The struggle of the reborn prince

In Carnegie's thoughts on successful interpersonal communication, the most important point is to follow the utilitarian principle in psychological communication.This principle is based on the various needs of people, including both spiritual and material content. On this basis, interpersonal communication is an activity that meets people's needs.

The psychologist Homans once proposed that the communication between people is essentially a kind of social exchange, that is, people hope that what they get in the communication is not less than what they pay.In fact, it’s not just that what you get cannot be less than what you give, but if you get more than what you give, it will also make people psychologically unbalanced.

Interpersonal communication should be reserved. One of the mistakes people who are new to the social circle often make is to "do all the good things at once", thinking that doing things for the other party wholeheartedly will make the relationship harmonious and close.Not so.Because people can't blindly accept other people's contributions, otherwise they will feel unbalanced psychologically. "The kindness of a drop of water is reciprocated by the spring", which is also a way to balance the relationship.If good deeds are done all at once, making people feel unable to repay or have no chance to repay, guilt will make the beneficiary choose to alienate.Leave room, do not do all good things at once, this is also an important criterion for balancing interpersonal relationships.

If you want to help others and want to maintain a long-term relationship with them, then you might as well give them a chance to reciprocate, so that the relationship between the two parties will not be alienated due to inner pressure. 'Excessive investment', if you don't give the other party a chance to breathe, you will suffocate the other party's soul.And leave room and keep a proper distance, so that each other can breathe freely and freely. . .

Zhao Tong seemed to have suddenly forgotten the unpleasantness that happened just now and in the past. Zhao Tong behaved gracefully, Tong Guan also spoke freely, but Cai You seemed reserved, often looking left and right, not expressing what he said, but just echoing.At this time, Cai You fell into confusion, and almost everyone in the officialdom of Song Dynasty knew that Cai You and Prince Yan were at odds.When Prince Yan was a child, don't let him think about it, not only his head was almost chopped off.He was also knocked out a large sum of money. In the past two years, he finally figured out a way to kill his younger brother Cai Yu, but he turned the tables under his intervention.It was because he was the prince that Cai You didn't dare to deal with him openly, but he also contributed a lot when Zhao Tun was sent to the northwest.

When Cai You was sent to the Northwest as a special envoy for peace talks, he was apprehensive.Cai You understood the little tricks he was doing underneath.Prince Yan could figure it out in a blink of an eye, if he came to his territory, he would have to be all over the place, but after arriving in Taiyuan, things were unexpected. Prince Yan was away fighting, so he had no time to talk to him at all.

With the development of the war.Cai You stayed here for two months. He found that Prince Yan not only didn't find fault with him, but also took good care of him. One copy, and sometimes I will get him some booty as a gift, and I will mention him a few words in the memorial when I repay the credit, and share some credit with him.Cai You breathed a sigh of relief.Also feel relaxed.Gradually let go of the past grievances between the two, and blamed those things on Prince Yan's youth and ignorance, but he made a big joke with himself, now that he is sensible, he also wants to make Zhao Tun a friend.

The relationship between Cai You and Tong Guan is unusual, they are both family friends and good friends.Even Tong Guan's wife had an affair with him, and the two teamed up to bring down Cai Jing.He also helped him get a high position, and promised to recommend him as the deputy commander when he attacked Liao in the future.Let him make new achievements.Even after arriving in the Northwest, although the two were separated by thousands of mountains and rivers, Tong Guan still cared for him in every possible way. He entrusted his disciples and old officials to take care of Cai You in every possible way, sending money and women, eating with him, and accompanying him. Drink and play with him!

It can be said that only Cai You can't think of it, there is nothing Tong Guan can't do, but Cai You didn't feel much happiness when getting along with Tong Guan. What he said was very dangerous, and he also "slightly" slandered Zhao Tun, so that Cai You had no choice but to live with him, watching his poor guards drown in Tong Guan's Shengjie army, but there was something wrong with him. The feeling of being kidnapped, although he also knew that Tong Guan had good intentions.

Cai You himself is also an extremely human minister. Speaking of which, he is like a man of five chapters. He has arms and legs. He is neither stupid nor stupid. Under the Wing Snatcher, he has nothing to repay, which makes him uncomfortable, and also makes him feel faintly uneasy, the debt he owes will eventually be repaid. . .

"Cai Xueshi, my king has been in the frontier for a long time, and I know little about the affairs in Beijing and China. I don't know what's the discussion about the Western Expedition in the court?" Cai, but call his job, although Cai You has no ink, but he still attaches great importance to this 'big scholar'.

"Now that the Northwest has won a great victory, not only the sage Long Yan is very happy, but also the people in Beijing are overjoyed. All countries have signed congratulatory forms, convinced that the victory will belong to the Song Dynasty, and there are rumors in the streets that the Heavenly Soldiers will enter Xingzhou and capture the Lord Xia. ', you two are famous all over the world!" Cai You praised loudly and breathed a sigh of relief, thinking that this child has grown up, and there is no such thing as a long and short Cai, otherwise, in front of many people, he would still It's really hard to agree.

"Well, this is not a good thing. Now that the peace talks are under the imperial decree, the people's expectations are very high now, and the weather is full of enthusiasm and enthusiasm. They are presumptuous, and triumphant songs are like drunkenness. Under such circumstances, those who propose peace talks are regarded as betraying the country. , as executors, we will be reviled by the people!" Tong Guan sighed.

"What the Taiwei said is very true. At this time, everyone believes that the peace between Song and Xia is only beneficial to Xixia, and it is a conspiracy to get rid of the predicament of defeat. But who knows how much sand we have eaten in front, how many people have died, and consumed How much food, how difficult it is to win, anyway, I can't win, whoever wants to scold, whoever scolds, anyway, I don't care!" Zhao Tong shook his head and said with a wry smile and raised his glass.

"That's right, Prince Yan fought all the way from Hedong to Lingzhou, and with [-] soldiers, he wiped out the Xixia army of [-]. The killed brother Cha lost his helmet and armor, and almost died in Hedong. Although...although he failed to capture Xingzhou, such a big victory is unprecedented in our dynasty. When I was in Taiyuan, every time I heard the crying of a woman who lost her husband and son, I felt sad. Consolation, but..." Cai You wiped away tears with his sleeve, sighed with deep sympathy, his face full of grief.

"Hey, once you become famous, let's have a drink!" Zhao Tong raised his glass again and invited everyone present to say, but everyone thought it was weird, saying that the meeting between Prince Yan and Xueshi Cai was like a dog meeting a cat. At that time, today I saw how the two of them had the meaning of sympathy for each other. They seemed to be complaining about Tong Taiwei's reneging on his promises, and transferred the Shaanxi Army back at the critical moment, making Xizheng anticlimactic, and had to sit down and negotiate peace with Xixia.

"Hey, Prince Yan, don't be discouraged. The old man is too old to achieve anything. Although he has not won Xixia now, he can comfort these bloody soldiers by conquering Lingzhou. The prince is still young, and there will always be opportunities to make contributions. Seeing that the two of them were talking speculatively, Tong Guan immediately interjected, "Now that our dynasty and the Kingdom of Jin have formed an alliance, it is imminent to send troops to attack the Liao Dynasty. Although Xixia's national strength is small, after all, it has been separated from the northwest for a hundred years. As the saying goes,' The centipede dies but does not stiffen, breaks but does not slump', if it gets entangled, it will miss the Holy Majesty's great plan to attack the Liao Dynasty, and negotiate peace with Xixia as soon as possible, so that the future worries will be avoided!"

"Although Taiwei's words are reasonable, there is still a saying that 'you will not die if you beat a snake but you will be bitten'. The people of the party are tough, happy to fight to death and die of illness, and value revenge. If the country cannot be destroyed this time, its subjects must taste If you are brave enough to seek revenge, you will be attached first and then betrayed, and there will be endless troubles!" Zhao Tong said.

"Prince Yan said it is very true, but we can fight on both sides. I am afraid that our power will not be able to catch it. Xixia dares to attach and rebel repeatedly, and it is also attached to the Liao to help the tiger. But as long as the Liao wins and the Xixia loses its support, the future troubles will be eliminated forever. Liao is the root!" Tong Guan said while looking at Cai You.

"Taiwei's words can be described as gold and jade, and the Holy Majesty is even more arbitrary. Xixia is in a hurry to beg for peace this time, and Prince Yan and Taiwei are sitting in the northwest, so they will not dare to do it again!" Seeing Tong Guan's unkind eyes, Cai You knew He was dissatisfied with what he said just now, and asked if his butt was crooked, so he turned around quickly.

"Yeah, I've had enough of staying in the northwest, and my mother has repeatedly urged me to go back to Beijing to get married, so I don't want to come to this ghostly place again!" Zhao Tang stretched his waist and said, "You two don't know, but now Xixia is very jealous of this king. The number one swordsman in Xixia was sent as a killer to assassinate this king. This person has sneaked into Lingzhou City and escaped our siege several times. The generals will not allow me to leave the mansion for half a step, so this time there is much more to talk about. Rely on the two adults!" He cupped his hands at the two of them again.

"But aggressive?" Tong Guan asked anxiously after hearing this.

"It's this person, the Taiwei has also heard of it?" Zhao Tun asked in surprise.

"This person is not easy to deal with..." Tong Guan swallowed and said, "Aggression's reputation as the number one swordsman in Xixia is by no means in vain. It is said that this person has amazing sword skills, and no one has ever been able to walk three Trick, he once single-handedly killed a hundred horse thieves, and also sneaked into the camp of the ten thousand clans for revenge, and killed their chiefs. Later, because of his many grievances, he was chased and killed by several powerful clans. I didn't know where to go, but I didn't expect to appear in Lingzhou City!"

"This person wants to be detrimental to us, what should I do?" Cai You was a little panicked when he heard this. The peace talks have not started yet, and he is facing such a risk. If Xixia is really forced to sign the contract, he is the main envoy Not even counting it all on your own head.

"There is no good way now, I can only be careful!" Tong Guan shook his head and said, when several powerful clans of the party sent out a large number of experts to round up, he escaped, so it is not easy to catch him. . .

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