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Chapter 138 Wangshan is a dead horse!The kids are exhausted!But you think he doesn’t work hard enough! ([-]-in-[-])

As Lin Feng finished speaking, Zhang Xin's father fell into a long silence.

Teacher Lin is right.

Before going to school, Zhang Xin lived in a warm and tolerant family environment.

At that time, Zhang Xin was indeed very close to them.

I still remember one time, because I was socializing, I drank some more wine and fell drunk on the sofa.

Unfortunately, Zhang Xin's mother was not at home that day, so there was no one to take care of him.

At that time, Zhang Xin was only a little over five years old.

No one taught him, Zhang Xin actually went to get hot water for himself to drink, and then covered himself with his quilt...

When he woke up the next day, Zhang Xin was lying on the sofa, hugging his arms and falling asleep.

I will never forget that scene.

However, what is unexpected is that after the child enters school, he allows the child to study with peace of mind.

He is not allowed to do this, and he is also told not to worry about the child, which actually causes the distance between himself and the child to become further and further away.

Thinking of this, Zhang Xin's father smiled bitterly.

I remembered that I was asking Teacher Lin just now - I urge my children to study and I work hard for them, so why is there a problem?
Now it seems that isn't it just forcing children to become machines that only know how to learn? !
However, Zhang Xin is a living person, and he forces him to be like a machine, constantly learning and running, without giving him any chance or space to rest...

Isn't it just to let the child explode under the pressure? !
Isn't Zhang Xin's current state a sign of self-destruction due to exhaustion?

Similarly, Lin Feng's words also made the audience in the live broadcast room fall into deep thought.

"Oh my god, Teacher Lin's words woke me up!"

"Children will be close to their parents, but parents become inhumane after their children learn...teachable."

"I just said that I don't know how to care about my children. I can't find anything to say except asking about learning. But I don't know that my behavior is similar to Zhang Xin's father. I force my children to become learning machines!! "

"Don't do this again in the future. Children who don't get positive feedback will naturally alienate their parents and become a learning machine."

"After listening to Teacher Lin's words, I tried to think about it from my child's perspective. It's true. Asking about studies every day after school, what kind of care is this?"

"Zhang Xin, this child, was under too much pressure to study and his nerves were tense. Finally, after he came into contact with games and started to relax, he lost control and gave up on himself."

"Oh! We understand it. I wonder if Zhang Xin's father understands it?"

"You must have come to your senses. Haven't you been silent for so long?"

"This kind of silence... I don't want to think about it anymore. Then, how should we solve this problem?"

"I think Teacher Lin still needs to take action."

"..."

in front of the screen.

Wang Jianfeng's parents were stunned by Lin Feng's words.

They subconsciously turned to look at the child.

"Me, us??"

Wang Jianfeng's mother signaled her husband with her eyes.

Wang Jianfeng's father waved his hand, sighed and said:
"We always miss how good the sword was when we were young. It was really good back then. The wild fruits picked in the mountains would be picked out for us to keep."

After the words fell, Wang Jianfeng's mother lowered her head:

"Yes, but these scenes never happened again after the baby went to school."

The couple looked at each other and fell silent.

Wang Jianfeng, who was sitting on the other side, thought silently in his heart:
I also went to the mountains to pick fruits after I went to school, but you would blame me for not studying hard and running around all day long.

So gradually, I stopped doing this...

At this time, Wang Jianfeng’s mother spoke again:

"Zhang Xin was under too much pressure from his family, and then he rebounded after being exposed to the game. Our family??"

After the words fell, the couple looked at Wang Jianfeng in unison.

But Wang Jianfeng lowered his head and said nothing.

There are indeed similarities between myself and Zhang Xin, but every family has its own problems, and my family's problems go far beyond that.

Now that the matter is over, let’s wait for Teacher Lin.

Waiting to see how he solves Zhang Xin's family's problems, and waiting for him to solve his own problems.

Teacher Lin... there should be something he can do, right?

Now, the family is quiet again.

……

Zhang Xin's home.

Zhang Xin, in front of the computer, bit his lip and watched the live broadcast in silence.

At this moment, his mood is very complicated.

Because Teacher Lin was right again.

He used to wonder why his parents would approve of things he did before, such as doing housework, bringing tea and water to his parents, etc.

But after I went to school, everything suddenly turned upside down. I would be lectured whenever I did something.

He thought that his academic performance was not good enough and he had to work hard, work hard, and work hard again.

But later I discovered that no matter how hard we try, my parents will always have higher standards.

Then, I started to get tired, started to escape, started to play games...

Thinking of this, Zhang Xin's nose started to feel sore.

Rubbing his nose, Zhang Xin stared at Teacher Lin in the screen, hoping that he could help him get out of the predicament.

At this moment, Zhang Xin's father finally came to his senses.

"Teacher Lin, now I understand why you said that my family also has a problem with family education."

"It puts too much pressure on the child, ignores the child's feelings, and turns the child into a learning machine, making the child more and more alienated from himself..."

After saying this, Zhang Xin's father smiled mockingly, and then said:
"Teacher Lin, I love Zhang Xin. Now, I would like to ask you how to repair the relationship with your child?"

"repair?"

When Lin Feng heard this, he frowned and said:
"Zhang Xin's father, you don't need to repair your relationship with your child."

After the words fell, Zhang Xin's father scratched his head, a little confused:
"Why do you say it doesn't need to be repaired? I...I'm not afraid of your jokes. Zhang Xin and I have been in a cold war for a long time."

"Moreover, even if Zhang Xin is standing in front of me now, I don't know what topics I can talk to him about..."

Zhang Xin’s father sighed:

"This is not a normal parent-child relationship. How can it not be repaired?"

Hearing this, Lin Feng smiled softly and said:
"I also mentioned before that Zhang Xin understands you. He knows all your good intentions, but you don't understand him."

Oh? ?

Zhang Xin's father cheered up and listened carefully to Lin Feng's analysis.

"For example, has this situation ever happened in your home?" Lin Feng said:
"Zhang Xin wanted to get close to you, so he took the initiative to do housework. Regarding this behavior, you praised him before, but now, you will say, 'Go to school! Don't waste your time and energy on doing housework'!" "

"Have you noticed? The same thing happened, and the original positive feedback suddenly turned negative."

"From the parents' perspective, this is concern, but from the children's perspective, they are dissatisfied with anything they do except study. Isn't this forcing children to become learning machines?"

After the words fell, Zhang Xin’s father suddenly realized:
"No wonder Zhang Xin hates me."

Lin Feng shook his head and directly denied Zhang Xin's father's point of view:
"That's not the case. Zhang Xin doesn't hate his parents, but he hates the idea of ​​'not doing anything but studying' itself."

Lin Feng continued calmly and said:
"Dad Zhang Xin, even if the child does these things and does not receive praise, he will not hate you parents, because he knows that you are doing it for his own good. How could he hate you?"

"He just hates things that don't get him praise, so he doesn't do the chores."

After hearing this, Zhang Xin's father thought for a moment, smiled bitterly and said:
"Teacher Lin, it's really like this. Zhang Xin doesn't do any housework now..."

Lin Feng nodded clearly and said:
"Because the child knows that he has to study hard to get close to your parents, so he has been shutting himself in his room and studying hard. The results are actually not bad. Zhang Xin was admitted to a key middle school as you expected, but at this time , he has become a learning machine."

After the words fell, Zhang Xin's father was silent for a moment, then nodded and murmured:

"The funny thing is, I haven't discovered the problem yet."

Hearing the disappointed voice of Zhang Xin's father, Lin Feng shook his head and sighed softly:
"Moreover, the big goal of being admitted to a key middle school has been achieved, and the energy in his heart has been exhausted. In addition, Zhang Xin is a flesh-and-blood person. He is different from a real machine. He will get tired and It’s going to be exhausting.”

"At this time, he looked at his situation and found that when he was tired of studying, his parents would only think that he did not work hard enough. Moreover, your requirements have been increasing. First, he entered a key middle school, then he was ranked [-]th in his grade, and then he was ranked [-]th in his grade. , and maybe the first fifty in grade...it never ends, you don’t know the children are exhausted.”

"Furthermore, children need positive feedback. After entering middle school, the child has never been able to get positive feedback from your parents. It just so happened that he came into contact with games and the game world, which allowed him to relax, and he naturally fell in love with playing games. "

"Because there are teammates in the game who need him and someone who recognizes him. This kind of feedback is what Zhang Xin has always lacked in real life. However, the child was happy, but after you parents found out, you felt that your child's playing games would delay his learning. , so he is not allowed to play.”

At this point, Lin Feng himself laughed bitterly. Many parents don't understand education at all.

“The reason why children lack positive feedback is because their parents put pressure on them and constantly set a bunch of unattainable goals for them.

"Now he wants to stop and take a rest, but the parents don't let him play games, which cuts off his way to relax and get positive feedback. Doesn't this conflict with the parents?"

"After the conflict broke out between Zhang Xin and you, because it was difficult for the child to do this, you thought that the child was in the rebellious stage and that it would be fine after this period of time. You chose to compromise temporarily, and then it evolved into the child being addicted to games and quarreling with his parents. Scenes from the Cold War.”

Hearing this, Zhang Xin's father lowered his head in shame, not knowing what to say.

At this time, Lin Feng had already spoken:

"So, the essence of this matter is not that the relationship between you and Zhang Xin has broken down, and you need to repair the father-son relationship."

"It's because you don't understand what Zhang Xin really needs."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the audience in the live broadcast room sighed and started talking one after another.

"Teacher Lin clearly explained the reasons why children become addicted to games, escape from reality, and become alienated from their parents."

"Let's not talk about children. I am an adult. I am exhausted after working all day. I also come to play some games to relax!"

"I scold my children for playing games every day at home, but I also watch short videos and watch TV series... Is there any essential difference between these?"

"I'm just such a child. I'm tired of studying, but I can't tell my parents to go with me, so I can only play a game... In the end, it feels like I'm guilty. I want to send this video to my parents!"

"Children are not learning machines, and we are not working machines. We should understand each other."

"Yes, if you blindly force your children to study, they will be so depressed that they will eventually explode! Just like what has been revealed in recent years, famous college students, after being admitted to college, just stay in the dormitory and play games, and are eventually dropped out of school. This is It was caused by the sudden relaxation after the biggest goal was achieved."

"These teachings from Teacher Lin are worthy of deep thought by every parent."

"It's not enough to think deeply. The important thing is, what should we parents do next after realizing this?"

"..."

off screen.

Wang Jianfeng's parents suddenly felt that the mobile phones in their hands were a little hot.

After a busy day of business and housework, they like to watch TV and watch short videos to relax.

On average, several hours are spent on this a day!
But what about children?
When I was in elementary school.

I got up at seven in the morning and was sent to school. I was kept in school to study until six in the afternoon.

Then, can you rest when you get home?

No, there is still homework. It needs to be done around ten o'clock in the evening, and you need to go to bed immediately, otherwise you will not be energetic the next day.

Wang Jianfeng lived this kind of life for six full years.

Then, when he got to junior high school and high school, it turned out that the schedule in elementary school was still the most relaxing for him...

Can the child not be tired? !
Now, the parents looked at Wang Jianfeng with a hint of distress in their eyes.

They never thought about this, they only knew to force their children to learn.

Under this kind of long-term pressure, Wang Jianfeng started playing games and began to alienate his parents. In fact, it was a helpless choice!

Wang Jianfeng naturally came into contact with the distressed eyes of his parents.

His nose started to feel slightly sore.

Teacher Lin was talking about Zhang Xin's situation, but how could this not be his own situation?

He wants to get close to his parents, but the response he gets is always - If you have the energy, why don't you do more questions?

Slowly, he forced himself to immerse himself in learning.

Until I entered high school, I was freed from the daily supervision and supervision of my parents, and then I came into contact with games, and those suppressed needs and emotions suddenly burst out...

Thinking of this, Wang Jianfeng turned his head away, not wanting his parents to see the strange look on his face.

……

Zhang Xin sat in front of the computer.

He stared blankly at the barrage in the live broadcast room.

Teacher Lin explained in detail why he became addicted to games, escaped from reality, and alienated his parents...

Even the time points can be said to be accurate!
"Teacher Lin, you are so amazing."

After Zhang Xin whispered these words, his eyes began to turn slightly red when he looked at the barrages in the live broadcast room.

There are many parents here who have begun to empathize with their children's situation.

"That's great. In this case, there are many children in these families, so they probably don't have to be like me, right?"

Zhang Xin murmured.

Because that kind of life where you can't get close to your parents if you want to, has no one to talk to, and doesn't get recognition is really too hard.

Zhang Xin has experienced it once and doesn't want to continue living like this.

Thinking of this, Zhang Xin wiped the corners of his eyes and stared at the live broadcast room:
"It would be great if Teacher Lin could give me a solution."

At this moment, Zhang Xin's father, who was in the living room, seemed to have a telepathic connection with his son, and blurted out:

"Teacher Lin, please give me some advice!"

"I don't want this situation to happen again!"

"What should I pay attention to when getting along with Zhang Xin next?"

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