Don’t be too poisonous to the concubine of the Wu family who was born in Wu

Chapter 2470 424. Eight Precious Jade Food (Sikong Yan asked Nalan Ruoye for advice on how to get along with the Quan clan)

Thousands of women always have thousands of temperaments and characteristics. Some are like the Guilin landscape, beautiful and magical, some are like Jiangnan courtyards, serene and quiet, some are like the roaring river, cheerful and unrestrained, and some are like mountains. There is a clear and transparent stream, pure and moist.

Cheng Susu, on the other hand, gives the impression that she has a calm temperament, is as serious, dignified, and generous as Mount Tai. She is calm and graceful in times of crisis. She is as beautiful, charming, and energetic as Mount Tian. Her every move and gesture is filled with the unique domineering power of a woman, as if Able to control all situations here.

I don’t know what she has gone through, but she is more mature and stable, more understanding and peaceful than her peers. She is more like an exquisite poem, in which beauty and hardship, gentleness and tolerance, kindness and vicissitudes of life flow. I thought that exquisiteness can only be used to describe jade. The meticulous craftsmanship and hollow inlay are unbearable. Touch but not put it down, her character is restrained and no longer arrogant, her behavior is calm but not arrogant, her thoughts are mature but not arrogant, her clothes are neat and simple, but she is capable, her hair is smooth and not messy, and her nails are smooth and smooth , the skin is delicate and plump, the conversation is not vulgar, the person is also humble, and the handling of things is more straightforward.

It can be seen that such women have a refined understanding of life, a refined pursuit of career, and a refined self-cultivation and perfection. How can such a woman not be said to be extremely beautiful and live a refined life?

Sikong Yan then carefully looked at the woman in front of her. After previous interactions with her, she had her own unique understanding of this woman.

At this moment, Sikong Yan's mind suddenly jumped to the content of her previous conversation with He Rong'er of the Lily family -

He Rong'er deliberately reminded her and Sikong Yan said: "The women of Tianmen are noble and beautiful, which will inevitably give people an inhumane feeling. If you want to succeed, you must first learn to deal with people. When dealing with people, sometimes fairies They also have to go down to earth. Our Tianmen women are good everywhere, but they don’t give people a good feeling——"

"In this regard...it's not that our Tianmen female officials do this on purpose. It's probably because they have been practicing for a long time and have seen through the world, and they just don't want to submit to the world..."

"Yeah~ What you call attaining the Tao means being superior to others and being incompatible when communicating with others? Cultivation is a kind of self-cultivation and character, which allows you to easily integrate into the world, see the world clearly, and adapt to the world, but you must not be allowed to be by the world. Those who have shaken their minds, instead of making your way of doing things higher than the world, always flaunting your high moral standards, in a sense have become mysophobic. It can only be said that you have extremely harsh requirements on personality and extremely low tolerance. .”

Hearing this, Sikong Yan fell silent. What she said was correct. She always flaunted the highest morality and always pursued the purity of human nature. However, while pursuing the ultimate, she forgot how to deal with people.

From this point of view, the problem generally lies with myself——

"Whether it's secular or accidental, since you have to deal with these people, you have to learn to contact them in their own way. It's hard to change a person, and it's even harder to change a general environment. If you are in a land of power and clan, if you want to To gain a foothold here, the first thing you have to do is to deal with people. If you can’t even adapt to the people here, you will be eliminated by the environment here sooner or later.”

This was He Rong'er's final advice to her. After listening to it, Sikong Yan had a plan in mind.

My three junior sisters arrived here for the first time, and were ordered to do so at the last moment. They must fight for a place in this martial arts and cooking competition. The burden on the three of them is not light, and they cannot let the situation develop, lose in a mess, and return home in despair. Can't do business?
  Nangong Miaorui specializes in cooking, while Yao Xiran has an upright personality and is really not suitable for dealing with people. He is best suited to manage logistics and discipline. Compared with the two senior sisters, I am better at dealing with people, so the diplomatic work undoubtedly falls on myself...

If Yao Xiran and Nangong Miaorui were to deal with the interpersonal relationship, their personalities were more sharp-edged than their own, and they could mess up the interpersonal relationship with just a few words.

Sikong Yan was helpless, but she had no choice but to accept this task. In terms of tact and sophistication, she could not compare with the Quan clan, but she was countless times better than her two senior sisters. This job was just You can only do it yourself.

In this case, if she accepts this job, she can't take it lightly. Sikong Yan is not a person who doesn't do anything. Thinking of He Rong'er's previous method of handling interpersonal relationships with ease, she saw her own shortcomings. So I took advantage of the gap period in the game to ask the other party for their experience in this area many times.

He Rong'er was also a kindhearted person, she was outspoken about Sikong Yan's problems, and she also taught her her own experiences and lessons. From her, Si Kong Yan got some advice, and she suddenly became enlightened and learned a lot about interpersonal communication. skills.

"But, the people of the Quan clan...their cities are very deep, and we Tianmen women always suffer when dealing with them...sometimes it's not all because we are superior and look down on them...it's just..."

"It's just because you're afraid of negotiating too much and being bought by the other party, right? It's too tiring to deal with such shrewd people. You have to think about how to take advantage of them, and at the same time, you have to think about how to guard against their schemes. , you can’t talk about feelings with them at all, you can only talk about interests. If something unexpected happens, you will get angry. You don’t even know whether the other party is a friend or an enemy, right?”

"Yes, yes! That's it! That's why I feel that it's too tiring to deal with such impure people, but it's not as easy as dealing with the White Tiger Army of Western Xinjiang. He is smart, but fortunately he is honest and reliable."

"Everyone has their own way of living, and Xijiang has their own rules of conduct. Even if an honest person suffers a loss himself, he will not let his friends and partners suffer any loss. You will not feel tired when dealing with him. They do what they say, which will naturally make people feel reliable. I also like to deal with the White Tiger Army, but not everyone in the world will be honest with the White Tiger Army, especially the Qinglong Army. Everyone puts their own interests first. You and them Unless you can offer a bargaining chip that satisfies them, they will never spend time and energy on useless people and things..."

"Yeah~ So this feeling makes people particularly uncomfortable. It feels like the mode of getting along between people is no longer about maintaining relationships, but about naked reciprocity of interests. It is inevitable that it will feel a bit callous..."

"Actually, this matter is easy to handle - feelings are the most elusive thing in the world. Sometimes, exchanging things for things is much easier than exchanging love for love..."

(End of this chapter)