post middle age

Chapter 143
In the next four or five years, Ren Shuxia continued to move across the country without stopping, and participated in the construction of Nanguang, Guiguang, Lanxin, Baolan and other high-speed rail electrification projects.

As time went by, Wang Xiaoke also occasionally learned that her parents had divorced, so she gradually got used to the living habits of a single-parent family.During her transition from childhood to adolescence, although she and her mother spent less time together, but with the care of her godmother Yao Ting and the company of Uncle Li Te, her young heart also had a trace of diversified family comfort...

Ren Shuxia is still fully committed to the construction of the electrified railway project. Faced with Li Te's unswerving pursuit of her in recent years, she has never dared to take a step forward in her love and happiness.

In a conversation with Yao Ting, Ren Shuxia said with emotion:
"Yang'er, it's been hard for Li Te these years. Sometimes when I think about it, I really feel sorry for him. Or, usually, if you see a suitable candidate around you, how about introducing someone to him?"

"I don't dare. Your Li Te's infatuation with you has never changed. All these years, everyone has seen it. You, I don't know what you think in your heart. It's obvious that each other has this friendship in their hearts. , but they all froze there again, not daring to take a step further, hey, tell me, doesn’t this make us outsiders anxious?” Yao Ting complained.

"I, I, I..." Ren Shuxia hesitated to speak.

"You, you, what are you, I don't know what you think in your heart, you now have Li Te, a blue-faced confidant, who accompanies you every day, and cares about you in every possible way. Happiness does not know happiness, but look, Li Te is already over [-] years old, his parents are not in a hurry! Don't look, Li Te usually smiles at everyone, but he is also very bitter in his heart What? Can't you be more real, face reality bravely, and rekindle the fire of love?" Yao Ting persuaded.

When Ren Shuxia heard Yao Ting say this, a strong sense of warmth surged in her heart, but when she thought of her age and her daughter Keke, she was discouraged again, and said quietly:

"Lan Yan confidant, blue Yan confidant, very good!"

"Since you also recognize Li Te as your blue-faced confidant, it means you have him in your heart. I, let me explain to you what a blue-faced confidant is?" Yao Ting sent a message to Ren Shuxia as she spoke:
"Blue-faced bosom friend, commonly known as the "fourth type of emotion", is a useful supplement to love and friendship, and a new way of expressing interpersonal emotions. It is an emotion based on rationality. Mutual respect, understanding and identification between subjects is the premise. With the deepening of mutual understanding of emotional subjects, mutual love and emotional dependence gradually arise. This dependence comes from people's pursuit of self-knowledge, and the need for subjects to obtain external recognition and acceptance Rational expectations, that is, people's self-questioning of "who am I". The two sides see themselves through each other and walk into their own hearts.

Blue Yan confidant is based on mutual cognition, and has more rational elements than love. The mutual affection comes from the love and appreciation for each other.The nobility of this emotion lies in that it is not based on sex life, nor is it produced to satisfy people's instinctive desires.It is the spark of two spiritual needs, and it comes from the yearning of both parties for pure and beautiful emotions.Thus, the fourth emotion is cautious about sex. "

"Yan'er, have you read that you are always cautious about your blue-faced confidantes, but you still don't know that there are two types of blue-faced confidants?" Yao Ting continued.

"Yang'er, you have become a love expert now, do you know a lot?" Ren Shuxia asked with a smile.

"Hey, it's not for you to worry about!" Yao Ting sent another paragraph while talking:

"Generally speaking, there are two types of blue-faced confidantes: the first type is not lacking in superior spiritual love, where both parties have love but no sex. Both parties of the opposite sex maintain an appropriate distance, have spirit but no desire, have affection but no sex, and have a high degree of love. The tacit understanding and the annoyance of each other, they talk about everything, they can be called the confidantes in each other's life and work. This kind of spiritual and non-sexual emotion is a kind of "Platonic" love, It is a sublimation of the emotions of the sexes. It usually only occurs among high-quality people, and it has very high requirements for the control and rationality of both parties. It is difficult to maintain between those who lack a high degree of control and empathy. This kind of emotion for love, they are very easy to fall into the second type.

The second is to fall into the mundane, which is the union of lust and love with sex.Both parties of the opposite sex dedicate their hearts silently and secretly, pursuing not only the beauty of the spirit, but also the pleasures of the flesh.This "desire" originates from human animal instinct, while "feeling" arises from the sublimation of primitive vitality, which is the true awareness of love. "

Ren Shuxia quietly read this passage, and suddenly fell into deep thought... Before she could speak, Yao Ting spoke again:
"Yan'er, when will you become a little more vulgar, eat some fireworks in the world, think about it for Li Te, and turn this blue-faced confidant into a loving couple quickly?"

"Okay, I won't talk to you anymore, I'm busy!" Ren Shuxia was about to hang up the phone in a hurry.

In the end, Yao Ting let out a long sigh on the phone:
"Hey!"

(End of this chapter)