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Chapter 6 Psychological Strategy 6: Harmonize with colleagues and create a relationship that is both right and left

Section [-] Refuse to be used by utilitarian colleagues
Mental Wisdom Call:

Colleagues who take advantage of others often appear pitiful and helpless in front of others.

Skillful in control:

Helping each other is indispensable among colleagues.However, when some people communicate with others, they often have a very obvious utilitarianism.You are useful to him, you can help him solve problems, or you have some relationship that he can use, etc., so he associates with you.

Colleagues who take advantage of others often appear pitiful and helpless in front of others.In fact, they are not helpless or pitiful at all, they just use you very cunningly, let you do their personal affairs for them during working hours, and serve them willingly for free.

Colleagues who take advantage of others are inherently selfish.This kind of person calculates how to use others every day, but never makes corresponding compensation to the other party, and will not appreciate it.Working with such people in the same unit, you must master some coping principles and skills, otherwise, you can only do your best and "make wedding clothes for others", but your own work will be delayed a lot.

Co-exist with such a utilitarian colleague and refuse to be used by him.If you really want to help him, you should let him face the responsibility instead of handing him a crutch yourself.When he makes unreasonable demands on you, if you are cowardly and don't speak up, then you don't love yourself.

When we know that a certain colleague has this kind of motive of attempting to use himself in his communication with him, should we still have contact with him?
Generally speaking, you don't have to break the relationship with the other party just because you discover this kind of motivation, because you can't ask the communication and relationship between colleagues according to the standard of a friend.Communication between colleagues is always limited, and it is impossible to be too close.It cannot be based on common interests, aspirations and mutual trust like friendship, nor can it be absolutely pure.Therefore, you can't have too high expectations for colleagues, and you don't have to hope that there are too many friend-like emotional connotations.Therefore, even if you find that someone is using you by associating with you, you don't have to feel angry and don't have to break the relationship with you. You only need to properly grasp the degree and proportion of this interaction.

Of course, we should also distinguish the purpose and nature of this use.Some people intentionally get close to themselves and build relationships, often in order to form cliques, or to achieve disgraceful goals.In this case, it should be rejected and resisted in time, and never be used as a gun by some people.If other people just want to use some of your advantages and relationships to solve some practical difficulties for them personally, you can maintain normal communication with them very naturally.

Drawing the line is an effective way to deal with colleagues who take advantage of others.When getting along with colleagues, you must use it skillfully. If you can’t draw a line with the behavior of using others, then you are likely to lose your principled position and integrity in front of acquaintances, friends, and "relationship households", and become a person who is used. sad role.Faced with this kind of behavior, if you don't draw a clear line with it as soon as possible, and always act on behalf of others without principle, you will only become a ladder for others to climb up, but you will achieve nothing.What's more serious is that if the other party asks you to do something that is against the law and discipline, and you do it unprincipled, then you will become a sad scapegoat.

Of course, the smartest way is to keep an appropriate distance from such colleagues for safety.This style of doing things will benefit you rather than harm you in the face of vicissitudes in the workplace.

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