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Chapter 151 Under heavy constraints!The child’s retaliatory compensatory behavior! (Three-in-one rewards plus updates)

The reason why Lin Feng said this was based on the information provided by Wang Jianfeng's parents and Wang Jianfeng himself.

At the beginning, what he learned from Wang Jianfeng's parents was that they had a very traditional concept of expecting their children to succeed.

For their family, only knowledge can change their destiny, so they have very high requirements for Wang Jianfeng's performance, which is called "achievement pressure."

At the same time, they also have high demands on themselves. On the one hand, they want to achieve class leapfrog step by step from small mountain villages to small towns and then to counties through their own diligence and efforts. This is "realistic pressure."

On the other hand, they also want to raise an outstanding child, which is different from just focusing on grades.

They probably hope that Wang Jianfeng can surpass the children around him in all aspects. This is a secret "psychological pressure".

As a result, performance pressure, realistic pressure, and psychological pressure shrouded the family, making people afraid to relax.

Because of this, what he first thought about was, was Wang Jianfeng escaping reality and addicted to games because he was overwhelmed by the pressure?

So, this situation is somewhat similar to Zhang Xin's before.

It is under heavy pressure that there is a lack of communication between children and their parents. Parents force themselves to become working machines and force their children to become learning machines.

Then the child found that no matter how hard he worked, he had no sense of recognition and achievement, which directly led to the machine being overloaded and overheating.

However, it is not enough to draw direct conclusions based on the words of parents.

That's why Lin Feng then proposed that he wanted to talk to Wang Jianfeng.

But this conversation has different details.

Lin Feng discovered that the type of games Wang Jianfeng played was different from Zhang Xin's.

After careful communication with him, he discovered that the types of games are different and the two children have completely different needs for games.

Zhang Xin lacks the recognition and sense of accomplishment from his parents for his achievements after hard work.

Therefore, he plays games to earn money and collect equipment, all so that his teammates can call him "boss" and satisfy his own sense of identity and accomplishment.

However, after chatting with Wang Jianfeng, he learned that Wang Jianfeng did not care whether his teammates admired his attitude when playing games.

This child enjoys the game and is addicted to it because he can meet many new friends. Everyone fights as a team, cooperates and wins.

Therefore, what Wang Jianfeng values ​​​​is the "social nature" of games. Even if he also gets a sense of recognition and achievement in games, it is also brought about by the social nature of games.

If a person lacks something, he will try to compensate for it in a targeted way.

For example, children who lacked toys when they were young will buy toys crazily when they grow up.

Perhaps, Wang Jianfeng is like this.

The reason why he values ​​the social nature of games so much may be because he lacks social interaction.

From this point, we can deduce that the key point why parents made Wang Jianfeng so stressed that he had nowhere to release it is——

Wang Jianfeng probably doesn't have any social interactions.

At this time, going back further, a detail in the conversation between Wang Jianfeng's parents was magnified.

That is, since elementary school, the couple has always taken their children to and from school and accompanied them to study.

Even if his educational level is low and he cannot help with homework, he will still stay aside and watch.

The euphemistic name is, companionship.

But in this way, it proves that Wang Jianfeng has almost no private time and space of his own since he was a child, let alone playing with other children.

Therefore, after Wang Jianfeng came into contact with highly social games and got away from his parents' control after entering high school, he became addicted to meeting new friends and playing games together!

The audience in the live broadcast room started talking about Lin Feng's conclusion.

"Is Wang Jianfeng's family's problem also a family education problem? So, where is the problem?"

"Wang Jianfeng, this kid, even though he has shut out his parents, I listened to his speech and was polite.
He is organized and has a clear understanding of the game. It really doesn't seem like there is anything wrong with him. "

"His parents, on the other hand, I can feel that they have a good heart. However, due to their cultural level and lack of expression, plus...the instigation of some unknown relatives, it is really possible that there is something wrong with the parents."

"I was still confused at first, but after your analysis, I have the answer! Teacher Lin is right!"

"Aren't you talking nonsense? When did Teacher Lin ever talk nonsense? [Dog Head]"

"I have a serious theory. Teacher Lin said before that parents put a lot of pressure on their children, so is Wang Jianfeng similar to Zhang Xin?"

"Yes, under the heavy pressure, I had no sense of identity and couldn't stand it anymore, so I escaped into the game!"

"Then the solution to the problem is the same as Zhang Xin's, just let the parents understand the pressure on their children?"

"I agree with you, haha, Teacher Lin taught us clearly."

"..."

Outside the live broadcast room, Liu Yong looked at everyone's comments and fell into thinking.

After Wang Jianfeng's explanation before, he had already learned about the "popular science" of the audience in the barrage area and what type of games Wang Jianfeng played.

Leisure, entertainment, relaxation, making friends...

There is no difference between drinking tea, playing cards, meeting a few friends for a drink or something like that after get off work.

People, when you work hard, you have to work hard, otherwise where will success come from?
But you still need to take a break, and the right balance between work and rest is the way to go.

Otherwise, after the string is stretched and broken, there will be problems both mentally and physically, which is not good.

It is precisely because Wang Jianfeng's parents don't understand this that they just know how to put pressure on their children.

In the end, Wang Jianfeng, a kid, indulged in games to gain some breathing space.

In essence, as Teacher Lin said, it is a problem with family education and parents.

Thinking of this, Liu Yong smiled slightly and sighed softly:
"Adults are clearly aware of the pressure and burden on themselves, but they always ignore the pressure and burden on their children..."

"If parents and children cannot understand each other and cannot communicate well, isn't there a problem?"

"Fortunately, now Teacher Lin has found the crux and it's easy to deal with!"

"The child Wang Jianfeng and his family can still be saved. Teacher Lin's record has been added to his record. And I am also a helper, hehe."

This thought brought a happy smile to Liu Yong's face.

Beside him, Wu Peng and Sun Wei showed thoughtful expressions at the same time.

"Does Teacher Lin still think there is something wrong with the parents...?"

Wu Peng murmured:
"Also, Wang Jianfeng's attitude and cooperation are the best among our group. I have to say that my previous performances were disappointing."

Sun Wei glanced at Wu Peng and pursed her lips with a smile:
"And he likes to play games because his friends are playing, which is normal. When we play, aren't we watching our friends?"

Wu Peng nodded, thought for a moment and said:
"Sister Sun, since Teacher Lin has confirmed that the problem still occurs on the parents, is there a possibility that the pressure from the parents is too much? Just like Zhang Xin before."

Sun Wei thought about it, it was really possible, so she nodded:
"It's very difficult to get into a good high school. Among our classmates, which one doesn't make up classes? Listening to his parents, Wang Jianfeng got into the exam solidly based on his own ability, so the pressure is definitely greater."

"Ok!"

Wu Peng thought about the exam that made his scalp numb, and nodded heavily:

"I hope Wang Jianfeng's parents can realize this and give Wang Jianfeng some space, so that he will not escape into the game world like Zhang Xin."

Speaking of this, Sun Wei raised her eyebrows and whispered:
"Does this still require 'hope'?! Come on, don't you still believe Teacher Lin?...I'm telling you..."

At the end of the sentence, Sun Wei's tone brought a hint of excitement and she said mysteriously:
"Now, here comes the fun part."

Something fun?where?
Wu Peng looked at Sun Wei without knowing why.

Sun Wei patted his shoulder and reminded him:

"Have you forgotten that annoying uncle?"

At this time, Wu Peng's mouth slowly opened wide, with a hint of secret excitement on his face:

"Sister Sun, I understand what you mean!"

The two children looked at each other and smiled, their eyes twinkling.

This uncle was so annoyed that he kept shouting about beating the child and kept questioning Teacher Lin.

Now that the conclusion is in front of him, he's waiting for a slap in the face!
……

And at Wang Jianfeng's house.

When Wang Jianfeng's parents heard Lin Feng's conclusion, they immediately slapped the armrest of the sofa and said excitedly:

"I just said that the problem is likely to occur in our family education. Now, Teacher Lin has come to a conclusion."

Wang Jianfeng's father analyzed with excitement and curiosity:
"When I visited Zhang Xin's house before, I felt that some of the words could be applied to our house as well, such as children being stressed out and playing games as an escape from reality."

Wang Jianfeng’s mother was worried and looking forward to it:

"I had the same feeling at the time, but I didn't know how to communicate with Jianfeng. I was afraid that if I said something wrong, we would get into an argument again."

Wang Jianfeng's father glanced at his wife and nodded:

"Yes! Jianfeng doesn't want to talk to us, but if he is willing to communicate with Teacher Lin, it means that we don't understand him. If we don't get to the point, we can't talk together."

Wang Jianfeng’s mother said:

"But it's better now. With Teacher Lin as the intermediary, it's easy to talk about anything."

After the two said this, they continued to watch the live broadcast attentively:

"It doesn't matter what we say, let's see how Teacher Lin analyzes it."

Beside them, Wang Jianfeng's uncle reached out and took out his ears in disbelief.

He felt he had heard wrong.

Wang Jianfeng's addiction to games must be the child's problem, not the parents'!
but……

Listening to the conversation between his sister and brother-in-law, he was confused for a while.

Their words seem to admit that the problem lies with them? ?

At this time, Wang Jianfeng's uncle was a little anxious.

Co-author I said that before, but you didn't listen to a word of it.

but!

If Teacher Lin just says a few words, can you believe it? !

Wang Jianfeng's uncle was not convinced and said directly:
"What are you talking about? Oh my! It's this Teacher Lin who is trying to impress everyone and fool you all." He pointed at his sister and brother-in-law and said in surprise:
"I've already said that Jianfeng is addicted to games because he has no self-discipline, and as he plays, his nerves are eroded by the game. Why can't you listen?"

"Okay, you have to say that you have a problem. That's because you dote on your children, not because of what you just said, which put pressure on your children."

Uncle Wang Jianfeng began to persuade with earnest words:
"In today's society, if you tell your own conscience, which parent doesn't put pressure on their children?"

"Children are all ignorant and need to be pressured by their parents! If you don't put pressure on him, can he study hard and study hard?"

"If you ask me, you will feel less stressed!"

"You should be like me and get beaten once every three days. Isn't that honest?"

"I listened to what this teacher and Jian Feng said, both internally and externally. They were all about playing games to relax... Bah!"

"Why relax? Is now the time to relax?"

"You need to train your children's ability to withstand stress!"

After the words fell, Wang Jianfeng's parents smiled and said:
"Brother, children are not learning machines, and it is normal to rest."

"Yes, brother-in-law, Teacher Lin is right when he says something. If we adults can understand children, we have to take a breath, let alone humans."

When Wang Jianfeng's uncle heard these words, his face turned as dark as the bottom of a pot.

However, Wang Jianfeng's father ignored him and continued:
"You haven't watched this show before, and you don't know that Teacher Lin has many good theories. Parents who don't know how to take a break have forced themselves into working machines and their children into learning machines."

"We parents, we must know how to rest ourselves, and our children must also be able to rest..."

Wang Jianfeng’s mother also nodded in agreement:

"Brother, we parents can't be too extreme."

The cooperation between the two made Wang Jianfeng's uncle furious:
"Okay, okay, I'm going to sit here and watch today. This Teacher Lin can tell you what problems you have!"

After saying this, the uncle also sat on the corner of the sofa. He no longer looked at his sister and brother-in-law, but stared at Lin Feng who was flashing on the TV screen.

……

And upstairs.

Cousin Guo Yucheng was already stunned by Lin Feng's words.

He had thought that Teacher Lin would probably say that it was his cousin's fault for being addicted to games.

Unexpectedly, Teacher Lin opened her mouth and said that her sister-in-law and uncle had not done a good job in their family education.

What's wrong with this?

Guo Yucheng couldn't figure it out, and his fingers began to subconsciously touch the bench he was sitting on, all he thought about was:

"What does this Teacher Lin mean? Isn't everything parents do hoping that their children will become better?"

"Just like my dad, he beat me and scolded me every now and then. He even sent me to Professor Mu Yi for treatment just to get me to stop playing games."

"Did my dad and Professor Mu Yi do something wrong?"

Thinking of this, Guo Yucheng faintly felt that his previous world view had been greatly impacted.

At this moment, Wang Jianfeng didn't notice his cousin's expression, he was just stunned.

Then, a strong feeling of emotion emerged, so much so that his voice choked up:
"Teacher Lin, you are the first person to say that..."

"Before, whether it was school teachers, relatives or friends, they all thought it was my fault."

Although moved, Wang Jianfeng still asked:

"Teacher Lin, why do you say there is something wrong with my parents?"

After hearing his question, Lin Feng smiled slightly and asked him:

"Jianfeng, answer me a question first - you play games mainly to make friends in the game, right?"

“That’s why we attach great importance to the social aspect of this game, right?”

Wang Jianfeng was stunned when he heard Lin Feng's question.

Why did Teacher Lin suddenly ask this?

And, it really touched my heart...

At this time, Wang Jianfeng was a little embarrassed and a little moved.

Because I have tried to communicate with my parents about this problem before, but their parents didn't care at all and didn't understand him. They only scolded him for playing games but not studying well, and kept emphasizing to him over and over that he should study hard...

Thinking of this, Wang Jianfeng sighed:

"Teacher Lin, you are really amazing. I play games mainly to make friends. This is the best way I can find to make friends."

"You don't know, before I played games, I basically didn't have any friends in real life. This game is very popular among students, and it's easy for me to find people on the same channel."

Having said this, Wang Jianfeng scratched his head and asked:
"Teacher, how can you be so accurate? Is it because you know this game very well?"

Lin Feng smiled slightly and said:
"I don't know much about the game, and what I say is all speculation."

what?
Wang Jianfeng frowned and looked at Lin Feng in confusion.

"At first, I heard from your parents that they have high hopes for you and hope that you will be admitted to high schools and universities in big cities."

Lin Feng explained calmly:

"I thought at the time that your situation might be similar to Zhang Xin's before. Your parents put too much pressure on you and lacked communication, so you indulged yourself in games."

Wang Jianfeng slowly loosened his brows, remembering the scene in the morning when he and his parents watched Zhang Xin's live broadcast.

At that time, after learning about Zhang Xin's situation, I could indeed sympathize with Zhang Xin.

But I never spend money playing games myself, so the feeling is actually quite different.

Then, Wang Jianfeng opened his mouth and said:
"Teacher, there is one thing that is different. Although I am addicted to games, I have never spent a penny on games until now."

Lin Feng nodded and said:
"Yes, there is a big difference between you and Zhang Xin."

"First of all, you know the financial situation of your family. Secondly, your parents will have stricter control over you when it comes to spending money."

Wang Jianfeng nodded after hearing this:
"Indeed, my family runs a small business, and I can see all the hard work."

"Moreover, my parents started from scratch and slowly moved from the village to the town to buy houses. They are quite sensitive about money."

"Before I entered high school, I lived and ate at home and had almost no pocket money. Even the New Year's money was under the control of my parents. Everything I bought was directly borne by my parents."

"Later I went to study in the county town, and I had free living expenses. However, I know that my parents work hard to make money, so I won't ask for more."

After hearing this, Lin Feng nodded and once again confirmed his previous thoughts.

Now what Wang Jianfeng said is actually verified from the side. Wang Jianfeng's parents are very strict in controlling all aspects, whether in study or life.

In fact, this child has been under the control and restraint of his parents for a long time.

So, Lin Feng continued to speak:
"It is through this that I judge that your situation is different from Zhang Xin's."

"Zhang Xin plays games because he lacks a sense of identity and achievement. He needs his teammates in the game to call him boss to satisfy his needs that he cannot get in reality."

"And your grades have been very good since you were a child. You are even the only one in your village who has been admitted to a key middle school, so you obviously have no lack of sense of identity and accomplishment."

Wang Jianfeng nodded silently.

Lin Feng smiled slightly and then said:

"During my chat with you and listening to your introduction to this game, I found that you attach great importance to the social nature of this game."

"So, you should play games just to make more friends and enjoy the feeling of teamwork and winning."

"In addition, when your parents chatted with me before, they once mentioned that although their cultural level is not high, they have always insisted on taking you to and from school. Even if they cannot help you with your homework, they will study with you."

"In this way, you should have no private space or time to socialize since you were a child. The most you can do is chat with your classmates at school, let alone play with other children."

The more Wang Jianfeng listened, the more shocked he became.

With just this little information, Teacher Lin was able to infer so much!And completely accurate!

Wang Jianfeng silently gave Lin Feng a thumbs up in his heart.

Then, he opened his own talk box:

"Teacher Lin, you are so awesome! You are absolutely right!"

"When I was in elementary school, my classmates could get together after school to roll hoops, bounce glass balls, play cardboard, and jump rubber bands..."

"But I can't. I have to go home immediately after school. I can't play with my classmates, even if I have finished my homework."

"Because, my parents always think that I will be led astray by those playful classmates..."

"Later, I came into contact with basketball in the town in junior high school. The teacher saw that I was quite talented and asked me to join the basketball team, saying that good grades would also give me extra points in the high school entrance examination."

"But my parents went straight to the school and told the teacher that they didn't agree and that there weren't many extra points. It would be better to concentrate on studying to achieve better improvement."

"I resisted, and they gave away my basketball directly...then why should I play."

"...I stopped playing with my friends on the basketball team."

Wang Jianfeng spread his hands and said helplessly:
"Under the strict protection of my parents, all my real friends have drifted away."

Lin Feng sighed inaudibly.

Worrying that the child will be misled, forcing the child to focus all his attention on learning...

It’s amazing that Wang Jianfeng can make friends!
"Teacher can understand you."

Lin Feng said softly:

"The situation in Zhang Xin's family is that her parents are always dissatisfied with their children's grades, so Zhang Xin is under great pressure and lacks a sense of recognition and achievement."

"And in your family, your pressure is that you are overly restrained by your parents and have no way to make friends or have fun."

"So, when you get into high school and get a mobile phone and are exposed to highly social games, you will become addicted to meeting new friends and playing games together after you are freed from the control of your parents."

"This is actually your subconscious retaliatory compensation behavior!"

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