house price was still affordable, you said that you would come to Xingang to retire. You visited all the way from our community to the suburbs and found no affordable houses. Later, when we had some savings, we saw a house and wanted to pay for it with the whole family, but the house is for you to live in the future, because it will become the joint property after marriage, and you want me to write an IOU."

"I think this is a great shame to me. I usually talk about a family, a biological daughter, but when it comes to real money, all your defenses are revealed. You are not locals, take yourself You can’t buy a house with your son’s name on the house. We will repay the loan for you with your son’s name on the house. So you buy a house for yourself and ask me to write an IOU, don’t you really think it’s too much?”

"I protested, but you still said I was greedy. I resolutely refused to sign and lost my temper with you. You also did the same as before. You said you were all for us, but you were not forgiven in the end. What kind of gangster logic are you? I only heard Before marrying into a rich family, some people asked their daughter-in-law to write IOUs and sign unequal treaties. But I found a phoenix man, but I was angry with the rich family. I want to save face, and I refuse to talk about this with anyone, and you all think everything is normal!"

"Also, Chang Yuan met his ex-girlfriend. I was very angry when I found out. No matter whether they had anything or not, you all stood firmly on the son's side. Not only did you not say a word of justice, but instead made me improve my personal charm. Why are you so good at it?" Say?"

"For so many years, these things have been held in my heart one by one, affecting my mood all the time. When I think of you, I will start internal friction."

"I didn't expect you to remember it so clearly." Chang's mother was also slightly annoyed, "Just put them together one by one, don't you feel tired?"

Pan Xihong said: "But what makes me feel particularly warm about you? You are always calculating, and you are always calling yourself a role model. You are obviously a small citizen, and you insist on promoting yourself as a selfless person. You are full of hypocrisy and calculations. , how do you let me get close to you from the bottom of my heart?"

"It's because you are too sensitive. I thought you were an educated person, and your heart shouldn't be like this. I didn't expect that you are no different from those uneducated housewives who care about every detail. You are still a teacher. How can you teach with this attitude? A student with hills and valleys in his chest?" Chang's mother became angry from embarrassment.

Pan Xihong suddenly smiled: "Your words really reminded me. In the future, I will educate students to tell these children that they should express their demands legitimately when they are dissatisfied, and resist legitimately when they are bullied. Wait for others to take the initiative Conscience discovers that summarizing your mistakes and offenses is tantamount to putting your life in the hands of others and disposing of it at will. One day you are really bullied to death, if the other party has a conscience, it will only be light after you die To put it bluntly, maybe I should have treated you better at the beginning. But if this person pissed you off and the other person's conscience didn't wake up, and instead mocked and humiliated you in front of your tombstone, it wouldn't be worth it."

(End of this chapter)