Reborn 1980: Good Wife Gets Rich and Busy

Chapter 1567 The suffering of marriage

Xue Ling said reassuringly: "Don't worry, I will warn them quietly."

"Especially women..." Xue Cong whispered: "The age span of men's childbearing is longer than that of women. Get married when you should get married, and have children when you should have children. Some things are missed for a lifetime, and having children is a matter of life. It's one of them. Don't wait until you suddenly want to be a mother and a father, but you can't have one."

Xue Ling couldn't help but think of the "horrifying" thoughts of young people during the company's team building.

"I don't know what's wrong now? Many young people think it's too difficult to get married. They don't know why they should get married and why they should make their lives so annoying and miserable. When the company was building a team, there were dozens of young people who would rather be single. , and I don’t want to look around with my colleagues. Duoduo told me that now there are a large number of men and women who not only don’t want to get married, but also don’t even want to fall in love.”

"I don't understand, it's the generation gap." Xue Cong shook his head: "There are indeed many young people who think like this. They think that life is just like this, and whatever I do will make life so tiring and hard. They are all afraid of bearing the pain of marriage and having children. The pain of raising a child, as well as all the trials and tribulations in life.”

Xue Ling thought for a moment and whispered: "Perhaps young people today are under too much pressure in life and work. We are all people who have been married for so many years and have some own opinions on marriage. Marriage is indeed difficult. If you want to maintain a marriage, It requires a lot of dedication. Blindly asking for or blindly giving is not the basis of a good marriage. Marriage represents a variety of responsibilities, responsibilities to one's parents, responsibilities to parents-in-law, and responsibilities to children. Responsibility. Marriage also means all kinds of excitement, difficulties and obstacles, all kinds of anxiety, all kinds of worries and all kinds of irritability... If you don't grit your teeth and hold on, your marriage may collapse at any time."

"So the current divorce rate is soaring every year." Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "Especially in the imperial capital, it is one of the areas with the highest divorce rate. People in our era actually had a harder life and greater pressure to survive, but divorce The rate is not high.”

"Yes!" Xue Ling said: "The older generation's life is more difficult. They have experienced natural disasters, various famines and social unrest, and they have been hungry and lacked food and clothing, but they have gritted their teeth and survived one by one. They will also be noisy, There will be all sorts of turmoil, but they rarely get divorced, and some even don’t know what divorce is all about.”

Just like her mother-in-law Liu Ying, she only knows that marriage is about getting married, finding a good man to have children with him, and living a good life.

"Maybe at that time, families needed each other's company to survive." Xue Cong chuckled: "No matter who lets go, the family will collapse, and most of their lives will collapse, so no one dares to let go. I can grit my teeth and hold on."

Xue Ling nodded: "Actually, the truth is the same. Today's families also need each other's joint efforts, whether it is financially or household chores, they must contribute, otherwise the family will not be stable sooner or later, and sooner or later divorce will collapse. Some people say that now It is difficult for people to get married and divorce is easy, so the divorce rate will soon be higher than the marriage rate.”

Xue Cong laughed softly and squinted his eyes.

"It was just as difficult for us to get married at that time, even more difficult than it is now. I remember when I was thinking about getting married, the political background was very important at that time, especially for those of us who worked in units. We had to submit an application and write a letter to get married. Family background, the other party's family and work unit must be filled in clearly one by one, and then applied to the organization. The organization must send people to the other party's unit to investigate, and the leader can only approve it after it is determined. Only after the approval is completed, can you receive a certificate similar to the award. Marriage certificate.”

Xue Ling couldn't help but laugh and asked: "Do you still have the marriage certificate between your brother-in-law and you? Did you investigate it for a long time?"

After Xue Cong heard this, he couldn't help but sigh.

"He kept them all, and I didn't dare to look at them... It was so difficult to get married at first. I almost gave up several times, but he kept insisting, forcing me to wait with him."

"What's wrong?" After signing, he kept waiting and refused to give up, insisting on submitting an application every week. At that time, I often shed tears secretly, and he saw it in his eyes and felt very distressed. It was the third uncle who tried his best to find someone to help. I finally got around to it. The fact that he and I became a couple is mostly due to my third uncle."

"Third uncle, he loves you the most." Xue Ling said warmly: "How can he be willing to let you two lovers be forced to separate... He also knows that brother-in-law is a person worthy of your trust for a lifetime."

Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "Not long after we got married, he went out. Once he left, there was no news for two or three years. At that time, I wrote to his organization every day, but unfortunately there was no reply. Third uncle saw that I was living like a Like a resentful woman, he sighed and said that he didn't know whether he did the right thing or the wrong thing. He also said, don't always complain about the present, but look forward to the future together until you grow old. Life can be bitter first and then sweet, which can be considered a kind of luck. To this day, I finally understand what Third Uncle said."

"Yes." Xue Ling's tears flashed: "Uncle San is such a wise man, and everything he said makes sense. Yes... there are many, many hardships in life. If you can survive the first half of the pain, you will usher in the second half. It’s so sweet, it’s already considered extremely lucky.”

Xue Cong took her hand and smiled: "You and I are lucky. As long as we are content, we will find that we are already in a sweet place."

"It's not time yet." Xue Ling couldn't help but look towards the back garden and whispered: "I still have a hard battle to fight in the second half. The children will start families and start businesses one after another, and the old people will grow old... This is me The thing I dare not face the most.”

Xue Cong sighed: "Everyone must have such a fate. Since ancient times, no one has ever died."

"I understand, and the truth is clear." Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "But as long as I think of him as my direct elder, I can't help but cry with sadness. The knife cuts my heart, and only I understand the pain."

Xue Cong's eyes dimmed and he murmured: "You are already much luckier than me... My memory of my parents has long been blurred. They passed away before I was an adult..."

"I'm sorry, I talked too much." Xue Ling patted the back of her hand and changed the subject: "Sister, time flies by when I talk with you."

Xue Cong chuckled: "I'm here to talk to you today. I also plan to eat and drink here at noon and dinner, with a high-sounding excuse saying that I'm here to accompany you."

"It's what I asked for." Xue Ling drank the last sip of black tea and reminded: "Sister, the tea is almost cold, please take a few more sips."

Xue Cong drank it and stood up slowly.

"Let's go to the back garden to find Uncle Wu and Auntie."

(End of this chapter)