Reborn in 1985, divorced, fished and raised a baby, and made a lot of money

Chapter 457 No Internal Consumption

Of course Han Xiaojing followed her sister and went to the city to celebrate the New Year.

During the holidays, she and Sister Lian took care of the children together, allowing Han Xiaorui to have more time to focus on work.

When Madam Xu saw Han Xiaojing, she smiled and asked, "How is Wenxuan doing in Germany?"

Han Xiaojing replied: "He is eager to learn about mechanics there, and from his letters to me, I can see that he is eager for advanced foreign technology, but also worried about the backward technology in China."

Madam Xu smiled and said, "It's normal to have a gap. If we can face the gap and work hard to narrow it, that's progress."

"You think our country is backward now, but in my eyes, our country is already very powerful. We have achieved industrialization in the past 30 years."

"Although we may lag behind other countries in technology, industrialization and no industrialization are two completely different national states. This is the foundation for our country to become strong and the basis for our development."

"It's been less than ten years since reform and opening up, and our economy has developed very rapidly. It's been like this in less than ten years. Think about what it will be like in 10, 20, or 30 years?"

Han Xiaojing chatted with Old Madam Xu and felt that her words were very wise.

"Grandma, you must have been a very outstanding woman back then!"

Madam Xu smiled and said, "My family and my husband's family are engaged in business, politics and the military. Of course, some of them became traitors. In that turbulent era, many people made choices passively. We can even say that they were pushed by the times and had no choice but to do so."

"It has been proven that our choice was right. Although we had to transfer our assets and capital abroad due to a series of social reforms, that was inevitable for the development of the country and society."

"From an economic perspective, this is determined by economic ownership. On the other hand, there was a huge gap between the domestic and foreign economies and technologies at that time. If there is no unity of thought, society will be in turmoil and industrialization will not be successfully completed."

Han Xiaojing was stunned by what Old Madam Xu said, "When you left, didn't you feel resentment and hatred in your heart?"

Madam Xu smiled and said, "I have regrets, but I don't blame you, let alone hate you. You haven't experienced the time when people were very confused and attracted by foreign economics, technology and other aspects, which led to national turmoil."

"So we have to clean up some people and shut them up. Only in this way can we have a stable environment and gradually achieve industrialization. Stability overrides everything. Without stability, everything else is just wishful thinking."

"This is the conclusion I came to after studying and comparing socialist countries, capitalist countries, and some colonial countries. This made me look at problems from a comprehensive and developmental perspective."

Han Xiaojing found that she benefited a lot from talking to Old Madam Xu.

"Grandma, in the future I will definitely be a smart, wise, self-disciplined and emotionally stable person like you."

Madam Xu smiled and nodded. "Actually, you don't have to. Just be yourself. Don't put yourself in a box! Everyone is different. As long as you don't break the law, as long as you have a bottom line in your heart and you are kind, that's enough."

"As for emotional stability, it depends on the person and the situation. Let me give you an example, take Ye Feng's stepmother Wang Liwen. Not long after my daughter passed away, Ye Zheng remarried Wang Liwen. Although it was a favor, for me, my daughter's body is still warm, and I am very unhappy."

"The reason why I let Ye Zheng in is because he is my grandson's biological father. We have an inseparable relationship. After all, I can't just draw the blood out of my body and give it back to him. I obviously don't like him, but for Ye Feng, I can tolerate it." "But I don't have such a high tolerance for Wang Liwen. I won't deal with her, and I won't insult her. I just don't want to see her. Because every time I see her, I will think of my daughter who is still alive."

"In that case, I will clearly tell everyone that I don't want to see her and ask her not to appear in front of me. Don't tell me that everything is in the past. I need to look forward and be magnanimous."

"I can't do it, and I won't force myself to do it. I didn't do it when I was young, and I won't do it when I'm older. I will never waste my energy, so the term emotional stability depends on the situation and cannot be generalized."

"You are studying psychology, so you should analyze specific problems specifically. In your future career, you should always remember this sentence: Don't advise others to do good without experiencing their suffering."

"From an outsider's perspective, you can never empathize with other people's pain, nor can you appreciate other people's happiness and joy. Although I have never studied psychology, my intuition tells me what to do to make me comfortable and what to do to make me happy."

Old Madam Xu had attended a private school and a Western-style school.

Having studied the Four Books and Five Classics and Chinese classics, as well as Western classics and works, one's perspective on issues is different.

Mrs. Xu's words opened Han Xiaojing's mind and she benefited a lot from them.

They explored literature and discussed history together, and their friendship grew stronger and stronger.

Although sister Han Xiaorui often teaches Han Xiaojing, she mostly does so from the perspective of a peer.

But Madam Xu, whether in terms of age, seniority, or her magnificent and wonderful life experience, can even stand at the top of the atmosphere and give Han Xiaojing guidance on life and philosophy.

In the evening, Han Xiaorui and Ye Feng came to the city to gather with their elders.

After the reunion dinner, Han Xiaojing spent time chatting with her sister.

"Sister, Grandma Xu is really amazing!" Han Xiaojing praised her generously, "I think she is the guiding light of my life!"

Han Xiaorui blinked when she heard this, "Last time you said I was the guiding light of your life, how long has it been, and you've changed the light?"

Han Xiaojing rolled her eyes coquettishly when she heard this, "Sister, don't be so narrow-minded! Look at the street lamps, aren't there a lot of them? Life is like a long road. If you want to go far, how can one lamp be enough?"

Han Xiaorui thought for a moment, "Okay, you have a point! What did you talk about with grandma today that made your eyes so bright with wisdom?"

Han Xiaojing replied, "We talked about a lot, including literature, history, astronomy, geography, ancient and modern times, China and the West. I feel that my thinking has become very broad, and my whole realm has been elevated to a higher level!"

Han Xiaorui smiled and said, "This is just like the sudden enlightenment in martial arts novels! Granny Xu is our elder. She may not be so familiar with new things, but their life experience is full of wisdom and is very valuable."

The words and deeds of the elders can indeed broaden the horizons of the younger generations and benefit them greatly.

Han Xiaojing nodded, "Yes! There must be a teacher among three people, and we need to work harder!"