Reborn 1980: Good Wife Gets Rich and Busy

Chapter 1661 Traditional View of Marriage

Cheng Huanran rolled his eyes and smiled dryly.

"Uncle Huan, is it...so obvious?"

Xue Huan Youzai cracked the pomegranate seeds and said with a smile: "You don't have to guess, you will know. You tell me, your family is harmonious and happy, the old man is strong and healthy, your parents are loving and successful in their careers, your younger siblings are excellent in academics, they start their own business, and they go to school." You yourself are successful in studies and work, and you are considered the most dazzling newcomer among the younger generation at the hospital. Apart from these, what else do you have to worry about? What else can it be besides feelings? "

Cheng Huanran was stunned and smiled bitterly.

"There is something unsatisfactory about it! No wonder the old saying goes that every family has its own troubles. In other words, everyone has troubles, they are all different."

Xue Huan laughed softly and said warmly: "Isn't it right? Humans, as long as they have desires, ideas, and goals, they will definitely have troubles. This should be the truth behind the saying, 'all the world is bitter.' "

"Alas..." Cheng Huanran sighed: "Actually, I'm not greedy. I just want to find someone who has the same interests and hobbies, similar views, and is happy with each other. I just want to fall in love and get married, and live in love like my parents for the rest of my life. "

Xue Huan laughed dumbly: "Isn't this greedy?!"

Forehead?
Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "Uncle Huan, how can I not be greedy? In other words, I just want to find someone I love to marry and live a good life - the requirements are not too high, right? These are the basic requirements!"

Xue Huan squinted his eyes and shook his head slightly.

"Not necessarily. Based on what you said just now, as someone who has been in love and marriage for more than ten or twenty years, I think your goals are quite high and your requirements are quite high."

Cheng Huanran couldn't help but wonder: "Really?"

"Of course." . First of all, your starting point is relatively high. Looking at it from a wide perspective, it is a very high starting point. At the height you are standing at, many people can only look up behind or below you. Because of your own cultural level and what your parents have given you. Your foundation is too high for ordinary people to reach."

"Is there more?" Cheng Huanran asked, raising his eyebrows.

Xue Huan nodded: "It has to be about the same height and about the same appearance, otherwise I'm afraid you won't like it. In addition, it's not easy to find people who have similar views on family and career. It's already difficult enough if they have similar views on things. , let alone adding others.”

Cheng Huanran was extremely sad and murmured: "...So, I am really demanding too much?" "Actually, for people of my age, falling in love is actually very simple." Xue Huan replied: "We have faded away. Under the control of youthful hormones, I just hope that my partner can live a peaceful and warm life with me, without making any noise or fuss. The so-called love, for people of our age, is just that simple. The so-called 'great love' , it’s just about being able to understand and consider each other.”

Cheng Huanran was slightly stunned.

Xue Huan Wen Sheng: "I have been young, I have also pursued vigorous love, and even had the ambition and confidence to love until death. But as I struggled with the reality of life and work, I discovered that love is actually just It’s just for a while, it’s more about living a long and long life. People always say that young couples come to keep company all the time. In fact, not only old age, middle-aged and young people in these decades, what we need is more companionship, not so much There are so many so-called 'couples', but not so many so-called 'vigorous' and 'overwhelming emotions'. No matter how beautiful the love is, how beautiful the skin is, and how rare romance is, none of them can withstand the hardships of time. So, find someone who can be your partner Living a good life should be the goal of marriage, not what young people call the ultimate pursuit of love or the destination of love. Marriage is a much bigger category than love. Don’t always regard love as the whole of marriage. It is too one-sided and too narrow. Marriage is more important than love. It’s much more complex and much more important.”

Cheng Huanran seemed to understand and listened, and couldn't help but whisper: "Actually, I... I pursue love, and more importantly, marriage. I also want to be like my parents, find a beloved person to form a family, and have one or two children. A lovely child who will continue to reproduce my genes and the love of my family."

Xue Huan smiled and explained: "In the final analysis, what you are pursuing is marriage. You are a child who grew up in a traditional family, and your character and quality are ultimately traditional."

"Yes." Cheng Huanran nodded: "In the end, we still want a happy marriage."

Xue Huan smiled and said: "No matter how beautiful the love is, no matter how passionate the hormones are, it will eventually become dull. Especially when you are forty or fifty years old, it becomes even more dull. When you are sixty, seventy or ten years old, it is just about supporting each other and keeping each other company. Love It cannot be equated with marriage, not at all. When I was studying abroad, I was in my prime, young and promising, so the person I pursued was beautiful, smart, had the same major as me and went to the same school, and had similar worldviews and values. At that time, I I think she is my future partner."

"What happened next?" Cheng Huanran vaguely remembered that she was a very beautiful and proud foreign woman, but he was still a child back then and didn't remember it clearly. He asked, "Isn't she the aunt now?"

Xue Huan shook his head: "No, she is a foreigner. When I confidently believed that the destination of love is marriage, I encountered a series of problems. At the same time, I also discovered that-her family view and mine There is such a big difference. From that time on, she and I gradually drifted apart, and we began to have estrangements. In fact, you and your significant other are the main body of your small family, just like the main framework of the family. If you and her Inconsistency in family views means that your framework cannot be stable. Even if you make do for the time being, with the addition of children and the elderly, more and more things will be built on this framework, which will ultimately lead to instability, shock, or even a crash in the family. collapse."

"Family view?" Cheng Huanran couldn't help but think of Qiao Hui's various family remarks.

——You can’t talk about any marriage until your career is successful!Without a solid career foundation, marriage is meaningless!
——Unless I get a professional title of associate professor or above, I will definitely not have children!Giving birth to a child requires a lot of time and energy from you and me. It is not cost-effective. At most, you can only have one child.

——The starting point given to you by your family is too high. I can only be stronger than you in other aspects. Otherwise, we will not be able to maintain an evenly matched family, and then the family will be unstable!

……

Cheng Huanran frowned in discomfort and whispered helplessly: "Uncle, do the two subjects in a marriage really have to be almost evenly matched? You and your aunt, my father and my mother, don't seem to be like this."

(End of this chapter)