120 philosophical essays you must read in your life

Chapter 94

Chapter 5, Section 15, Confidant

[France] Moloya

Sexual desire arises from the inadvertent touch of two people's skins, and intimacy arises from the inadvertent collision of two sensitive hearts; but the former is not enough to produce love, and the latter is not enough to produce intimate friendship.

There is nothing more satisfying in the world than to foresee, when a conversation is still very dry, the brewing of a conversation that is not yet obvious but full of vitality.

An exhortation is always a confession.

The way to maintain friendship is to separate your friends' secrets. If all your friends' secrets are packed in the same cargo hold, just one emotional blow will ruin your life.

Heart-to-heart makes hate or love in the receiving party.Whether he bears it or not, he will find that he is or is not worthy of the trust of others.

The pleasure which comes from keeping the secrecy of others, makes it an easy virtue.

A good person will always talk about subjects that make you feel painful, and he needs to complete his yearbook.But in the end, collecting other people's privacy is only an empty grid, like a dry stamp album.

The danger of confession is that it often makes its opponents, as some pious women try to find their sins in order to repent, so some quiet and obedient people always pour out their complaints because of their suffering friends. and plunged himself into despair.

Some women ask their girlfriends to keep their hearts a secret just to spread the word better.

The novelist is the only person in the world who can keep the secrets of his heart without suffering, and his hidden secrets appear in the form of makeup.

The voice a man uses when he reads is not his own voice, but only the voice of the person he wishes, the voice of the imaginary character when he thinks of this person.

There is great joy in being at the center of several different bosom friends talking about the same thing, and one can thus gain intersectional perspectives that illuminate a variety of different faces.One gets real satisfaction especially when one person's hidden bulge penetrates another's hollow to perfect the pattern.

Among women, they consciously feign same-sex camaraderie and a tone of trust that they do not immediately evoke when talking to men.However, under this superficial friendliness, there is such a vigilant vigilance hidden, and how reasonable this vigilance is.

【Together with you】

It is said that confidantes are hard to find, but in fact they may always be with us.

In solitude they point out our deficiencies, and in public they uphold our reputation.They can feel happy for us when we succeed and encourage us when we fail.They remember everything we want to do and help us do it better.When we are depressed, they can take care of us in every possible way, and will tell the people around us to take care of us as well.We always receive a heartwarming letter from them when they are away on vacation, which makes us feel warm and comforted.If we feel alone, they will go out of their way to make time for us and give us new courage and strength.They always treat us with a pleasant face, but they don't nag us in front of us.We can open our hearts and minds in front of them without having to pretend or worry about losing our composure.They care about us, but don't possess us; they care about us, but don't restrain us.

They may be our parents, brothers, sisters, they may be our classmates, colleagues, neighbors, they may be far away from us; however, no matter when and where, we can always feel that they are by our side.With a few such bosom friends, what is there to be dissatisfied with in life?
Friendship is a noble feeling.A friend is someone who comes only by invitation when you are in good times and who comes uninvited when you are in bad times.

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