After the whole family was swept away, I lay down flat

Chapter 602 Take a warning
Ma was secretly carrying out his plan, but he had no idea that his grandson Haijiao had been secretly doing something recently.

When her husband Hai Xiya came home that night, he asked her during a casual chat: "Have you been in frequent contact with Ma Shangyi recently? How did you become friends with her when you were doing well?"

Ma said casually, "We are all neighbors, so we have to deal with each other. She looks difficult to get along with, but she is actually very easy to talk to, and we can chat well. There has been a lot of noise in the Wang family recently. They have been making a lot of noise because of the youngest son's marriage, and the neighbors have all gotten involved. I didn't dare to get involved, so I stayed away from the Wang family and didn't visit them on weekdays. That's why I became more familiar with Mammy Ma."

Hai Xiya thought for a moment and said, "It seems that the youngest son of the Wang family has taken a fancy to a girl from another place? He also plans to work for his father-in-law's family after marrying her?"

"Isn't it?" Ma pouted, "Old Wang's family is so angry! Originally, their youngest son was able to find a girl of decent family background with his own ability, and they were quite proud of it. But when they heard that their youngest son would live in his wife's family after getting married, their faces changed. What's the difference between that and being a live-in son-in-law? Naturally, they are not happy. But the marriage has been decided, how can they change their minds just because they want to? If they offend the in-laws and really cancel the engagement, not only will his youngest son's job be affected, I'm afraid that other people in his family will also be in trouble. The most important thing is that their youngest son is happy with it!"

Hai Xiya sighed, "Although his son will have to live with the Yue family in the future, which sounds a bit embarrassing, at least he is not marrying into the Yue family, but marrying a wife. It's just for the sake of their future that the young couple went to live next to the Yue family. There are many people in Chang'an who left their hometowns for work and career, and the Wang family's son is not a big deal. He himself doesn't mind being gossiped about, so why should the Wang family stop him from pursuing his own future?"

Ma thought for a while and said, "I also think that the Wang family will eventually give in. She still hopes that her youngest son can have a bright future, but she is just sad in her heart."

"After all, this is because we didn't find out clearly when we were talking about the marriage." Hai Xiya looked at Ma deeply, "This lesson should not only be remembered by the Wang family, but also by our family. We can't think that we have climbed up the ladder just because we heard that a respectable and good family has taken a fancy to our children. We can't rush into the marriage without finding out everything clearly. If we are unhappy later, it will be difficult to regret. This is a major event in the child's life! Take the Wang family for example, even if his family finally chooses to give in and let the two children get married smoothly, they have a quarrel with their in-laws, and their relationship will definitely not be as harmonious as before. His boy will have to rely on Yue's family to live in the future, and he will have to rely on Yue's family for support. What if he is looked down upon? They are far away, and they can't help even if they want to, and they can't protect them even if they want to. Do you feel good about it?"

Ma felt bitter after hearing these words: "Isn't it? If it were Old Wang, he would be heartbroken!"

"So, we must be careful in choosing the marriages for our children!" Hai Xiya held his wife's hand and said meaningfully, "We can't just arrange it for them casually. What if Baoshun finds a wife with a powerful family, and Tangtang marries an outstanding son of a military family? After marriage, Baoshun will have to obey the orders of his wife's family in everything, and he can't make the decision on his own. If he says he will be stationed at the border, then he has to be stationed at the border. Tangtang will also have to follow her husband to the border town to garrison. They are thousands of miles away from us, and we won't see anyone for ten or eight years. Can you bear to let them go?!"

Ma's face turned pale: "No way..." Although she said this, her heart was already shaken.

This kind of thing is possible. After all, this is Chang'an!

There are so many military families here. The good men and girls she heard about so much usually all have good family backgrounds and origins. There are at least one or two generals in their family, and at least a fifth or sixth rank military officer. The children of such respectable military families may be stationed at the border at any time. If they don’t go to the border to endure the wind and sand for a few years, they can’t even think about having a good future! But once they go to the border town, who knows how many years they will stay there? Even the young generals of the Zhenguogong Mansion stayed at the border for more than ten or twenty years, and very few of them could come back early.

General Zhou Si was an exception, but his father and grandfather died on the battlefield, and his whole family was full of loyal heroes, leaving only him as a baby, so he was adopted by the Duke of Zhenguo. The Duke of Zhenguo would never let him experience too much danger, for fear that if something happened to him in the border town, the border troops would think that he did not take good care of the orphan of a hero.

But there are not many soldiers in Chang'an whose fathers and grandfathers died on the battlefield and who have to continue to guard the border. Not everyone is as lucky as General Zhou Si.

If the same thing happened to her grandchildren... Ma thought that Haijiao would have to join the border army in a few years. If she stayed in Chang'an, she might have to go to the border city to fight on the battlefield one day...

If Haitang married into a wealthy family locally, as long as her husband was a soldier, there was a 90% chance that she would be stationed in a border town. If she was lucky, she would only be there for three to five years. If she was unlucky, she would waste half her life in the border town, or even die there.

Ma herself had lived in a border town for many years and knew how hard life was there. If she had a choice, she absolutely did not want her grandchildren to suffer in the border town again!
Ma suddenly became restless. She stood up and paced back and forth in the room, looking up at her husband several times, wanting to say something but unable to.

She thought that staying in Chang'an would be more beneficial to the future of her grandchildren, but she overlooked that Chang'an was also risky. Although the border was peaceful at the moment, who knew how long it would last? The Hu people were not easy to deal with. They might tear up the peace treaty and attack again one day...

But if I don’t stay in Chang’an and go back to my hometown in Zhili, what will happen to my children’s future?
Ma sat down on the kang, hesitated for a while, and then asked her husband Hai Xiya: "Master, we have been back in Chang'an for almost a year now... Do you plan to send someone back to your hometown to check out what the situation is like there?"

Hai Xiya looked up at her and said, "Why are you talking about this all of a sudden? I've been busy with work all year, so how can I take care of this?"

"Since the master has official duties to attend to, I'll worry about it for you." Ma laughed dryly. "I'll send someone back to my hometown in the spring of next year to sweep the graves of my father-in-law and mother-in-law, and to inquire about the situation of the eldest son's family. If you want to go back in a few years, the house in your hometown should be repaired in advance, so that you and your family will not have nowhere to live when you return."

Hai Xiya smiled and said, "Thank you for your hard work, my lady. I have to be busy with official business all day long and I really can't take care of these things."

"That's fine. This is what I should do." Ma scratched her face uncomfortably. "It's just... I don't know if you have any familiar relatives or friends in your hometown. It would be best if they are working in the garrison over there. I can also find out about the local situation. When Baoshun returns in the future, he will also seek a job in the army. If we find out clearly in advance, we will have a clear idea in mind and it will be easier to make arrangements in the future."

"I do have relatives and friends, but you don't have to worry about Baoshun's job." Hai Xiya glanced towards the east wing with a meaningful look, "Our eldest grandson is very smart. He has already planned for himself. We don't need to take care of him at all. You just wait for good news."

Ma blinked, a little confused: "What did Baoshun do? It's so late today, why hasn't he come back yet? Did he go to the training ground for extra training again? It's so cold, he's working too hard!"

Hai Xiya smiled and said, "Don't worry about it. He's already a grown-up boy, how can he starve himself? Let's have dinner quickly. I'm the old man who's hungry!"

(End of this chapter)