Don't choose ease at a difficult age
Chapter 3 The age of struggle, don't be buried in comfort
Chapter 3 The age of struggle, don't be buried in comfort
All the hard work is worthwhile
Not long after I started working, a friend asked me: "If one day, you find that your dream has never been realized, will you feel that hard work is pointless?"
I said: "No."
The friend then said: "Even if those efforts are not rewarded, are you willing?"
"I tried my best!"
When I said this, I was stunned.At that time, I actually didn't know how to answer my friend, but the answer came out just like that.Think about it too, has worked hard, isn't it the meaning of hard work?In other words, hard work is the reward of hard work, dedication is the reward of dedication, painting is the reward of painting, and writing is the reward of writing.As my best friend said, when I feel tired, I immediately feel comforted when I think of my work, "I really didn't waste time."
Later, I firmly believed in the meaning of hard work, and that was the essence.The reason why a person chooses to work hard is not to want to despise himself when he gets old, isn't it to give himself a glorious past, isn't it to give a satisfactory answer to his life?
One year during the holiday, I was sitting on the bullet train going home, and I overheard the girl sitting next to me sobbing and calling her family: "Mom, I'm sorry, I came home only after I said I would make money...Mom, I tried my best... ...I don't regret it." She leaned towards the window as much as possible, her body trembling.I could feel that she was trying her best to suppress her crying.
Around me, there are many people like this girl.Most of them live in small cities or even in mountainous areas, and going to university is their only chance to change their lives.They must stay in the big city, they must take root here, they must make their parents feel proud, and they must have a new future for themselves.What impressed me the most was H, my former colleague.
According to him, his family lives on a certain mountain in Yunnan, and supplies are scarce.They seldom go down the mountain. If they do go down the mountain, it is usually to buy new year goods or daily necessities.What they eat are the vegetables they grow and the livestock they raise.When he was in junior high school, H was still washing his hair with washing powder. He said that washing his hair with washing powder was very common there.
I remember one time, there were only 3 matches left in his house, and his mother asked him to light the firewood for cooking, but he wasted 2 matches clumsily, so his mother beat him.
When he said this, I opened my mouth and couldn't speak for a long time.
Later, H left the company and found a better platform. I bless him from the bottom of my heart.Anyway, I've seen his belief in effort.He also told me that only by working hard and persisting can we get out of our own world and move towards a better future.
I believe that no matter what occupation or position a person is in, as long as he does what he likes to do, he must be happy. This is the meaning of hard work.On the contrary, if your efforts are for something you don't want, then you will feel unhappy and hopeless in life, thus doubting the meaning of hard work.
Speaking of which, I would like to talk about a distant cousin of mine, whom I call my uncle.
The fate of my uncle was quite rough. He was abandoned by his biological parents since he was a child, and was taken home by an old couple in a small town to raise him as a grandson.When he was very young, he followed the old couple to go out to beg for food and pick up rags. The house was not only a barren house, but also a leak from all sides.For some reason, the old couple kept telling him, "Baby, you must study hard, go to school well, and leave this small town. Only when you go out, can you have a chance to change your destiny."
Although the couple did not give him a rich material life, they gave him 100% spiritual encouragement.Sure enough, my uncle was very competitive, and his grades were always among the best, and he was admitted to a high school in the city with the first place in the county.Three years after high school, my uncle was admitted to the Meteorology Department of a certain university.When going to school, everyone brought things in big bags and small bags. He only borrowed a suit of clothes from a neighbor, took the fare and the admission letter and left.
In school, he worked part-time and studied, and never spent money from the old couple again.Sometimes, he will send them some money or special products and so on.
After graduation, my uncle obeyed the assignment and went to the XX Meteorological Bureau in a first-tier city.According to the current statement, my uncle is a standard Phoenix man, perhaps not even a Phoenix. He doesn't have any resources, not even his parents, but he has obtained everything he has now through his own efforts.
Before her aunt married him, she was an illiterate rural woman. She went to a big city before she started to study, and she asked my uncle if she didn't understand.Now, she is already an accountant of a public institution.
Colleague H and my aunt and uncle, they all wrote about the efforts of ordinary people.In fact, not only them, but also many people around me are trying their best to prove to life, fate, and those who laugh at themselves: As long as you work hard, you have the opportunity to change your destiny.
Constantly changing one's own destiny, this is the meaning of hard work and the power of hard work, which is more touching than any rhetoric!
There is no place in the world that sells regret medicine
If I ask you, is there anything you regret?
You will definitely open the chatter box and talk about the last few days and nights.You will regret not studying well, regret not being admitted to a good school, regret not learning a skill, regret not grasping the opportunity when it comes, regret being influenced by others to make a wrong decision, regret... you will also say, If God gives me another chance, what will I do, what will happen.
However, if God really gave you another chance, would you really be different?
There is a person who has been doing nothing all his life, and reports to God after his death.After God read his resume, he was shocked: "You have lived in the world for more than 70 years, how can you do nothing?"
This person defended unconvinced: "The reason why I didn't do anything is entirely your responsibility. You didn't give me the opportunity to create something."
"Oh?" God was a little confused.
"For example, if you let an apple fall on my head, then I will be the one who discovered the law of gravity. What about Newton?"
God shook his head and said, "I give everyone the same chance. The reason why you are like this is because you didn't seize the opportunity yourself."
"How is it possible! If you give me a chance, then I will definitely grab it." The man said vowedly.
"Okay, then I'll give you a chance." God waved his hand and sent this man to the apple orchard hundreds of years ago.The man was sleeping at this time. Suddenly, an apple fell on his head and woke him up.The man touched his head, then picked up the apple and rubbed it against his body, before he began to munch.After a while, a big apple fell on his head again, and he ate it again.After a few minutes, an apple fell and hit him on the head again. This time, he became a little unhappy and cursed: "You damn apple, you disturbed my dream!"
God smiled, brought him back and said, "What else do you have to say?"
"Please give me another chance!" the man begged.
God shook his head and said: "In this world, there is no medicine for regret! Even if I give you another chance, you will still miss the chance..."
God is fair.Everyone will meet their own "apple", but not everyone will regard "apple" as "apple", some people regard "apple" as an unexpected harvest, while some people regard "apple" as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.It was Newton who discovered the law of universal gravitation.
Therefore, don’t make assumptions over and over again about a boring question: "How, why... If... I will..." Of course, human beings are human after all, how can we not assume, do not assume, let alone us, Even Mr. Cui Qi, a Nobel Prize winner in physics and Chinese-American, is not exempt.
When Yang Lan interviewed Mr. Cui Qi, he asked, if you hadn't left Henan back then, what would you be like today?If I were an ordinary person, I would definitely say that if I hadn’t left my hometown, I would not have won the Nobel Prize, and I would still live in the countryside and become an old farmer full of vicissitudes.
But Cui Qi did not follow ordinary people's thinking, but said: "If I didn't go out, my parents would not be starved to death in natural disasters. If I could turn back time, I would rather stay with my parents than go to Hong Kong, Going to the United States, this is the thing I regret the most in my life." After finishing speaking, Cui Qi bowed his head and sobbed painfully.
His parents died in three years of natural disasters.The premature death of his parents was a heavy blow to him.He believed that if he was with his parents at that time, his parents would not have starved to death. He would try to find something to eat for his parents so that they would not die prematurely.
However, there is no medicine for regret in the world... In another way of thinking, even if he can really return to the period of natural disasters, wouldn't the world lose a Nobel Prize winner in physics and a national pillar?
Remember the donkey that fell into the dry well, stepped on all kinds of garbage and dirt, and finally came out?In fact, we should really learn the spirit of it.In life, all kinds of "soil" will be poured on us, and there is always the danger of "burying us alive".If you just cry or accept fate, you will only sink yourself deeper and deeper.If you want to survive from a desperate situation, you must find a way to "rise" from the "dry well", and the only way to "rise" is to throw the "soil" down, step on it, and let it become our stepping stone .
In the same way, when we know that there is no regret medicine in the world, we will give ourselves a wake-up call and stop doing things that make us regret.Or, when doing something, a little more calm, a little more rational.
In short, we have to face difficulties with a calm and steady attitude, and find hope from despair, so that we can successfully "raise the well" like that donkey. Don't forget that adversity is not equal to despair, not to mention that in this world, there is still "putting it away". Reborn after death" said.There is no medicine for regret in the world, it is not only a vigilance to oneself, but also an encouragement to oneself.On the road of struggle, you must keep this sentence in mind, so that you can make life less regretful and make yourself more calm.
Don't live up to your good times
In the movie "Food, Prayer and Love", there is a classic line: "Only food and love can't be let down." Just in time, when we are still young, we should firmly grasp the tail of youth, do what we want and what we can do.Years later, when we recall our youth, we can say "I miss those years..." without any regrets.
Although youth is full of ups and downs or sadness, it is also the most presumptuous.But no matter what, if you have experienced it, you will not live up to this good time.
The famous Taiwanese cartoonist Zhu Deyong became popular in Taiwan when he was 25 years old. A series of comics he created, such as "Double Cannon" and "Sweet Girl", are extremely popular among young people, and some of his works have also been made into TV dramas.However, few people know that when Zhu Deyong was a child, his academic performance was extremely poor, and he was often criticized by his teachers for being stupid.For this reason, Zhu Deyong had to choose to transfer schools.
It is very difficult for Zhu Deyong to learn about writing. Others can learn it in an hour, but he may not be able to learn it in a day.When it was time to go to middle school, no school was willing to admit him, and it took a lot of effort until he was able to go to school.
At the beginning, Zhu Deyong always thought that he was really stupid, but later, he was surprised to find that he was not stupid, but he was more repulsive to words, but he was very sensitive to graphics. It took a long time for others to understand the geometric diagrams. Zhu Deyong You can see the relationship between the graphics just by looking at it.
After discovering his "uniqueness", Zhu Deyong began to draw cartoons consciously. He found that only when he was drawing would he become normal and like others.Talking about youth, Zhu Deyong replied: "My schooling process was very difficult, I even felt that I was a kidney bean, and I even suffered from autism because of this, I only felt it when I was painting. A tinge of joy."
"I can't stay in the outside world, the only way is to go back to my own world, because there is my happiness in this world, I was hit by the teacher at school, I dare not speak out, but when I got home I would paint him, paint him as a devil, let him die a terrible death, and then I would feel better."
In his youth, there were doubts, denials, persistence, and dreams.When recalling the past, Zhu Deyong said: "If my parents forced me to learn those words like the school, then I would definitely not go to draw. Maybe you can see me in the slums. Fortunately, They discovered that I have a talent for painting and cultivated me since I was a child, so I have the achievements I have now. Through painting, I found that I am not a green bean that never sprouts, but just did not find the right direction. I I believe that humans, like animals, have their own talents. For example, tigers have sharp teeth, rabbits can run...so they have survived in nature. The same is true for humans, but many people grow up with their own talents. Talent is forgotten, just like some people are forced to become a doctor, but he faints, so he is doomed to be mediocre for the rest of his life.”
Seeing Zhu Deyong, I seem to see myself, and I have seen many stories of bumps and bumps in youth just like me, but some people disappeared in the battle of youth, while some people did not live up to the youth brought to them. s damage.
One summer, a young man came to Paris to find his dream. He walked on the Champs-Elysees Avenue, admiring the brilliance of the modern city, and his desire for success was burning in his heart.
He is aware of his humble status, and he has no advantage at all except his dreams.But by working hard on my own, it seems that success is too slow and too difficult.After thinking about it again and again, he decided to use external force to take a shortcut and visit the successful people he admired. Unfortunately, what greeted him was not a step towards success, but a series of disappointments. No successful person was willing to help him.
Full of disappointment, the young man dragged his tired body on the street, and unknowingly came to the door of the Hilton Hotel.He was there, looking enviously at the limousine parked at the door, looking at the well-dressed pedestrians passing by, thinking of his humble and distant dreams, he couldn't help crying.
At this time, an old man noticed him, walked up to him slowly and asked, "Young man, is there anything I can help you with?"
The young man sighed and said, "I have a big dream, and I hope someone can help me realize it, but I haven't been able to find him."
"What kind of dream? Let me hear it." The old man smiled.
"Hey, let's not talk about those distant dreams. My dream now is to walk into this restaurant, listen to the beautiful piano music, and enjoy a delicious meal slowly."
"If you want, just follow me, and I can help you realize this dream." The old man made an inviting gesture and led him towards the restaurant.The young man couldn't believe it. He really came to the world's most upscale restaurant, sat on a soft leather chair, heard the most beautiful music, and even tasted the most exquisite meal.
This meal made him feel a lot of emotions and benefited a lot.After the meal, the young man said to the old man: "Thank you, I know what I should do..."
Twenty years later, the young man has become a superstar in the retail industry.
Regarding his own success, he said: "Don't pin your youth and dreams on others. Although others can help you realize your dreams, but that is only temporary. We should entrust our dreams in our own hands, bit by bit. Working tenaciously..."
Realizing dreams is like this, so is youth. Although it is cruel, only by experiencing it yourself can you live up to this good time and create beautiful memories.
The comfortable comfort zone is actually more dangerous
The so-called continuous struggle and self-challenge is actually to get rid of the "psychological comfort zone" that you are familiar with.
Psychologists use seawater as an example to describe human beings' cognition of the external world, which is divided into three areas: the shore, the shallow water area and the deep water area.The area on the shore is the "psychological comfort zone" of people.
If you are a person who cannot swim, you must feel that staying in the comfort zone of the "shore" is the safest, and every step forward, the panic and anxiety in your heart will increase, so many people would rather stay A comfort zone on the shore.People who indulge in the "psychological comfort zone" may be employees who are dissatisfied with the status quo and want to change jobs but dare not; they may be single youths who long for love but stay at home; We who work as hard as Shanshan.
Emerson said: "People who sit on comfortable cushions tend to fall asleep." This sentence is right. The greatest danger in life is to rely on "crutches" to protect yourself.There is no crutch that we can rely on forever. If we want to succeed, we must fight for it ourselves.
But in real life, not everyone understands this truth.Many people believe that "the more leisurely the job, the better, and the less active the better", they are lazy to use their brains and are full of food, and even think that as long as they can lie comfortably on the sofa and bed, it is a blessing.But the fact is that such a "blessing" is often a curse.
A man died and went to the Hall of Yama, which is a magnificent palace.Seeing a newcomer, the owner of the palace was very enthusiastic and asked him to stay.
The man was very happy, but he still said: "I have worked hard and busy all my life, since you entertain me so warmly, I only have one request."
"Oh? What's the request?"
"I just want to eat, I just want to sleep, I don't want to work!" The man said firmly.
The owner of the palace smiled and said: "Haha, of course. In this world, there is no place more suitable for you to live in. There are endless delicacies here. You can eat whatever you want, and no one will come Urge you. There is a soft bed here, you can sleep as long as you want, and no one will disturb you. The most important thing is that you don't have to do any work."
So the man settled down contentedly.
In the first few days, life was very nourishing. This person began to doubt that people can really go to heaven after death. Heaven is so beautiful!Compared with the days in the world, it is like a sky and an earth.No, this is originally a sky and an underground.The person is comforted by the thought of his leisurely days.A week passed and the person began to feel lonely and empty.He thought, maybe he was not used to such a comfortable life.
After a month, the man found the master of the palace.He said: "This kind of life of eating, eating and sleeping every day is so boring! When I open my eyes every day, I have no motivation. You see, I have gained a lot of weight." He said, pinching the flesh on his stomach .
"Can you find me a job?" he asked quietly.
"what?"
"I thought, I really need a job, it's been a rough day."
"Sorry, I don't have any work here."
The man left disappointed, and after a while, he couldn't take it anymore, and found the owner of the palace again: "I really can't bear this kind of life, if you don't give me a job, then I will go to hell !
The owner of the palace felt baffled and said, "This is hell!"
The man was speechless.
Look, this is what we yearn for doing nothing, eating and sleeping whenever we want every day, without anyone disturbing our lives.However, if you stay in such a comfortable state for a long time, it is also a kind of torture to yourself, just like the person in the story.
An easy life does get a moment of rest and tranquility, but a long-term easy life is like living in hell.
The ancients said it well: "Flowing water does not rot, and the door hinge does not moth." American scientist Franklin also said similar words: "Laziness is like rust, and it consumes the body more than hard work. Frequently used keys are always shiny." It can be seen that the dangers of coveting ease and the benefits of hard work.In life, no matter what kind of environment we are in, when we are in a comfortable state, we may be eroded by crisis at any time. We must know that the competition in life is fierce and cruel, and only those who are prepared can survive. Chance.
An easy life requires caution, and an easy life is risky.Don't let yourself stay in the comfort zone for too long, break out of the comfort zone appropriately.First, ask yourself, are you doing what you are passionate about?What makes you step into comfort, lose motivation, and be reluctant to break through?Secondly, according to your own expectations and motivations, set goals that meet your expectations.Once you have a clear goal, you will be motivated to move towards a point.Of course, the most important thing is action!Slogans alone are not enough.
Abandon the short-term comfort and look forward to the glory of tomorrow
Some people are just dawdling, daydreaming, making generous promises, living their own way of life, expressing passionate determination, and continuing the days of self-importance. When will such chaotic days end?When will such mediocre years end?
When ease becomes tasteless, abandoning ease is not only courage, but also a kind of wisdom.Those who hold fruit in their hands cannot sow seeds when spring comes. Only those who know how to spare their hands for spring can have a more fruitful autumn.
There were two young men named Pablo and Bruno, cousins, ambitious people.They live in a village in Italy.
The two young people have been good partners since childhood, and they both have big dreams.
They used to talk endlessly about somehow making themselves the richest man in the village one day.Both are smart and hardworking, and all they need is opportunity.
One day, the opportunity came.The village decided to hire two men to carry water from a nearby river to a cistern in the village square.The village director gave the job to Pablo and Bruno.
The two men each grabbed two buckets and ran to the river to begin their hard work.At the end of the day, they filled the cistern in the village square.The village director pays them one penny per bucket of water.
"Our dream has finally come true!" Bruno shouted. "I can't believe our good luck."
But Pablo didn't think so.His back was sore and sore, and his hand, which he used to lift the heavy bucket, was blistered.He dreaded getting up every morning to do the same job.So he vowed to find a better way to get the water from the river to the village.
The next morning, as they grabbed their buckets and started running to the river, Pablo said, "Bruno, I have a plan. Since you only get paid a penny for a bucket of water, I have to work so hard to carry water back and forth. Let's build a pipeline to bring water from the river to the village."
Bruno froze.
"A pipeline? Who ever heard of such a thing?" Man! In a week, I can buy a new pair of shoes. In a month, I can buy a cow. In six months, I can build a new house. We have the best jobs in town. We Don't worry about it for the rest of your life! Give up your plumbing fantasies."
Pablo was not one to be easily discouraged, and he patiently explained the plan to his best friend, but unfortunately it didn't change Bruno's mind.So Pablo decided to realize the plan even if he was alone.He spends part of the day carrying buckets of water and part of the day and weekends building his pipelines.He knew how hard it was to dig a pipe through rock-hard soil.Because his salary is paid according to the number of barrels transported.He knew that in the beginning, his income would drop.He also knows that it will take a year or two for his pipeline to produce considerable benefits.But Pablo was convinced that his dream would come true, so he went all out to do it.
Before long, Bruno and other villagers were mocking Pablo, calling him "Pablo the Pipeline Builder."Bruno made twice as much money as Pablo and often showed Pablo his new purchases.He bought a donkey, fitted it with a new leather saddle, and tied it next to his newly built two-story building.
He also bought shiny new clothes and ate delicious food in restaurants.The villagers respectfully called him Mr. Bruno.He often sat in the bar and paid for everyone to drink. When everyone was happy, they showed great enthusiasm for the jokes he told and laughed loudly on purpose to win his favor.
While Bruno enjoyed evenings and weekends in his hammock, Pablo kept digging his pipes.For the first few months, Pablo's efforts didn't make much headway.He worked very hard—harder than Bruno did, because Pablo worked evenings and weekends.
But Pablo kept reminding himself that the realization of tomorrow's dreams is based on today's sacrifices.Day by day, he continued to dig, only one centimeter at a time.
Centimeter by centimeter...becomes a meter.He repeated the words as he swung his chisel into the rock-hard soil.Centimeter by centimeter...become a meter, then 10 meters...20 meters...100 meters...
“Short-term pain brings long-term rewards,” Pablo always reminded himself as he staggered back to his hut, exhausted, after a day’s work.He measures his effectiveness by setting daily goals.He has persisted in this way, because he knows that one day, the reward will greatly exceed the effort at this time.
Whenever he fell asleep, his ears were filled with the laughter of the villagers in the tavern. "Keep your eyes firmly on the return," he repeated over and over again.
In this way, day after day, month after month passed.One day, Pablo realized that his pipeline was half done, which meant he only had to carry the bucket half way.Pablo used the extra time to build the pipeline as well.Finally, the completion date is getting closer.
During his break, Pablo saw his old friend Bruno still struggling to carry water.Bruno's back was getting worse, and his pace was beginning to slow from his long-term fatigue.Bruno looked angry and sullen, as if resentful that he himself was doomed to carry water all his life.
He spends less time in the hammock and more time in the bar.When Bruno came in, the regular patrons of the bar all whispered, "Here comes Bruno the Bucket Carrier." They all laughed when the town's drunks imitated Bruno's hunched posture and his shuffling. laughing out loud.Bruno stopped buying drinks and telling jokes.He would rather sit alone in a dark corner, surrounded by a pile of empty wine bottles.
Finally, Pablo's big moment has come - the pipeline is complete!The villagers flocked to watch the water flow from the pipes to the gutters!Now the village has a steady stream of fresh water.People from other nearby villages also moved to this village, so the village developed and prospered.
Once the plumbing was finished, Pablo would never have to carry buckets again.Whether he was working or not, the water kept flowing in.Water was flowing in as he ate.Water was flowing in while he was sleeping.When he went to play on the weekend, the water was still flowing.The more water that flows into the village, the more money goes into Pablo's pocket.
Many people are getting used to ease, afraid of taking risks, avoiding responsibilities more and more, diluting their ideals more and more, and start a so-called peaceful life with a flat mentality, but the fact is that they are just deceiving themselves and others.Be prepared for danger today and work hard, and tomorrow will be proud and brilliant; if you are greedy for comfort and do not think about making progress today, you will be depressed and defeated tomorrow.
Break free, jump out of your inner dilemma
After listening to Yu Minhong's speech, I was deeply impressed by a passage: "Actually, there are certain things that bind us all our lives, whether it is poverty or social status, whether it is traditional customs or legal provisions. The struggle of life is The process of dancing beautifully in bondage. Life without bondage seems frivolous and weightless. The bondage of life and the efforts to break free make our lives thick and beautiful."
Indeed, the bondage is like the magic spell of Monkey King, which is a headache.From teenage years, longing for freedom, escape from school or the "palm" of parents.After leaving the campus and stepping into the society, I longed to escape from the world of reinforced concrete.When starting a family and starting a business, I yearn for a person's freedom... The bondage seems invisible, but it really exists.
In 2008, Russian athlete Elena Isinbayeva broke the women's pole vault world record for the 26th time and raised the world record in outdoor competitions to 5.05 meters.
On August 2009, 8, in the 18th World Athletics Championships held in Berlin, Germany, Isinbayeva decided to sprint for the 12th world record.In an interview with the media before, she said with full confidence: "I have prepared very well, I am very confident, and I even started to imagine the situation where I won the championship." Her coach Petrov also said: "Winning the championship is already our expectation. things in it."
Due to her outstanding strength, Isinbayeva's first jump went through an hour and a half of waiting.When other contestants were still worrying about the height of 4.55 meters, she was wearing a thick sports coat, lying on the sidelines and doing relaxation movements leisurely.After the height increased to 4.70 meters, many players retreated one after another. She finally got up and prepared to consider from which height to start her journey to win the gold.
However, the ending of the story was obviously beyond everyone's expectations.Isinbayeva, who was still the last to appear on the stage, did not bring surprises to people. She failed in her first attempt at a height of 4.75 meters.At this time, the Polish player Rogowska has passed the 4.75-meter bar at one time, which forced Isinbayeva to challenge the height of 4.80 meters.
This height is not very difficult for Isinbayeva, but she failed again because she inserted the pole too late when hitting this height.After two failed attempts, Isinbayeva was cornered as she had to succeed on the final jump to keep her gold medal.
After standing still at the starting point, Isinbayeva put chalk powder on her pole and raised her hands to signal the audience. This was also her last trial jump in this championship.
In the process of raising the pole, approaching the run, and taking off, the 4.80-meter-high horizontal pole fell together with Isinbayeva, and the entire Olympic Stadium was in an uproar.The audience at the scene never dared to speculate like this: the three attempts of the pole vault queen all ended in failure, and ended in the most incredible way of failure.
Exhausted, she immediately slumped on the ground, covering her face with a towel, and wept uncontrollably.The former defending champion and world record holder suffered the worst loss in her career and created the biggest upset in the World Championships, which made her feel miserable. However, such pain did not last until the next day.
It only took one day for Isinbayeva to calm down, and once again appeared in front of the public in good spirits.Regarding this fiasco, Isinbayeva made a speech: "Some people may say that I have everything, so I have no ambition and no motivation. However, I train hard every day, and I am striving for a higher goal." The goal is to attack. The point is, there is so much pressure on my shoulders, including my country, family, friends, sponsors and everyone who supports me. For them, I always tell myself that I have to win, this pressure and Super high expectations, like a heavy bag, almost crushed me. Although I felt good the whole night of the game, everything made me comfortable, and I was very confident. It is because I feel good and confident that I feel good. I raised 5 centimeters, but I didn’t expect it to end like this. Obviously, too much self-confidence and great pressure destroyed me, and I lost to myself.”
Isinbayeva's coach listened to her narration and made a self-criticism: "When she failed the second jump, I yelled at her in a rage, 'What's going on? Why don't you jump? Hurry up. !' This imperceptibly restrained her and increased her pressure. She is also a human being, not a god. There is nothing wrong with failure. I believe that with her ability, she can completely find herself!"
Regarding future plans, Isinbayeva is full of confidence: "It seems that in the future, I need to calm down and let my life move forward easily! I will still aim to break the world record, although I know it will not be easy to achieve .I need to put aside the heavy pressure to find myself. Only by untying the shackles of the soul, opening a window for the soul, and letting happiness come in, can I finally defeat myself.”
Everyone's journey in life will be full of rugged mountain roads, rough depressions and winding rivers. However, some people have countless halos in their lives, while others are poor.Why is this?This is the difference in attitude towards bondage.In life, some things you insist on are not necessarily [-]% truth. If you break free from the shackles, you may be able to see a better scenery.
No one can have smooth sailing, and no one has a rough life. "Mountain darkly, vista".Break free from the shackles, jump out of the inner dilemma, surpass the inner obstacles, and continue on your way. You will find that you are flying higher and higher, and you will feel happy and cheerful.
What you want will come in full costume
In the summer of 2005, Grid squeezed into the first trip in her life with two heavy suitcases and curiosity. Xi'an was very hot in September, and the university campus that Gezi was looking forward to was not as beautiful as she imagined.She firmly supported the body report, received the bedding, confirmed the dormitory, and packed things.
During college, his parents divorced, and Gezi didn't know how to arrange his winter and summer vacations more reasonably and make his parents feel happier.So she simply didn't stay anywhere for long, went back to see them each and then started her summer job.
Grid considers himself very lucky to be able to earn some small money every summer vacation.In the summer vacation of the freshman year, I worked as a receptionist for parents in a children's development company.In the summer vacation of her sophomore year, she recruited students together with her classmates. She bought her first laptop computer. She spends every summer vacation in a hard and busy way. Occasionally, she feels very sad when she thinks about her parents' recent situation.So far she is reluctant to go home by herself, because there are too many childhood memories, and every time she goes home, she has to cry at home for some reason.
In August 2009, Grid took the plane for the first time, walked into a seaside city for the first time, felt the sea breeze for the first time, saw Hong Kong on the other side for the first time, saw a big coconut tree for the first time, and A glimpse into the fast-paced life at once.She started her life in Shenzhen with full of expectation and passion.
The company only gave Gezi 3 days to find a house.During the 3 days of looking for a house, Gezi didn't know how many times she was drenched in the rain and how many roads she walked. She wandered in the three urban areas of Nanshan, Futian, and Luohu, and then walked through various communities and villages in the city. I don't know how many miles I walked or how many buses I took.
When going back to take a shower at night, Grid suddenly felt a pain in the inner thigh. When he looked down, he found that both sides of the leg were worn out.Her exhausted body and helpless heart made her feel unwell. Grid was soaked in water like that, hugging her knees, squatting in the bathroom and crying aggrievedly.
The tense pace of life does not allow her to have too many personal emotions in it. She has to fight for her rent, water and electricity, and living expenses.After drying her tears and tidying herself up, she started looking for a house from morning till night, and finally she shared a house in a community in Nanshan at a rent of 1000 yuan.
The place where she lives is only ten minutes away from Window of the World and Happy Valley, but she has never been to Window of the World before she left Shenzhen, and she still doesn't know what the scenery inside is like.
I always think that I have a lot of time, so I will go when I am free, but now it seems that many things are like this, as soon as I think of it, I should do it quickly, because the word "later" is really unreliable.Many of the things we should do are put on hold because of talking about what to do in the future.Later, Gege rented another house again. She started to take the bus to work in the morning, and went to the supermarket to live with the aunts in the evening.When she first entered Shenzhen, she didn't have any friends, and she lived in rental houses, companies, and supermarkets every day.
Gezi is that kind of stubborn little girl. She always has a spirit of not admitting defeat. Later she went to Tianjin, Beijing, and Shanxi.Grid's dancing skills are very good. At the company's annual meeting, Grid danced a traditional Mongolian dance, which amazed everyone.Grid is beautiful and independent, and she has many followers around her.
Finally, after 5 years of hard work, Gezi got married and settled in Taiyuan. The stubborn girl is still eccentric, beautiful as if she is not stained with dust. The little girl who has never stopped moving forward now has her own baby , is a typical hot mom.
She will do her best at every stage.
Gezi's college life is not considered rich, but due to his own efforts, his life is no worse than that of his classmates, and sometimes even better than them.Now, Gezi is also living the life she wants, husband and son, her husband is responsible for making money to support the family, and she is responsible for her beauty.
Grid has always believed that only you can achieve the kind of life you want, and there are few shortcuts on the road of life.
Going down slowly, what we have experienced will be obtained in the days to come.
You can't change the bad yesterday, but you can change today and tomorrow
Remember the "Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee" story?
There was a girl who lost her love, was depressed, and lost confidence in life.The girl's father is a chef. In order to help his daughter out of a bad mood, he decided to conduct an experiment.When everything was ready, he called his daughter to him.Then, he boiled three pots of boiling water, put carrots, eggs, and coffee into the pots and continued to cook.
Soon, the originally hard carrots became soft; the originally fragile eggs became firm; the most memorable thing was the coffee, which turned into a pot of fragrant coffee after entering the boiling water.
He used facts to tell his daughter that he had to bravely face various encounters in life.That's an interesting expression.Faced with difficulties like boiling water, should we be subdued like carrots, become more courageous like eggs, or change ourselves and the environment like coffee?
I think most people will choose the latter, because the latter is convincing enough to make us change the status quo and become less bad.
There was a man who wanted to learn painting, but was always hesitant and couldn't make up his mind, so he went to consult his friends.He said: "I want to learn painting, but I will be 4 years old in four years. Can I learn painting again at my age? Isn't it too old?" His friend said to him: "Why not? ?Even if you don’t learn painting, you will still be 40 years old in 4 years.” My friend’s words are like enlightenment. Since I spend every day in the same way, why not do something I like?So the next day, he went to sign up for study.
In fact, you don’t need any excuses to live. You can use every minute and every second to do what you want to do. Don’t care about other people’s opinions and opinions, because your breath and life are your own, and your own life is more exciting than anything else. are more important.
In August 2007, Park Geun-hye ran for the presidential candidate for the first time within the party.The final result was that Park Geun-hye lost the election by a narrow margin.When Park Geun-hye came to the stage to deliver the closing speech, the whole venue became silent. Everyone wanted to know what she would say when she just lost the election, and some people even gloated.But unexpectedly, Park Geun-hye on the stage did not have any frustration. She said calmly: "I admit that the election has failed. I sincerely accept this result and express my confidence in the result. From now on, I will do my duty and support Lee. Myung Bok is running for the presidential nomination. I will 'start from nothing' like Yi Sun-shin and fight to the end to achieve a change of government!"
There was thunderous applause in the venue in an instant.Those who care about Park Geun-hye feel at ease seeing her so calm.On the second day after the defeat, more than 40 members of the camp came to Park Geun-hye's residence, intending to comfort Park Geun-hye.During the conversation, many people couldn't restrain their emotions on the spot and burst into tears.But Park Geun-hye was always smiling, and joked: "I made all the men cry."
If the result has failed, don’t rush to be sad and upset, but find out the reason for the failure, and learn from it those experiences and lessons that are more valuable to our future life.God has already set up a series of difficulties for us to break through.In the face of adversity, some people go against the current, some people are 3 minutes hot, some people shrink back...Of course, different attitudes also lead to different results, some people taste the fruits of victory, some people Still empty-handed.
No matter how bad your life is, no matter how many difficulties you encounter, you must stick to the belief of "changing the environment".Don't slack off, don't think that life is long, and there is enough time to do many things. In fact, the point of life is to seize every minute and every second to do what you think is important.Only by understanding life in this way can we truly experience the essence of life.
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All the hard work is worthwhile
Not long after I started working, a friend asked me: "If one day, you find that your dream has never been realized, will you feel that hard work is pointless?"
I said: "No."
The friend then said: "Even if those efforts are not rewarded, are you willing?"
"I tried my best!"
When I said this, I was stunned.At that time, I actually didn't know how to answer my friend, but the answer came out just like that.Think about it too, has worked hard, isn't it the meaning of hard work?In other words, hard work is the reward of hard work, dedication is the reward of dedication, painting is the reward of painting, and writing is the reward of writing.As my best friend said, when I feel tired, I immediately feel comforted when I think of my work, "I really didn't waste time."
Later, I firmly believed in the meaning of hard work, and that was the essence.The reason why a person chooses to work hard is not to want to despise himself when he gets old, isn't it to give himself a glorious past, isn't it to give a satisfactory answer to his life?
One year during the holiday, I was sitting on the bullet train going home, and I overheard the girl sitting next to me sobbing and calling her family: "Mom, I'm sorry, I came home only after I said I would make money...Mom, I tried my best... ...I don't regret it." She leaned towards the window as much as possible, her body trembling.I could feel that she was trying her best to suppress her crying.
Around me, there are many people like this girl.Most of them live in small cities or even in mountainous areas, and going to university is their only chance to change their lives.They must stay in the big city, they must take root here, they must make their parents feel proud, and they must have a new future for themselves.What impressed me the most was H, my former colleague.
According to him, his family lives on a certain mountain in Yunnan, and supplies are scarce.They seldom go down the mountain. If they do go down the mountain, it is usually to buy new year goods or daily necessities.What they eat are the vegetables they grow and the livestock they raise.When he was in junior high school, H was still washing his hair with washing powder. He said that washing his hair with washing powder was very common there.
I remember one time, there were only 3 matches left in his house, and his mother asked him to light the firewood for cooking, but he wasted 2 matches clumsily, so his mother beat him.
When he said this, I opened my mouth and couldn't speak for a long time.
Later, H left the company and found a better platform. I bless him from the bottom of my heart.Anyway, I've seen his belief in effort.He also told me that only by working hard and persisting can we get out of our own world and move towards a better future.
I believe that no matter what occupation or position a person is in, as long as he does what he likes to do, he must be happy. This is the meaning of hard work.On the contrary, if your efforts are for something you don't want, then you will feel unhappy and hopeless in life, thus doubting the meaning of hard work.
Speaking of which, I would like to talk about a distant cousin of mine, whom I call my uncle.
The fate of my uncle was quite rough. He was abandoned by his biological parents since he was a child, and was taken home by an old couple in a small town to raise him as a grandson.When he was very young, he followed the old couple to go out to beg for food and pick up rags. The house was not only a barren house, but also a leak from all sides.For some reason, the old couple kept telling him, "Baby, you must study hard, go to school well, and leave this small town. Only when you go out, can you have a chance to change your destiny."
Although the couple did not give him a rich material life, they gave him 100% spiritual encouragement.Sure enough, my uncle was very competitive, and his grades were always among the best, and he was admitted to a high school in the city with the first place in the county.Three years after high school, my uncle was admitted to the Meteorology Department of a certain university.When going to school, everyone brought things in big bags and small bags. He only borrowed a suit of clothes from a neighbor, took the fare and the admission letter and left.
In school, he worked part-time and studied, and never spent money from the old couple again.Sometimes, he will send them some money or special products and so on.
After graduation, my uncle obeyed the assignment and went to the XX Meteorological Bureau in a first-tier city.According to the current statement, my uncle is a standard Phoenix man, perhaps not even a Phoenix. He doesn't have any resources, not even his parents, but he has obtained everything he has now through his own efforts.
Before her aunt married him, she was an illiterate rural woman. She went to a big city before she started to study, and she asked my uncle if she didn't understand.Now, she is already an accountant of a public institution.
Colleague H and my aunt and uncle, they all wrote about the efforts of ordinary people.In fact, not only them, but also many people around me are trying their best to prove to life, fate, and those who laugh at themselves: As long as you work hard, you have the opportunity to change your destiny.
Constantly changing one's own destiny, this is the meaning of hard work and the power of hard work, which is more touching than any rhetoric!
There is no place in the world that sells regret medicine
If I ask you, is there anything you regret?
You will definitely open the chatter box and talk about the last few days and nights.You will regret not studying well, regret not being admitted to a good school, regret not learning a skill, regret not grasping the opportunity when it comes, regret being influenced by others to make a wrong decision, regret... you will also say, If God gives me another chance, what will I do, what will happen.
However, if God really gave you another chance, would you really be different?
There is a person who has been doing nothing all his life, and reports to God after his death.After God read his resume, he was shocked: "You have lived in the world for more than 70 years, how can you do nothing?"
This person defended unconvinced: "The reason why I didn't do anything is entirely your responsibility. You didn't give me the opportunity to create something."
"Oh?" God was a little confused.
"For example, if you let an apple fall on my head, then I will be the one who discovered the law of gravity. What about Newton?"
God shook his head and said, "I give everyone the same chance. The reason why you are like this is because you didn't seize the opportunity yourself."
"How is it possible! If you give me a chance, then I will definitely grab it." The man said vowedly.
"Okay, then I'll give you a chance." God waved his hand and sent this man to the apple orchard hundreds of years ago.The man was sleeping at this time. Suddenly, an apple fell on his head and woke him up.The man touched his head, then picked up the apple and rubbed it against his body, before he began to munch.After a while, a big apple fell on his head again, and he ate it again.After a few minutes, an apple fell and hit him on the head again. This time, he became a little unhappy and cursed: "You damn apple, you disturbed my dream!"
God smiled, brought him back and said, "What else do you have to say?"
"Please give me another chance!" the man begged.
God shook his head and said: "In this world, there is no medicine for regret! Even if I give you another chance, you will still miss the chance..."
God is fair.Everyone will meet their own "apple", but not everyone will regard "apple" as "apple", some people regard "apple" as an unexpected harvest, while some people regard "apple" as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.It was Newton who discovered the law of universal gravitation.
Therefore, don’t make assumptions over and over again about a boring question: "How, why... If... I will..." Of course, human beings are human after all, how can we not assume, do not assume, let alone us, Even Mr. Cui Qi, a Nobel Prize winner in physics and Chinese-American, is not exempt.
When Yang Lan interviewed Mr. Cui Qi, he asked, if you hadn't left Henan back then, what would you be like today?If I were an ordinary person, I would definitely say that if I hadn’t left my hometown, I would not have won the Nobel Prize, and I would still live in the countryside and become an old farmer full of vicissitudes.
But Cui Qi did not follow ordinary people's thinking, but said: "If I didn't go out, my parents would not be starved to death in natural disasters. If I could turn back time, I would rather stay with my parents than go to Hong Kong, Going to the United States, this is the thing I regret the most in my life." After finishing speaking, Cui Qi bowed his head and sobbed painfully.
His parents died in three years of natural disasters.The premature death of his parents was a heavy blow to him.He believed that if he was with his parents at that time, his parents would not have starved to death. He would try to find something to eat for his parents so that they would not die prematurely.
However, there is no medicine for regret in the world... In another way of thinking, even if he can really return to the period of natural disasters, wouldn't the world lose a Nobel Prize winner in physics and a national pillar?
Remember the donkey that fell into the dry well, stepped on all kinds of garbage and dirt, and finally came out?In fact, we should really learn the spirit of it.In life, all kinds of "soil" will be poured on us, and there is always the danger of "burying us alive".If you just cry or accept fate, you will only sink yourself deeper and deeper.If you want to survive from a desperate situation, you must find a way to "rise" from the "dry well", and the only way to "rise" is to throw the "soil" down, step on it, and let it become our stepping stone .
In the same way, when we know that there is no regret medicine in the world, we will give ourselves a wake-up call and stop doing things that make us regret.Or, when doing something, a little more calm, a little more rational.
In short, we have to face difficulties with a calm and steady attitude, and find hope from despair, so that we can successfully "raise the well" like that donkey. Don't forget that adversity is not equal to despair, not to mention that in this world, there is still "putting it away". Reborn after death" said.There is no medicine for regret in the world, it is not only a vigilance to oneself, but also an encouragement to oneself.On the road of struggle, you must keep this sentence in mind, so that you can make life less regretful and make yourself more calm.
Don't live up to your good times
In the movie "Food, Prayer and Love", there is a classic line: "Only food and love can't be let down." Just in time, when we are still young, we should firmly grasp the tail of youth, do what we want and what we can do.Years later, when we recall our youth, we can say "I miss those years..." without any regrets.
Although youth is full of ups and downs or sadness, it is also the most presumptuous.But no matter what, if you have experienced it, you will not live up to this good time.
The famous Taiwanese cartoonist Zhu Deyong became popular in Taiwan when he was 25 years old. A series of comics he created, such as "Double Cannon" and "Sweet Girl", are extremely popular among young people, and some of his works have also been made into TV dramas.However, few people know that when Zhu Deyong was a child, his academic performance was extremely poor, and he was often criticized by his teachers for being stupid.For this reason, Zhu Deyong had to choose to transfer schools.
It is very difficult for Zhu Deyong to learn about writing. Others can learn it in an hour, but he may not be able to learn it in a day.When it was time to go to middle school, no school was willing to admit him, and it took a lot of effort until he was able to go to school.
At the beginning, Zhu Deyong always thought that he was really stupid, but later, he was surprised to find that he was not stupid, but he was more repulsive to words, but he was very sensitive to graphics. It took a long time for others to understand the geometric diagrams. Zhu Deyong You can see the relationship between the graphics just by looking at it.
After discovering his "uniqueness", Zhu Deyong began to draw cartoons consciously. He found that only when he was drawing would he become normal and like others.Talking about youth, Zhu Deyong replied: "My schooling process was very difficult, I even felt that I was a kidney bean, and I even suffered from autism because of this, I only felt it when I was painting. A tinge of joy."
"I can't stay in the outside world, the only way is to go back to my own world, because there is my happiness in this world, I was hit by the teacher at school, I dare not speak out, but when I got home I would paint him, paint him as a devil, let him die a terrible death, and then I would feel better."
In his youth, there were doubts, denials, persistence, and dreams.When recalling the past, Zhu Deyong said: "If my parents forced me to learn those words like the school, then I would definitely not go to draw. Maybe you can see me in the slums. Fortunately, They discovered that I have a talent for painting and cultivated me since I was a child, so I have the achievements I have now. Through painting, I found that I am not a green bean that never sprouts, but just did not find the right direction. I I believe that humans, like animals, have their own talents. For example, tigers have sharp teeth, rabbits can run...so they have survived in nature. The same is true for humans, but many people grow up with their own talents. Talent is forgotten, just like some people are forced to become a doctor, but he faints, so he is doomed to be mediocre for the rest of his life.”
Seeing Zhu Deyong, I seem to see myself, and I have seen many stories of bumps and bumps in youth just like me, but some people disappeared in the battle of youth, while some people did not live up to the youth brought to them. s damage.
One summer, a young man came to Paris to find his dream. He walked on the Champs-Elysees Avenue, admiring the brilliance of the modern city, and his desire for success was burning in his heart.
He is aware of his humble status, and he has no advantage at all except his dreams.But by working hard on my own, it seems that success is too slow and too difficult.After thinking about it again and again, he decided to use external force to take a shortcut and visit the successful people he admired. Unfortunately, what greeted him was not a step towards success, but a series of disappointments. No successful person was willing to help him.
Full of disappointment, the young man dragged his tired body on the street, and unknowingly came to the door of the Hilton Hotel.He was there, looking enviously at the limousine parked at the door, looking at the well-dressed pedestrians passing by, thinking of his humble and distant dreams, he couldn't help crying.
At this time, an old man noticed him, walked up to him slowly and asked, "Young man, is there anything I can help you with?"
The young man sighed and said, "I have a big dream, and I hope someone can help me realize it, but I haven't been able to find him."
"What kind of dream? Let me hear it." The old man smiled.
"Hey, let's not talk about those distant dreams. My dream now is to walk into this restaurant, listen to the beautiful piano music, and enjoy a delicious meal slowly."
"If you want, just follow me, and I can help you realize this dream." The old man made an inviting gesture and led him towards the restaurant.The young man couldn't believe it. He really came to the world's most upscale restaurant, sat on a soft leather chair, heard the most beautiful music, and even tasted the most exquisite meal.
This meal made him feel a lot of emotions and benefited a lot.After the meal, the young man said to the old man: "Thank you, I know what I should do..."
Twenty years later, the young man has become a superstar in the retail industry.
Regarding his own success, he said: "Don't pin your youth and dreams on others. Although others can help you realize your dreams, but that is only temporary. We should entrust our dreams in our own hands, bit by bit. Working tenaciously..."
Realizing dreams is like this, so is youth. Although it is cruel, only by experiencing it yourself can you live up to this good time and create beautiful memories.
The comfortable comfort zone is actually more dangerous
The so-called continuous struggle and self-challenge is actually to get rid of the "psychological comfort zone" that you are familiar with.
Psychologists use seawater as an example to describe human beings' cognition of the external world, which is divided into three areas: the shore, the shallow water area and the deep water area.The area on the shore is the "psychological comfort zone" of people.
If you are a person who cannot swim, you must feel that staying in the comfort zone of the "shore" is the safest, and every step forward, the panic and anxiety in your heart will increase, so many people would rather stay A comfort zone on the shore.People who indulge in the "psychological comfort zone" may be employees who are dissatisfied with the status quo and want to change jobs but dare not; they may be single youths who long for love but stay at home; We who work as hard as Shanshan.
Emerson said: "People who sit on comfortable cushions tend to fall asleep." This sentence is right. The greatest danger in life is to rely on "crutches" to protect yourself.There is no crutch that we can rely on forever. If we want to succeed, we must fight for it ourselves.
But in real life, not everyone understands this truth.Many people believe that "the more leisurely the job, the better, and the less active the better", they are lazy to use their brains and are full of food, and even think that as long as they can lie comfortably on the sofa and bed, it is a blessing.But the fact is that such a "blessing" is often a curse.
A man died and went to the Hall of Yama, which is a magnificent palace.Seeing a newcomer, the owner of the palace was very enthusiastic and asked him to stay.
The man was very happy, but he still said: "I have worked hard and busy all my life, since you entertain me so warmly, I only have one request."
"Oh? What's the request?"
"I just want to eat, I just want to sleep, I don't want to work!" The man said firmly.
The owner of the palace smiled and said: "Haha, of course. In this world, there is no place more suitable for you to live in. There are endless delicacies here. You can eat whatever you want, and no one will come Urge you. There is a soft bed here, you can sleep as long as you want, and no one will disturb you. The most important thing is that you don't have to do any work."
So the man settled down contentedly.
In the first few days, life was very nourishing. This person began to doubt that people can really go to heaven after death. Heaven is so beautiful!Compared with the days in the world, it is like a sky and an earth.No, this is originally a sky and an underground.The person is comforted by the thought of his leisurely days.A week passed and the person began to feel lonely and empty.He thought, maybe he was not used to such a comfortable life.
After a month, the man found the master of the palace.He said: "This kind of life of eating, eating and sleeping every day is so boring! When I open my eyes every day, I have no motivation. You see, I have gained a lot of weight." He said, pinching the flesh on his stomach .
"Can you find me a job?" he asked quietly.
"what?"
"I thought, I really need a job, it's been a rough day."
"Sorry, I don't have any work here."
The man left disappointed, and after a while, he couldn't take it anymore, and found the owner of the palace again: "I really can't bear this kind of life, if you don't give me a job, then I will go to hell !
The owner of the palace felt baffled and said, "This is hell!"
The man was speechless.
Look, this is what we yearn for doing nothing, eating and sleeping whenever we want every day, without anyone disturbing our lives.However, if you stay in such a comfortable state for a long time, it is also a kind of torture to yourself, just like the person in the story.
An easy life does get a moment of rest and tranquility, but a long-term easy life is like living in hell.
The ancients said it well: "Flowing water does not rot, and the door hinge does not moth." American scientist Franklin also said similar words: "Laziness is like rust, and it consumes the body more than hard work. Frequently used keys are always shiny." It can be seen that the dangers of coveting ease and the benefits of hard work.In life, no matter what kind of environment we are in, when we are in a comfortable state, we may be eroded by crisis at any time. We must know that the competition in life is fierce and cruel, and only those who are prepared can survive. Chance.
An easy life requires caution, and an easy life is risky.Don't let yourself stay in the comfort zone for too long, break out of the comfort zone appropriately.First, ask yourself, are you doing what you are passionate about?What makes you step into comfort, lose motivation, and be reluctant to break through?Secondly, according to your own expectations and motivations, set goals that meet your expectations.Once you have a clear goal, you will be motivated to move towards a point.Of course, the most important thing is action!Slogans alone are not enough.
Abandon the short-term comfort and look forward to the glory of tomorrow
Some people are just dawdling, daydreaming, making generous promises, living their own way of life, expressing passionate determination, and continuing the days of self-importance. When will such chaotic days end?When will such mediocre years end?
When ease becomes tasteless, abandoning ease is not only courage, but also a kind of wisdom.Those who hold fruit in their hands cannot sow seeds when spring comes. Only those who know how to spare their hands for spring can have a more fruitful autumn.
There were two young men named Pablo and Bruno, cousins, ambitious people.They live in a village in Italy.
The two young people have been good partners since childhood, and they both have big dreams.
They used to talk endlessly about somehow making themselves the richest man in the village one day.Both are smart and hardworking, and all they need is opportunity.
One day, the opportunity came.The village decided to hire two men to carry water from a nearby river to a cistern in the village square.The village director gave the job to Pablo and Bruno.
The two men each grabbed two buckets and ran to the river to begin their hard work.At the end of the day, they filled the cistern in the village square.The village director pays them one penny per bucket of water.
"Our dream has finally come true!" Bruno shouted. "I can't believe our good luck."
But Pablo didn't think so.His back was sore and sore, and his hand, which he used to lift the heavy bucket, was blistered.He dreaded getting up every morning to do the same job.So he vowed to find a better way to get the water from the river to the village.
The next morning, as they grabbed their buckets and started running to the river, Pablo said, "Bruno, I have a plan. Since you only get paid a penny for a bucket of water, I have to work so hard to carry water back and forth. Let's build a pipeline to bring water from the river to the village."
Bruno froze.
"A pipeline? Who ever heard of such a thing?" Man! In a week, I can buy a new pair of shoes. In a month, I can buy a cow. In six months, I can build a new house. We have the best jobs in town. We Don't worry about it for the rest of your life! Give up your plumbing fantasies."
Pablo was not one to be easily discouraged, and he patiently explained the plan to his best friend, but unfortunately it didn't change Bruno's mind.So Pablo decided to realize the plan even if he was alone.He spends part of the day carrying buckets of water and part of the day and weekends building his pipelines.He knew how hard it was to dig a pipe through rock-hard soil.Because his salary is paid according to the number of barrels transported.He knew that in the beginning, his income would drop.He also knows that it will take a year or two for his pipeline to produce considerable benefits.But Pablo was convinced that his dream would come true, so he went all out to do it.
Before long, Bruno and other villagers were mocking Pablo, calling him "Pablo the Pipeline Builder."Bruno made twice as much money as Pablo and often showed Pablo his new purchases.He bought a donkey, fitted it with a new leather saddle, and tied it next to his newly built two-story building.
He also bought shiny new clothes and ate delicious food in restaurants.The villagers respectfully called him Mr. Bruno.He often sat in the bar and paid for everyone to drink. When everyone was happy, they showed great enthusiasm for the jokes he told and laughed loudly on purpose to win his favor.
While Bruno enjoyed evenings and weekends in his hammock, Pablo kept digging his pipes.For the first few months, Pablo's efforts didn't make much headway.He worked very hard—harder than Bruno did, because Pablo worked evenings and weekends.
But Pablo kept reminding himself that the realization of tomorrow's dreams is based on today's sacrifices.Day by day, he continued to dig, only one centimeter at a time.
Centimeter by centimeter...becomes a meter.He repeated the words as he swung his chisel into the rock-hard soil.Centimeter by centimeter...become a meter, then 10 meters...20 meters...100 meters...
“Short-term pain brings long-term rewards,” Pablo always reminded himself as he staggered back to his hut, exhausted, after a day’s work.He measures his effectiveness by setting daily goals.He has persisted in this way, because he knows that one day, the reward will greatly exceed the effort at this time.
Whenever he fell asleep, his ears were filled with the laughter of the villagers in the tavern. "Keep your eyes firmly on the return," he repeated over and over again.
In this way, day after day, month after month passed.One day, Pablo realized that his pipeline was half done, which meant he only had to carry the bucket half way.Pablo used the extra time to build the pipeline as well.Finally, the completion date is getting closer.
During his break, Pablo saw his old friend Bruno still struggling to carry water.Bruno's back was getting worse, and his pace was beginning to slow from his long-term fatigue.Bruno looked angry and sullen, as if resentful that he himself was doomed to carry water all his life.
He spends less time in the hammock and more time in the bar.When Bruno came in, the regular patrons of the bar all whispered, "Here comes Bruno the Bucket Carrier." They all laughed when the town's drunks imitated Bruno's hunched posture and his shuffling. laughing out loud.Bruno stopped buying drinks and telling jokes.He would rather sit alone in a dark corner, surrounded by a pile of empty wine bottles.
Finally, Pablo's big moment has come - the pipeline is complete!The villagers flocked to watch the water flow from the pipes to the gutters!Now the village has a steady stream of fresh water.People from other nearby villages also moved to this village, so the village developed and prospered.
Once the plumbing was finished, Pablo would never have to carry buckets again.Whether he was working or not, the water kept flowing in.Water was flowing in as he ate.Water was flowing in while he was sleeping.When he went to play on the weekend, the water was still flowing.The more water that flows into the village, the more money goes into Pablo's pocket.
Many people are getting used to ease, afraid of taking risks, avoiding responsibilities more and more, diluting their ideals more and more, and start a so-called peaceful life with a flat mentality, but the fact is that they are just deceiving themselves and others.Be prepared for danger today and work hard, and tomorrow will be proud and brilliant; if you are greedy for comfort and do not think about making progress today, you will be depressed and defeated tomorrow.
Break free, jump out of your inner dilemma
After listening to Yu Minhong's speech, I was deeply impressed by a passage: "Actually, there are certain things that bind us all our lives, whether it is poverty or social status, whether it is traditional customs or legal provisions. The struggle of life is The process of dancing beautifully in bondage. Life without bondage seems frivolous and weightless. The bondage of life and the efforts to break free make our lives thick and beautiful."
Indeed, the bondage is like the magic spell of Monkey King, which is a headache.From teenage years, longing for freedom, escape from school or the "palm" of parents.After leaving the campus and stepping into the society, I longed to escape from the world of reinforced concrete.When starting a family and starting a business, I yearn for a person's freedom... The bondage seems invisible, but it really exists.
In 2008, Russian athlete Elena Isinbayeva broke the women's pole vault world record for the 26th time and raised the world record in outdoor competitions to 5.05 meters.
On August 2009, 8, in the 18th World Athletics Championships held in Berlin, Germany, Isinbayeva decided to sprint for the 12th world record.In an interview with the media before, she said with full confidence: "I have prepared very well, I am very confident, and I even started to imagine the situation where I won the championship." Her coach Petrov also said: "Winning the championship is already our expectation. things in it."
Due to her outstanding strength, Isinbayeva's first jump went through an hour and a half of waiting.When other contestants were still worrying about the height of 4.55 meters, she was wearing a thick sports coat, lying on the sidelines and doing relaxation movements leisurely.After the height increased to 4.70 meters, many players retreated one after another. She finally got up and prepared to consider from which height to start her journey to win the gold.
However, the ending of the story was obviously beyond everyone's expectations.Isinbayeva, who was still the last to appear on the stage, did not bring surprises to people. She failed in her first attempt at a height of 4.75 meters.At this time, the Polish player Rogowska has passed the 4.75-meter bar at one time, which forced Isinbayeva to challenge the height of 4.80 meters.
This height is not very difficult for Isinbayeva, but she failed again because she inserted the pole too late when hitting this height.After two failed attempts, Isinbayeva was cornered as she had to succeed on the final jump to keep her gold medal.
After standing still at the starting point, Isinbayeva put chalk powder on her pole and raised her hands to signal the audience. This was also her last trial jump in this championship.
In the process of raising the pole, approaching the run, and taking off, the 4.80-meter-high horizontal pole fell together with Isinbayeva, and the entire Olympic Stadium was in an uproar.The audience at the scene never dared to speculate like this: the three attempts of the pole vault queen all ended in failure, and ended in the most incredible way of failure.
Exhausted, she immediately slumped on the ground, covering her face with a towel, and wept uncontrollably.The former defending champion and world record holder suffered the worst loss in her career and created the biggest upset in the World Championships, which made her feel miserable. However, such pain did not last until the next day.
It only took one day for Isinbayeva to calm down, and once again appeared in front of the public in good spirits.Regarding this fiasco, Isinbayeva made a speech: "Some people may say that I have everything, so I have no ambition and no motivation. However, I train hard every day, and I am striving for a higher goal." The goal is to attack. The point is, there is so much pressure on my shoulders, including my country, family, friends, sponsors and everyone who supports me. For them, I always tell myself that I have to win, this pressure and Super high expectations, like a heavy bag, almost crushed me. Although I felt good the whole night of the game, everything made me comfortable, and I was very confident. It is because I feel good and confident that I feel good. I raised 5 centimeters, but I didn’t expect it to end like this. Obviously, too much self-confidence and great pressure destroyed me, and I lost to myself.”
Isinbayeva's coach listened to her narration and made a self-criticism: "When she failed the second jump, I yelled at her in a rage, 'What's going on? Why don't you jump? Hurry up. !' This imperceptibly restrained her and increased her pressure. She is also a human being, not a god. There is nothing wrong with failure. I believe that with her ability, she can completely find herself!"
Regarding future plans, Isinbayeva is full of confidence: "It seems that in the future, I need to calm down and let my life move forward easily! I will still aim to break the world record, although I know it will not be easy to achieve .I need to put aside the heavy pressure to find myself. Only by untying the shackles of the soul, opening a window for the soul, and letting happiness come in, can I finally defeat myself.”
Everyone's journey in life will be full of rugged mountain roads, rough depressions and winding rivers. However, some people have countless halos in their lives, while others are poor.Why is this?This is the difference in attitude towards bondage.In life, some things you insist on are not necessarily [-]% truth. If you break free from the shackles, you may be able to see a better scenery.
No one can have smooth sailing, and no one has a rough life. "Mountain darkly, vista".Break free from the shackles, jump out of the inner dilemma, surpass the inner obstacles, and continue on your way. You will find that you are flying higher and higher, and you will feel happy and cheerful.
What you want will come in full costume
In the summer of 2005, Grid squeezed into the first trip in her life with two heavy suitcases and curiosity. Xi'an was very hot in September, and the university campus that Gezi was looking forward to was not as beautiful as she imagined.She firmly supported the body report, received the bedding, confirmed the dormitory, and packed things.
During college, his parents divorced, and Gezi didn't know how to arrange his winter and summer vacations more reasonably and make his parents feel happier.So she simply didn't stay anywhere for long, went back to see them each and then started her summer job.
Grid considers himself very lucky to be able to earn some small money every summer vacation.In the summer vacation of the freshman year, I worked as a receptionist for parents in a children's development company.In the summer vacation of her sophomore year, she recruited students together with her classmates. She bought her first laptop computer. She spends every summer vacation in a hard and busy way. Occasionally, she feels very sad when she thinks about her parents' recent situation.So far she is reluctant to go home by herself, because there are too many childhood memories, and every time she goes home, she has to cry at home for some reason.
In August 2009, Grid took the plane for the first time, walked into a seaside city for the first time, felt the sea breeze for the first time, saw Hong Kong on the other side for the first time, saw a big coconut tree for the first time, and A glimpse into the fast-paced life at once.She started her life in Shenzhen with full of expectation and passion.
The company only gave Gezi 3 days to find a house.During the 3 days of looking for a house, Gezi didn't know how many times she was drenched in the rain and how many roads she walked. She wandered in the three urban areas of Nanshan, Futian, and Luohu, and then walked through various communities and villages in the city. I don't know how many miles I walked or how many buses I took.
When going back to take a shower at night, Grid suddenly felt a pain in the inner thigh. When he looked down, he found that both sides of the leg were worn out.Her exhausted body and helpless heart made her feel unwell. Grid was soaked in water like that, hugging her knees, squatting in the bathroom and crying aggrievedly.
The tense pace of life does not allow her to have too many personal emotions in it. She has to fight for her rent, water and electricity, and living expenses.After drying her tears and tidying herself up, she started looking for a house from morning till night, and finally she shared a house in a community in Nanshan at a rent of 1000 yuan.
The place where she lives is only ten minutes away from Window of the World and Happy Valley, but she has never been to Window of the World before she left Shenzhen, and she still doesn't know what the scenery inside is like.
I always think that I have a lot of time, so I will go when I am free, but now it seems that many things are like this, as soon as I think of it, I should do it quickly, because the word "later" is really unreliable.Many of the things we should do are put on hold because of talking about what to do in the future.Later, Gege rented another house again. She started to take the bus to work in the morning, and went to the supermarket to live with the aunts in the evening.When she first entered Shenzhen, she didn't have any friends, and she lived in rental houses, companies, and supermarkets every day.
Gezi is that kind of stubborn little girl. She always has a spirit of not admitting defeat. Later she went to Tianjin, Beijing, and Shanxi.Grid's dancing skills are very good. At the company's annual meeting, Grid danced a traditional Mongolian dance, which amazed everyone.Grid is beautiful and independent, and she has many followers around her.
Finally, after 5 years of hard work, Gezi got married and settled in Taiyuan. The stubborn girl is still eccentric, beautiful as if she is not stained with dust. The little girl who has never stopped moving forward now has her own baby , is a typical hot mom.
She will do her best at every stage.
Gezi's college life is not considered rich, but due to his own efforts, his life is no worse than that of his classmates, and sometimes even better than them.Now, Gezi is also living the life she wants, husband and son, her husband is responsible for making money to support the family, and she is responsible for her beauty.
Grid has always believed that only you can achieve the kind of life you want, and there are few shortcuts on the road of life.
Going down slowly, what we have experienced will be obtained in the days to come.
You can't change the bad yesterday, but you can change today and tomorrow
Remember the "Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee" story?
There was a girl who lost her love, was depressed, and lost confidence in life.The girl's father is a chef. In order to help his daughter out of a bad mood, he decided to conduct an experiment.When everything was ready, he called his daughter to him.Then, he boiled three pots of boiling water, put carrots, eggs, and coffee into the pots and continued to cook.
Soon, the originally hard carrots became soft; the originally fragile eggs became firm; the most memorable thing was the coffee, which turned into a pot of fragrant coffee after entering the boiling water.
He used facts to tell his daughter that he had to bravely face various encounters in life.That's an interesting expression.Faced with difficulties like boiling water, should we be subdued like carrots, become more courageous like eggs, or change ourselves and the environment like coffee?
I think most people will choose the latter, because the latter is convincing enough to make us change the status quo and become less bad.
There was a man who wanted to learn painting, but was always hesitant and couldn't make up his mind, so he went to consult his friends.He said: "I want to learn painting, but I will be 4 years old in four years. Can I learn painting again at my age? Isn't it too old?" His friend said to him: "Why not? ?Even if you don’t learn painting, you will still be 40 years old in 4 years.” My friend’s words are like enlightenment. Since I spend every day in the same way, why not do something I like?So the next day, he went to sign up for study.
In fact, you don’t need any excuses to live. You can use every minute and every second to do what you want to do. Don’t care about other people’s opinions and opinions, because your breath and life are your own, and your own life is more exciting than anything else. are more important.
In August 2007, Park Geun-hye ran for the presidential candidate for the first time within the party.The final result was that Park Geun-hye lost the election by a narrow margin.When Park Geun-hye came to the stage to deliver the closing speech, the whole venue became silent. Everyone wanted to know what she would say when she just lost the election, and some people even gloated.But unexpectedly, Park Geun-hye on the stage did not have any frustration. She said calmly: "I admit that the election has failed. I sincerely accept this result and express my confidence in the result. From now on, I will do my duty and support Lee. Myung Bok is running for the presidential nomination. I will 'start from nothing' like Yi Sun-shin and fight to the end to achieve a change of government!"
There was thunderous applause in the venue in an instant.Those who care about Park Geun-hye feel at ease seeing her so calm.On the second day after the defeat, more than 40 members of the camp came to Park Geun-hye's residence, intending to comfort Park Geun-hye.During the conversation, many people couldn't restrain their emotions on the spot and burst into tears.But Park Geun-hye was always smiling, and joked: "I made all the men cry."
If the result has failed, don’t rush to be sad and upset, but find out the reason for the failure, and learn from it those experiences and lessons that are more valuable to our future life.God has already set up a series of difficulties for us to break through.In the face of adversity, some people go against the current, some people are 3 minutes hot, some people shrink back...Of course, different attitudes also lead to different results, some people taste the fruits of victory, some people Still empty-handed.
No matter how bad your life is, no matter how many difficulties you encounter, you must stick to the belief of "changing the environment".Don't slack off, don't think that life is long, and there is enough time to do many things. In fact, the point of life is to seize every minute and every second to do what you think is important.Only by understanding life in this way can we truly experience the essence of life.
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