Buy a house with 30,000 yuan and live in a small town

Liu Wangxue feels that marriage is both simple and complicated.

To put it simply, it is nothing more than an idealized you love me and I love you, and the marriage certificate and wedding are the most solemn ceremonies in the process of loving each other.

To put it simply, love or not love becomes secondary. Other reasons cannot be fully discussed. Just the item of "interest" is enough for some people to calculate their whole life.

Liu Wangxue thought of the online rumor that Tan Xueqing and Shen Xun had been together for ten years - this year should be their thirteenth year - most people would ask in a surprised and puzzled tone, "They've been together for more than ten years but still haven't gotten married?"

Liu Wangxue had the same idea at first, but later on she thought that it was not just celebrity couples in the circle, but also ordinary couples who were determined to spend the rest of their lives together but did not get married. There was nothing surprising or unusual about it.

Liu Wangxue thought that Tan Xueqing and Shen Xun were the same, but now hearing what Tan Xueqing said, it was obviously not the case for them.

The conversation about marriage was not pleasant. She didn't know what they were thinking. Liu Wangxue thought that as an outsider, she should not interfere. She herself had just lived a clearer life. If Tan Xueqing wanted to talk, she would just be a listener.

Liu Wangxue and Wenxi looked at each other, and Wenxi obviously thought the same.

Duan Yue and Ni Jia are about the same age, so they didn't expect such a deep relationship. She and Han Zhenhao are in the passionate love stage and are about to get married. She has a beautiful vision of marriage: "We can discuss any ideas. It's so great to get married. We can have a small family of our own and someone to take care of each other. Sharing happiness doubles happiness, and sharing sorrow can immediately halve sorrow. How happy!"

Ni Jia thought what she said made sense: "But this kind of happiness has its prerequisites, for example, the person you meet must first be compatible with you."

Ni Jia winked at Liu Wangxue and Wenxi, saying, "For example, Sister Xuxu and Brother Qingsong, and Sister Xixi and Boss Du." He gently bumped Duan Yue with his shoulder and changed the subject, "From what you said, do you and Brother Hao also plan to get married?"

"Yes," Duan Yue nodded, "The purpose of dating is to get married, and Brother Hao and I met through a blind date. We started dating with the premise of getting married."

"Blind date?" The four of them said in unison. They couldn't believe that Duan Yue and Han Zhenhao got together through a blind date.

Okay, now the topic has completely changed.

Duan Yue started talking, feeling a little embarrassed.

This blind date was arranged by Han Zhenhao's mother. Han's mother is relatively traditional in her thinking. Seeing that her son was already 30 years old and still had no girlfriend, she couldn't help wanting to be a grandmother and started arranging blind dates for him.

Han's mother didn't want Han Zhenhao to have a celebrity girlfriend. She thought that if they both had jobs, they would be together less and less, which would be detrimental to the stability of their relationship. So she asked her old sisters to ask if there was any suitable candidate.

The old sisters also liked Han Zhenhao very much. It happened that the daughter of their relative had just graduated from graduate school and her family was urging her to graduate. After the elders discussed it, they hit it off.

When Duan Yue first heard that he was an actor, she searched online and found that he was quite famous, so she was unwilling to join him. She said to her mother: "He is a big star. There are all kinds of people in the entertainment industry. They look down on ordinary people like us. There is no need to waste their time."

At the same time, Han's mother was scolding Han Zhenhao, refuting his words about his career: "Just because you are a little famous, you really think you are a big star? You are an actor, but isn't being an actor just a profession? What's the difference between acting and ordinary work? What's the matter? Does it affect your love life and your marriage? Does it affect me being a grandmother and your father being a grandfather?"

So the two were forced to meet for a meal. Surprisingly, after spending half a day together, they felt good about each other, so they made an appointment for a second time, and then a third time, and then they naturally got together.

They have been dating for more than a year now, and both of them and their parents are willing to put marriage on the agenda, and plan to discuss it in detail after the recording of this dating variety show is finished.

Han Zhenhao said in the interview of the pilot film that he agreed to take on this variety show in order to save money for milk powder for his future child.

After hearing this, everyone sent their blessings and asked Duan Yue not to forget to send out invitations when the time comes.

After Duan Yue agreed, he turned the topic back and asked Tan Xueqing: "Sister Qing, you and Teacher Shen have been dating for more than ten years, why haven't you gotten married yet?"

Tan Xueqing smiled and touched Duan Yue's face. She felt that the little girl who had just walked out of the school was really naive and simple, but she was the same back then.

It was hard to tell whether Tan Xueqing's tone was one of regret or indifference: "I missed the opportunity."

In fact, she and Shen Xun had not been together for more than ten years.

Tan Xueqing has been an assistant to Shen Xun since he debuted in the entertainment industry. Once, when Shen Xun was attending a private event, he was spotted by a wealthy woman, but he disagreed and it was a bit ugly. After returning, he found out that this was "introduced" by his agent at the time, who was trying to help him get resources for his own good.

In anger, Shen Xun reported the matter to the company's top management, but the company did not give him a satisfactory solution. A year later, Shen Xun's contract expired, so he terminated the contract and went out to open his own studio.

Tan Xueqing went with Shen Xun. At that time, she had already demonstrated her ability to be a manager, so Shen Xun simply gave the job to her.

Not long after the studio was established, the No. 2 Rich Woman incident occurred, and Shen Xun took the initiative to propose to Tan Xueqing that they become a couple. He thought that the two of them were already in a cooperative relationship, and one more contract would not mean much. They have been together for so many years and they trust each other.

As soon as the agreement was signed, Shen Xun announced his "relationship" online.

However, no one knew about this agreement except the two of them. Of course, it was impossible for them to talk about it in front of the camera. Tan Xueqing only talked about their emotional experience after they were really together.

Shen Xun is actually a very stubborn person who likes to stay in his comfort zone. This can be seen from the fact that the roles he has chosen are basically of the same type over the years of acting.

——But Tan Xueqing didn't speak so bluntly, after all, she still had to think about his career. Falling in love was not Shen Xun's comfort zone. To put it bluntly, he was just too lazy to adapt to some kind of change, so when he realized that the fake play was about to become real, he didn't take it seriously. Even if he really confirmed that he had fallen in love with Tan Xueqing later, he didn't take the next step.

In the end, the two of them were able to be together only because of Tan Xueqing's courage to express her love and her perseverance. Even so, it was only after she pursued him for a year that he decided to add the identity of "boyfriend" to her.

All in all, the two were actually in a romantic relationship for a little over nine years.

This is not short.

The two talked about it for the third year, six years after they made their relationship public to ward off "disaster", and parents from both sides asked them when they planned to get married.

Tan Xueqing also felt that it was time to get married, so she discussed it with Shen Xun, but this meant that Shen Xun had to make changes. This was not only a change in social status, but also in life. After marriage, the two of them had to live together. As long as he thought about it, he would feel uncomfortable that his private space was forced to be ceded. In addition, if they had children after marriage, he would have an extra responsibility on his shoulders. Thinking about it this way, he felt that his life would be airtight...

Shen Xun was very resistant, and both sets of parents could not influence him. Tan Xueqing could not come to a conclusion after discussing the matter with him, so the matter was shelved.

At that time, Tan Xueqing comforted herself by saying that at least he refused to get married because he didn't want to change his current living conditions, not because he was unfaithful or didn't love her.

Tan Xueqing thought that it took her a lot of time to pursue Shen Xun. She believed that as long as she persisted, Shen Xun would eventually agree.

However, as she got older, Tan Xueqing mentioned it to Shen Xun several times. The last time was before the filming of "Early Spring" started. Shen Xun still said the same thing: "Isn't it good now?"

Tan Xueqing finally realized that she might not be able to wait for Shen Xun to change.

Forget it, Tan Xueqing thought.

"I actually thought about breaking up," Tan Xueqing said, "but I couldn't bear to do it."

"It's been more than ten years of love," Duan Yue sighed, "I wouldn't want to let go of it either."

Liu Wangxue couldn't help but ask Tan Xueqing: "What does Teacher Shen think now?"

"He wants to get married now," Tan Xueqing smiled and said to Liu Wangxue, "It has a lot to do with you."

"Me?" Liu Wangxue pointed at himself, looking confused.

"Oh, I see!" Ni Jia slapped his thigh, "Is it related to the drama?"

"Yes," Tan Xueqing nodded, "If you have watched his dramas, you must know the types of roles he plays. The role in "Halo Effect" is really a challenge he has never had before."

When Shen Xun decided to take this role, Tan Xueqing was quite surprised, and even teased him why he was suddenly willing to change his career path.

After playing this role, Shen Xun underwent some changes - of course, positive changes. He began to feel that stepping out of his comfort zone was no longer an unacceptable thing.

He was unwilling to change before, ultimately because he was afraid of the unhappiness that change would bring, but he saw the success of this role.

Shen Xun felt that perhaps in life, he should try to step out of his current comfort zone and give marriage a try.

So he took the initiative to express his desire to get married to Tan Xueqing.

"But I don't want to do it anymore," Tan Xueqing said, "I think it's good the way it is now, mainly because I don't have any ties."

Another reason is that although she is younger than Shen Xun, she is already 39 years old. If she gets married, her family will definitely urge her to have children, and Shen Xun also expressed this idea.

Tan Xueqing thought that by then she would be a mother in her early 40s. She felt it was quite scary. Whether she could get pregnant or not was another matter. Just thinking about the whole pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum period made her scalp numb.

Tan Xueqing said: "Others may say that I am selfish. I am selfish. I have only realized that I need to love myself at this age. I am really afraid that my body will have problems due to childbirth. Having a child is a gamble and I dare not take it."

Duan Yue's hand holding the cup shook unconsciously: "Ah, is it really so scary?" She had no idea, and no one had ever told her about this.

Ni Jia joked: "Sister Qing, you said I was not careful when I spoke. If this clip is broadcast, people will definitely say you are spreading fertility anxiety online."

Liu Wangxue said, "But this is also true. Childbirth is inherently damaging to the female body, and the older you get, the harder it is to recover. Sister Qing is just telling the truth, there is nothing to blame."

Wenxi ate a piece of fruit and shrugged, saying, "That's right, having a child is a gamble. It's a gamble for yourself and your significant other."

According to what Tan Xueqing said before, Wenxi felt that it would be better for Tan Xueqing not to gamble. If Shen Xun felt unhappy and regretted making changes, then all the sins would be borne by Tan Xueqing alone, and all the suffering would be borne by her alone.

Really, Wenxi wanted to say, Sister Qing, you should just love yourself. This man, no matter how brilliant he is in the outside world, is not suitable and not worth it as a partner. (End of this chapter)