Learn some wonderful questioning techniques, mind reading techniques, and psychological control tech

Chapter 1 Prologue

Reading and mastering others - the survival skills everyone must have

In this complex and ever-changing world, we communicate and interact with others all the time.However, as the saying goes, it is difficult to paint a dragon or a tiger, knowing people and faces but not their hearts, the human heart is the kindest thing in the world, the most sinister thing is also the human heart, and the most unpredictable thing is the human heart.Some people compare the human heart to a deep pool, and no one can tell what kind of creatures swim in it.Therefore, some people hide their true colors out of self-protection, and some people want to confuse others. People hide their true colors for different purposes.

everyone has a fake face
The complexity of human beings is not only the complexity shown in the physical structure, but also the complexity shown in the psychology.Therefore, when you don't know someone well, it's best not to be easily swayed by his appearance.Because this appearance is likely to be an illusion.

American psychologist August?Boya once did an experiment, asking several people to express anger, terror, temptation, indifference, happiness, and sadness with facial expressions, and recorded them with a video recorder, and then asked people to guess which expression expressed which emotion.As a result, on average, only two judgments are correct per person.When the performer makes an angry expression, the viewer thinks it is a sad expression.

Man is a complex of contradictions.People's emotions are far from being as simple as they appear.Laughter does not necessarily mean happiness, tears do not necessarily mean sadness, bowing does not necessarily mean gratitude, clapping hands does not necessarily mean appreciation... So, you have to analyze carefully, learn to recognize people's hearts, and master some skills to read people's hearts.

Find out your opponent's cards

A famous writer said: "Life is a double-sided stage. People who play heroes always try their best to cover up their villain side." The world is full of deceits and traps. They want to cover up their own interests and keep their hole cards so that they can gain the upper hand at critical moments.

Life is like a chess game, the most elusive card in the world is the opponent's "hole card".The hole card is one of the weapons that people use to protect themselves and attack their opponents.If others want to cover up their hole cards, we have to find ways to find out other people's hole cards.Only in this way can we plan ahead and come up with countermeasures before the opponent plays his cards to avoid being hurt by him.

Only by knowing your opponent's psychology can you win a hundred battles

There are thousands of differences between people, creating a rich and colorful world.Because everyone's innate endowment and acquired experience are different, everyone's temperament and psychology are different.Some people are shrewd and capable and scheming, while others are simple and honest, careless, some are straightforward, and some hide their secrets...

We must understand the temperaments of others, and learn to communicate with people of different temperaments.Understand the personalities of the people around you, and then use different methods according to the different likes and dislikes of the other party. Only in this way can you win the game with others.It is necessary to know the enemy, especially when facing people with evil intentions.Only by knowing the state of your opponent can you win all battles.

Interpersonal relationships in social life can be said to be a "long-term test". Even if you have no intention of testing others, you will notice a person's every move and form your evaluation of him.Therefore, pay attention to other people's every move and gain insight into others, and you will have a chance of winning in interpersonal relationships.

A little more "scheming" than others

As the saying goes: "Go out to see the sky, enter the door to see the face." In life, we must be careful when interacting with people, otherwise we will encounter many unimaginable problems, because we don't know when we put Others are offended.That is to say, no matter what we do or who we are dealing with, we must first observe the words and expressions, find out the other person's mind, and then put it into action, so that we can be handy and foolproof.

Therefore, we must not be careless in judging people, and we must not misjudge people because of their appearance, let alone get close to them without knowing their hearts. We must be a caring person.

learn some psychology
There is an old saying in China that goes, "It is difficult to paint a dragon and a tiger, but it is difficult to draw a bone when you know a person's face but not his heart." It expresses the difficulty of understanding and controlling others.But in life, we must observe, understand, judge and evaluate others, and form opinions on others to determine the actions we should take when interacting with them.

Good relationships can only be established if you understand others deeply.Understanding others requires a certain amount of knowledge, that is, psychological knowledge.Making good use of psychological knowledge in social communication can make our social communication fruitful.

Studying and understanding the laws and characteristics of others will not only help us understand others more accurately and take correct actions, but also help us establish a better image and achieve satisfactory results in social interactions.

This book systematically expounds the survival skills of reading and mastering others from three aspects: questioning, mind reading, and psychological mastery. It uses the most concise and clear language and lively cases to reveal the secrets hidden deep in people's hearts.I hope this book can become the best advice in your life and help you succeed.

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