120 philosophical essays you must read in your life

Chapter 84

Chapter 5 Section 5 Friendship

[China] Bi Shumin

The friendship of modern people is very strong and very fragile.It is a treasure in the world and needs to be cherished by us.

The intransmissibility of friendship determines that it is a lonely book.We can have different friendships with different people, but we don't have different friendships with the same person.Friendship is a road that is dug deeper and deeper, and there is no turning back. An unforgettable friendship is like hatred, which is unforgettable.

There is only one fruit on the tree of friendship, which is called trust.Red apples are reserved only for those who water the fruit trees.If other people pick it off and taste it, it is likely that their teeth will be sour.

The chain of friendship cannot be inherited, cannot be transferred, cannot be sealed and preserved so as not to rot, cannot be frozen and kept fresh forever in the refrigerator.

Friendships need nourishment.Some use money, some use sweat, and some use blood.Friendship is very greedy, and it will never be satisfied with eating and sleeping.Friendship is the simplest but also the most extravagant nutrition, which needs time to irrigate.Friendship must speak, friendship must listen, friendship must gaze when talking, friendship must pay attention when listening.Friendship is so fragile sometimes, a casual remark will instantly collapse the building.Friendship is sometimes so perishable that an unconfirmed rumor can turn a whole pot of milk sour.

The world is changing with each passing day.In an age when everything is more modern the better, only friendship, people keep the ancient norms.Friends are like cultural relics, the older they get, the more precious they become.

There are two types of gifts, one is practical and the other is symbolic.

I love giving practical gifts.

Not only because it can provide service functions for friends, but also because of my self-interested considerations.

We are friends now, but we may not be friends ten years later.

Even if you are loyal, the other party may have already forgotten.

The short-lived gift not only expresses my goodwill at this moment, but also gives friends the value of being pleasing to the eye, laughing or contemplating. Although it is a one-time gift, it also leaves a beautiful moment. My heart is enough.

It would be embarrassing to keep a gift that symbolizes long-term meaning if people don't cherish this friendship anymore.Whether it is lost or destroyed, it is the sorrow of objects, and my heart will tremble even in the distance.

If it is a gift for yourself, it is better to have a symbolic meaning.For example, a stone or a leaf is so ordinary in the eyes of others, but only you know the wonderful meaning in it.

The phone book is a magic box where I store my friends, and if I get into trouble, I send them a distress call.A subconscious mind that fears loneliness is like a hibernating bug lurking in the corner of the mind.In life, what is lost is the years, and what is gained are friends.Although I sometimes go days without contacting any of my friends, I know I'm firmly attached to the network of friendships.

The matter of interest is really the enemy of making friends.I don't believe in permanent benefits, and I value the friendship that shares weal and woe.What remains in the annals of history is not the interests that are priceless, but the affection that is sincere and sincere. The frank communication with friends will keep us sensitive to the truth, erase the clouds from our eyes, and re-open our minds.

【Together with you】

A friend is a book, after reading it, you will become a confidant.Regardless of the relationship between friends, a little due respect for each other is always indispensable.If it reaches the point where there is no respect for each other and no attention to politeness and propriety, misunderstanding and friction will also occur.

Don't expect everyone to be your friend, use attraction to make friends.It is better to treat friends with sincerity than to seek friends by giving favors or flattery, to love friends, to like friends, not to rely on friends, not to be demanding on friends, the best thing in the world is to have a few friends who are clear-headed and honest-hearted.

A friend is someone who can forgive each other for small mistakes.People who don't consciously want to get close to you are most likely to be your true friends.Friends won't block your way unless they see you going downhill.A false friend is like your own shadow. In the light, he follows you. Step into the shadows, and he leaves immediately.

In the course of life, a man who has neither friends nor enemies is a man without talent and power.If you don't make friends, you will be lonely as you can imagine.The only way to find friends is to become someone else's friend yourself first.

Once a friend is lost, it is tantamount to experiencing a death.Reconnecting with old friends and making new ones is tantamount to regaining life.Enthusiasm can get more friends, but it is not as good as calmness to keep friends.

Inviting friends to do things must be limited to reputation.Doing things for friends must also be limited to reputation.

When a person offends someone when he is frustrated, he can make up for it when he is proud; if he offends someone when he is proud, he cannot make up for it when he is frustrated.

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