see you in spring

Chapter 187
It was already eleven o'clock in the evening, and Gu Yu in the hospital bed and Jia Lie, who was still unable to lie down, were still accompanying the helpless Sun Yan in the video.

At this time, they knew that Sun Yan's depression had reached its peak. As friends, they could no longer persuade her to endure it.At this time, only by letting her vent her negative emotions can she continue to live her life.

Sun Yan was trapped in a widowed marriage for too long, resentment and hostility exuded all over her body.In order to heighten the atmosphere, Jia Lie and Gu Yu also joined her in scolding their husbands.

Sun Yan cried and said: "In the years since I was married to him, he felt that he had fulfilled his responsibilities by providing money for the family. He didn't care about the labor of the family, the education of the children, or the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I am no different from being a widow. To him, love is , it’s just hormones, not a family at all. I don’t know how I can persist in such a marriage!”

Gu Yu sniffed and said, "Think about how stupid I was when I was young. I only wanted to find someone handsome and romantic. After so many years of struggling, romance has been worn away by life. When you reach middle age, you finally know your character. Well, how important is financial matching and spiritual fit. Now that I have experienced this serious illness, I no longer have any requirements for traveling, as long as we are both in good health. Isn’t it sad? But this is fucking life.”

Jia Lie smiled bitterly: "My whole life, I have always wanted to be a 'big brother' woman, a woman who loves others around a capable man, so I found Dongqing. Unexpectedly, I ended up becoming a 'big brother' ', he became my sweetheart. To be honest, when it was the most difficult time, I really wanted to divorce. That kind of difficulty was not only the financial difficulty, but also the strange feeling of being under the same roof. Can you believe it? , Ever since we gave birth to our children, Holly and I have become brothers. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for so many years. One night he went to get something from the cabinet under the dresser in my room. I was half asleep, and suddenly I was startled by him when I opened my eyes. My first feeling at that time was not that Holly had come in, but that there was a burglar in my house. I still remember that clear and strong sense of panic."

Sun Yan felt the same way and said: "Liu Quantao only comes back once every two or three months from a business trip. Sometimes when I wake up in the middle of the night and see a man sleeping next to me, I am startled. Even if we sleep in the same bed, we each have a separate bed." If I see his quilt is not covered in the middle of the night, I will cover him. But if he touches me with his hands and feet while sleeping, I will quickly run away. It’s not because I hate it, it’s a subconscious reaction. . Before, I thought I was the only one like this. After all, I was surrounded by my child’s feces and peeing all day long, and I couldn’t hold anything else in my heart. I didn’t expect you to be the same.”

Gu Yu said with emotion: "This is probably the true situation between most couples in their early thirties. How hot the love was before, but how cold it becomes after middle age. I have truly experienced it. Zhou You and I are completely different. They are a good couple when they go out, and they are good brothers at home. The couple becomes more and more like neighbors as time goes by. Sometimes I feel that living like this is too boring and frustrating, so I finally make up my mind to create an atmosphere and say a few sultry words to him. Unexpectedly, as soon as the words come out of my mouth, He stared at me like a detective and said: There is something wrong with you, are you going to force me to do research again?"

Jia Lie and Sun Yan were amused by Gu Yu's words. They seemed to have returned to the "sleeping talk" after lights out in college.The complaints and complaints about their husbands allowed them to get through this difficult moment together.

Seeing that Sun Yan was finally in a much lighter mood, Jia Lie and Gu Yu were one of the good guys and the other of the bad guys.

"Swallow, if you want to divorce, I will support you." Gu Yu said.

Jia Lie immediately followed: "But you should think twice about divorce. After all, there is too much helplessness in the adult world. Most of the reasons why you decided to divorce are that you feel emotionally unsatisfied. Now Liu Quantao seems to be willing to give everything to you, my child." Here you go, at first glance, there seems to be no problem, but you have to think clearly about the hardships of raising two children by one person, as well as the series of problems that single mothers will encounter in life and work in the future. To summarize briefly. Although Liu Quantao didn't care much about his children before, as a member of the family, he can still make the children feel that the family is complete and that their father has not been absent in their growth. If you are divorced, do you have Enough effort to reduce and channel negative influences on children?”

Sun Yan didn't speak, which was also her main concern.

Gu Yu continued to speak from Sun Yan's point of view: "Swallow is so reasonable and considerate. After leaving Liu Quantao, can't he find a more reliable man to live in? Finding a good man to fill the role of father will also make you happy." The child is physically and mentally healthy.”

Jia Lie said: "Of course you can find one. But if you have been married and given birth to children, especially if you are a single woman who has given birth to two boys, the chance of you being single again is very small."

Gu Yu disagreed with Jia Lie's statement: "You have old ideas. The ratio of men to women is so disparate now. The most difficult thing to find after a divorce is a second-married man. Divorced women are still robbed."

Sun Yan didn't speak, just silently listening to what the two of them were talking about.

"I don't mean that it's difficult to find a job in this aspect." Jia Lie said: "At our age, we are no longer inexperienced little girls. You have experience, and you have comparisons. What do you think about marriage? Men's tricks are all seen clearly. So they will no longer be easily carried away by emotions. Everyone is weighing the pros and cons, and it will be difficult to have feelings again. This is what makes it difficult for divorced women to get out of singles. "

Gu Yu and Sun Yan were both silent.

A few seconds later, Gu Yu said faintly: "When I was young, it was because I was ignorant and impulsive that I fell in love. This is actually the most uncomfortable thing. Could it be that when people reach middle age, they cannot get divorced and are not worthy of love? Yet?"

Jia Lie turned over and changed his position: "Of course there is love, and divorce is not terrible. I just want to say that in fact, most of us do not have the conditions and mentality to live alone until old age. That's why we have to divorce Before doing so, consider the consequences first and objectively judge the various costs, including financial, emotional, mental, mental, etc. There was a time when I really wanted to divorce Dongqing. But after rational Based on my judgment, I found that I was not qualified for divorce. Because I understood my own problems and wanted to maintain this marriage, I had to either change him or change me. It was almost impossible to change others, so I could only change myself first. mentality."

"Besides, when there are problems in a marriage, there will also be problems in a person's life. It's hard to say which problem is more difficult. Rather than choosing another unknown problem, it is better to solve the problem in front of you first, and maybe you can find a way out. After all, a healthy marriage , will have more support and hope than a person’s life.”

"Lie Lie, I think you are a bit like an emotional mentor tonight." Gu Yu teased with approval.

Jia Lie smiled helplessly: "That's right, these ten years of marriage college are not in vain. Who hasn't had a period of pessimism, negativity, and doubt in marriage? Living life is to constantly smooth out the traces of the past. Because No matter who you marry, you will have different problems. Li Ye wrote in his poem: From near to far to east and west, from deep to shallow clear stream; from high to bright sun and moon, from close relatives to distant husband and wife. Society’s requirements for women are too high, not only To be independent in the workplace and in managing a marriage, we need to have more patience, perseverance, and acting skills. Only in this way can we make those bad things become things of the past."

The light in Sun Yan's eyes slowly gathered, and she took a deep breath: "I understand. Thank you for staying with me so late. I'm much better."

"I lie in bed every day now. I sleep too much and I can't sleep anyway." Jia Lie paused and said, "Yanzi, we know how difficult it is for you now. As long as it is a decision you have made carefully, no matter what it is, We all support you."

Guyu followed up and said, "That's right. We will always stand by your side. After going through this ordeal, I hope that we can all be kind and be kind, so that the muddy and half-dead marriage can usher in a glimmer of hope."

(End of this chapter)