post middle age

Chapter 41
The next day, after much deliberation, Ren Shuxia still felt that she should make an appointment with Xu Yaru and talk to her face to face, because she also wanted to hear the psychological counseling from professional psychological counselors, so she called Xu Yaru A phone call, explaining his wish.

"Sister Ren, how about this, in an hour, we will be at the Wenxin Tea House near your home

Good to meet you. "Xu Yaru asked enthusiastically.

"Okay, let's see you at Shiwenxin Tea House!" Ren Shuxia replied.

An hour later, they met at the appointed place on time and found a private room. They just sat down when a male waiter in his early 20s came to their table quickly, bowed to the two 30s, and Said with a smile:

"Good morning, two sisters. I am Xiaoxi, the waiter of Wenxin Tea House. It is my honor to serve you. Can I order for you now?"
Ren Shuxia didn't know much about tea drinking, she smiled and said to Xu Yaru:

"Yaru, watch it."

The little boy stared intently at this professional woman who was full of intellectual beauty: she was wearing a pink and purple short shawl coat, which further accentuated her excellent figure, and matched it with a bright yellow velvet knee-length skirt, and a pair of black high-rise skirts. Boots, jet-black hair with a natural undulating arc on the shoulders.Clear and bright pupils, curved willow eyebrows, long eyelashes trembling slightly, fair and flawless skin with a hint of pink, and thin lips like rose petals are tender and tender. Seeing him, Xu Yaru blushed , sorry to get up...

When Xu Yaru came to see Ren Shuxia today, she dressed up specially, because she wanted to leave a good impression in the eyes of the leader, and at the same time, she also wanted to take this opportunity to shorten the distance between the two, so that Ren Shuxia could relieve her nervousness so that she could Open up your heart and express all your worries and confusions. Only in this way can you provide reasonable and practical suggestions for existing problems.

Seeing this situation, Ren Shuxia smiled and asked the male waiter:
"Wow, have you never seen a beautiful woman?"

This greeting made the little boy feel embarrassed to ask, and froze for a while, not knowing how to answer.

"Okay, what kind of tea would you recommend us to drink?" Ren Shuxia smiled and said to the male waiter.

The male waiter returned to normal at this time, and said enthusiastically:
"Winter is the best time to drink black tea. Because the temperature is low and the cold air is heavy in winter, the physiological function of the human body declines, the yang energy weakens, and the requirements for energy and nutrition are higher. The way of health preservation is more expensive than keeping warm and improving disease resistance. At this time, it is advisable to drink black tea such as Qihong and Dianhong and black tea such as Pu'er and Liubao. Black tea is sweet and warm in nature and rich in protein. Drinking it in winter can benefit the body, store yang energy, generate heat and warm the abdomen, thereby strengthening the body. The ability of the human body to adapt to the winter climate. Otherwise, you can drink Dianhong."

Hearing these very healthy recommendations, Ren Shuxia smiled at Xu Yaru:
"Why don't we taste Dianhong today?"

"Good, good, good!" Xu Yaru praised repeatedly.

When the little boy left, he asked again:
"Snacks, dried fruit, what do you need?"

"You see what to recommend, just order it." Ren Shuxia replied with a smile.

"Do you need tea ceremony demonstration service?" The little boy continued to ask.

"I don't need this, I'm no stranger to tea art." Xu Yaru replied with a smile at this time.

When the male waiter went out to work, Ren Shuxia stared at Xu Yaru for a while, then asked with a smile:

"Yaru, you are well dressed today, full of intellectual beauty!"

"Sister Ren, I think you are in good shape. At your age, you have to take good care of yourself. As women, no matter how old you are, as long as you are young at heart and dress up beautifully, you will be in a good mood this day. What?" Xu Yaru looked at Ren Shuxia who had a plain face, and replied with a smile.

"Your words sound like Yao Ting's tone. What kind of general does he have and what kind of soldiers?" Ren Shuxia sighed softly and continued:
"Yaru, I'm a technician, and I've been running around on the construction site all year round. To be honest, after a long time, I forget that I'm still a woman. I'm busy with work all day long. Look at me, I don't know much about it. How about maintaining makeup?"

While the two of them were talking, the waiter put all the snacks, dried fruit, and tea leaves together, then walked out and quietly closed the door.

Xu Yaru did have some research on the art of tea. Ren Shuxia admired her by showing her skillful tea making skills. While making tea, she said to Ren Shuxia:
"This Yunnan black tea is a big-leaf type of Gongfu tea. It is mainly produced in Lincang, Baoshan, Fengqing and other places in Yunnan. It is a rising star of Chinese Gongfu black tea. It is plump and firm in appearance, with golden hair exposed and high-flavored quality. It is unique and famous all over the world. Dianhong Gongfu has a tightly-knotted appearance, plump and majestic, dark-colored dry tea, especially gold hair, bright and bright inner soup, rich and long-lasting aroma, rich and refreshing taste, full of stimulation Sex. The bottom of the leaves is red and bright, unique in China, and it is a popular Gongfu black tea." Then, she glanced at the temperature of the heated water and continued:

“泡滇红时要注意3个要点:用量(4~5克)；2、泡10泡以上[水温80-83度]，注意水温是要把水先烧开，再放置几分钟，稍微降温就行了。不要加冷水或者水不开就拿来用；出汤要快 1~3泡都是1秒出汤，第一泡是洗茶，第4泡开始延长到3秒，5秒，8秒这样递增出汤之后不要盖盖。”

After making tea, Xu Yaru said with a smile:

"Sister Ren, try it and see how it tastes?"

Ren Shuxia picked up the small teacup, and a strong fragrance came to her nostrils. She took a sip, and suddenly felt refreshed, and sighed repeatedly:

"Good tea, good tea!"

At this time Xu Yaru also picked up the small teacup, took a sip, moistened her throat, and continued:

"The efficacy and function of Dian black tea has the functions of preventing caries, strengthening the stomach and intestines, helping digestion, delaying aging, lowering blood sugar, lowering blood pressure, lowering blood fat, anti-cancer, and anti-radiation. Therefore, Sister Ren also learns to drink tea at ordinary times, which is very good of."

"Oh my God, Yaru, I didn't expect you to know so much at such a young age. How amazing?" Ren Shuxia sighed sincerely.

Seeing this situation, Xu Yaru achieved the desired effect today, and Sister Ren began to slowly accept her and recognize her, and the subsequent conversation would be much smoother.So she prepared to boil the water for the second tea making process, and said with a smile:

"Sister Ren, then you can't talk to me about what happened between you and your daughter."

To be honest, at this time, Ren Shuxia was full of affection for the girl in front of her who knew life, knew how to dress up, and was actively working hard at work, so when she heard her question, she no longer had any doubts in her heart, so she put herself Everything that happened between me and my daughter was told in detail, from when my daughter was a child to now...

Xu Yaru herself knew that as an excellent counselor, patiently listening to the other party's confession was the first step to unlock the other party's heart knot, so she listened without moving...

After Ren Shuxia finished talking, Xu Yaru said thoughtfully:
"Sister Ren, eat some dried fruit!"

Ren Shuxia picked up a dried walnut from the table tray and chewed it in her mouth.

"After listening to your description, I really feel the deep love for my daughter as a mother, especially us engineers. I can especially feel the concern and reluctance in your heart?" Xu Yaru knew First of all, you must recognize the subjective consciousness of the person who is pouring out. Only in this way can you put forward your next suggestion, and in this way, the person who is pouring out may accept you.

"Yeah, I don't understand. I have paid so much for her, me, me, me..." At this point, Ren Shuxia suddenly couldn't continue, her eyes were wet with tears.

Xu Yaru handed her a tissue and said softly:

"I am also a descendant of an electrification engineer. I can understand the difficulties of being a father and mother. To be honest, when I was young, I was not sensible, and I made trouble for my father and mother. Now that I have grown up, I know that my father and mother , Mom is so difficult."

Xu Yaru's confession brought the two of them closer. Ren Shuxia wiped away her tears, choked up and continued:

"This year is Ke Ke's senior high school entrance examination year, but she is now in an extremely rebellious period of youth, her academic performance is very unstable, her mood is also changing suddenly, and her sorrows and joys are unpredictable. When I think of this, my heart is broken. For her, I have been compromising. , I tried my best to meet her needs, but in the end, she didn't appreciate it at all. She even said that she was raised by her father in front of teachers and classmates, and even dared to fight back. What a failure. Hey, I feel like a spinning top, spinning every day."

Ren Shuxia burst into tears again when she said this.

Xu Yaru looked at Ren Shuxia's grief-stricken look, and she was not in a good mood. She adjusted her mentality a little, and persuaded softly:

"Every child has a temper, and they will also encounter youth rebellion. Sister Ren, don't be too sad!"

"What should I do so that Keke will be satisfied?" At this point, Ren Shuxia suddenly threw herself on the table and burst into tears.

Xu Yaru knew that this was Sister Ren, and she had buried her pains in her heart for a long time but couldn't find a way to express her true feelings.Venting today is good for her mental health in the future, at least she can find someone to confide in the pain in her heart.

She raised her head and looked at the crying middle-aged woman opposite, how outstanding she is in the eyes of outsiders, she is a well-known expert in domestic power supply systems, and is the deputy chief engineer of the group company. She gives full play to her ingenuity in her work , how many scientific research projects are from her hands, and how many difficult construction technical problems are encountered by her. Whenever she encounters her, "the car has no way to go before the mountain, and there is another village." And it is precisely this strong and tenacious female expert, A strong woman, facing her youthful and rebellious daughter, is so vulnerable and helpless.Thinking of this, she couldn't help expressing emotion in her heart:

"This is life, this is reality."

"Sister Ren, don't worry, I will try my best to use my professional knowledge to help you resolve the tense relationship with your daughter." Xu Yaru said.

After hearing Xu Yaru's words, Ren Shuxia felt a little better. She stopped crying and said gratefully:
"Thank you, Yaru!"

Xu Yaru knew that at this time, it was time to speak out her thoughts, so she said softly:
"Sister Ren, I want to ask you, do you know why Keke is against you everywhere, why is she so indifferent to you and your love for her?"

"This is also a question that has always puzzled me. I can't figure it out all the time?" Ren Shuxia answered with a puzzled face when she heard her question.

"It is true that fathers and mothers do not have sincere love for their children, but as an engineer, you are busy outside all year round for work, and you must have little company for the growth of your daughter Keke. The descendants of engineers may also be a common phenomenon.”

"You're right, to tell you the truth, I was also brought up by my grandparents when I was young." Ren Shuxia felt quite the same.

"Yes, parents always consider their children's feelings from their own standpoint. They always feel that they have paid so much. Why don't children understand their painstaking efforts? But, have you ever thought about your own pain? What exactly is the child thinking?" Xu Yaru said slowly.

"This, this..." Ren Shuxia's heart trembled when she heard this. To be honest, she had never thought of this in her heart.

Xu Yaru carefully observed the subtle changes on Ren Shuxia's face, and heard that her tone of voice was no longer so self-righteous. She knew that her inner feelings had changed, but she just didn't want to admit it because of face.So she went on to say:

"Sister Ren, do you know how important it is to her to grow up with her daughter, share her happiness and sorrow?"

"I, I, I..." Ren Shuxia hesitated to speak again.

"I know that you are busy with work, and you are working hard for this family. This is true, but do you know? This is just your opinion as an adult. Children don't think so. It's what parents should do, so you have to give and love, it's a matter of course, and it's the duty of parents." Xu Yaru glanced at Ren Shuxia, and continued:
"Sister Ren, do you know that when children are happy, they have their mother's smile, and when they are sad, they have their mother's care. This is the love of their parents in their hearts, not just nagging, blindly If they listen to it too much, they will have a chemical reaction in their hearts, and they will extremely reject the heavy love that comes from them. Sometimes, it is the deep love that seems to come from their parents, which makes the children feel suffocated and uncomfortable!"

This is the first time for Ren Shuxia to let you hear such a deafening argument. Although it is harsh, but after careful consideration, it has a special taste. She took a deep look at the little girl opposite, and felt that her words sounded more and more serious. It made sense, so she asked with great interest:
"Yaru. Tell me, what should I do?"

As soon as these words came out, Xu Yaru let out a long sigh of relief. She knew that she had succeeded today, so she said with a smile on her face:

"Sister Ren, when you get along with your daughter in the future, you have to change your role, think about the problem in another place, and think about the problem from the daughter's role, instead of putting the practice of being the chief worker in the unit and being a mother at home in front of your daughter. To do it, you have to let go of your body, calm down, and be friends with your daughter sincerely, try to spend more time with her, share her happiness, share her sorrow, let your love for your daughter be like a trickling stream, slow down bit by bit Slowly invade her heart..."

When Ren Shuxia heard this explanation, she suddenly became enlightened, and her mood was no longer so heavy. She stood up, held Xu Yaru's hands tightly, and said:

"Yaru, listening to Jun's words is better than reading ten years of books! Today, I really want to thank you."

"Sister Ren, you are too polite, this is what I should do." Xu Yaru replied modestly.

The heart-to-heart chat between the two at the tea house completely dissipated Ren Shuxia's worries and confusion. When she was about to leave, Ren Shuxia said to Xu Yaru:
"In the future, if I have any questions, can I call you?"

"Sister Ren, you can call me anytime." Xu Yaru replied with a smile.

Ren Shuxia never dreamed that she would become friends with Xu Yaru, who is more than 10 years younger than herself, and would accompany and treat each other sincerely...

(End of this chapter)