I was a fortune teller in 90

Chapter 415: Helping the Poor and the Weak

Dai Qing sat by the river for a while before someone came to her door. It was a woman in her twenties, wearing a half-new floral jacket and straight-leg pants. The tips of her leather shoes were a little peeling, and she was holding a cloth bag with a few celery sticks in it.

She was dressed simply, had a sad face and lacked vitality, which was very inconsistent with her age.

"Master, please help me see if my marriage can be saved?"

Dai Qing looked at her face and found that the Children's Palace indicated that she was pregnant with a daughter. The Wife and Concubine's Palace, also known as the traitor's palace, had messy lines and diagonal lines, indicating that the couple was not in harmony and argued too much. The Wealth Palace was flat, with slightly high cheekbones, indicating that her life was relatively hard.

"From your face, you have a daughter now, but your husband and wife are not on good terms. They probably quarrel frequently, mostly because of the unequal distribution of money."

After listening to Dai Qing's explanation, the elder sister's eyes lit up and she nodded repeatedly.

"I really found the right person today. It's just like what the master said. My child's father and I either don't talk to each other or quarrel. There is no hope in life."

"He doesn't care about me at all. He doesn't care how difficult it is for me. He just keeps blaming me. I can't live any longer."

As she spoke, the elder sister's eyes turned red. She raised her hand to wipe her eyes and looked at Dai Qing with expectation in her eyes.
"Master, give me some advice, how can we solve the problem between us?"

Dai Qing looked at her anxious expression and then carefully examined her face.

"If you want to resolve a conflict over money, just keep your accounts clear. Then you will know the situation and the conflict will be resolved naturally."

After hearing Dai Qing's suggestion, the elder sister was stunned, and then her expression became a little unnatural.
"We are both ordinary workers with fixed salaries. After deducting living expenses, there is not much left... I usually live frugally and just make ends meet. Life is tight and I don't even want to buy clothes."

"But the child's father didn't believe it. He always thought that I was using the money to subsidize my mother's family. In the past few months, he didn't give me his salary. We can hardly make ends meet at home. My daughter will soon have to pay tuition and miscellaneous fees. When I mentioned it to him, he told me to find a way myself and save his money first."

Dai Qing felt helpless as she listened to her explanation.

"That's why I asked you to keep the accounts and let your husband check them when necessary. If he still insists on doing what he wants, it proves that this man is selfish and not worth your careful budgeting for him."

Poor couples have many sorrows, this is the reality. But life still has to go on, so we can only find a relatively peaceful way.

Unless one of the parties doesn't want to continue, that's another matter.

The eldest sister looked at Dai Qing and struggled for a long time before she spoke with a guilty conscience.
"My mother's family is not doing well either. I have a younger brother who is not married yet. My salary is only over 200 yuan. I give my mother 50 yuan every month so that she can save it to buy something big for my brother's wedding."

Dai Qing: "..."

"I have no choice. Nowadays, when getting married, you need a washing machine and a refrigerator. My brother and dad's salary alone is not enough. My mom asked me to give 50 yuan a month until my brother gets married... If a young man can't get married, he will be laughed at by the neighbors."

The elder sister said this with a somewhat embarrassed look on her face.
"I used to manage the family's finances, and my son's father never asked about it. We could get by even if we were a little tight. But in the past six months, we've been arguing frequently, and it seems like we're heading for divorce."

"Your husband must have found out about your subsidy to your parents' home. Otherwise, he wouldn't have made a fuss with you." Dai Qing was helpless about this. Although fifty yuan was not a lot, it was almost one-fifth of a person's salary.

Now in the autumn of 1991, the salary of ordinary workers in the capital is only about 250 yuan, and those with higher ranks are a little over 300 yuan.

The combined salary of a couple is less than 500 yuan, and with the expenses of food, oil, salt water, electricity, children's schooling and the elderly's medical care, most families are not well off.

"Life is not so prosperous nowadays. If we want to reduce conflicts, we still need to trust each other. Once we are suspicious of each other, estrangement will arise. When it explodes, life will be ruined."

"I have no choice. My mother has been begging me. I am the older sister and cannot ignore my brother. I am also in a difficult situation."

The eldest sister held the cloth bag in her hand, and almost twisted it into a pickle.

"In fact, more than 300 yuan a month is enough for our family of three. Giving my mother 50 yuan does not affect our life. My son's father is narrow-minded and does not want to give it. He said that I am ungrateful and not loyal to him... In fact, I budget carefully for this family and make every dollar count, but he does not seem to feel sorry for me."

The older sister became more and more excited as she spoke, and resentment gradually grew in her eyes.
"He has known about my family's situation for a long time. When we started dating, he promised that he would lend a hand if we were able to. But now that we are married, he has forgotten everything he said before."

"When we had a fight this morning, he yelled at me, saying that if he had more money than he could spend, he should give some to his mother-in-law every month. Since we're married, we should treat each other equally."

"Isn't he kidding? My family needs money because my younger brother is getting married, but my mother-in-law and her family don't need it. My father is the youngest, and my two older brothers and sister-in-law are already married and have their own families. My mother-in-law and father-in-law both have pensions, so they don't need any subsidies from us."

"In a family, the weaker ones must help each other. The father of the child is deliberately making things difficult for me."

Listening to her dissatisfied complaints, Dai Qing looked into her eyes and reminded her softly.

"When a couple lives together, they do need to support each other, but that doesn't mean they just want to help the poor. Although your reasons are valid and helping your brother is helping your parents, others may not empathize with you and instead think you are a burden to him."

"After a man and a woman get married, their income becomes the common property of the couple. It is reasonable for you to be informed. There is no right or wrong in giving money to your parents, but you need to communicate in advance. Being kept in the dark is also a deception."

When a couple gets married and starts a family, it involves two families on both sides. Once a conflict arises, it is easy for the relationship between the couple to be affected.

As for the issue of helping the poor and the weak, everyone holds their own opinion and it is impossible to argue out a reasonable answer.

If the affection between husband and wife is deep, they can turn a blind eye. But if they are narrow-minded, they will just quarrel, and finally break up.

After hearing Dai Qing's words, the elder sister was silent for a moment and then shook her head.

"There was no way to communicate about the money given to my parents. I knew from the time we got married that my husband was a little narrow-minded and liked to get serious about some things. That's why I kept it a secret from him."

"Now that he knows, he's been making trouble for me in various ways every day. He's even taking my salary card. It's clear that he doesn't want me to help my family."