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Chapter 153 Hedgehogs huddle together for warmth!The sense of boundary and synergy between parents and children! (Four-in-one monthly pass plus updates)

When he heard Lin Feng invite his parents upstairs, Wang Jianfeng was already worried.

My parents have been listening to my conversation with Teacher Lin just now. What do they think now?
What will they say when they come up later?How should I answer?

Before Wang Jianfeng could think about it, there was a knock on the door!

"Jianfeng, can we come in?"

Hearing his parents' cautious inquiries, Wang Jianfeng became increasingly uneasy.

He subconsciously looked at Lin Feng in the camera, feeling a little at a loss.

When Lin Feng saw this, he just smiled and nodded towards him.

Then, Wang Jianfeng took a deep breath of air and opened the door anxiously.

At this time, Wang Jianfeng's parents were standing outside the door, also extremely worried.

The son did not respond and the door did not open for a long time.

Wang Jianfeng's father subconsciously reached out his hand and wanted to knock again.

But they were all lifted up, and then gently put down.

I cannot urge, I am reluctant to urge, and I am even more afraid of urging.

The couple just waited and expected silently, counting the seconds passing by.

However, it only lasted two or three seconds, but the couple felt that a long time had passed...

Until there was a soft "squeak" sound and the door opened...

The couple stared blankly at Wang Jianfeng inside the door, their throats congested.

They raised their legs, but then silently put them down.

Because, this tangible door opened in front of me.

But they don't know if the invisible door in the child's heart has been opened.

Wang Jianfeng also noticed this subtle behavior of his parents.

His nose felt sore and he blinked hard.

After looking at each other in silence, he lowered his head, took a step forward, stretched out his hand, and took his parents' hands.

No talking, no communication.

However, the eyes of all three people turned red.

Wang Jianfeng's parents were moved and surprised.

Because they knew that this move meant that the invisible door they were worried about had been opened.

However, as a result, they were even more afraid to speak.

He was afraid that he would say something wrong and cause another rift between parents and children.

And Wang Jianfeng felt the warm warmth coming from his hands and heart.

Looking down, I found that my parents' hands were covered with traces of time.

He felt a lump of emotion rising from his chest and catching in his throat.

Speechless, he silently let go, brought a stool, and placed it in front of his parents.

And his cousin Guo Yucheng, who was also in the room, watched all this silently.

Ever since Lin Feng asked him to stay in this room, the turbulent emotions in his heart had not faded away.

Let’s not mention the doubts in my mind before, let’s just talk about it from the moment my cousin opened the door.

Although everyone was silent, he could clearly feel it.

There is a kind of silent warmth flowing around my cousin's family.

This realization made Guo Yucheng feel like thorns on his back all over his body.

He couldn't tell whether he was confused or jealous at this moment.

In short, he and his father had never had this feeling.

Because my father always emphasizes that a father is dignified in front of his son.

And he, Guo Yucheng, is a man and cannot shed tears or act coquettishly with adults.

Therefore, in his memory, there was basically no such tender physical contact between himself and his father.

If I insist on saying yes, I don’t know if it counts the moment the stick falls on me...

Thinking of this, Guo Yucheng lowered his head and dropped a tear on the ground.

There was no crying or shaking of the body.

It was clear that my heart was in pain, but my body seemed to have lost its instinctive response, becoming stiff and sluggish.

Even the tears are only one drop.

Guo Yucheng didn't understand.

Why can my cousin hold my parents' hands?
Why do I have to knock on the door when my sister-in-law and uncle buy a house, and why do I need permission before I can enter?
Why can he get angry with his parents even though it's his cousin's fault?

Why... can my cousin live so happily?
Tears can no longer be shed...

Guo Yucheng's body bent into a shrimp shape, his hands crossed his chest, and he hugged himself silently.

At the same time, the audience in the live broadcast room smiled happily as they watched Wang Jianfeng busy moving stools for his parents.

"I was so anxious just now because I was afraid that the child wouldn't open the door."

"I knew this door would definitely open, otherwise wouldn't Teacher Lin's work be in vain? But I didn't expect that he would hold my parents' hands."

"Yes, the moment I held my parents' hands, I was stunned."

"So it seems that the relationship has eased, right? That's great!"

"It seems they are beginning to understand each other, thank you Teacher Lin!"

"Huh? Just talking about Wang Jianfeng's family, have you noticed that there seems to be something wrong with his cousin?"

"I noticed that something was wrong when my cousin saw them coming in holding hands."

"Hmm, I can't see his expression clearly even if I lower my head, but his action... seems to be hugging himself?"

"Actually, it's understandable. My cousin's family atmosphere... is hard to comment on. Maybe it was the warmth of Wang Jianfeng's family that touched him."

"Well, there is hope for Wang Jianfeng's family now, but it's hard to say about my cousin. I wish you the best of luck."

"Guess why Teacher Lin called my cousin over? [Eat Melon]"

"..."

Outside the live broadcast room, the moment director Liu Yong heard Lin Feng calling Wang Jianfeng's parents to come upstairs, he knew that Teacher Lin was sure to solve their family's problem.

Therefore, while the viewers in the live broadcast room were worried that something might go wrong in this link, he didn't feel too much.

Because I believe in Lin Feng!
However, what he never expected was that Wang Jianfeng would take the initiative to hold his parents' hands and lead them into the room.

In his imagination, the door would open, but Wang Jianfeng and his parents might be embarrassed and at a loss...

They even looked at each other in silence, waiting for Teacher Lin to speak.

Who would have thought that this child would hold his parents' hands and enter the house together?

Seeing this scene, Liu Yong smiled.

Then, he saw the barrage discussing his cousin's abnormality.

Only then did he pay attention to his cousin Guo Yucheng, who had been beside him.

Mainly because Guo Yucheng had always been quiet before, unlike his father who was jumping up and down.

He was as quiet as a doll in this room, unnoticeable at all.

If there weren't so many people in the live broadcast room, his changes might have been ignored.

At this moment, Liu Yong was distracted to observe him after being reminded.

Then, I saw him lowering his head and folding his arms.

As a director, Liu Yong knows very well what kind of body language corresponds to what.

"This... Guo Yucheng feels very unsafe right now. It should be that his spirit or outlook on life has been greatly impacted."

Liu Yong came to a conclusion immediately.

Now he was confused.

Obviously Teacher Lin has been educating Wang Jianfeng's family, but he has no interaction with him?

However, the next moment, he came back to his senses.

My cousin just looks like a puppet, not a real puppet. How could he remain indifferent after hearing so much?
"However, does Teacher Lin have any plans or ideas about my cousin's family??"

Liu Yong remembered Lin Feng's previous action of calling his cousin into the house, and suddenly thought of this point.

Then, he looked at Lin Feng not far away with confusion.

Unfortunately, Lin Feng's expression was dull and nothing could be seen at all.

Liu Yong could only withdraw his gaze in confusion.

At this time, he heard Wu Peng on the side said:

"Sister Sun, are they reconciled?"

Upon hearing the question, Sun Wei nodded, then shook her head:
"It doesn't really count, does it?"

"Ah? What do you say?"

Wu Peng asked curiously.

Sun Wei thought for a moment and said:
"Holding hands with parents is a very intimate act. Didn't I say before that Wang Jianfeng locked himself in a room and refused to communicate?"

"This move now is a sign of the easing of relations, but... it's not enough."

After saying this, Wu Peng understood immediately.

Looking back on the reconciliation scene between me and my father, the emotions at that time were much more intense than those of Wang Jianfeng's family now.

Then, Wu Peng looked at Lin Feng and thought to himself:
What will Teacher Lin do next?

However, before he could come up with a reason, Sun Wei pushed him gently:
"Hey, look, is that cousin not normal?"

Wu Peng suddenly came back to his senses and looked over with squinted eyes:
"Why is he holding himself? However, there is a saying that he seems to be somewhat human like this."

Hearing this comment, Sun Wei glanced at Wu Peng in surprise.

Then... I think what he said makes sense.

Now my cousin seems to be a bit emotional.

"Humans are not grass and trees after all. Perhaps Teacher Lin's words touched him."

Sun Wei sighed lightly:

"It's his father...it's hard to say."

Wu Peng also sighed:

"It's really unfortunate for this cousin to meet such a parent."

Although the two children sympathized with their cousin, they were powerless to deal with his situation and could only continue to focus on the live broadcast.

At this time, Lin Feng saw that their family was ready, so he spoke calmly:

"Hello, Jianfeng's father and mother."

Wang Jianfeng's parents nodded, smiled, glanced at the child, and touched the hand the child had just shaken.

Lin Feng took in everything, smiled slightly, and continued:

"I wonder what you feel in your hearts when you hold your hands together?"

Wang Jianfeng’s parents smiled at each other and replied:
"We didn't expect it... but it feels good."

Wang Jianfeng, on the other hand, said in a low voice with some trepidation:
"I just don't want to waste time... However, your hands are different from what I remember."

Lin Feng smiled softly and said:

"But that warm touch is the same, right?"

After the words fell, the three of them nodded in unison.

Lin Feng saw this and continued:
"Guess what I saw from your actions just now?"

Wang Jianfeng's family looked at each other and shook their heads in confusion.

What else can be seen from this?

"I can see that you both have a heart that wants to be close to each other."

Hearing this, the three of them were silent. Then, Wang Jianfeng's father smiled bitterly and asked:
"Oh, Teacher Lin, why do we all want to be close to each other, but why are we like this?"

Faced with Wang Jianfeng's father's question, Lin Feng raised his eyebrows slightly and asked:
"Do you know the story about hedgehogs hugging each other to stay warm?"

Hedgehogs huddle together for warmth?What is this story?
Wang Jianfeng's parents, whose educational level was not high, shook their heads honestly.

But Wang Jianfeng looked up at Lin Feng, with complicated emotions in his eyes.

At this time, Lin Feng explained unhurriedly:

"This story tells that in a cold winter, a family of hedgehogs huddled together, trying to stay warm and rest. However, they had sharp thorns on their bodies. If they were close, they would sting each other, but if they were far away, they would sting each other. , feeling cold again.”

"Do you know? I feel like your family is like hedgehogs, wanting to get close to each other, but you don't know where the appropriate boundaries are, so you either end up stabbing each other, or you end up enduring the cold alone."

Speaking of this, Lin Feng sighed softly:

"The reason why you feel like you can't get close to each other is because you don't know the appropriate boundaries and where they should be placed!"

Is it because we don’t understand boundaries that our family is what it is today?

Wang Jianfeng's parents' eyes widened, and then they began to think slowly.

Wang Jianfeng pursed his lips, looked at his parents' expressions, and then looked at Lin Feng on the screen, his eyes gradually clearing up.

"Jianfeng parents."

Lin Feng said softly:
"The problem with your family is that you are stubborn and think that you will not harm your children. Then, you force Jianfeng to accept what you think is good. This is a violation of your child's boundaries. "The free will in the child is suppressed by your will and cannot be extended."

"For example, you are worried that he will become bad, so you control him and prevent him from making friends. Or, subconsciously, you think that making friends at this stage is useless, so you force him not to make friends."

Wang Jianfeng's parents lowered their heads in shame, while Wang Jianfeng touched his sore nose and lowered his head in silence.

Lin Feng continued:

"Your excessive intrusion has caused the child Jianfeng to have no private time and space to develop himself freely, and can only immerse himself in study."

"But, as I said before, children are not learning machines, so they will only become addicted to the game world when they reach high school and are out of your control."

"Furthermore, Jianfeng seems to be playing games, but in fact, it is more about making friends in the game world. By staying with friends, teaming up to fight monsters and leveling up, he can make up for the social interactions he lacked before. .”

"However, you didn't realize this before. Instead, you used the appearance of 'playing games' to constantly conflict with your children."

Wang Jianfeng's parents took a deep breath after hearing this.

Then, Wang Jianfeng’s father asked the question he was concerned about:

"Teacher Lin, you must have noticed that we actually don't want to conflict with our children, but what should we do in this situation?"

After the words fell, Wang Jianfeng on the side clenched his fists nervously.

Facing their nervousness, Lin Feng just smiled calmly:
"Game issues should be cleared up rather than blocked."

"Humans are naturally social animals and need a social life."

"If you don't want your children to be addicted to making friends in games, then you need to let your children have friends in reality."

"what?!"

Wang Jianfeng's mother exclaimed, extremely surprised.

She didn't expect that the answer given by Teacher Lin would be so simple!
And...will such a simple method really be effective?

However, before she could ask her question, Lin Feng had already waved to them:

"Don't be surprised, listen to me."

Wang Jianfeng's parents immediately sat down obediently.

"When I talk about friends, you may think that Jianfeng has to make friends with his classmates and peers, but I want to remind you that you can also become Jianfeng's friends."

Lin Feng opened his mouth and explained:

"First of all, you have to understand why Jianfeng likes to play games? It's because games give him a sense of synergy that he can't get in reality."

"If you think about it, when Jianfeng was playing the game, did he discuss it with his teammates? How to divide the work? Who will play first and who will play later? Even if it fails, there will even be a review..."

"In the game, Jianfeng will not feel lonely. He is not fighting alone."

"But, at home, do you have this sense of synergy?"

Faced with Lin Feng's question, Wang Jianfeng's father fell silent, and then shook his head:
"Ashamed to say, no."

Wang Jianfeng's father understood what Lin Feng meant and continued:

"At home, apart from studying, we don't let Jianfeng interfere with anything. Where is the coordination?"

"Even the companionship I was so proud of before, now that I think about it, it's no different from surveillance."

As soon as these words came out, Wang Jianfeng's eyes turned red.

He never thought that his father would one day reflect on himself like this...

At this moment, Lin Feng said:
"So, you not only want Jianfeng to go out and make friends, but also if he likes to play basketball, you let him go."

"Not only is it relaxing to make friends, but Jianfeng only comes back two days a week. Exercising with his former classmates for an hour or two on these two days is also very good for his health."

"Then, you also become friends with him and let him participate in your life. For example, you can accomplish something together, from doing housework together to running your family's business together...cultivate family synergy. feel."

"In short, you are not invading your child's life, but you are helping your child to expand his self-boundaries so that he can better interact with the world."

Hearing this, Wang Jianfeng's father nodded heavily:

"We know this, what else?"

Wang Jianfeng’s mother also nodded in agreement:

"Teacher Lin, please continue, we will listen carefully."

Lin Feng nodded and then said:

"Secondly, you must be able to tolerate your children."

"The tolerance I'm talking about here doesn't mean that you don't beat or scold him when you see him playing games... In my opinion, this situation is not called tolerance, but a helpless compromise after being unable to communicate with the child. "

Originally, Wang Jianfeng's father was about to use this as an example, but when Lin Feng said this, the words got stuck in his throat.

After he finished listening to Lin Feng's words, he felt ashamed.

Yes, this is just a helpless step back, and it cannot be said to be active tolerance at all.

At this time, Lin Feng continued:

"The reason why I specifically mentioned this is because in my communication with you, I found that you have high hopes for Jianfeng and hope that he can lead this family and change the family."

"However, this kind of thing cannot be rushed. If you keep your eyes on this result, you will be too harsh on the children today."

Wang Jianfeng's father nodded, glanced at his son, and said solemnly:
"Well, I remember, you can't rush for success."

Lin Feng smiled softly and then said:

"The last point is that I hope that you will sit down with your child Jianfeng and hold a family meeting to clarify your family rules."

"In the past, the only rule in your family was that everything must be compromised for the sake of your children's learning. This is wrong."

"As I said just now, children have no sense of collaboration, only the distress of being dominated."

"However, games are not like this. Games have clear rules. Whether it is positive or negative feedback, it is very timely and clear. In games, children do not consume themselves."

"But, in a family, he will consume himself because of unclear rules!"

"Think about it, the game world does not consume him, but the family has been consuming him. In this way, does Jianfeng prefer games or family?"

After the words fell, Wang Jianfeng's parents looked at their son.

Wang Jianfeng met their gazes with a hint of sadness in his eyes.

The answer is already there.

At the same time, the audience in the live broadcast room nodded repeatedly.

"As expected of Teacher Lin, I gave him a thorough explanation of the solution to the problem!"

"Do you cultivate children's sense of collaboration in the family? I remember when I was a child, my parents were cooking and I was picking vegetables and peeling garlic. That was the first family collaboration!"

"I also remember when I was a child, my father would cook the bone soup, and I would stay by the side. When the bone was cooked, my father would secretly tear the meat and feed it to me."

"You are not cooperating, are you? You are greedy [dog head]"

"Teacher Lin is right. Wang Jianfeng's parents are so obsessed with the result of changing their family that they are too tense at the moment. Just imagine, playing basketball for an hour every day is actually a good thing for their children to exercise!"

"Yes, it is precisely because the future is so great that they are afraid that Wang Jianfeng's slightest relaxation will affect the results, so they keep the child stuck. In this case, the child will suffer from internal friction if not internal friction. It is better to Let nature take its course.”

"Yes, I was born in a family with internal conflicts, so I understand this feeling very well. Teacher Lin touched my heart when he said it."

"There really needs to be a clear rule. If you want to be beaten to death in the game, you will die. The game will not say. 'Oh, I don't want you to die, but I have no choice.' These words are really listenable. Just want to escape."

"And children must participate in formulating such rules, because parents will have double standards!! You don't know, my dad is this kind of parent. I can't watch my phone while eating, but he is very happy watching short videos. I can’t say it yet, I’ll explode as soon as I say it…”

"Looking at your speeches, I realized that where is the Wang Jianfeng family that Teacher Lin said? Many families have been hit by this boomerang."

"I can only say that Teacher Lin is Teacher Lin!"

"..."

Liu Yong looked at the lively discussions in the live broadcast room and pursed his lips with a smile.

Teacher Lin just pointed out the problem of Wang Jianfeng's family, but he didn't expect it would cause such a big response.

All I can say is that he is indeed Teacher Lin!

However, thinking carefully about these suggestions, Liu Yong also felt that he had benefited a lot.

Teacher Lin said that in order for children to have a sense of synergy, it is important for them to lead a team, but also to let the members have a sense of synergy!
Just like filming a documentary for the children in Xiangzhang Village, it mobilized everyone's unparalleled enthusiasm and sense of identity. The collaborative cooperation in this situation was a hundred times better than any overtime pay he had received before. more than……

Not to mention knowing how to be tolerant!

As a director, he has encountered too many temporary situations, many of which were caused by the people below not doing their jobs well.

However, sometimes, he still needs to bear the burden himself.

Because if he doesn't tolerate it, things won't get done and people's hearts will be scattered.

Finally, it is so important that the rules are clear. In the family, if the rules are not clear, it will consume the children.

On the program team, as a director, if he acts haphazardly, consumption is a euphemism, and the program will break up in minutes.

Liu Yong pondered these suggestions, and the more he thought about them, the more interesting they became.

Wu Peng, who was beside him, looked at Lin Feng's profile and said thoughtfully:

"Teacher Lin really knows us children well and prescribes the right medicine for us!"

Sun Wei nodded and smiled:

"In our families, some situations are the same and some are different. Teacher Lin is really attentive and helps us analyze it bit by bit, for fear that we won't understand."

"Ok!"

Wu Peng nodded, then thought of Wang Jianfeng's cousin's family, and couldn't help but say:
"After saying so much, the problem of Wang Jianfeng's family has been solved, but his uncle and cousin... I don't know how much they can listen to it?"

Sun Weili was stunned for a moment, then nodded:

"Don't tell me, Wang Jianfeng's cousin's family probably won't listen, right? Otherwise, we can't suppress my cousin like that."

While the two were discussing this, Uncle Wang Jianfeng, who was talking to them, frowned and watched the TV.

"This Teacher Lin speaks in a vague manner. What is free will? What is the sense of boundaries?"

The uncle frowned and muttered:

"There are also things like hedgehogs hugging each other to keep warm, but humans are not hedgehogs, and they can't grow thorns."

After finishing speaking, Wang Jianfeng's uncle squinted his eyes and looked at his sister and brother-in-law on the screen:

"It's just sensationalism. Thanks to my stupid sister and brother-in-law, I still listen to it with gusto."

Then, he said angrily:

"Anyway, from what I heard, you just let the children play games and basketball? This teacher Lin is just talking nonsense!"

“Isn’t it enough for children to read good books and respect their elders?!”

"Tsk, tsk, let's hear what bad idea he came up with. He even brought Wang Jianfeng to do business. If you are a big kid, you won't lose the money!"

"Besides, what is toleration for? After a few spankings, there is no need to be tolerant, because the child knows that he cannot make mistakes! If he does not make mistakes, there is no need to be tolerant!"

Having said this, he narrowed his eyes and paused:
"But there should be clear rules at home. It's not bad. Without rules, nothing will happen!"

"But...the rules are set by adults, and it's none of the children's business! It's all nonsense to hold family meetings!"

While his uncle was thinking about it, his cousin Guo Yucheng, who was upstairs, fell into a huge whirlpool of thoughts.

He wanted to say that what Teacher Lin said made sense. Children also have their own boundaries and need to play and relax.

But as soon as this thought arose, my father's past teachings immediately jumped out and forcibly suppressed this thought!

He remembered that when he was a child, he came home late from school because of his playfulness. His father stood at the door of the house, holding a long wooden stick in his hand.

That afternoon, my father’s distorted face, the stick he raised, and his scoldings——

Don't blame me for taking action if you don't come home from school!I don’t have a playful son!
This sentence became his permanent nightmare!
Later, he fell in love with games and played secretly for a while after studying.

But after his father found out, he immediately concluded that he was sick and his nerves had been damaged by games, regardless of the reason, and then sent him to Professor Mu Yi...

He wanted to say that he was not sick, but Professor Mu Yi led others and pinned him down on the stage.

Pain... severe pain!

At that time, he realized that playing games would really break his nerves, and that he was sick if he liked games!

But...my cousin obviously plays games too!

Why is my cousin not sick? !

Memories of the past and doubts about reality have plunged Guo Yucheng into a fierce ideological struggle!

This kind of battle between heaven and man made Guo Yucheng's hands start to tremble. He didn't know who was right.

At this moment, his father's face and Professor Mu Yi's face were spinning crazily in his mind!
Gradually, Professor Mu Yi's face and his father's face both distorted and disappeared...

And Teacher Lin’s face became clearer and clearer!

Moreover, Teacher Lin's face looked so sunny, so soft, without a trace of haze.

Swish!
Guo Yucheng's face turned pale and his breathing began to quicken:

"Teacher Lin...yes, Teacher Lin! Can I also tell Teacher Lin about my situation?"

Guo Yucheng held his head and looked at Lin Feng blankly.

In front of him, Wang Jianfeng's family did not notice anything strange about him.

At this time, all the attention of Wang Jianfeng's parents was on Wang Jianfeng. They said with guilt and anxiety:
"Jianfeng, I listened to what Teacher Lin said. Dad never thought that the things your mother and I thought were good for you would make you so uncomfortable..."

Wang Jianfeng's mother gently put her arms around her son's shoulders and said:
"Yeah! I really didn't expect it! Jianfeng, if my mother says I'm sorry to you, can you... accept it?"

After the words fell, the couple looked at their son with hope and nervousness.

Under their gaze, Wang Jianfeng's eyes suddenly turned red, and long-repressed tears flowed down.

"What...I'm sorry..."

Wang Jianfeng wiped his face, but more and more tears flowed, and he couldn't wipe them away no matter how hard he wiped them.

After a while, he couldn't hold it any longer, howled out, and threw himself into the arms of his parents:
"Dad! Mom! Thank you!"

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