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Chapter 110
Medium: Mind Reading: Knowing and Influencing Those Around You Without Knowing It
Chapter 7 Mind-reading exercise 7: The social code of the Enneagram
Section [-] Perfect Personality: The desire for perfection is too harsh

Aspects of mind reading:
What kind of person is a "perfect personality"?
Wonderful interpretation of mind:
The perfect personality has always insisted on this point of view: "If I am not perfect, no one will love me." Therefore, they have very high demands on themselves and others, and hope that everything will be perfect.But life is not perfect, and the ideal world circulated in those fairy tales cannot appear in real life.Therefore, if a perfect personality cannot accept the imperfections in life and blindly demands life, then in the end it is just asking for trouble.

In the "Hundred Metaphors" of Indian Buddhism, there is such a funny and thought-provoking story.

There was a gentleman who married a lady with a graceful body and a pretty face. The two loved each other very much, and they were the envy of everyone.This lady has delicate features and gentle disposition, but the fly in the ointment is that she has a rosy nose, like a dereliction of duty artist, who has missed a few knives on a piece of fine art that should be proud of the world, which looks very abrupt and weird.

The husband was always obsessed with his wife's nose.One day when I went out to do business, I walked through the slave market. In the wide square, there were a lot of people around, scrambling to bid and buy slaves.Standing in the middle of the square was a thin, thin and thin girl, with teary eyes, timidly looking around at these big men who were like wolves and tigers, deciding her life's destiny.

The husband looked carefully at the girl's appearance, and suddenly he was deeply attracted.great!The girl had a straight nose, and he bought her at all costs.

The husband bought the girl with a straight nose at a high price, and happily took the girl home day and night, hoping to surprise his beloved wife.When he got home and settled the girl down, he cut off the girl's beautiful nose with a knife, and holding the bloody and warm nose, he shouted loudly:
"Madam! Come out quickly! Look at the most precious gift I bought for you!"

"What kind of expensive gift made you shout so much?" The wife came out suspiciously.

"Look! I bought you a beautiful nose, put it on and have a look."

After the husband finished speaking, he suddenly pulled out the sharp blade in his arms, and slashed at the wife's distilled nose.Suddenly, the bridge of the wife's nose was bleeding profusely, and the wine-stained nose fell to the ground. The husband hurriedly stuck the straight nose to the wound with both hands, but no matter how hard the husband tried, the beautiful nose could not stick to the bridge of the wife's nose.

Poor wife, neither the correct and beautiful nose that her husband bought with painstaking efforts, lost her own ugly but genuine rosaceous nose, and also suffered unreasonable pain from the blade.And the ignorance of the confused husband is even more pitiful.

Although this behavior makes people feel a little ridiculous, people's pursuit of perfection is exactly the same as the husband with a sharp knife in the article.Some people think that their pursuit of perfection is a positive expression, but in fact they are the most pitiful people, because the perfection they pursue does not exist.

As the saying goes: "There is no gold, no man is perfect." Everyone will have such and such shortcomings and deficiencies, so when interacting with others, we should not ask others with a perfect attitude, but should give others more Tolerance and understanding, acceptance of each other's shortcomings and deficiencies.Only in this way can we gain more and make more friends in the process of interacting with people.Of course, if we let go of the mentality of pursuing perfection, we can also reduce a lot of troubles and sorrows in the process of getting along with others, and we will not always be disappointed with others.

(End of this chapter)