Divorced Woman 2019

Chapter 3
If you evaluate a person from the traditional moral point of view, sometimes it is not objective.

For example, an old man is in good health and can run three rounds in a marathon.However, as soon as he got on the bus or the subway, he suddenly became very weak, and he could still compete with a little girl who wouldn't give up his seat to him on the bus seat.

The angry old man can burst out the prehistoric power of "destroying you on behalf of the moon" in an instant, making this little girl realize the tough fact that "your uncle will always be your uncle"!

The same old man will stand next to the little girl and touch you from time to time to remind you: young man!It's time for you to give up your seat to me!When the little girl got angry, she refused to let you go. Let's see what you can do to me?In the eyes of uninformed people, the little girl's practice of not giving up her seat is a violation of the fine traditional virtues.

Our protagonist, Qin Lei, fell into an embarrassment similar to the one mentioned above.

Things still have to start a few months before the divorce.

In 2007, Qin Lei was less than 30 years old.The child is just at the age of learning to speak, and the child will consume two-thirds of her time every day.

Ever since he got married, Meng Jingtao no longer asked her to work, because his income alone was enough to meet all the expenses of the family.

Qin Lei devoted all her attention to family affairs. From her marriage to now, work seems to be far away from her.It's not that she is lazy and doesn't want to work, but because of her ex-husband's machismo.

As a traditional woman in her heart, she was willing to obey, and she didn't even think about doing anything for herself during the whole marriage.

When she had no children, she surrounded her husband, flattered her mother-in-law, and tried her best to maintain her role as a virtuous daughter-in-law, but she was never satisfied with her ex-husband's family, and she always lived in constant self-blame.

The mother-in-law is a very selfish person, so don't expect her to help Qin Lei take care of the children, or do some housework and the like.The superiority of the born rich is not only vividly reflected in this old woman, but to be precise, it should be vivid!Not even the slightest help during Qin Lei's confinement period.

Even so, Qin Lei didn't even think of complaining at that time.It's hard to imagine that a woman who is in confinement has to cook by herself!

When I was hungry at night, I ate biscuits bought from the supermarket to satisfy my hunger!It seemed that the son Qin Lei gave birth to was not a member of the Meng family. Maybe in the eyes of this mother-in-law, he was just a pet. When he was happy, he would come and play for a while and then turn around and leave.

Qin Lei told me that although she felt very unhappy at that time, she didn't know why she was unhappy?
She didn't realize why she was unhappy until she saw how other people's mother-in-law took care of her daughter-in-law and grandson.
Was this family's subtle brainwashing at the beginning, interfering with their normal logical analysis, or was it that beautiful women were born stupid?
It doesn't seem to be the case. It seems more reasonable to explain it with the phrase "good people are bullied by others".

No woman is naturally willing to be vicious, but she often becomes cold in order to protect herself after experiencing various misfortunes and real stimulation.When I heard her say this, she didn't choke up, which shows that she has taken the past things lightly.

Whenever I hear someone talking about a woman, I always think: In fact, you have not lived in other people's lives, and it is inappropriate to make unreasonable comments as a person who does not understand other people's lives.

In such a family life, Qin Lei has to take care of the children, watch her mother-in-law's face every day, and serve her husband after drinking.Occasionally, when I find the long hair and lipstick on my husband, I will comfort myself that I touched it accidentally.

I once asked her, did he have someone else during your marriage?

The kind-hearted woman said that at first she believed that he didn't exist, and she didn't find any clues until later, but she was already divorced at that time, so she didn't mind anything.

In the eyes of her husband and mother-in-law, she doesn't go to work, but just takes care of a child, so she has no sense of existence at all. After all, in their eyes, she is just a reproductive machine.

However, anyone who has taken care of children will feel that it is not easy to take care of children.What's more, because the family's conditions were relatively good at that time, her husband's parents, sister-in-law, younger brother, and younger brother's wife all lived in her home.

And these people have never been helpful in family affairs, if they just don't help, it's fine, but they just dictate to her as if everyone has the right to speak.Can you imagine what kind of situation this woman is in every day?
She said that at one point she had an out-of-body thought and sat down with her ex-husband for a conversation:
“Lately I always feel tired”

"Tired from staying at home? Are you tired from idle time?" Meng Jingtao fiddled with his phone while smoking.

"Tao, it's not easy at home at all, but I don't want to discuss this with you, I want to talk about our affairs."

"What do we have to talk about? Why do you say that suddenly?" Meng Jingtao seemed a little impatient.

"I think I still need to talk about what's on my mind. You've been busy and don't have time. Can you chat with me for a while?" Qin Lei's expression showed a begging look.

"Okay, Leilei, what do you want to talk about?" Meng Jingtao took a puff of a cigarette and put down the phone.

"Tao, do you know? A woman is like a flower, it needs to be watered frequently, and so do I." After Qin Lei finished speaking, he paused, and then continued:
"You have been busy outside these years, and we spend very little time together. I am so lonely. If this continues, I think I will wither." Tears had already begun to fill her eyes.

Before Qin Lei finished speaking, her ex-husband had already pinned her down...

This high-handed approach seems to have become the law.Although Qin Lei felt something physically, he didn't feel any enjoyment in his heart.

Qin Lei tortured his heart again and again!Will the rest of my life be so boring?

Is this what people call love?
She knew the storm was over, but it wasn't like it used to be.

Her ex-husband's approach seems to many men, there is no woman who cannot be conquered by this method.

I believe anyone who has seen Young and Dangerous will know this concept. There is a scene in it that probably means this.I think it should be the wrong transmission brought by many film and television works to male audiences, which makes men have such an understanding.

Women's enthusiasm for this aspect cannot be said to be absent, but it can never be compared to the giving of emotions.

This kind of concept of men is only applicable within a certain range. I think it should be that the two people are always in harmony, and occasionally there is a little conflict. This method is still very useful for women!

Meng Jingtao fell asleep, but Qin Lei couldn't calm down for a long time.

Since meeting him, in order to get rid of her previous suitors, she doesn't use mobile phone or QQ.She cut off all contact methods, just to prove that her ex-husband was the only one in her life circle.Later had a son.

In fact, she is also telling her husband in another way: she is working hard to be a good wife!

And tonight she began to re-examine this question, how should she face her future life?
Maybe she has never been in love all this time, she is just the embellishment of this family, the medium of the family, the tool, the free nanny, etc. These words come to mind.

She suddenly felt very humble, and she suddenly remembered how stubborn she was when she was young!She used to be the girl who dared to fight with boys, dared to challenge the class teacher, and could make all the boys in the school fight for her...

At this time, her husband's snoring brought her back to the man in reality.Suddenly she felt a wave of nausea, which was conveyed from the spiritual level to the physical level, so she hurried to the bathroom and started to vomit...

When she came out of the bathroom, she seemed to be much more awake, and the things in front of her eyes were no longer as complicated as before, because she knew: she could no longer be closed like this, she should have the courage to contact the outside world, she needs to change herself!
Make yourself better, so that she will win the favor of her husband.At this time, she still has the idea of ​​falling in love with her husband again, because she needs love so much!

(End of this chapter)