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Chapter 175 Blind date failed five times in one month!In the eyes of parents, they are always children! ([-]-in-[-])

Children can take charge of their own lives, but as parents, they have been doing a disservice...

As soon as this thought appeared, it was like lightning piercing the darkness.

Qian Zhiqiang's previously chaotic brain suddenly became clear!

"Son, I'm sorry."

He lowered his head and murmured softly. His wife beside him was already in tears.

So what if I apologize?
My son's precious year has been wasted!
Moreover, although the child has already stated his own arrangements and they are indeed well organized, there is no risk in participating in competitions or taking exams again.
The couple felt so regretful that they dared not look into Qian Yongan's eyes.

At this moment, Qian Yongan took a step forward, spread his arms, and gave his parents a big hug!

From the moment his parents apologized, he already knew their regrets and worries.

Therefore, Qian Yongan said firmly:
"Mom, Dad, I can understand you, and I don't blame you!"

After the words fell, Qian Zhiqiang and Wang Mei's bodies trembled slightly.

Then, he gently hugged his son with his backhand.

Qian Yongan's voice continued:

"Although I wasted a year, after going through these detours, I understood a very important truth——"

"That is, I am responsible for my own life."

"The sooner we understand this matter, the better."

"Don't worry, my son will be able to walk well in the future."

After the words fell, Wang Mei and Qian Zhiqiang both sobbed softly.

Qian Yongan's eyes were also red.

The family of three hugged each other quietly, with only gentle sobs left in the air.

After a while, Qian Yongan remembered that it was still live broadcast.

So, he embarrassedly let go of the hug, wiped his tears, and signaled to his parents that Teacher Lin was still connected.

"what?"

Wang Mei let out a soft cry and quickly looked at Lin Feng with an apologetic look:

"Teacher Lin, I'm sorry, our family was so excited just now that we ignored you."

When Lin Feng heard this, he smiled softly, waved his hands carelessly, and said:
"I feel very relieved to see that your family understands each other. No need to apologize."

After a pause, Lin Feng said sincerely:

"This child Yong'an is really lucky to have parents like you."

After the words fell, Wang Mei and Qian Zhiqiang lowered their heads in embarrassment, not daring to look into Lin Feng's eyes.

"We... are uneducated and have no vision, and we still come up with blind ideas and delay our children..."

"Teacher Lin, don't say that, you can't afford it."

After listening to their words, Lin Feng said seriously:

"What I just said is sincere. You have never seen the kind of parents who refuse to admit their mistakes and are locked up by officials."

When Lin Feng said this, the audience in the live broadcast room all laughed in unison.

At this time, Lin Feng continued to speak:
"You are better than most parents in the world if you can face your own problems."

"In fact, in real life, it is more common for parents whose thinking and cognition level is average or even very poor, but they are very persistent in major matters, unwilling to give up their authoritative position in the family, and do not listen to the opinions of their children as a new generation, or even Parents who want to interfere in their major life choices.”

At this point, Lin Feng shook his head helplessly and sighed.

At this time, Qian Yongan was heartbroken and asked:
"Teacher Lin, if there are children in the same situation as me, but their parents are the parents you just mentioned, what should they do?"

"It's a live broadcast now. I think what you say next will be seen by many people. Can you point out a way for them?"

Qian Yongan looked at Lin Feng with bright eyes.

For him, the detour has been taken. There is no way to go back and he can only look forward.

But if one of my own questions can prevent more children from taking detours, that would be a great thing.

Lin Feng looked at Qian Yongan with approval and replied:

"It's not about giving directions, so let me tell you my opinion!"

"As I said before, if you are a parent with average vision and cognitive level, their reference for making judgments can only be their little experience in the past."

"When the person with the most say in the family always uses past superficial experience to judge the new things and new environments that are developing with each passing day, or even interferes with the choices of children, the final result will definitely not be good. , at this time, if the children do not dare to resist, then such children will most likely be destroyed."

"The only way to end this fate is to make your own judgment as the new generation in the family."

"If your parents are not very insightful, and if their lives are miserable, then don't blindly follow them. Don't give in easily just because you are a child in front of them."

"Especially when making major choices in life, you must keep a clear head and keep your boundaries."

As Lin Feng finished speaking, the audience in the live broadcast room nodded thoughtfully.

"Although this family has its own imperfections, it is now warm and harmonious, which makes me envious."

“Just now I was so moved by the reconciliation of Qian Yongan’s family, but I was caught off guard by Teacher Lin’s lesson.”

"Just tell me, do you like this lesson?"

"Please recite the full text of Teacher Lin's words!"

"We really should have our own judgment on things and keep our own boundaries."

"Yes, parents have the say in the family. Sometimes just because they are parents does not mean that their knowledge and vision must be higher than that of their children. You know, we have only made universal compulsory education less than 40 years ago. The education level of this generation really cannot keep up with today’s children.”

"Teacher Lin talked about it from the bottom of my heart. My parents have managed their marriage to pieces, and now they are desperately interfering in my marriage and family... It makes me cry if I talk about it too much."

"Brothers upstairs, guard your boundaries!"

"When it comes to major choices in life, you must keep a clear mind and guard your boundaries - I have learned the lesson, thank you Teacher Lin!"

"..."

Outside the live broadcast room, Liu Yong looked at the reconciled family of three in the picture and showed a happy smile.

After a while, he touched the corners of his raised mouth and sighed with emotion:

"Eh? Am I getting old? Looking at this scene of a family reunion, I can't help but laugh. Happiness can also be passed on."

After sighing, Liu Yong felt something in his heart and looked at Lin Feng.

Teacher Lin devoted himself to education. I think he also felt the happiness of "bringing happiness to others through his own efforts", right?
Sure enough, he successfully captured the faint smile on Lin Feng's face.

Then, after hearing Qian Yongan's question and Lin Feng's answer, Liu Yong fell into thinking.

He had never thought about this before because his experience was different.

He worked hard all by himself without any support or interference from his family.

To be honest, sometimes when I dream back in the middle of the night, I also think about how great it would be if someone in the family could help me.

At that time, he had thought about it——

You must pass on all your experiences to your descendants so that they can avoid detours.

However, Lin Feng's words reminded him:
Will the experience I think is useful to the next generation still be useful?

The current era is developing too fast. Why do I think that I am better than the younger generations?
A series of questions made Liu Yong fall into hard thinking.

Beside him, Sun Wei held her chin in her hands and smiled sweetly:

"It's great to have reconciled."

After she finished listening to what Lin Feng said later, she also fell into thinking.

After half an hour.

Sun Wei looked at Wu Peng aside and said:
"Wu Peng, what do you think?" Wu Peng was still baring his teeth in a silly manner. When asked this question, Wu Peng didn't react.
"Huh? What do I think?"

Sun Wei patted Wu Peng on the shoulder and sighed:
"Actually, as the second generation of rich people, the pressure is quite high."

"Because our parents must have done some things right to accumulate their current wealth. Therefore, the experience they accumulated in the past cannot be said to be useless at all."

"However, they are destined to not be able to keep up with this era better than us."

“So, it’s even more challenging for us second-generation people to judge what we need to listen to their advice on and what we shouldn’t listen to!”

After finishing speaking, Sun Wei did not look at Wu Peng's expression and sighed solemnly:

"Alas! Another point is that our fathers who created these foundations must have strong personalities. If you fight with them, you may not be able to survive!"

Wu Peng looked at Sun Wei sympathetically and found that she was really worried, so he said:
"Sister Sun, if you can't figure it out, don't think about it. After all, we are still just children."

Sun Wei: "..."

It seems that there are advantages to being brainless.

…………

Similarly, Lin Feng's meaningful words also caused Qian Yongan's family to think deeply.

The more the family thought about it, the more it made sense, and they began to reflect on some of their past practices.

After a while, Qian Yongan bowed deeply to Lin Feng in the picture and said from the bottom of his heart:
"Teacher, the students are taught!"

Then, Wang Mei and Qian Zhiqiang suddenly came to their senses and bowed along with their son:
"Teacher Lin, we have remembered everything you said, thank you!"

"Without you, our family would still be quarreling over which major to study. Not to mention delaying the child's competition and review, even if the child finally passes the exam, we may have to mobilize relatives to persuade him to continue studying civil engineering... Then it will be another day. There's so much going on!"

"You really saved our family! Thank you!"

Facing the continuous thanks from Qian Yongan's family, Lin Feng waved his hand:
"It's just a little effort, not worth mentioning."

However, despite what they said, the Qian Yongan family still kept thanking Lin Feng.

After talking a lot, Che Zhuglu reluctantly hung up the connection.

The connection was disconnected, but the enthusiasm of the audience did not stop. The people who were still interested edited the video.

Especially the focus is on the editing of Lin Feng’s answer to Qian Yongan’s question.

Everyone feels that this kind of life advice is worth promoting.

Soon, "Teacher Lin Feng's Life Lessons to Children" became a hot search topic!

Otherwise, it was because of Qian Yongan's experience and Lin Feng's words that touched the hearts of many netizens.

Everyone left their own comments in the comment area.

"How great it would be if I had heard Teacher Lin Feng's words earlier!"

"Fortunately, Qian Yongan's parents listened to the advice, otherwise they would be a replica of my family! My parents are not very knowledgeable, but they are the kind of parents who insist on interfering in my life. I am obviously working in a big factory in the imperial capital, with an annual income of 40. But they thought this kind of work was not work and forced me to go home and take the civil service exam. If I didn’t comply, they pretended to be sick and asked me to go home. Then they took away my ID and quit my job... It was so suffocating!! No way! , I want to resist, I want to listen to Teacher Lin and take responsibility for my own life."

"I thought of the genius prodigy I saw on the news. Smoke erupted from his ancestral grave three times, and his parents extinguished it three times. The first time, his parents refused to let him repeat his studies for the sake of the title of 'the youngest prodigy', and he missed 985 , the second time was when he got the opportunity to study abroad at public expense, but his parents were afraid that he would never come back, so they forced him to give up. The third time, he offered to let his parents buy a house in the imperial capital, but his parents deceived him by renting a house... Now , this former prodigy has been completely ruined."

"Well, this shows that it is a very scary thing for parents to not keep up with the times, but still have the power to make decisions and not listen to their children's opinions!"

"I feel the same way, let's take my family as an example. When I was in college, my mother had to sell the house. At that time, I searched some information on the Internet and saw the analysis of experts on the forum. I thought that housing prices were going to rise, just like She said don’t sell it. But she said I didn’t understand anything and forced the sale... The house doubled in two months! Then, my second house was rented out, and it was still rented at a price far lower than the market price. I asked My parents said that our rent was too low and the tenant might become the second landlord. They both scolded me together, saying that I knew how to meddle in adults' affairs even though I didn't know anything... In the end, the tenant became the second landlord. Almost 10 years! Also, they refused to let me go abroad after I graduated. They said it was dangerous outside and there was no way to study abroad. They asked me to join a local company. As a result, the company closed down within two years of joining... I moved abroad. After going to graduate school, they have a good job that they never dreamed of! Now that I have severed ties with my parents, I feel much better."

"So Teacher Lin is right, you must not listen to your parents when you shouldn't, and you must keep your boundaries!"

"..."

outside the network.

A couple in their 50s, wearing reading glasses and holding mobile phones.

Some were scrolling through their phones, watching Lin Feng's videos.

However, Lin Feng's voice seemed to be just a background sound to ease their anxious mood.

The two of them switched between the family group and Douyin from time to time, with worries in their eyes.

After a while, I heard the sound of the door lock turning from the door.

With agility that was not befitting their age, the couple stood up and rushed to the door.

He almost bumped into the arms of Jiang Hong who opened the door and came in.

"Dad, Mom."

Jiang Hong said hello in a low mood, not wanting to say anything else.

Seeing their son like this, what else do Jiang Jianguo and Wang Dinglan not understand?
At this moment, Wang Dinglan's face suddenly fell:

"Why didn't this blind date happen again?! Son, did you behave badly? I've obviously taken care of everything, and I even asked someone to talk to that girl's family... Oh!"

Jiang Jianguo also sighed along with his wife:
"I've dated five girls this month, but it still doesn't work! What's the problem?"

It's okay not to say this, but when he mentioned this, Jiang Hong also felt depressed:

"Mom, this girl said that she lives as a couple and doesn't like other people to interfere too much. She doesn't think it's suitable for our family's situation."

"Not suitable?"

Wang Dinglan suddenly became anxious:

"Our family's conditions are pretty good! Your father and I have pensions, you have a job in a state-owned enterprise, and you also have a house and a car. Why are you talking about your family situation?"

Jiang Hong put on his slippers and said dullly:
"I'm not talking about material conditions. I also want to ask you, the girl I'm on a blind date with has not even met yet. Why did the person you invited to make peace arrive at her house early?"

"Aren't I worried about your marriage?"

Wang Dinglan babbled behind her son and walked towards the sofa:

"I thought if you two fell in love, I could start talking about marriage right away! Besides, you still have to look at the pen when selling pigs. It's normal for me to find someone to look at the girl's family. Wan A matchmaker didn’t tell the truth?”

Jiang Hong didn't speak, and fell down on the sofa with his head down. After a while, he muttered:
"Mom, Dad, I want to move out."

He thought about it and realized that the girl on the blind date today was right. He was already 27 years old and still living with his parents, so he lacked some independence.

But as soon as he finished speaking, his mother was unhappy:

"Absolutely not! I can't rest assured!"

Just after he finished speaking, Wang Dinglan looked at his son's unhappy look.

Worried that he had failed five blind dates in a row, he was shocked, so he softened his tone:

"Son, it's great to live with your parents. You've grown so big and you haven't even washed your own socks. How can your dad and I feel at ease?"

"..."

Jiang Hong remained silent.

Then, he took out his mobile phone and started watching short videos.

He felt that he was very depressed, but he could not refute his mother's words, so he could only divert his attention in this way.

After swiping and swiping, Jiang Hong saw "a life lesson taught by Teacher Lin Feng to the children."

After listening carefully, Jiang Hong's heart moved——

Parents hold the decision-making power in the family and interfere in their children's major life choices. This statement is similar to my own family.

It's just that other people's families are not allowed to do what they are allowed to do. In my own family, my mother is always superfluous...

By the way, Teacher Lin Feng has been on many hot searches and is an absolute expert in the field of family education.

that……

Could the fact that I have never been able to find a partner be attributed to family education issues?

Can I ask Teacher Lin for help in a situation like mine?

Thinking of this, Jiang Hong was very excited and quickly said to his parents:
"Mom and Dad, can our family sign up for Teacher Lin Feng's connection?"

(End of this chapter)