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Chapter 193 Part Two
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Chapter 9 Psychological Strategy 9: Psychology in Entertainment
Section [-] How to Speak at the Wine Table

Mental Wisdom Call:

In people's communication, wine can communicate feelings and promote communication.And how to speak at the wine table has become a skill that needs to be studied.

Skillful in control:

"Wine culture" is an ancient and fresh topic, and modern people have increasingly played the role of wine in the process of communication.Do you know the wisdom at the wine table?

1. Aim at the guest and host, grasp the overall situation
Most drinking parties have a theme, which is the purpose of drinking.When going to a banquet, you should first look around at everyone's expressions and distinguish between the primary and the secondary. Don't drink just for the sake of drinking, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, let alone let some sensational drinkers confuse the host's intentions.

2. Appropriate language, witty and humorous

The wine table can show a person's talent, knowledge, self-cultivation and communicative demeanor. Sometimes a witty and humorous language will leave a deep impression on others and make them have a good impression of you invisibly.But in some formal occasions still need to be scruples.For example, "Guests must be drunk if they drink, or the host will be ashamed", "If you don't drink for nothing, you won't be emotional", "A small amount is not a gentleman, and non-toxic is not a husband", "How can a person walk in the rivers and lakes without drinking?" , "It's better to have a hole in the stomach than a crack in the heart", although the language is humorous, it may have the effect of adjusting the atmosphere of the banquet, but the style is not high, so it's better not to use it, otherwise it will only make the audience feel uncomfortable. Your impression is greatly reduced.

If it is in a very solemn communicative banquet, the persuasion speech must emphasize literary talent and style.Let’s take a look at the speech given by the mayor of a certain city at the dinner party celebrating the two cities becoming sister cities during his visit to Marbach, Germany:
"Let me take up the golden wine, in the hometown of the poet Schiller, with a passage from his famous "Ode to Joy", toast the covenant we have signed! Strengthen this holy group, and swear by this golden wine; You must remain steadfast in the covenant, and swear by the judgment of the stars."

This persuasion speech has a unique style. It highlights the typical feature that the city is Schiller's hometown, quotes famous poems from Schiller, and vividly expresses the joyful atmosphere of the reception and the desire for long-term friendly cooperation between the two parties.

3. The toast is orderly, with clear priorities

Toasting is also a science.Under normal circumstances, the toast should be in the order of age, position, and the identity of the guest and host. Before toasting, the order of toasting must be fully considered and the priority should be identified.Even if you drink with someone you don't know well, you should first inquire about your identity or pay attention to how others call you. This is a good idea to avoid embarrassment or hurt feelings.

4. Observe words and expressions, understand people's hearts

If you want to get everyone's appreciation at the wine table, you must learn to observe words and expressions.Because to communicate with people, you must understand people's hearts and have both ways, so that you can play the role on the wine table well.

5. Let's have fun together, don't whisper

There are many guests in most banquets, so we should try our best to talk about topics that most people can participate in, and get the approval of most people.

6. Gradually shoot, sit firmly on Mount Tai

At the banquet, you should see the occasion clearly, correctly evaluate your own strength, don't be too impulsive, try to keep some alcohol and speaking properly, neither let others underestimate you nor expose yourself too much.Only by choosing the right opportunity and gradually radiating your own edge can you sit firmly on Mount Tai and not give others the idea of ​​"only this ability", so that everyone dare not underestimate your strength.

7. Persuasion to drink moderately, do not force

"Talk about a hero by alcohol", it's okay for people with a lot of alcohol, but it's difficult for those with a small amount of alcohol. Sometimes excessive persuasion will destroy the relationship between friends.

How to speak decently at the wine table is a compulsory homework for you in socializing and entertaining.Learning to speak at the wine table can make you get close to others in an instant, and quickly become good friends with each other.

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